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Violet_Sky posted:I have a weird thing where my clit hurts after rubbing it too long. At first it feels good, but then everything goes away after a while and nopes out. Im on anti-depressants which I take 25mg every other day, but I don't think that could be it. Lube may help with this. Either artificial or your own. I was never able to cum from my own hands until I learned to spit on my hand before rubbing. It really feels totally different. If that grosses you out you can get KY jelly or whatever.
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Ograbme posted:I have this thing where before I orgasm, I blast a full load without any pleasure. I can still come normally after that, but it turns the condom into an oven bag full of turkey grease. Am I doomed to always swap out condoms at the least convenient time? Have you seen a doctor? It could be a prostate issue.
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Dixville posted:Lube may help with this. Either artificial or your own. I was never able to cum from my own hands until I learned to spit on my hand before rubbing. It really feels totally different. If that grosses you out you can get KY jelly or whatever. Or, if you're wet enough, you make an awesome lubricant a little closer than your mouth.
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Most of my friends are men or lesbians so, Internet, I must ask you. Do straight women actually like penises? Is there such a thing as a solicited dickpic? Are all those toys like realistically sculpted cocks being bought by gay men, or do women like them too? (Edit: excuse my naivete, this is a genuine question) lithium flour fucked around with this message at 17:16 on Aug 29, 2016 |
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Aug 29, 2016 17:14
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Holothurian posted:Most of my friends are men or lesbians so, Internet, I must ask you. Do straight women actually like penises? Is there such a thing as a solicited dickpic? Are all those toys like realistically sculpted cocks being bought by gay men, or do women like them too? Uh yes that's why we like to touch them and put them in our mouths and stuff. I have solicited dick pics as recently as yesterday.
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Holothurian posted:Most of my friends are men or lesbians so, Internet, I must ask you. Do straight women actually like penises? Is there such a thing as a solicited dickpic? Are all those toys like realistically sculpted cocks being bought by gay men, or do women like them too? Yep! It's ranging from "this feels good in my pussy" to "garghle I must eat all of your dick!" in my opinion. Some really do love to chow down on cock.
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Aug 29, 2016 17:35
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As the previous posts show, there opinions in all directions. Most women I've been with are happy to have dicks around once sex stuff is already happening, but aren't specifically aroused by them independently.
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Holothurian posted:Most of my friends are men or lesbians so, Internet, I must ask you. Do straight women actually like penises? Is there such a thing as a solicited dickpic? Are all those toys like realistically sculpted cocks being bought by gay men, or do women like them too? Straight & bi women like dick, but many of them have been so overwhelmed by unwanted dick in various forms that they have developed dick aversion. The cure for Chronic Dick Aversion (CDA) is to have a handsome dick attached to a nice person who is otherwise decent & good to be around and sexy and to slowly introduce dick over time. You can help cure CDA in our lifetime by not being a dick yourself!
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Aug 29, 2016 17:56
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Holothurian posted:Most of my friends are men or lesbians so, Internet, I must ask you. Do straight women actually like penises? Is there such a thing as a solicited dickpic? Are all those toys like realistically sculpted cocks being bought by gay men, or do women like them too? Yes, most straight women like the penis, at least when they're horny. Some even ask for pictures of them, or have model toys to play with, absolutely! Most don't like unprompted dick pics from a stranger though, which is probably the source of confusion.
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Aug 29, 2016 18:43
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As always, what turns people on varies from person to person. I know girls that want all the dick. Right now. In their mouths. I know girls that think dicks are weird and ugly. Some girls like specific dicks because of who they're attached to. If I sent my girlfriend a dick pic randomly, she would get turned on. If I sent her a picture of someone else's dick, she would get mad at me and be grossed out. She likes realistic dildos as long as she doesn't think too hard about it being some random dude's dick (that being said, she likes weird abstract ones better). I personally just like the word dick. Dick, dick, dick, dick, dick, DICK, DIIIIIICK!  To the goon who asked about the Bear Things stuff, I got a chance to use it all last night. I'll do a write-up later.
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Aug 29, 2016 19:15
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Dicks are great. However, due to a lot of societal stuff, surprise dicks directed at a woman are more uncomfortable and threatening than they are hot and flattering. Don't surprise-dick someone unless you know it's welcome. Requested dicks are obviously great. (Although it wouldn't kill guys to think more about the photo than "does it have my dick in it?" Another good question, for example, is "does it have a toilet in it?") Realistic toys are super uncanny valley for me, and usually not as fun as something designed with more of an eye to function.
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Anne Whateley posted:Don't surprise-dick someone unless you know it's welcome. This is really good advice and applies to all forms of genitals, nudity, and other sex-related imagery. Anne Whateley posted:Although it wouldn't kill guys to think more about the photo than "does it have my dick in it?" Another good question, for example, is "does it have a toilet in it? I'm ashamed at all of you. 
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Aug 29, 2016 19:21
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Personally while attracted to either sex I have never found either set of genitalia especially aesthetically pleasing, they both look like some variety of fungus. There are certainly better parts of the human body to look at.
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Anne Whateley posted:Requested dicks are obviously great. (Although it wouldn't kill guys to think more about the photo than "does it have my dick in it?" Another good question, for example, is "does it have a toilet in it?") Guys really do need to put more thought into their dick pic composition, it's true. OwlFancier posted:Personally while attracted to either sex I have never found either set of genitalia especially aesthetically pleasing, they both look like some variety of fungus. There are certainly better parts of the human body to look at. As a straight man, I'll chime in and say seeing vaginas and penises are exciting when I'm at least a bit horny already, but both look kinda weird and unappealing when I'm at a zero state. Though I think it's typical for people to be more attracted to secondary sex characteristics/the body as a whole than just the genitals. There's a reason "big tits/rear end" are popular search terms and "(descriptor) pussy" isn't even on the radar. "Big dick" is the second most popular, though, iirc. Straight guys are a mysterious jumble of contradictions.
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hoobajoo posted:As a straight man, I'll chime in and say seeing vaginas and penises are exciting when I'm at least a bit horny already, but both look kinda weird and unappealing when I'm at a zero state. Though I think it's typical for people to be more attracted to secondary sex characteristics/the body as a whole than just the genitals. There's a reason "big tits/rear end" are popular search terms and "(descriptor) pussy" isn't even on the radar. I'm a huge fan of all parts of a good looking woman. Good looking guys are hot too, except for the whole penis thing.
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Anne Whateley posted:Requested dicks are obviously great. (Although it wouldn't kill guys to think more about the photo than "does it have my dick in it?" Another good question, for example, is "does it have a toilet in it?")
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I think that was a honey pot post to see who send dick pics to.
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Bollock Monkey posted:I assume you are familiar with this site? How much time spent reading this is too much to explain away? Edit: this site is comedy gold. quote:this is an attention-grabbing dick pic, sender, as disconcerting as it is original. KillHour fucked around with this message at 20:10 on Aug 29, 2016 |
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LingcodKilla posted:I think that was a honey pot post to see who send dick pics to. ha, nope, I'm a woman. Anne Whateley posted:Requested dicks are obviously great. hoobajoo posted:probably the source of confusion. Source of confusion is that it's not 'obvious' at all. I always thought I was bi and that a certain amount of revulsion towards cocks is just a thing that happens for most women, but I guess I must be more gay than I thought??!
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Have sex with the people you want to have sex with and don't worry about how gay or straight that makes you. Different people are turned on by different things.
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Not worried about being gay per se, worried like hell about having to leave and break up our family. Anyway, thank you all for your opinions.
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Holothurian posted:Not worried about being gay per se, worried like hell about having to leave and break up our family. Anyway, thank you all for your opinions. This sounds personal and you have no obligation to explain, but now I'm really confused.
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Holothurian posted:Not worried about being gay per se, worried like hell about having to leave and break up our family. Anyway, thank you all for your opinions. That's tough  . FWIW I've met women who are straight, like having sex with penis havers, but don't much care to look at penises themselves. I don't know how strong "revulsion" means for you, but I think as long as you are having good sex in spite of it, things should be OK. And if not, before you do anything drastic, you should see a couple's therapist and maybe it's something you two can work around.edit: assuming by family, you mean husband and possibly children. If it's something else, like parents, you don't have to tell them right away, and even most conservative/religious parents end up accepting it after some time. hoobajoo fucked around with this message at 20:55 on Aug 29, 2016 |
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Holothurian posted:Source of confusion is that it's not 'obvious' at all. I always thought I was bi and that a certain amount of revulsion towards cocks is just a thing that happens for most women, but I guess I must be more gay than I thought??!
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Holothurian posted:ha, nope, I'm a woman. Didn't realize my wife posted here.
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Holothurian posted:Not worried about being gay per se, worried like hell about having to leave and break up our family. Anyway, thank you all for your opinions. If you love your other half and like having sex with him who gives a gently caress if you are more straight, bi or lesbian?
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hoobajoo posted:edit: assuming by family, you mean husband and children. ^ yeah, that one. hoobajoo posted:as long as you are having good sex in spite of it ^sadly, nope. hoobajoo posted:you should see a couple's therapist and maybe it's something you two can work around. We've done a fair bit of that and we're much, much closer emotionally now, I can even stand to have him touch me affectionately, and I was hoping the sexy thing would happen in time but it doesn't seem to be. :/ Besides, it's not just him/his dick, it's more general. Anne Whateley posted:then . . . you may not be attracted to dicks I get that for everybody, some aspects of being in a relationship will always be less appealing than others. I always thought of this as one of those but maybe it's a bit more fundamental, idk.
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I know women who would pay to suck cock, and also women who would pay to never see another cock again. But I think it's not common to actually be repulsed by dick, instead of the attitude of guys who send unwanted pics.hoobajoo posted:"Big dick" is the second most popular, though, iirc. Straight guys are a mysterious jumble of contradictions. Of course, then there are also "straight" guys who just love dick. I can't complain too much about them considering my first hookup was with one, though. LazyMaybe fucked around with this message at 21:42 on Aug 29, 2016 |
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Please don't be in a relationship where "I can barely stand allowing him to touch me now" is a major achievement. You don't need to figure out right now whether you aren't into any dudes at all or whether you aren't into this specific dude -- right now you just need to not be with anyone you feel that permanently grossed out about.
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Holothurian posted:We've done a fair bit of that and we're much, much closer emotionally now, I can even stand to have him touch me affectionately, and I was hoping the sexy thing would happen in time but it doesn't seem to be. :/ Besides, it's not just him/his dick, it's more general. You're right that relationships have their unappealing parts; I hate going to weddings for people I don't know and having to share the bed. But touching each other and feeling desired is for most people one of the biggest perks; there's some evidence that humans have a need for touch that's almost on par with food. Sex also makes your brain dump a bunch of chemicals that bond you and make you more tolerant of little annoyances. It may be that it's fine never being a major part of your lives, different people are different, but that is an uphill battle psychologically. Regarding the touching being so difficult, do you think it would have felt very natural and welcome from a woman? I knew someone with similar issues, and it wasn't a problem of sexual attraction, but a psychological issue that would have come up with any partner. Not saying you do or don't, just raising the possibility there is something besides orientation at play here. Sorry if this is too personal, feel free to not respond. IronicDongz posted:Not that I'm exactly disagreeing with the second thing, but most of the time it's like... an idealized self-image thing, right? Like guys watching porn are imagining themselves doing whatever they're seeing, and they want to think of themselves as having a big dick. So they want the guy they're watching(and putting themselves in the place of) to have a big dick, and not be overwhelmingly ugly in other aspects, because they want to be "guy with a big dick loving a hot girl". Shemale porn is watched almost entirely by (otherwise) straight men, based on pornhub data, so it can't be only the projection thing, though I'm sure for some it is. I think it's a more primal thing, like evolution just wired men to get turned on by dicks, and there's not a conscious reason for it. My theory, which is admittedly mostly wild speculation, is that the guys that got turned on seeing a dick around a lady were better at procreation than the ones that got turned off, for whatever reason, and it got selected for.
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Holothurian posted:yeah definitely not! wasn't sure how common a state of affairs that is, though. I get the now feeling not so common. This is not common at all. If most people were revolted by sex with the opposite gender, the species would have died out a long time ago. Holothurian posted:I get that for everybody, some aspects of being in a relationship will always be less appealing than others. I always thought of this as one of those but maybe it's a bit more fundamental, idk. It's fundamental insomuch as nature selected for it, but who cares? The questions boil down to are you happy with your husband and could you ever be happy with your husband? I think the answers to those are self evident to you, even if you don't want to admit it.
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Holothurian posted:ha, nope, I'm a woman. I mean it does look a little bit like an ovipositor so I can see why it might be offputting. It's just in the moment it seems more appealing, as many sex related things do. E: though if you're feeling very put off by your husband in general I would suggest that possibly the issue is not necessarily his penis, but possibly an issue with physical intimacy overall? If you actually like the man but find physical intimacy difficult then that is... not a situation I would think is especially common? hoobajoo posted:Shemale porn is watched almost entirely by (otherwise) straight men, based on pornhub data, so it can't be only the projection thing, though I'm sure for some it is. I think it's a more primal thing, like evolution just wired men to get turned on by dicks, and there's not a conscious reason for it. My theory, which is admittedly mostly wild speculation, is that the guys that got turned on seeing a dick around a lady were better at procreation than the ones that got turned off, for whatever reason, and it got selected for. This is really odd to me, like, it makes sense if you're bisexual but for someone who is either straight or gay it's odd that it would have such a specific appeal. My guess would be that it's the expression of the cultural pressure to be gay or straight coming out in an odd way where people feel more comfortable being attracted to an image "in between" rather than being attracted to both sexes. OwlFancier fucked around with this message at 22:49 on Aug 29, 2016 |
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hoobajoo posted:You're right that relationships have their unappealing parts; I hate going to weddings for people I don't know and having to share the bed. But touching each other and feeling desired is for most people one of the biggest perks; there's some evidence that humans have a need for touch that's almost on par with food. Sex also makes your brain dump a bunch of chemicals that bond you and make you more tolerant of little annoyances. It may be that it's fine never being a major part of your lives, different people are different, but that is an uphill battle psychologically. In the past the lack of it bothered him a lot more than it did me, but in the last few years I've started to feel like I might be missing out, yeah. I've been most of my life depressed and/or medicated to the point where sex was a total irrelevance, so now I'm doing a lot better I've only recently started figuring out the sort of stuff that most people 'get' in their teens. I'm worried too that maybe it's a more general intimacy thing. I'm not super touchy-feely but there are definitely times where non-sexy contact with various people has felt happy and affectionate and good.
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As a hypothetical, do you think perhaps it may be related to your general mood? Certainly there's times when I have absolutely zero interest in sex whatsoever under any circumstance. And if I'm not feeling great about myself it can be downright repulsive. But from experience I know that's a side effect of my depression and not an issue with my partner. If sometimes it feels right and sometimes not perhaps it may be mood related, relationships are loving complicated things and especially if it's not a thing that has always come very naturally to you, it might be that you have a quite specific outlook that you need in order to be able to really enjoy intimate contact. I know stress makes me switch off more or less and just want to be alone, even if in the long term I would prefer intimacy, could be similar perhaps?
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Are you just in couples therapy or also doing therapy by yourself? I know from first hand experience that you can't be in a good relationship unless you're happy outside of it. Unless he's causing you to be unhappy, leaving your family isn't going to suddenly make you happy.
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Sure. It's the exact reason I was unhappy. I left my wife and I'm much happier now. But it's not a silver bullet. Sometimes it's hard to tell if you're unhappy because you're with someone that revolts you, or if the person you're with revolts you because you're unhappy.
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