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As a guy, I like looking at big dicks Though its less of an attraction and more of an envy? at dicks bigger than mine 
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You like feeling envious?hoobajoo posted:Shemale porn is watched almost entirely by (otherwise) straight men, based on pornhub data, so it can't be only the projection thing, though I'm sure for some it is. I think it's a more primal thing, like evolution just wired men to get turned on by dicks, and there's not a conscious reason for it. My theory, which is admittedly mostly wild speculation, is that the guys that got turned on seeing a dick around a lady were better at procreation than the ones that got turned off, for whatever reason, and it got selected for. I should add that any of what I say wrt straight guys and dicks in porn is also gonna be speculation, as a big gay who loves cock
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Aug 29, 2016 23:36
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Human sex behavior is complicated. More at 11.
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Aug 29, 2016 23:41
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KillHour posted:Sometimes it's hard to tell if you're unhappy because you're with someone that revolts you, or if the person you're with revolts you because you're unhappy. Exactly completely this. I'm much, much happier with every other part of my life, but I can't find the loose end to start unravelling this one. I like him, I enjoy spending time with him, I care a lot about his happiness, I'm just not physically attracted to him. I know that to a lot of people that would be a deal breaker, including him!
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Aug 29, 2016 23:56
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I would probably approach it by process of elimination. Am I attracted to anything, what am I attracted to, under what circumstances, what are the common links between these things.
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Aug 30, 2016 00:07
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I'm getting some ideas of furniture I could upgrade my bed and or sex-related chair with. So far, the Odyssey from Revel looks nice, but I'm wondering if anyone has suggestions for others? http://revelfurniture.com/the-odyssey
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Aug 30, 2016 01:41
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PRADA SLUT posted:I'm getting some ideas of furniture I could upgrade my bed and or sex-related chair with. So far, the Odyssey from Revel looks nice, but I'm wondering if anyone has suggestions for others? Want.
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Aug 30, 2016 01:54
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I'm interested in that bed for non-sexy purposes. Most of the stuff I need out of night stands is fulfilled by that and not needing a night stand would be helpful. It's totally a mass produced bed compared to the one Tyrell Wellick from Mr Robot owns. Not aware of many beds with features that allow for straps and decent storage in general. Anything wrong with trying beds with posts actually? hoobajoo posted:Guys really do need to put more thought into their dick pic composition, it's true. Maybe examples would do better like showing shots of sexy scenes from Antichrist or something.
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Aug 30, 2016 02:25
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I don't think guys need to put more thought into their dick pic composition. I think(again, as someone way into cock) as long as it's a nice looking dick, it'll almost always be an appealing pic. I've never really understood people saying they look bad. Or that it's unappealing if you don't include more of the body. gimme those closeups e: like in that website that was just linked, so much of the highly-rated pics are just... not really appealing sexually because they're chosen for being "artsy" or funny instead of actually being hot, which seems like it's hugely missing the point LazyMaybe fucked around with this message at 03:47 on Aug 30, 2016 |
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Aug 30, 2016 03:30
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IronicDongz posted:I don't think guys need to put more thought into their dick pic composition. I think(again, as someone way into cock) as long as it's a nice looking dick, it'll almost always be an appealing pic. I've never really understood people saying they look bad. Or that it's unappealing if you don't include more of the body. gimme those closeups For some people, maybe. A blurry closeup of someone's dong isn't appealing to me. Some of them on the site that get on there for being zany and different aren't what I'd call attractive, but seeing someone lying on a bare mattress or sitting on the toilet turns me off. It's gross and in your face, nice looking junk or not. Given that plenty of dudes send unsolicited dick pics to women, it becomes threatening and unpleasant to see it. Things like the inclusion of the hand and more of the body softens the in your face qualities of the typical dick pic and makes it seem more inviting. Believe me, dudes who send unsolicited shots of their junk to women are not spending the thirty seconds to move the laundry off the bed or thinking how something looks. So, a well thought out picture sent to someone after they request it goes over better than whipping out your dick and holding it next to something. You don't have to pose it with a bunch of action figures or whatever, but make the receiver know you care.
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Aug 30, 2016 08:40
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Send a dick vid. Do the propeller dick.
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Aug 30, 2016 12:39
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Any comments on female condoms? I have read that they can be more stimulating for the man, but who can trust the internet these days?!
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Aug 30, 2016 16:47
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Capt. Dralth posted:Any comments on female condoms? I have read that they can be more stimulating for the man, but who can trust the internet these days?! Can confirm, yes. They look a bit odd, mainly because we're not used to them culturally, but they do feel better and don't have a million different sizes. You can also put them in before sex starts, so you don't have an awkward time out period before penetration.
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Aug 30, 2016 16:52
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Dumb am-I-doing-this-right question: edging. I have tried it and I just get horrendous blue balls and it suuuucks. Is that... the point, or what?
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Aug 30, 2016 23:15
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strangemusic posted:Dumb am-I-doing-this-right question: edging. I have tried it and I just get horrendous blue balls and it suuuucks.
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Aug 30, 2016 23:53
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strangemusic posted:Dumb am-I-doing-this-right question: edging. I have tried it and I just get horrendous blue balls and it suuuucks. Eventually you do it and orgasm. Don't edge for 3 hours and then put it up before finishing.
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Aug 31, 2016 04:09
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From a female perspective, edging is GREAT. The whole point is to make orgasm feel stronger/better so stopping for good before orgasm defeats the purpose. And just to throw my voice into the 'dick pics' chat... as a bi woman, seeing a dick pic has never put me in the mood and definitely isn't welcome when unsolicited. Then again, I wouldn't solicit one. If I'm already in the mood, seeing one might be interesting but I find secondary sex characteristics more of a turn-on than the genitalia of either gender. Edit: But seriously, edging is super good when done right and can lead to mind-blowing amounts of pleasure. Keep practicing. Faerunner fucked around with this message at 06:07 on Aug 31, 2016 |
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Aug 31, 2016 06:04
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I'm not sure if this is the right thread for it, but I didn't find anything specifically about this. I'm an amateur photographer, and friend in the bdsm scene wants me to shoot her. Now, since ropes will definitely be used in the shot, I've been looking at different types of knots and similar things (shibari, I guess), in order to prepare the props of the shoot as much as possible. Although I can find tutorials to basically tie a person up from scratch... are there some sort of shortcuts for this? Like parts of the... I don't know, knots that you can make before the event starts, so that you don't have to fumble your way through it? I have some experience handling paracords and experience with camping knots, etc., but the kind of stuff that is involved in this is definitely way more than what I think I could do at a moment's notice, and I sincerely don't have the interest to put lots of time and effort into learning something that, at most, will only be relevant this one time, Keep in mind that the ropes will be used for decorative purposes only, so it is not important if they are not extremely tight; additionally, the model won't be suspended, or placed in a position that could put her in any risk of injury (I've read enough about nerve injuries that I feel fairly confident in knowing what not to do). Thanks!
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Sep 4, 2016 04:26
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Non Serviam posted:I'm not sure if this is the right thread for it, but I didn't find anything specifically about this. All the bdsm photo shoots of shibari I've seen have had a photographer, a model and a rigger. I'd talk to your friend and see if she has someone experienced who can do the rope work. If she's into it she probably has friends/rope tops/riggers she could ask who would do a much better job than you - or she might be able to do some decorative self-tying.
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Avalinka posted:All the bdsm photo shoots of shibari I've seen have had a photographer, a model and a rigger. I'd talk to your friend and see if she has someone experienced who can do the rope work. If she's into it she probably has friends/rope tops/riggers she could ask who would do a much better job than you - or she might be able to do some decorative self-tying. Thanks for the suggestion. This is probably the best alternative. I met a guy who was a "photographer" who took (bad) photos of women being tied, submerged or hanged by the neck. He was shocked when I explained to him that the neck wasn't made to hold the weight of the whole body, that he could cause severe nerve damage, or even kill the people involved. I assume it was a turn on for him, and he just decided to try to use photography as a springboard to watching other people gently caress. The results look like grainy crime scene photos with lens flare and photoshop fire trails.
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Non Serviam posted:Thanks for the suggestion. This is probably the best alternative. Did he think that hanging killed people by surprise or something and the rope was just there to make it look cooler?
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OwlFancier posted:Did he think that hanging killed people by surprise or something and the rope was just there to make it look cooler? I have no idea. Now, just to be clear, he didn't make them fall, he actually raised them (I assume with a pulley). How he thought this was something that was not ridiculously dangerous is beyond me. I then had to explain that "no, it isn't like skydiving accident. You go to jail for hanging your gently caress buddy, even if she asked, and especially your chubby, unpaid model"
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Sep 6, 2016 01:19
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An important thing to remember about any kink scene is that a not-insignificant proportion of them will always be made up of idiots
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IronicDongz posted:An important thing to remember about any kink scene is that a not-insignificant proportion of them will always be made up of idiots I don't think the proportion is different from the amount of idiots in other groups. It's just that here it's idiots with ropes, knives, needles, cameras and poor editing skills.
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Sep 6, 2016 02:07
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You'd think the proportion of idiots in kink scenes would be lower, given that some of them must inevitably have been weeded out by "accidents" and jail time already. The universe has a lot of idiots, though. It wouldn't surprise me to find that one of the fundamental laws of nature is that idiots abhor a vacuum.
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Faerunner posted:You'd think the proportion of idiots in kink scenes would be lower, given that some of them must inevitably have been weeded out by "accidents" and jail time already. I do hope some of these people go to jail or get maimed though, particularly those who exhibit sociopathic levels of sadism. While I've met people for whom this thing seems to be something they do with their partners in their home, others have taken extent, and this minuscule part of their lives becomes the most significant part of their personality. The biggest issue is that they end up immersed In a world where, regardless of what they do, there are always others already doing it, so they don't seem to stop to wander whether wearing diapers while being stuck with needles is a good idea. The phrase "I can't really judge people with a Nazi fetish... I mean, I love the power dynamics of the concentration camps" was something I heard over the weekend. At no point was there even a reflection about whether finding a crime against humanity "kinda hot" was worrying. Oh, by the way, this was uttered by a tiny Malaysian girl living in Europe. ... Preparing this series of shoots will make me drink myself to death.
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Non Serviam posted:... Preparing this series of shoots will make me drink myself to death. That's hot.
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Make something "idiot-proof" and the world will build a better idiot.
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Faerunner posted:You'd think the proportion of idiots in kink scenes would be lower, given that some of them must inevitably have been weeded out by "accidents" and jail time already. I think it was Einstein who said "Only two things are infinite: the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe."
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Sep 6, 2016 13:08
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KillHour posted:That's hot. Curious about Drinking self to death (everything about it)
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Sep 6, 2016 13:29
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KillHour posted:To the goon who asked about the Bear Things stuff, I got a chance to use it all last night. I'll do a write-up later. Did you get the chance to do this write up? I'm looking to drop ~$100 on gear from him and would like at least a quick yea/nea assessment on the quailty.
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IronicDongz posted:An important thing to remember about
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Soylent Pudding posted:Did you get the chance to do this write up? I'm looking to drop ~$100 on gear from him and would like at least a quick yea/nea assessment on the quailty. Sorry, been busy. The hardware and buckles are all heavy and good quality. The stitching is well done and it looks like care was taken when they were made. The leather isn't very soft to the touch, however, and needs to be broken in. It's very stiff and thin. The blindfold is a bit hard on the eyes. The eye pads are hard and have very little cushioning. The thigh cuffs are weird because they're not tapered in any way to match the contour of an actual thigh, so they tend to slide down. Other than that, I like everything. The paddle and the gag are probably my (her) favorites.
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Thanks! Definitely skipping the blindfold then.
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Krillchin posted:Hey guys, I started having sex a few months ago, being in a relationship with a girl I love very much. We're both 20 years old, she's had sex before. She's super attractive and she makes me very horny very easily. The sex is frequent, enjoyable and fun, but while she is able to reliably get off several times during every session of intercourse, I have actually never experienced an orgasm inside her and only two from really long and exhausting hand jobs up to now and it's starting to concern us a bit. I immediately stopped masturbating after I didn't come the first times, as it is recommended in the OP, but that doesn't seem to have any impact. Foreplay is super hot and it makes me really horny, but it seems as if sensation and pleasure get unlinked as soon as we start having sex, making it impossible for me to get sufficiently aroused. We tried it without a condom once (She's taking the pill, too), but that didn't change anything. Any idea how to deal with that problem? Update on this, now I'm 9 months into the relationship and not a lot has changed unfortunately. I completely stopped worrying about having orgasms for quite some time, which made sex itself more fun and enjoyable. Still no orgasms whatsoever, though, and even if it shouldn't be an issue it's creeping into my mind every now and then. I started masturbating after a few months again because I desperately needed some release. When doing that I noticed my orgasms are almost completely triggered by mental stimulation and if I focus on the physical sensation it doesn't really turn me on a lot. Including fantasy into sex doesn't really work either because I need to be so concentrated on it in order to get sufficiently aroused. Any ideas? I'm a bit clueless right now and I hate feeling "broken".
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Sep 9, 2016 12:28
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Roleplay, unless that's what you meant by including fantasy.
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Sep 9, 2016 13:39
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Sage Grimm posted:Roleplay, unless that's what you meant by including fantasy. Yup I tried directly voicing and acting out masturbation fantasies. They're nothing unusual and the weird thing is I get super aroused if I simply review the sex we had in my mind. I'm apparently completely unable to sufficiently enjoy the actual moment itself and I need to construct a mental image in order to feel arousal, experiencing reality simply doesn't work and physical sensation does neither. edit: I also don't have problems with erections, actually my penis is erect extremely easily and for prolonged times around my girlfriend. Krillchin fucked around with this message at 13:54 on Sep 9, 2016 |
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Krillchin posted:Yup I tried directly voicing and acting out masturbation fantasies. They're nothing unusual and the weird thing is I get super aroused if I simply review the sex we had in my mind. I'm apparently completely unable to sufficiently enjoy the actual moment itself and I need to construct a mental image in order to feel arousal, experiencing reality simply doesn't work and physical sensation does neither. Silly question maybe, but have you tried thinking about what you're doing while you're doing it?
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Jedit posted:Silly question maybe, but have you tried thinking about what you're doing while you're doing it? Yup, doesn't work. I can't concentrate on that intensely enough and for enough time, even when I'm motionless and she's on top. Afterwards it's no problem to think about it and get aroused enough for myself.
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Krillchin posted:Yup I tried directly voicing and acting out masturbation fantasies. They're nothing unusual and the weird thing is I get super aroused if I simply review the sex we had in my mind. I'm apparently completely unable to sufficiently enjoy the actual moment itself and I need to construct a mental image in order to feel arousal, experiencing reality simply doesn't work and physical sensation does neither. To me that sounds like while you're having sex you're concentrating on what you're doing, instead of what you're doing. As in, you're concentrating on operating your body rather than the fact that you're having sex with this lady you find super attractive. Do you find you're devoting a lot of time to what I suppose I would call the technique during sex? Because I find if I do that it does detract from my ability to actually enjoy it. E: From the comment above perhaps not quite, hm, what do you think about during sex I guess is the next question, what occupies your mind and how is it distinct from thinking about it after the fact?
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