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I'd take a dildo style vibe and a bullet vibe over a rabbit. Easier to adjust and better if you like any thrusting action because you can hold the bullet on your clit with your other hand. I've squirted like a fountain from it, but ymmv, I'm a squirter in general. Like others have said, rabbits have to be just the right fit for the person. I once got one that was too long, and the only way to get the clit part to touch was when it was hurting my cervix. It was an expensive one too, very frustrating.
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Just FYI, there's no scientific evidence for the G spot or for squirting. She's peeing. http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/seriouslyscience/2015/01/12/proof-female-ejaculation-just-pee/#.WAmuFvyxU0M
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Oct 21, 2016 06:56
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If it's a small amount, it's female ejaculation, not peeing. If it's like porn with quarts going everywhere, that's peeing. https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn26772-female-ejaculation-comes-in-two-forms-scientists-find/ G-spot research is mixed but there's not zero evidence. http://theguardian.com/science/2008/feb/21/medicalresearch.sciencenews
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Huh, I didn't think I'd be in a minority as a fan of rabbits. I guess all my stuff is in the sweet spot for the market! The only rabbit I've hated was an Ultra 7 Beaver - which had a weird beaver-shaped thing in place of a traditional rabbit. This meant that instead of having two ears, it had one... I'm not sure what it was meant to be, but it was the perfect shape to stab me right in the clitoris. That was not a fun discovery. Bollock Monkey fucked around with this message at 18:09 on Oct 21, 2016 |
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My girlfriend has been on Paxil for a few months now and it is apparently really loving with her ability to orgasm, which I know is totally normal, but it's causing her to become extremely frustrated to the point where when it happens she gets completely frustrated and won't talk to me for the rest of the night, and after this last time it happened (4 days ago now) it seems she has decided to completely give up because it is so frustrating for her. Even though 90% of the time it is fine and she does have an orgasm, she says even then she still has anxiety about whether or not it's going to happen. But each time where she has gotten close and she can't seem to come, it has been pissing her off more and more. I believe she is just reacting badly right now because she's upset about it and I'm sure she will want to return to sex, but I'm worried she won't or if she does and this happens again she really will give up which won't be good for her or us. I tell her it is totally okay and totally normal due to the anti-depressant but it doesn't help, she is the one experiencing it and I can't imagine what it's like. She also can't or won't even try to masturbate or try to make herself orgasm anymore, even though traditionally she has been an avid masturbator. She doesn't want to try cutting her dose in half and she doesn't have money to go back to the doctor for something else right now. The only thing that worked for her was me fingering her "g-spot" while she rubs her clit, and a couple times in the past while she did the same while we were having sex. I figure there's nothing else i can really do besides be supportive of her but I'd like if anyone has shared this experience, and I would at least like to buy her a toy (she doesn't have anything right now) and let her hopefully do some experimentation by herself. She should be able to masturbate at the very least right? Can anyone sympathize here or recommend a toy or anything else that might help?
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I've had male friends on SSRIs who then have a very hard time ejaculating through normal intercourse, though they can still masturbate. Tell her that there's no pressure, and be supportive. The brain is a bitch, other than trying other possible treatments, with a doctor's supervision, there isn't much else to do.
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Yeah, I think you guys should put the toy money toward another appointment asap. It sounds like a really unsustainable situation.
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She could look into Wellbutrin. It's an atypical antidepressant that has positive sexual side effects, and can be prescribed alongside an SSRI like Paxil to reduce the side effects. She can also try transitioning to a different SSRI; Paxil is one of the most infamous for sexual side effects. And it wouldn't be the sex megathread if I didn't mention that weed is good.
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Last week I ended my six month vow of celibacy which I took up for religious reasons. I didn't waste much time and started having sex again a couple nights ago. 6 months was the longest break I've taken from sex since I was 16. I'm a dude. I had no problem getting hard and loving for 20+ mins, but I just couldn't manage to ejaculate. I've never experienced this problem before. During my 6 month celibacy, I was doing a lot of jacking off, and I wonder if I de-sensitized my dick to normal sexual stimulus and if I now require a rock hard man grip on my cock to get off. This girl is absolutely gorgeous and there's no other reason I can guess at as to why I can't cum. Is there any relief for this symptom? Is it just going to take a few more fucks before the normal sensitivity comes back after an extended break? Anything I can do here? It's pretty lame when a chick asks you to cum on your tits and you can't produce.
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Oct 22, 2016 20:40
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You couldn't just jack it on her tits?
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Oct 22, 2016 20:46
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seems like you should just get a rock hard man to grip your dick
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Oct 22, 2016 21:00
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I'm not sure a vow of celibacy means "jack off all the time" Like, I'm not under a vow of celibacy every time I'm not having sex.
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LingcodKilla posted:You couldn't just jack it on her tits? Stroop There It Is posted:seems like you should just get a rock hard man to grip your dick OwlFancier posted:I'm not sure a vow of celibacy means "jack off all the time" "all the time" was more like once every other day, which for me seems like a lot.
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Oct 22, 2016 22:06
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that doesn't seem like a lot to me. at any rate you can always jack off less, or just... let up on your grip when you jack off.Subways Jared posted:When I pulled out to try that I couldn't get off, no. Sucks. making cumming not the goal(but rather a nice bonus) might help, other than that there's not much to do other than try and chill out more. and jackin it less won't hurt! LazyMaybe fucked around with this message at 23:00 on Oct 22, 2016 |
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Oct 22, 2016 22:56
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Your dick broke. You made it sound like you were trying to finish on her hands free which honestly seemed a little.... hard.
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IronicDongz posted:that doesn't seem like a lot to me. at any rate you can always jack off less, or just... let up on your grip when you jack off. LingcodKilla posted:Your dick broke.
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OwlFancier posted:I'm not sure a vow of celibacy means "jack off all the time" That's a really weird definition of celibacy, I'd agree. I mean, it's like you're giving up all the parts of sex that religion actually supports, pair bonding and procreation, but keeping all the endorphin-y bits our brain chemistry really likes.
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Subways Jared posted:Is there any relief for this symptom? Is it just going to take a few more fucks before the normal sensitivity comes back after an extended break? Anything I can do here? It's pretty lame when a chick asks you to cum on your tits and you can't produce.
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Oct 23, 2016 18:18
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So we tried to have sex and we couldn't, basically haha we used lube and all and yet she would feel too much pain as soon as I tried to go inside. We did like an hour of foreplay. She said the same happened with her fingers the couple of times we had tried. We might try again next week but I wonder if it's a medical condition or something.
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Oct 23, 2016 18:54
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When I say "tried to go inside", I mean "applied even the slightest pressure in that area"
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Azran posted:So we tried to have sex and we couldn't, basically haha we used lube and all and yet she would feel too much pain as soon as I tried to go inside. We did like an hour of foreplay. Vaginismus?
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Azran posted:So we tried to have sex and we couldn't, basically haha we used lube and all and yet she would feel too much pain as soon as I tried to go inside. We did like an hour of foreplay. That sounds like a medical problem.
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She's never been to the gynecologist, to make things worse. She says she wants to try again next Saturday but 
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Oct 24, 2016 05:38
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Get her off without going inside, then. At least until the problem gets sorted out.
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Oct 24, 2016 05:51
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Try to frame it not as "you're horribly broken, get it fixed asap" but as "hey I really don't want to hurt you, want to see if there's anything a doctor could do to help?"
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Try putting her on top so she can control pressure, speed, angle etc. Tell her it is OK top stop if she wants or needs to. Let her work her way through.
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BattyKiara posted:Try putting her on top so she can control pressure, speed, angle etc. Tell her it is OK top stop if she wants or needs to. Let her work her way through. if she can't even finger herself, that's not gonna work my money's on either vaginismus or some kinda hymen problem (contrary to popular belief, it's not actually supposed to 'break' and if you have to do that, it's a medical condition requiring minor surgery) neither of those are things you can just work through on your own, they're not unusual and there's no shame in needing to see a doctor about them vaguely fucked around with this message at 12:46 on Oct 24, 2016 |
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Also, regularly seeing a gynecologist is kinda important for the health of female-bodied people. Believe me, as a trans dude I know exactly how not fun it can be, but it's still important that she get checked out.
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Anne Whateley posted:Try to frame it not as "you're horribly broken, get it fixed asap" but as "hey I really don't want to hurt you, want to see if there's anything a doctor could do to help?" Yes, I told her this, and I promised her that this in no way at all would affect our relationship (which is true), which she was concerned about. BattyKiara posted:Try putting her on top so she can control pressure, speed, angle etc. Tell her it is OK top stop if she wants or needs to. Let her work her way through. We tried this, we couldn't achieve ANY degree of penetration, not even "penis in correct position, just gotta thrust now". We were using lube to make things easier and no dice. Hyperlynx posted:Get her off without going inside, then. At least until the problem gets sorted out. Yeah, did this, and I plan on doing that from now on. Stroop There It Is posted:Also, regularly seeing a gynecologist is kinda important for the health of female-bodied people. Believe me, as a trans dude I know exactly how not fun it can be, but it's still important that she get checked out. Yeah, I'll make sure to mention this today when I see her.
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Just to check, did you attempt to penetrate her with something smaller (on multiple occasions including this one) before trying to put your penis inside her? Because there's no point trying with your penis until she's comfortable with a couple of fingers.
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Azran posted:Yeah, did this, and I plan on doing that from now on. Also, in my totally unqualified opinion, if she's able to relax enough to get off without penetration, it really does sound like there's a physical medical issue (eg vaginismus). I would think that means it can get treated and cured. (A quick Google suggests that vaginismus itself apparently has a really high cure rate) e: quote:did you attempt to penetrate her with something smaller (on multiple occasions including this one) before trying to put your penis inside her? Because there's no point trying with your penis until she's comfortable with a couple of fingers
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We tried one finger, she only felt slight pain and only at certain intervals, but we didn't try that much. It's something that she asked me to try this Friday and Saturday. She's really excited to try this week, which is a good sign. As an aside (since there's nothing to report on that front for a while), I have this issue where my penis will produce way too much natural lube shorty after I get aroused. We're talking "poo poo I can see the stain on the outside of my pants" levels of 'too much'. AFAIK it's not premature ejaculation since I can ejaculate just fine after this, and there's no visible semen in the fluid. I'm pretty paranoid regarding the pregnancy risk lube carries so it's almost a mood killer since it forces me to go to the bathroom, clean myself, etc. before being able to put a condom on. Is there anything I can do about this?
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If you are having issues with putting on condoms and are in a long-term monogamous relationship, you should probably talk to your girlfriend about looking into alternative forms of protection when she visits the gynecologist. Barring major issues with the pill/IUD/etc, you shouldn't have to bother with condoms in your situation and it combats pregnancy concerns too.
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Azran posted:my penis will produce [...] natural lube What
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At least that's the term in Spanish? Sorry, might've made a lexical transference by mistake. I'm talking about the sticky, liquid substance it generates when you're aroused.
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in English we call it pre-cum it's a beautiful language
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I believe the technical english term for it is cowper's fluid. It comes out of your cowper's gland.
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Azran posted:We tried one finger, she only felt slight pain and only at certain intervals, but we didn't try that much. It's something that she asked me to try this Friday and Saturday. She's really excited to try this week, which is a good sign. Yeah, we call that precum, or pre-ejaculate if you want to be clinical, and it can sometimes have tiny amounts of viable sperm in it, so it is a pregnancy risk, but a pretty low one. If it's messing with your ability to put on a condom, you could try female condoms. They're a bit harder to find since they're not popular, but they feel better aren't nearly as awkward as the male kinds. Really, women get all the best birth control.
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I feel that is a fair tradeoff for having the worst reproductive system. My dick might lack options when it comes to preventing it from being a pregnancy risk but at least it doesn't try to kill me.
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