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loquacius posted:Yeah even if that guy wasn't a fetishist he was at LEAST a hobbyist, I dunno what else you'd call taking drugs that keep you from pooping for no real reason and using your days off to poop basically all day You're actually dressing up in drag at night and buying duplos at walmart while kissing milk cartons
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# ? Oct 21, 2016 22:20 |
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# ? May 13, 2024 10:21 |
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Deffo sounss like Withcer work. Be sure youre ready to pay and itll get taken care of
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# ? Oct 21, 2016 22:30 |
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"I knocked up my high school sweetheart at age 17. Neither of us was ready, but with the support of our parents, we made it work. I was working 2 jobs - a delivery driver during the day and a movie theater general manager at night. Long days, not a lot of sleep, but I was helping my girlfriend pay her way through college. She was going to become an engineer and we'd be able to give a good life to our son. Then they died. I was working and got a phone call right around 9 pm. It was a bad storm out, and a fall day, so there were wet leaves everywhere. She was driving to Wal-mart to pick up a few things. Our son, having just recently celebrated his 3rd birthday, wanted to go help. A car coming the other way on a sharp curve slipped on wet leaves, crossed the middle line, and t boned my wife's car. It's presumed they both survived this, but then a pickup came from behind at about 85 mph and utterly smashed both cars. The pickup driver was killed, the car driver was not. He told the whole story and it was ruled an accident. I don't blame him, though I do blame the truck driver. The next few months were a blur of sadness, loneliness, and a descent into a very dark place. But eventually I moved on. My wife and son will always be the greatest loves in my life, and will always be an inspiration to me. But I had to rebuild my own life to honor them, like I knew they would want. But then things went bad. I've started having trouble sleeping at night. I either stay up way too late, or toss and turn all night. I don't think I've gotten 6 hours (let alone 8) since April or May. I won't sugarcoat this - I believe my wife and son's ghosts are trapped an unable to pass on to whatever comes next. I don't believe in much of anything, but I am convinced of this. Little things she used to do are being done in my house. She used to drink milk out of the carton and leave some lipstick behind, and I'm finding lipstick on my milk cartons again. My son was starting to play with duplos, and I'm finding duplos in the yard every time I cut the grass. There's more, but those are the 2 I absolutely cannot explain. As I said before, I don't believe in much. I don't think there's some magic guy in a collared shirt that can help me, and I don't think prayers or a book of parables or anything like that will help. So I have no idea what to do, and I hope my family can just pass on to the next thing soon. Because I'm feeling like I'm losing them all over again." I wish I got free duplos.
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# ? Oct 21, 2016 23:59 |
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Ghost dad, what seems more likely: that your dead loved ones are haunting you or that your grieving brain is being unreliable? I'll spare you the guessing, it's the latter. Talk to a therapist.
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 00:49 |
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Gonna guess the sleep deprivation isn't helping either.
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 02:33 |
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You miss your family and are making leaps in logic to connect them with everyday things. Probably a touch of survivors guilt too. Talk to a therapist or your friends about it.
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 03:18 |
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Confession: just like Lego, the plural of Duplo is Duplo. Do the exact opposite of any advice from some broke brained "duplos" typist.
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 03:48 |
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Build yourself a new, better wife, out of Duplo
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 06:14 |
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Clockwerk posted:Build yourself a new, better wife, out of Duplo best youre gonna fo with duplo is a pocket pussy but you can construct a fairly convincing son using megablocks
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 08:08 |
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The lipstick on the milk is probably blood. Brush your teeth grossface.
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 18:10 |
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quote:Hey, this thread is frequently depressing/disturbing, so here's a nice thing that happened to me- Aww, congrats I just spent all day writing, addressing, and stuffing wedding thank-you notes, still worth it and just to ruin your warm fuzzies after reading that: quote:I'm addicted to picking my nose and eating the boorgers. I've tried to stop but I can't. I know it's nasty, but I don't care.
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 21:09 |
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good luck to you and your fiancee if there's anything i regret about doing a small courthouse wedding (and by small i mean just me, husband and my supportive brother), it's that, in hindsight, i wish my relationship with my parents at that time could have been better. i never wanted a big wedding, of course, but thinking back, i feel very sad that we had to keep it a secret. it was still nice. my relationship with my parents is a lot better after we moved out, and my parents gave us a belated wedding gift!! but sometimes i think about what it would've been like to have them there and i start crying. i'm doing it right now
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 22:02 |
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That feel good engagement confession
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# ? Oct 22, 2016 23:18 |
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Proposing to my wife was probably the bravest thing I did at the time and the confident way she said "yes!" made me glad I was crazy enough to pop the question before she started grad school instead of waiting until she graduated. Good times.
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 00:50 |
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H.H posted:I don't know Mandarin, but my friends who studied it say that the morphology is very simple. The difficult part is pronunciation and writing. Sorry to dig this up but I'm just catching up on the thread and can actually answer this. Grammatically Chinese is superficially similar to English (SVO), which means at basic levels putting a sentence together is pretty simple. But this also leads to native English speakers falling into the trap of thinking that something is correct when it is not. Where time and place go in a sentence is a classic example. The writing gets a bad rap. It really isn't that bad. When you think about it, most adults don't read English phonetically. You just recognize the first and last letters and a few in the middle and the word jumps out at you. That's basically how you read Chinese. The difference is that there are a few hundred rather than 26 "letters" and several of the arrangements look similar. This is a bad example but for instance 人 入 and 八 have nothing in common. A better example is 李 and 季 which are easy for learners to confuse. But there are mnemonic ways to learn the writing that avoid confusion. See the series for learning characters in Chinese or Japanese by Heisig. But the important thing to remember is that this writing system is designed around the idea that it doesn't matter what your spoken language is. I find once you can recognize the characters, reading Chinese is pretty straightforward. Once you have a broad character knowledge it's not that tough to get the gist of something. The next hurdle is recognizing compound words. For instance 馬 means horse and 桶 means bucket but 馬桶 means toilet. Most of these you just have to learn, though obviously context helps and some make sense. 電腦 or "electric brain" obviously means computer. The worst is when you see two or three characters in a row and you're trying to decide if you should read them independently or as one or more compounds only to realize the characters are being used for their phonetic values to represent a foreign word, like 威士忌, or might soldier envy, or wei shi ji, or "whiskey". Tones and pronunciation are the other sticking point. Chinese has a lot of sounds that English lacks, specifically in its range of consonants. This is where a lot of English speakers get hung up. They can't get their head around the difference between a j and a zh or a c and a z or worse an sh and an x. Tones are their own can of worms. I'm not even convinced that people coming from a different tonal language have any advantage in learning the tones of a new language. It might make it easier to pick out which tones are being used, but it isn't like high tone in Mandarin tells you anything about high tone in Thai. Fortunately Mandarin only has four tones and a neutral and how they interact can fit on an index card. For example a third tone before another third tone becomes a second tone and a third tone before a fourth tone is shortened. This all makes a lot of sense when you speak the language quickly. The tone modification rules are really just a codification of what your mouth does naturally. Still it's possible to make mistakes. I once said 我酒店看我們的朋友 when I had intended to say 我九點看我們的朋友. This is the difference between saying I saw our friend at nine o'clock and I saw our friend at the brothel. My confession is that I'm better at talking about Chinese than I am at speaking it. Edit: One last thing on morphology. Syllable construction rules are very strict and there just aren't very many sounds to begin with so yeah it's actually pretty easy to remember all possible syllables and how they're pronounced, which is a huge difference with English. Atlas Hugged fucked around with this message at 04:16 on Oct 23, 2016 |
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Turdsdown Tom posted:cats wrecking your furniture is the #1 sign that you aren't capable of being a cat owner. a scratching post costs like $20. you'd pay more for all the pillows you'd have to replace after you get home and find out Buster the Dog tore up everything You have no idea the Chaos that my cat is capable of, LOL.
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 04:46 |
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quote:I exaggerate, a lot. I fabricate a lot more, and I lie more than I tell the truth. I first lied to strangers, but then exaggerations in stories to my friends and family, or telling them stories about things that never happened - that they could not verify. quote:I've been chatting with a transman on tinder for a bit and I really like them. That's not the confession, I'm a huge queermo. The thing is that I had a dream last night about marrying them. help
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 18:09 |
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My buddy owned a trans am in high school. I wouldn't marry one though, too much up keep.
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 18:59 |
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i'm horribly sleep deprived and wracked with grief, could i be an unreliable narrator? no its ghosts obv
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 19:14 |
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Desperate minds don't want to let go. Sorry, grief goon, but you're either imagining it or doing these things yourself in a grief induced fugue state.
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 19:18 |
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Why are we dismissing this ghost family theory so quickly? We could have a real life reverse Ghost Dad type situation here.
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 19:28 |
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Lying a lot is something I used to do. IMHO the best way to stop is to talk to a therapist, it usually indicates that something else is wrong. I didn't read that whole post btw
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# ? Oct 23, 2016 20:09 |
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quote:Hi guys, quote:Follow up on the trump tape I realize this is just you weaseling out of being told to actually send in a nonexistent tape, but on the off-chance it's not, there are people in the media who can pixelate someone's face pretty well so I wouldn't worry about that
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# ? Oct 24, 2016 13:38 |
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I guarantee they would blur her face if you asked them. Hell, you could probably ask for a $10k check made to "Cash."
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# ? Oct 24, 2016 14:51 |
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Waiting for the thread to start singing "Ghost with a Boner" in unison
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# ? Oct 24, 2016 14:56 |
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i wish i got xanax off my mam
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# ? Oct 24, 2016 15:22 |
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Compulsive lying goon, I'm gonna impart unto you some pearls. Every person; every relationship online and off, need a sense of commitment. Make sure your partner knows, if nothing else, that you will always be willing to put these nuts on their chin and your needs second. Everything else comes in time.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 08:14 |
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quote:I've been best friends with Jim for the past twenty years. Last year, Jim came out to me as a MtF transwoman. Cool. Whatever. Jim, or Jane now, She's still my best friend. We'll still bullshit about music, sports, etc. It'll be the same as always and I'll support her. I think before you go forward with the more drastic (and permanent) parts of a transition they make you get evaluated, because a lot of people who aren't actually trans absolutely do decide that they are as a response to depression or other mental issues; however, being trans can also cause depression, so it's kind of a gray area. That part's not really your business, though. As for the rest of it, in 2010 or thereabouts I personally stopped talking to my childhood best friend because he was completely unable to talk to me without going on and on about how Obamacare was a tyrannical power grab by the crypto-fascist Kenyan usurper B. Hussein Obama and I was fuckin' sick of it, so yeah I would absolutely tell you you're under no obligation to keep hanging out with someone if they have become completely obnoxious. Don't worry about her; she's a full-grown adult. Try talking to her about it first, though, because the worst case is that she gets mad at you and doesn't want to hang out with you anymore, which is the same outcome as just stopping hanging out with her on your own.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 20:53 |
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gently caress her first then tell her for maximum drama
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 20:58 |
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The Shmorky story is destined to happen over and over again until we defeat the great Grievance Industrial Complex
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 21:42 |
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Squashing Machine posted:The Shmorky story is destined to happen over and over again until we defeat the great Grievance Industrial Complex The people who complain about this are always 100x more hypersensitive than the people they complain about
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 21:43 |
It sounds like you and Jim aren't friends anymore, but neither of you have realized it. If you want to try and salvage the relationship be very honest about your feelings. If you two can't talk it through and come to a friendly resolution, sever. You don't have to keep being her friend just because you've been friends for years. People change a lot over time, and maybe you guys just didn't change in the same ways. Sucks, but it happens.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 21:50 |
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Tell Jane that you don't appreciate her tone policing and her accusations are triggering.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 21:54 |
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Jim/jane has found a new religion. Whether it's god, veganism, crossfit, ron paulitis, or being a hypersensitive aggrieved minority, this is their life now. There is no saving this relationship until they extract themselves from this pit of awfulness. You should inform them that you will be happy to be their friend again when they have decided to stop being an rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Oct 26, 2016 03:15 |
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quote:I regret studying the career I did, it has few job openings where I live and I have spent the last 9 years doing work that I hate because there isn't any job with a good salary related to my career. I lost my last job on April and I'm having a hard time finding a new job and while my SO is paying all the bills, I hate the fact of being 100% dependable of my SO and can't live like we used to Welcome to being a millenial My recommendation is to look into tech. It's p much the only growth industry there is left, and while it won't be strictly related to your degree, there are plenty of people in the field in non-engineering jobs who majored in something unrelated. Look for a temporary internship as a PM or market research or copywriting or something and see if it's for you. Not your chosen field perhaps but it's Better Than NothingTM.
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# ? Oct 26, 2016 15:07 |
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My non anonymous confession is that I switched careers and absolutely hate my new one. I've only been at it 5 months, but I'm never gonna be happy with it. Not to mention I'm making less money than I did because they sort of lied about how my commissions work. I know it's too soon, but I'm seriously thinking about looking for a new job already. The good news for me is that I work in finance and have a bunch of certifications/experience so finding something isn't too hard.
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# ? Oct 26, 2016 15:12 |
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loquacius posted:Welcome to being a millenial My recommendation is move to where the work is. Too many people applying for that specialized position in a major city? Try applying EVERYWHERE, that same job is struggling to find candidates in the far flung reaches of the sub-arctic and in the middle of nowhere in the prairies (actual examples of places I applied and eventually worked).
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# ? Oct 26, 2016 15:31 |
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Solice Kirsk posted:My non anonymous confession is that I switched careers and absolutely hate my new one. I've only been at it 5 months, but I'm never gonna be happy with it. Not to mention I'm making less money than I did because they sort of lied about how my commissions work. I know it's too soon, but I'm seriously thinking about looking for a new job already. if you hate it and can move easily why bother waiting?
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# ? Oct 26, 2016 15:35 |
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I think it will look bad in interviews mostly.
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# ? Oct 26, 2016 15:38 |
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loquacius posted:Welcome to being a millenial Or the medical field ; I've seen a lot of people become RNs after their initial career prospects didn't pan out. I feel like the medical field would also be less volatile than tech as well.
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