Pick posted:

People are weirdly circumspect about it. I'm used to saying it at the end of phone calls so sometimes it slips out accidentally. Ok, thank you Mr. Stockbroker, love you bye-bye!

Nuebot posted:

More than once I've had people reflexively say "love you too" in the exact same absent-minded tone I said it and then it becomes the most hilarious thing after the hanging up as fast as possible out of embarrassment.

Nuebot posted:

More than once I've had people reflexively say "love you too" in the exact same absent-minded tone I said it and then it becomes the most hilarious thing after the hanging up as fast as possible out of embarrassment.

I wish I was a cool enough kid to help Goku win fights.

Zelder posted:

to clarify that's porn about a strange man who is not in a relationship. His name is Marcus and he gets into quite the predicaments

Psycho Society posted:

I wish I loved anything In this world as much as that kid loves Goku.

Carrion Luggage posted:

anime is loving cancer

mind the walrus posted:

"I just realized that I have responsibilities to be a mentor to my younger brother lest he become a weirdo who unironically checks "Goku" on every GBS poll. Reddit, please help me abdicate these responsibilities."

Jack Trades posted:

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Friends [24M-23F] told my supervisor that I [24M] died during a vacation as a prank. They don't see why I'm beyond mad.

I'm a PhD student in the US. Last week I took a quick visit home and during the visit, these two friends created an email account "Sarah.lastname" where last name is my last name. They pretended to be my sister in the email (I don't have a sister), emailed my PhD supervisor telling her that I had died in a car accident. My supervisor replied and asked for details which they responded with lies.

So my supervisor sent an email to our department mailing list telling them that my sister had told them that I had died and how this is sad day and another email to our own group saying she'll host a memorial for me. Guess what. I loving got those emails as I'm on the loving lists. So I replied to them and called her immediately and sorted this out. I'm not in any lasting trouble for this but it is a huge embarrassment and really unprofessional behavior. Once I got to the bottom of it I learned that it's these two friends, who I considered as best friends.

I don't know what they thought would happen. That my supervisor will not share this with others (or with the university) and I walk in on her and she'll think she saw a ghost? Some of my friends at our group told me that this hit them really hard as they completely believed it.

And they just act as if this was no big deal and tell me that I should chill out and move on and it was just a joke. Really not a funny joke.

How do I get them to grow up?

tl;dr: Friends told my supervisor that I died as a prank. It got me into a mess and it really upset my other friends who believed it.

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There have been many instances but best example was an hour ago, I got upset for whatever reason (we went out to dinner, I thought when we got home we would have sex and started to initiate - he shut down when he realised he wouldn't get a blow job and pouted. Said he couldn't be bothered to have sex in that case. I jokingly said "is this a transaction or something, what about me?" Which he ignored)

I wasn't upset at first but he immediately shut me out and rolled over went to sleep, I started thinking about how bad I felt and how unfair it was - we haven't been having much sex lately and he seemed in the mood so I got excited and then quickly shut down. So I started crying.

I'm an emotional person but try not to cry too much around him because it annoys him. I really don't get upset maybe once every couple months? It has been a very stressful time lately though, We just moved across the country together for his job and he's working 14 hours a day etc.

He angrily said "ugh why are you crying?" And I said "i'm sorry I thought you were asleep" which he ignored.

That then made me think, is it normal to leave someone you're supposed to love crying or upset next to you? It's not the first time, I just know if he as upset I certainly wouldn't be able to

Tl;dr - boyfriend doesn't give a poo poo when i'm upset; sleeps

Edit - adding info

Dirtbag Diva posted:

And ugh at the blowjob baby. says he's out of shape and the fact sex winds him makes him insecure so he projects it onto her for not indulging him.

Straight White Shark posted:

The obvious solution to this problem is to have a baby and open the relationship

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I'm sorry this is so long. I need to get this off my chest.

"R" and I have been together for 6 months, living together for one. Lately there have been some concerns floating around in the back of my head and I need some outsiders input.

Before me, he slept around a lot. He had a FWB for about a year, he's slept with a lot of random girls he met on the internet, met on dating sites, or met at his work, and he also had quite a few nude photos of girls on his phone and a few girls who were pretty "slutty" on Snapchat. After we became official, he cut off contact with all his ex hookups and removed the girls from snapchat, and the nudes. However, this isn't what I'm concerned about.

Apparently he was quite "mean/rough" to some of these girls he slept with. He told me that he didn't really know them, they were just random hookups, so he just kind of did whatever he wanted to them / did things to them that he wanted to try without asking them first. I expressed my concerns to him because the last thing I needed was for him to start being spontaneously violent with me during sex and I wanted to make sure I wasn't dating a guy who beat girls during sex or something like that, and he told me the worst thing he ever did to a girl was he shoved his dick in a random girls rear end without asking her first and then came in her rear end afterwards, and I was pretty grossed out about that but it wasn't really as bad as what it could have been (In my opinion anyway, I'm sure the girl felt differently about that), he told me that when its just a hook up or a one night stand its different but when its with someone he loves and cares about, its all about consent with him. One of the girls we used to work with told me to be careful with him and to really make sure that I stress my boundaries with him because he's told her about some of the stuff he did to girls. I asked her for details but all she said was "He did things to some girls because he knew they wouldn't say no."

He hasn't done anything bad to me. He asks before he does/tries anything, if I say no he listens to me and he's a little rough but its manageable and I'm okay with it. The only thing he's done which made me uncomfortable was we had doggy in front of my mirror and he made me watch even though I said I didn't want to.

He had a FWB for about a year before me. When they were single they hooked up a lot, but when one of them had a bf or gf they didn't talk out of respect. We were talking about her one day and he told me he was a dick to her the last time they spoke so I don't have to worry about her messaging him ever again. I asked him what he did to her but he said he didn't remember. We have an open phone policy between us and one time I was going through his FB messages (He was beside me playing PS4 and he was aware of what I was doing) and I saw in his message requests her current boyfriend messaged him about a month before we became official saying "Leave her alone bud. I'm serious. She wants nothing more to do with you. Trust me, I know what you did and you're a disgusting human being." I didn't dare ask what he did to her, but just the message "I know waht you did" makes me concerned.

He was single for a year before me, his choice because he was sick of dating, and he just slept around a bit and flirted and was a "slut" as he described it. After we became official he removed all his ex hookups and whatnot to show me that he changed and I had nothing to worry about. I didn't ask him to, he just did it. About a month ago, he was jacking off while I was at work and he added a random stranger off the internet onto his Snapchat and asked her to send him nudes, after he asked her for nudes he felt bad about the whole thing and removed her before she sent him anything. Needless to say, through a long series of events I found out that same day by accident, he tried to lie about it at first but eventually came clean, I was pissed, he said he wasn't thinking and to him it was just like looking at porn, he'll never do anything close to it again, he removed snapchat, but I'm still stuck on "I wasn't thinking." I mean... he did stuff like that when he was single and "slutting" around, he added random girls onto snapchat and told them to spam him with nudes, and he almost did it while he was with me.

Last issue... By reading his messages, which again he told me I could, I basically learned that he has 0 respect for other peoples relationships. While he was single, he'd message a girl (who had a boyfriend) and either flirt with her hardcore, try to talk her into having sex with him, or ask her for nudes and say "It's not cheating, its just displaying your naked body like art" and that right there is making me worry... If he has no respect for other peoples relationships, then why would he respect ours? If he was willing to sleep with a girl who wasn't single, then whats to stop him from sleeping around even though he's not single? He would sleep with or do things with women who weren't single all the time and thats bothering me hardcore.

I'm not sure if these are red flags, or if I'm just being ridiculous because of his recent snapchat slip-up. Can a guy really change? Even though he was disrespectful to women and other peoples relationships, will he be able to do things differently now that hes no longer single? I mean, we've been together for 6 months and he hasn't been mean to me, disrespected me, or done anything remotely wrong (Except for that one snapchat thing) at all since we started dating so I'm not sure if this is all an act and one day I'm gonna wake up next to a different person, or if I'm just overreacting because of his slipup with snapchat...
I would like some serious advice and opinions please. Thanks in advance!

tl;dr: Boyfriend was quite mean and disrespectful to women sexually when he was single, he did whatever he wanted without really asking them first. He's been known to try to convince women in relationships to sleep with him, send him nudes or flirt with him without caring about their relationship status at all. As a result, I'm scared he'll disrespect our relatinoship and cheat on me. He added a random stranger onto snapchat and asked her to spam him with nudes, then felt guilty and removed her before anything happened and I found out and now I'm having a hard time trusting him again. Are these all red flags, or am I just being paranoid because of his recent snapchat slip-up?

Gaunab posted:

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

Are these "red flags" or am I overthinking things? [22/F][23/M]
My boyfriend's a rapist, is that a redflag??

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

Are these "red flags" or am I overthinking things? [22/F][23/M]
My boyfriend's a rapist, is that a redflag??

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

Are these "red flags" or am I overthinking things? [22/F][23/M]
My boyfriend's a rapist, is that a redflag??

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

Are these "red flags" or am I overthinking things? [22/F][23/M]
My boyfriend's a rapist, is that a redflag??

quote:

I'll start with myself. I've had a long term, sexual relationship before, and one of the problems we had was that sometimes, my sex drive just stopped while his didn't. He would go on and on about how it was abnormal that for weeks at a time I might not want to have sex, but want to cuddle and be with him. A few years on, I've had sex a grand total of twice since and neither have been consensual on my part.
In summary I've been intentionally celibate - my sexual attractions come from my emotions. The idea of hookups are repugnant to me, and I derive enjoyment from sex from the intimacy between people who care for each other rather than the actual physical action. In fact, I barely masturbate. Sadly this leaves me in a very unfortunate situation where the people I end up feeling sexual attraction to (rarely) tend to be friends.
Now I met this guy off grindr who admitted to being homoromantic and asexual, though something on the grey scale. I wasn't sure what to expect at all from that, other than I felt an implicit comfort in that I didn't think he'd be predating on me sexually as gay guys are wont to do. I don't know why, but I felt I could open up to him completely. I felt there was no undercurrent where he was trying to manipulate me in to bed. There was something so honest about him that fascinated me. We had a few glasses of wine and talked about various things especially how this Grey Ace thing worked, and something about it there and then clicked for me. I felt like we had so much in common - Buddhism, Vegetarianism, mental health landscape, love of languages. I've had my celibacy choice tested before, but here, I felt I'd simply met an equivalent of where I was at. I mean, give it a few more years, and my self-moderation I would probably not want to entertain sexual behaviours either. In fact, in celibacy I've grown happier.
Eventually however, we kissed, and he asked if I'd like to spend the night, and we cuddled and kissed and it was... asexual, but romantic. It felt like the nights I used to want with my ex where he'd throw a fit about wanting me to have sex with him instead. I have to say I felt a little bit of confusion and fear from him when we were kissing - I could see it in his eyes - and I'm not entirely sure why. I interpreted it as he'd allowed someone that intimacy and the fear that I was simply like the rest and I was putting on this facade of similarity. I cradled his face, told him I was here because I liked him, no matter what he did or didn't want to do, and I'd be here in the morning because I liked him no matter what he did or didn't want to do.
We've since arranged a second date and had a conversation on how this could work. Sexuality to him is a "weird place" but he said that it's something he's willing to "relearn" though I don't get what that means. I'm getting a feeling he's basically a version of my celibacy several years further down the line that's crossed into a lifestyle. I did some reading on asexuality, and what he described as being in the "Grey Area" especially. In fact, something about some of those descriptions clicks to me. I feel sexual attraction to people I'm emotionally attracted to and trust - those circumstances. None other.
So reddit, what do you make of this? I've really never been in this circumstance before, nor do I really know what the hell I'm doing dating again after years. Have you dated someone in the grey area? I know this is very early but I want to know how to approach and respect him the best I can. Him saying "amazed [I'm] willing to put up with this poo poo" makes me think guys haven't been so kind to him about it before.
tl;dr: A celibate boy and an asexual boy go on a date and kiss. They want another date. The celibate boy realises he might be on the grey spectrum as well. Both seem to have been avoiding this "game" for a long time, and confused celibate boy wants to know how to respect asexual boy.

Pick posted:

aww