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OwlFancier posted:I feel that is a fair tradeoff for having the worst reproductive system. Yeah, you're not wrong. Play to your strengths, is all I'm really saying.
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Cowper's fluid is a lubricant? How could it possibly fulfill that role? Hardly any of it gets produced.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 23:07 |
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It's not like it's the only thing doing that, vaginas obviously produce a lot more lube... precum is more for keeping the penis comfortable for the guy, though.
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the littlest prince posted:Cowper's fluid is a lubricant? How could it possibly fulfill that role? Hardly any of it gets produced. Play with your littlest prince for longer and more gets produced.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 23:34 |
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Precum isn't meant to be a lubricant, it's there to clean the urethra. Urine is acidic enough it'll kill sperm.
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# ? Oct 25, 2016 23:55 |
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Alright, we tried again at her request and we made little to no progress. We tried with fingers, and we achieved moderate success. I told her not to worry, that vaginal penetration isn't the be-all, end-all of sex life. So we spent the rest of the night doing other stuff. She tells me she enjoys all of the other stuff we do together, but she still wants to try vaginal sex for the first time. She wants to try again on Monday, even. I told her that I'd rather she saw a gynecologist, and she agreed, which makes me happy, so we'll see if she can set an appointment for next week - I know she'll be a little annoyed if she can't get an appointment till halfway through November but I am doing my best to support her. I hope it's not something serious. Azran fucked around with this message at 06:31 on Oct 31, 2016 |
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It sounds like you're both doing exactly the right things, and both have a really good attitude about it. Go you!
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 07:30 |
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Did you try a bottle or two of wine?
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 07:42 |
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LingcodKilla posted:Did you try a bottle or two of wine? If she's having trouble with 2 fingers, I'm not sure she's going to get much farther with a bottle.
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 08:17 |
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LingcodKilla posted:Did you try a bottle or two of wine? She doesn't like alcohol and I only drink if I'm around my friends who drink Anyhow, I'll let you know how this goes once we consult a professional.
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 10:47 |
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Sounds like a decent next step. Good luck.
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 13:06 |
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Azran posted:Alright, we tried again at her request and we made little to no progress. We tried with fingers, and we achieved moderate success. Glad to hear it. I don't want to harp on, but I did just want to reiterate that you should still get further with fingers before attempting penetration with a penis. I hope you guys can have more fun soon!
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I'm really concerned about a membrane-like ring I felt was constricting my fingers as I went further on with my fingers, and contact with it seemed to be the cause of her pain. I suppose it's the hymen? Or at least bone? No idea.
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 18:46 |
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If you're reaching bone I think you've got a bigger problem, or you're salad fingers.
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 18:57 |
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OwlFancier posted:If you're reaching bone I think you've got a bigger problem, or you're salad fingers. It might also have to do with me having very little idea about the female reproductive organ. It didn't feel like bone, so yeah, let's discard that.
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# ? Oct 31, 2016 19:12 |
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AFAIK it should be a fairly distinct passage until you hit the cervix, and you shouldn't be able to hit the cervix unless you're jamming your whole fist up in there. So if you're encountering a resistant membrane that's probably the hymen and she may have a particularly stubborn one which will be very uncomfortable for her.
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Azran posted:It might also have to do with me having very little idea about the female reproductive organ. It didn't feel like bone, so yeah, let's discard that. Sounds like a hymen, yeah. If it is, the gyno will be able to snip it for her, which should solve all your problems.
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Also definitely wrap that up. Precum can and will result in pregnancy. It's not to be trusted, man. Ask me how I know.
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# ? Nov 1, 2016 01:47 |
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Can confirm: I wiped precum on a microscope slide and sperm was visible, just not at the quantity of semen.
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PRADA SLUT posted:Can confirm: I wiped precum on a microscope slide and sperm was visible, just not at the quantity of semen. Nice post/av combo.
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Azran posted:I'm really concerned about a membrane-like ring I felt was constricting my fingers as I went further on with my fingers, and contact with it seemed to be the cause of her pain. I suppose it's the hymen? Or at least bone? No idea. Likely the corona (the current medical term for what used to be called "hymen"). There are some good articles about this stuff on Scarleteen.com.
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Am I the only person who feels like they're going to be arrested if they look at a website called Scarleteen.com
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# ? Nov 1, 2016 15:32 |
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You're not alone in that feeling, but it's a really good resource for sex education, especially for virgins Very positive, feminist, and accepting! (And not pornography at all.)
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purple death ray posted:Am I the only person who feels like they're going to be arrested if they look at a website called Scarleteen.com No that was my immediate thought as well.
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Hug in a Can posted:You're not alone in that feeling, but it's a really good resource for sex education, especially for virgins Very positive, feminist, and accepting! (And not pornography at all.) I was wary of the name but yeah, it's a great and very positive website! I'm not a virgin, I've been sexually active for 9 years, and I found plenty of articles worth reading for a variety of topics. At first I thought that one goon was being condescending but nope, it was actually really useful and cool. Thanks!
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I'm glad you found it helpful! It does feel weird to suggest it to people in their 20s and 30s, but I don't know another resource that's anywhere near as clear and specific about sexuality and sexual health.
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Turtlicious posted:If she's having trouble with 2 fingers, I'm not sure she's going to get much farther with a bottle. I knew you wouldn't let me down Turtlicious
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as im getting older and older, i find my sex drive is just lowering. im 28. I havent been active in well over 2 years (really, REALLY bad luck and financial situations ). i legit wonder if i could even get it up anymore. I was supposed to meet a friend of mine for a makeout session and i just felt nervous as hell at the thought anymore. luckily she had to cancel plans is this natural? BornAPoorBlkChild fucked around with this message at 05:08 on Nov 23, 2016 |
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I would say if you're having a really lovely time of life currently then yes you're probably not going to want to gently caress a lot. Stress is a pretty major depressant for the sex drive. And if you're worried about it that's going to make it worse too.
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It's not exactly normal/ideal to think you have total erectile dysfunction at the advanced age of 28, no. If you jerk it often, stop doing that when the prospect of a hookup appears on the horizon. If you jerk it rarely or not at all, check in with a doctor.
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I had similar symptoms at that age. Turned out my thyroid up and quit on me. Stress and poor self image can be big depressants on the sex drive, but if you haven't had a physical in the last few years consider going to get a check up.
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Race Realists posted:as im getting older and older, i find my sex drive is just lowering. im 28. I havent been active in well over 2 years (really, REALLY bad luck and financial situations ). i legit wonder if i could even get it up anymore. I was supposed to me a friend of mine for a makeout session and i just felt nervous as hell at the thought anymore. luckily she had to cancel plans Agreeing with others that stress, more than your age, is probably causing your problems. It's a vicious cycle of life stress gives you performance anxiety, which makes it harder to get aroused, which in turn adds extra stress and anxiety, etc, etc. I've gone through your situation a couple times, and the good news is it's always come back for me pretty quickly. Not jerking it for a couple days also helps.
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# ? Nov 23, 2016 01:44 |
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This is general advice for the thread, have sex this weekend. When you're finished, say "looks like Christmas came early." Then share a gingerbread snack.
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Turtlicious posted:This is general advice for the thread, have sex this weekend. I would slap the men I am with if he tried to pull that crap on me. Then again I am stressed out af and have no sense of humor.
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DrNewton posted:I would slap the men I am with if he tried to pull that crap on me. Then again I am stressed out af and have no sense of humor. Sounds like you need a gingerbread cookie.
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Psycho Society posted:Sounds like you need a gingerbread cookie. Here you go.
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# ? Nov 27, 2016 01:19 |
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Here's an update to my situation: we just needed more lube
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# ? Nov 27, 2016 11:03 |
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Azran posted:Here's an update to my situation: we just needed more lube Thread title update, please.
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# ? Nov 27, 2016 13:25 |
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Azran posted:Here's an update to my situation: we just needed more lube I figured it was either that, or butt stuff.
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DrNewton posted:I would slap the men I am with if he tried to pull that crap on me. Then again I am stressed out af and have no sense of humor. Maybe work on that and try not to hit anyone in the meantime?
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