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Gaunab posted:My [23F] boyfriend [26M] of 10 months ditched me on our date Bullet Dodged
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Nov 5, 2016 20:38
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Regardless of anything else I would dump him on the principle that he thought "Oh we told the bartender to tell you" was somehow gonna fly. Like she is supposed to believe he spent the whole night expecting her to show up and never called or texted. Either he's dumber than a rock or he thinks she is.
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Nov 5, 2016 20:49
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Her boyfriend is definitely a massive bellend but I'm loving her use of the phrase 'hard drugs' like he and his buddies are shooting heroin in the toilets. They're probably doing a bit of coke which does qualify as a 'hard drug' but it's still a hilarious phrase to use.
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Nov 5, 2016 21:14
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Tender Bender posted:Regardless of anything else I would dump him on the principle that he thought "Oh we told the bartender to tell you" was somehow gonna fly. Like she is supposed to believe he spent the whole night expecting her to show up and never called or texted. Either he's dumber than a rock or he thinks she is. Why would you tell a bartender to tell someone something when you both have phones? Did I miss that part of the story...
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Nov 5, 2016 21:17
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Bemis posted:Why would you tell a bartender to tell someone something when you both have phones? Did I miss that part of the story... Yea exactly, there's no explanation.
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Nov 5, 2016 21:24
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Adam Vegas posted:Her boyfriend is definitely a massive bellend but I'm loving her use of the phrase 'hard drugs' like he and his buddies are shooting heroin in the toilets. If you have a history of drug use/OD in your family cocaine and amphetamines stop being "fun occasional party drugs" and become very scary. I think calling it a hard drug is fair, especially if they planned to use to the point they were going to be so high it would make their sober buddy uncomfortable. I don't mind people who party but I have a thing about people pretending that cocaine isn't dangerous v  v
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Nov 5, 2016 21:33
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I have a hard time believing a drug user could be insensitive to the feelings of others
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Nov 5, 2016 21:43
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Mocking Bird posted:If you have a history of drug use/OD in your family cocaine and amphetamines stop being "fun occasional party drugs" and become very scary. I think calling it a hard drug is fair, especially if they planned to use to the point they were going to be so high it would make their sober buddy uncomfortable. Exactly. And the fact that her boyfriend and the others obviously conspired to leave her marooned at the bar and the guy was just fine with that is a clear indicator that he doesn't give a poo poo how she feels about it. If someone has that kind of blatant disregard for your feelings then follows up by ditching you, it's loving time to  Fortunately from her edit it seems like that's exactly what she did, and that's a good thing. Fenrir fucked around with this message at 03:24 on Nov 6, 2016 |
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Nov 6, 2016 03:22
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so what are you guys saying here, that people who respect themselves don't use drugs??
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Nov 6, 2016 05:41
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girl's got a good head on her shoulders. lotta people might've bought that bullshitquote:My (25F) boyfriend (28M) of 4 years is a party pooper my boyfriend tolerated three hours of a charity function before he got tired. why is he so loving lame?
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Nov 6, 2016 06:29
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Didn't even give me his charity balls 
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Nov 6, 2016 06:36
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When I'm playing video games in my makeshift cave I demand my partner sit with me at least six hours.
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Nov 6, 2016 06:37
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corn on the cop posted:My (25F) boyfriend (28M) of 4 years is a party pooper "If I wanted to watch people jerk themselves off for hours at a time I have the internet."
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Nov 6, 2016 06:43
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If her logic is just that she wants him to "have more fun" that's a bit weak, but helping a partner (even a reluctant one) build a genuine social network is often an altruistic gesture, coming from a place of trust. Helping a partner develop a strong safety set of friends and other associates is a good way to ensure that if something ever happens to you, that they have other people that they can rely on. Even if "that thing that happens to you" is that you turn out to be a huge rear end in a top hat and they need to dump you! When I was in undergrad, we had a young professor who had just moved into town for the job with his wife and newborn baby. The wife and the baby died in a car crash. The professor, who was clearly an introverted kind of personality and who had just moved from half a country away for the position, completely broke down and then disappeared. Without her, it's hard to think of who he could have really turned to, and he didn't lose her because she didn't love him, he lost her because life is arbitrary and often ends arbitrarily.
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Nov 6, 2016 07:17
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I'm getting more of a "I love parties. My boyfriend does not love parties. How can I change his mind?" vibe, here. She even mentioned he's not an introvert, and that he loves socializing for work, but: he's 28, not 21. It's perfectly reasonable to want to go home at 10pm after three hours at a charity ball your girlfriend dragged you to, and even more reasonable to want to go home after being dragged again to a bar after the ball to keep socializing. poo poo, honestly he sounds like a good sport and they are just not well-matched in this one partying respect.
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Nov 6, 2016 07:31
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Three hours is a long time, I agree, and the guy has done his due diligence being there until 10. But work doesn't really count in terms of building a group of people who you can rely on for personal matters, that's a separate ball game, no matter what Google Gingerbread HQ wants people to believe. "I have cancer" is the kind of problem that's going to require support from outside your professional connections. Or, "My child was murdered." Whatever. Things will happen that shouldn't intersect with professional ties. The main thing is she needs to think about her motivation for getting him out there and trying to network, and he needs to understand those motivations in order to reach a fair compromise point where he's protecting his future well-being, but still getting the time he needs to decompress and be himself. I don't think that this is a situation, I think it's something they could work out with communication as long as both parties took the opportunity to explain their respective points of view.
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Nov 6, 2016 07:41
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That would be far too sensible. Communication is hard, if someone doesn't immediately understand you on every level, just
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Nov 6, 2016 07:50
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If you can't do the whole night don't loving bother in my opinion. 3 hours is a pisspoor effort
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Nov 6, 2016 08:49
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Lysistrata posted:That would be far too sensible. Communication is hard, if someone doesn't immediately understand you on every level, just I think the core difference is that she sees being sociable as a "job" in its own right. He thinks it is superfluous, and it is for "fun" and therefore not a priority, and if he is not having fun the experience is failing in its purpose. The truth is in the middle (  ), which is that a network is necessary for a stable life over the long-term and it does require consistent, dedicated effort. It should also still be enjoyable, or at least mostly enjoyable, because it's unlikely you are forming emotionally rich connections to others if you are always having a bad time in their presence. Attending a wedding, for example, is not a question of "Would I rather be masturbating and eating Twix?", it's "Do I care about this person, and want to be part of their emotional experiences? Do I want them to be part of my emotional experiences over the course of my life?"
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Nov 6, 2016 09:01
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Are we talking normal twix or the big ones?
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Nov 6, 2016 09:04
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Ratjaculation posted:Are we talking normal twix or the big ones? And is it the last one? I mean, if you have a box of them you're not going to be in a rush to get home and have another twix. But if it's the last twix, your only twix. That might be a special moment between you, the fridge and a secret shameful minute at 11:45 when you remember it's there.
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Nov 6, 2016 10:06
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quote:Me [23F] with my SO [24 M] of 5 years who I love but who I've been emotionally abusive towards recently there's a lot going on there quote:My boyfriend (23) frustrates me (f23) when he plays c.o.d for multiple days straight sorry your bf is a baby
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Nov 6, 2016 10:31
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Who takes 4 hours to get ready? 1 hour getting ready, 3 of duck face selfies in the mirror
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Nov 6, 2016 12:45
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My (25F) boyfriend (28M) of 4 years is a party pooper - My guess is contrary to her claims, her boyfriend actually is an introvert and work functions already drain him. She needs to work on making friends without having to have him around. Me [23F] with my SO [24 M] of 5 years who I love but who I've been emotionally abusive towards recently - I've got good news for this lady worried about her behaviour coming back - you don't need to worry about that. He probably already dumped you but is using the "temporary break" because he's too much of a coward to pull the bandaid off all at once. My boyfriend (23) frustrates me (f23) when he plays c.o.d for multiple days straight - I've been reticent about bringing up my interest in gaming to potential partners for a long time because most of them have a story of dealing with someone like this. Gamers: Stop being a lazy rear end, and choose between having a bachelor lifestyle and having another human being in your life that you have to acknowledge sometimes.
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Nov 6, 2016 12:55
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kuddles posted:Gamers: Stop being a lazy rear end, and choose between having a bachelor lifestyle and having another human being in your life that you have to acknowledge sometimes. no
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Nov 6, 2016 15:21
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I hugely encourage gamers to behave in this way actually because anyone who self-identifies as 'a gamer' probably doesn't deserve the warm touch of another human being.
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Nov 6, 2016 16:37
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kuddles posted:My boyfriend (23) frustrates me (f23) when he plays c.o.d for multiple days straight 
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Nov 6, 2016 16:41
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Gaming is rad and being a gamer is a noble calling
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Nov 6, 2016 16:43
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the trick with games, as is the trick with all interests, is to couch it in general terms until you know the person/group better use my one technique and live your life in instant perfection
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Nov 6, 2016 17:12
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While digging around in r/relationships I found a link to this gem in r/legaladvice.quote:[NM] I got a girl pregnant and she wanted to get an abortion but I didn't want that. She ended up not getting one but now she is not involved at all And when he's asked what exactly he's hoping for and why he went through with it after she made it clear she wasn't interested in being a parent- quote:I never thought that she could turn her back on her own child. I honestly thought she would bond during the pregnancy and would eventually change her mind. Even if she turned down my offer to be in a relationship I never thought she would actually abandon him without a thought and without seeing him or even trying to know his name or sex. She was so drugged up during the birth that I don't even think she knows if he was born before or after midnight. I didn't expect it to go like this to be honest. 
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Nov 6, 2016 17:22
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There have been times in my adult life where I've played too many video games. But two days straight, ignoring the needs of your partner? So hosed up.
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Nov 6, 2016 17:29
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quote:Every month she pays 125% of the court ordered child support. Oh yes quite the deadbeat mother, paying more than she was told to by a court. How difficult this must be for him.
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Nov 6, 2016 17:29
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Dunning Krugerrand posted:While digging around in r/relationships I found a link to this gem in r/legaladvice. 
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Nov 6, 2016 17:34
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That almost reads as a pro-choice parable. "What if MEN had to bear the burden of childcare after pressuring their girlfriends out of abortions? Find out tonight...in the Twilight Zone!" If it's real lol goddamn.
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Nov 6, 2016 17:42
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I mean there was nothing compelling her to even gestate the fucker for him in the first place, so I'd say she's been absurdly accomidating.
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Nov 6, 2016 17:45
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Dunning Krugerrand posted:While digging around in r/relationships I found a link to this gem in r/legaladvice. Feel bad for that kid. He's being raised by an idiot.
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Nov 6, 2016 17:55
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Gaunab posted:Feel bad for that kid. He's being raised by an idiot. A narcissistic idiot. In that lengthy post about HIS child his big thesis is about how unfair the situation is to him. Not one word about what's best for his child.
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Nov 6, 2016 18:01
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This is why men should have no say in abortion whatsoever. This dumbfuck assumed that some female, whether the mother of the child(after a miraculous change-of-heart) or somebody from his family would do all the hard work and he could occasional play with the boy and be all 'MY SON'. Kids are a metric assload of work and restrict a person from a ton of activities for a lot of years, and I can't understand how someone could be surprised at that fact.
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Nov 6, 2016 18:03
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Yeah, that one is amazing. But it kind of fits with a lot of the other ones, really. It's not much different from ones like "How do I stop my girlfriend from loving other men after I emotionally hijacked her into doing it over six months because I thought I was getting a side piece?" It's basically the monkey's paw in real life. People seem to resent getting exactly what they ask for because they also had the hubris to believe that everything is like primetime television where you just set certain things in motion and predictable results ensue. "I pressured her to have a kid she had zero interest in, and now she has zero interest in it! She was supposed to fall in love with the kid when she held it in her arms!" Like, I bet that she clearly stated multiple times that if she was forced to keep the baby, it would be entirely his responsibility, and he nodded every loving time. kuddles fucked around with this message at 18:12 on Nov 6, 2016 |
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Nov 6, 2016 18:07
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Please tell me he's getting just poo poo all over in the comments.
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Nov 6, 2016 18:16
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