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A few months ago, I began dating someone. We got physical quickly (which wasn't an objectively bad thing) but ended up only hooking up whenever me met. After about a month, we decided to stop dating because we didn't feel connected. Some stuff happened in between, but we decided to be friends with benefits for the remaining weeks before school ended. Ironically, I felt like we got closer in that time than we were when we were dating.
Over summer, I missed him and realized that I wanted to try dating again. When we came back to school, I asked him if he wanted to try (told him we could try it, didn't have to be exclusive unless we were feeling it). He said he did not want to commit to any commitment now or commit himself to anything in the future.
I was pretty bummed, but also confused. When we hang out, things feel natural, and we always have a really good time. We have our inside jokes and we have awesome conversations about our beliefs and dreams (wow, this sounds so cheesy as I'm typing it out). In the past when we've gone long periods of time without seeing each other or so, he's usually pretty enthusiastic to see me, banters like we usually do, and seems enthusiastic to initiate things again.
I could continue to hook up with him, but I'm not sure that I want to put myself in the position of seeing someone when he won't commit (i.e.: why would I want to spend my time with someone who doesn't already realize my worth? haha) But, I do still miss him when I don't see him and I feel like he does, too, but won't say it.
tl;dr: Dude won't commit, does this mean he's definitely just waiting for someone better and I should stop seeing him asap?

Lockback posted:

(i.e.: why would I want to spend my time with someone who doesn't already realize my worth? haha)

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

what the gently caress does orz mean

Better Fred Than Dead posted:

I haven't seen orz in like a decade lol

quote:

My (23f) boyfriend (23m) of about 8 months has has literally more than 20x the number of sexual partners I've had. He's perfect except for this and I can't stop picturing him with other girls, making comparisons in my head and quizzing him on his past. How do I get past this?

"DJ" is the most perfect guy ever. If I could have sketched my soul mate it would have been him. He's good looking but not a "pretty boy," he's in shape, his family has money but never acts like it, he's incredibly smart and he's a total goof ball who's not afraid to look silly while dancing with me even though he has no rhythm. I fell hard for him upon first seeing him and by all accounts he fell just as hard for me.

I know from past screw ups that I should never discuss my guys past...it hits me too hard. But on one night I couldn't help myself and asked if he'd had sex with more than 2 girls (I've been eith 2 guys). He said yes and I tried to move on. But it kept racing through my head so I woke him up and said more than 10? Yes...more than 20? Yes. 30? Yes. 40? Yes. 50? No. And then so like a total idiot I kept the "game" going until I'd narrowed it to that he thinks (thinks!) it's no more than 45.

I felt sick and tried to sleep but couldn't,the next day I went home and was so mad at him. All I could think of was him with all these women, did he charm them like he did me? Did he dance with them? Were they better than me...all these crazy thoughts. I couldn't leave well enough alone and called him and chewed him out that I was disappointed with his choices. He just said he was sorry and that if he could take it back he would but the past is the past.

I didn't speak to him for 4-5 days then apologized but even in apologizing I quizzed him on if I compare to the best of them, were my boobs the nicest, was I a good kisser...I could tell he was very uncomfortable but he just put up with my crap. Of course it didn't make me feel any better.

I know I'm no the only person to ever experience this...how do I get over this? I'm positive I'm going to screw up a great relationship if I don't knock it off but I dint know how to stop. That sounds so stupid but it's true.

tl;dr: My perfect boyfriend has has sex with 45 women and I just can't get past it. How do I stop obsessing about.

Edit typing on iPads so sorry for all spelling and grammar

Gaunab posted:

I didn't speak to him for 4-5 days then apologized but even in apologizing I quizzed him on if I compare to the best of them, were my boobs the nicest, was I a good kisser..

Gaunab posted:

Lockback posted:

This is better

My [19F] FWB [19M] won't commit

Help Reddit, this guy has made it clear he wants nothing but a no-strings-attached relationship. Why won't be commit to me?

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

what the gently caress does orz mean

WampaLord posted:

45 women and he's only 23. Let's be generous and say he started his gently caress career at 16, that's an average of 6.4 women per year he's banged, or one every couple of months.

drat.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I'm not sure I've ever seen a deeper, more incisive self-own than buying another goon a custom title about their anti-virus opinions, that rules.

WampaLord posted:

I got a red title from telling goons in E/N to try drinking socially, as it seemed to be a common virgoon thing that they all hated drinking, that called me out for "Peer Pressure."

Lockback posted:

This one is sorta funny but also sorta sad. I went into it laughing at the idiot manchild who can't deal with his fetish and ended up really sorry for the woman consigned to her fate.

Me [25F] with my husband [27M] 10 years, recently discovered he has a fetish and I don't know how to handle it.


Eh, at least she's still young.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I'm not sure I've ever seen a deeper, more incisive self-own than buying another goon a custom title about their anti-virus opinions, that rules.

JVNO posted:

Are you guys so seriously insecure that just hearing your partner's number is soul crushing? God forbid your partner had a life before you!

JVNO posted:

Are you guys so seriously insecure that just hearing your partner's number is soul crushing? God forbid your partner had a life before you!

quote:

So my female friend who I'm currently seeing looks fairly young, she's attractive but could probably pass as 16 when dressed down. I'm sexually attracted to her and we have a good sex life, but when it comes to the 'real life' side of things, I just can't help but view her as a child and myself as her guardian. It's a little frustrating because I can't imagine spending my life with her as I'd want to be with someone who I see as my peer/equal.
She's mad about me, and I really like her; she's stayed with me and my family and I'm going up to stay with her. I'm scared about totally breaking her heart, but obviously I can't let that keep me in a relationship.
tl;dr: I see girlfriend as someone young that I want to nurture and see succeed, but not someone I'm interested in spending my life with. Is this an issue, is this liking someone?

quote:

We met on an MMO.
Long story short, our conversations are essentially that of a long term relationship, very romantic/intense. Neither of us are seeing other people, we've been clear about this. But she refuses to meet me irl, even though we are only a few hours plane journey away. Her reasoning is she doesn't think I'll like her irl? She's too scared? That I don't really "know" her? Tf?
A lot of our conversations are sexual, so I thought maybe she was worried about my expectations, but I've even reassured her about that, so idk.
I don't understand because obviously, I'm nervous too, but I like her so much I don't even care, it's a small hurdle to cross compared to how much I want to meet her. Anyone would think with the level of our conversations we would eventually meet.
I know instantly people think "catfish", but we have each other on snapchat and have been snapchatting enough for me to believe she's real. She's beautiful, too, so her insecurity makes no sense to me. I've reassured her so much I don'tknow what else to do.
What other possible reason is there for this?
tl;dr: Online girlfriend thinks I won't like her irl so is too scared to meet. She's not a catfish. What. Is. Going. On?

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submitted 43 minutes ago by theytookmyvcard
this just happend today, i was with two of my female friends, one of them took the bus and the other went to mcdonalds with me, she told me she was gonna wait for some dude to pick her up for a date, we talked for a while and she said this was the actuall date with me and that she lied about the other dude, she told me that she has a crush on me and she likes me and wants to be with me, i told her i don't know what to say and i wasn't expecting this, she then said she was kidding and i was relieved, but she started talking seriously again, telling me she has a huge crush on me, and likes me a lot more than a friend, and she thought that i was gonna reject her that's why she pretended she was joking, and that she actually wants to be my girlfriend and that she's really nervous asking me, she started asking me do you like me?, am i not good enough for you ? , i mustered an okay, you're gonna be my first girlfriend, after a series of countless friendzones and rejections, and that i can't believe that i finally have a girlfriend...turns out she was kidding and calls the dude he comes picks her up in a car and drives off. later i texted her this was fun & that was the crulest thing anyone has ever done to me, she responded lol thanks for today you helped me a lot. i didn't even see her more than a friend, but said gently caress it what do i have to lose, turns out it's yet another rejection
tl;dr:old friend fooled me into thinking they want a relationship, said yes, turns out it's a prank.
what should i do ?

JVNO posted:

Are you guys so seriously insecure that just hearing your partner's number is soul crushing? God forbid your partner had a life before you!

A Moose posted:

Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] trial period, I feel like I care about her more like a daughter than a girlfriend
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dj33o/me_23m_with_my_girlfriend_20f_trial_period_i_feel/


"females"

quote:

I have a class with a guy I like but we don't sit beside each other. We would talk with each other occassionally after class for like two motnhs. During break today he was laughing loudly and smiling with two girls that I know for sure like him. So I got mad at him.
Then he spoke to me in the hallways after class, and we were talking and flirting a little bit. Then this guy who definitely likes me entered our conversation and I started paying attention only to this second guy to make my crush jealous. My crush wasn't saying anything throughout the conversation.
When the second guy left, my crush was acting distant and he seemed a bit angry. When we tried speaking, he was talking but he was clearly upset. He said he had to meet someone and smiled, but I could tell he was just being polite, then just left. I'm really mad at my crush now for just leaving me like that. I was only making him jealous because he made me jealous!
What do I do now?
tl;dr:
Crush makes me jealous
I make him jealous
What do I do? Should I move on?

JVNO posted:

Are you guys so seriously insecure that just hearing your partner's number is soul crushing? God forbid your partner had a life before you!

Coolness Averted posted:

I actually had a friend who was a giant dumbass that had this exchange:

:bigtran:: "So how many people have you slept with?"
: "2, How about you?"
:bigtran: "I don't feel comfortable answering that."

She'd been wild in her twenties and now at thirty was dating a nice Christian boy she wanted to settle down with, and didn't want to disclose her tally somewhere around 20 or so partners.

JVNO posted:

Are you guys so seriously insecure that just hearing your partner's number is soul crushing? God forbid your partner had a life before you!

A Moose posted:

Why is my online girlfriend (24F) too scared to meet me irl? (26M)Relationships
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dizqs/why_is_my_online_girlfriend_24f_too_scared_to/
submitted 40 minutes ago by throwawayyy5894


This has to be a troll. Nobody is that stupid, right?

A Moose posted:

I'm surprised he survived getting owned so hard honestly

Jeza posted:

lmao that is just horrendous.

A Moose posted:

aaaand finally:

Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] Since high school, pranks me into thinking she wants to be my first girlfriend[new]
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dizi7/me_18_m_with_my_friend_18_f_since_high_school/

quote:

later i texted her this was fun & that was the crulest thing anyone has ever done to me, she responded lol thanks for today you helped me a lot. i didn't even see her more than a friend, but said gently caress it what do i have to lose, turns out it's yet another rejection

I'm surprised he survived getting owned so hard honestly

Better Fred Than Dead posted:

I'm confused by this part. He said it was fun to get owned? Then she said she helped a lot so he texted her asking her out and she rejected him again??

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

what the gently caress does orz mean

A Moose posted:

Me [21 F] made my crush jealous [20 M], now he wont speak to meRelationships

submitted 43 minutes ago by stacythrowaway12

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dj1fq/me_21_f_made_my_crush_jealous_20_m_now_he_wont/

A Moose posted:

Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] trial period, I feel like I care about her more like a daughter than a girlfriend
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dj33o/me_23m_with_my_girlfriend_20f_trial_period_i_feel/


"females"

A Moose posted:

aaaand finally:

Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] Since high school, pranks me into thinking she wants to be my first girlfriend[new]
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dizi7/me_18_m_with_my_friend_18_f_since_high_school/


I'm surprised he survived getting owned so hard honestly

Gaunab posted:

Had something similar happen to me when I was around that age. Not as extreme but it still sucks.

A Moose posted:

Me [21 F] made my crush jealous [20 M], now he wont speak to meRelationships

submitted 43 minutes ago by stacythrowaway12

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/5dj1fq/me_21_f_made_my_crush_jealous_20_m_now_he_wont/

A Moose posted:

Me [23M] with my girlfriend [20F] trial period, I feel like I care about her more like a daughter than a girlfriend

[...] she's attractive but could probably pass as 16 when dressed down. I'm sexually attracted to her and we have a good sex life, but when it comes to the 'real life' side of things, [b] I just can't help but view her as a child and myself as her guardian. It's a little frustrating because I can't imagine spending my life with her as I'd want to be with someone who I see as my peer/equal.
She's mad about me, and I really like her; she's stayed with me and my family and I'm going up to stay with her. I'm scared about totally breaking her heart, but obviously I can't let that keep me in a relationship.
tl;dr: I see girlfriend as someone young that I want to nurture and see succeed, but not someone I'm interested in spending my life with. Is this an issue, is this liking someone?

Nuebot posted:

I think it's less worried that your partner "had a life" and more worried that you're the bad sex tiny dick they're settling for after having an awesome life of great sex. No one wants to be that guy.

supernatural blonde posted:

After they break up I bet that guy would have learned the lesson to never tell the truth about the number of previous sexual partners, he was too dumb to realise he should have lied his rear end off. The only acceptable numbers are 0-5. Everyone is insecure and skeeved out by this poo poo.