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A Strange Aeon
Mar 26, 2010

You are now a slimy little toad
The Great Twist

Solice Kirsk posted:

Some of us have trouble finding or staying in a committed relationship, but still like loving people.

He was asking about the people who aren't loving their sleeping partners, just sharing a bed with them for some reason.

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tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

A Strange Aeon posted:

He was asking about the people who aren't loving their sleeping partners, just sharing a bed with them for some reason.

I spend more time sleeping with a either a 3yo or a 2yo these days because their mom is tied up with a newborn and they have gotten very clingy.

That said, it's more of a 'sleeping next to a sack of badgers' problem than a waking up with a boner or feeling gropey kind of thing.

snoo
Jul 5, 2007




clean up after your gross garbage dick you lazy assholes

The Management
Jan 2, 2010

sup, bitch?
Keep your dick clean, me mum always says

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

I got my first smart phone at age 15. I didn't have a lot of friends in highschool, so I spent most of my time on the internet through gaming and forums and poo poo. Became kinda depressed so I took some shirtless photos and posted them. I had a ton of facial hair, so I looked a lot older than 15. The attention I got from my selfies on reddit really made me feel good that I ended up taking more and more.

Eventually I took nude photos of myself and even though I wasn't gay, I really loved the attention these men (and hopefully some women) were giving me. I was very careful to not doxx myself and used a different reddit account and would often change accounts too. Didn't engage with these people. Loved the attention and the compliments on my body and my cock lmao.

I'm 20 now and the only thing that scares me is if these photos resurface and somebody recognizes me. I still have depression episodes and if I wanted to show off I don't show my face anymore. Still afraid of those older pics coming out, but it was fun knowing that a poo poo ton of people wanted to gently caress me. You never know the age of a dick pic, friend.

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I am a pedophile. I also have significant mental illness. These two things combined one day and I touched someone. I was 15 and she was 13. Once I was stable again, I realized what I had done and I cut off all contact and never spoke to her or saw her again. Ever since that day I have felt immense shame and self loathing. The worst thing is I continue to have urges. I stay away from children. I've gotten a vasectomy so there is no chance of me having one or passing on my hosed up genes. I don't look at child pornography. Those urges are buried deep and will never see the light of day.

I don't think there's a pedo gene, and I wouldn't beat yourself up over something you did with someone two years younger than you when you were ALSO under the age of consent, but yes please stay away from children and do not use child pornography, those are great decisions. Still need to :therapy: though

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !

The Management posted:

Keep your dick clean, me mum always says
Yer a slut 'Arry!

yeah I eat ass
Mar 14, 2005

only people who enjoy my posting can replace this avatar
Maybe you really are a pedophile, but to me it sounds like because of your experience which was not pedophilic (is that a word?) in any way has screwed you up into thinking you are one, just like people who drink too much one night and are convinced they are an alcoholic. You need to realize that while it would be incredibly wrong and weird for you to touch a 13 year old now, it's part of growing up when you're both kids and you shouldn't feel ashamed of it at all.

If you really are attracted to kids then yeah keep staying away from them, but your evidence of your pedophilia seems pretty weak and if you come to terms with the fact that what you did wasn't wrong maybe you'll realize the "urges" are some self-fulfilling prophecy to let you continue to beat yourself up about it.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

It's kind of funny to me that one of those two confessions only makes sense if you think of 15 years old as almost a kid age and the other one only makes sense if you think of 15 years old as a full adult

I guess it is kind of a borderline year

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

my non anon confession is I told my 15yo step brother that if he doesn't get a bj by the time he graduates high school he will regret it forever. I'm an awesome big bro

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !

SciFiDownBeat posted:

my non anon confession is I told my 15yo step brother that if he doesn't get a bj by the time he graduates high school he will regret it forever. I'm an awesome big bro

Are you speaking from experience

Hardawn
Mar 15, 2004

Don't look at the sun, but rather what it illuminates
College Slice
Acknowledgement is good, but wallowing isn't healthy. Try help and explore your past with a professional that you trust.

Pedo isn't a gene, but a self perpetuating cycle like most types of abuse

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

Sjs00 posted:

Are you speaking from experience

I thought that was obvious

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

I'm most likely a closeted gay. I have been suppressing these feelings for over 20 years and consider them a mental illness. I will never admit this to anyone in my life and would rather die than discuss with my family and friends.

I think the first signs of the disease happened in high school. I was on the football team and became really good friends with most guys on my team. A few times a month we would hang out in each other's basements and drink beer we stole from our parents. We'd also give each other massages to relax, and sometimes we would relieve each other's stress in other ways. We just thought of it as a friends thing since we were all single guys, but now I realize it was the onset of gay.

I dated a girl in college but we fought constantly and I couldn't have sex with her unless the lights were off. She dumped me after about 2 months when I blew off her birthday to go hang out with my high school friends.

It's almost 10 years later and I have a few more failed relationships under my belt. My parents are starting to ask why I can't keep a woman, I just tell them I'm too old fashioned for modern girls. I also cut out contact with one of my former football friends. He announced he was gay when gay marriage was legalized and posted a message on facebook saying that he finally felt free to say this and hoped to inspire other men to "come out". He then started texting me apologizing for high school but saying that I shouldn't be afraid to pursue things that make me happy. Mentally ill stalker so i cut him out.

I am terrified of these feelings since I know homosexuality is a sin and is a mental disorder, despite all the liberal PC crowd making it out to be a normal thing. I am considering gay conversion therapy but don't know how I could explain the time off to my boss or my family.

Everyday I wake up and wish I could be normal, or that I could take a pill like depressed people do. I used to drink a lot to handle it but had a few bad incidents where I was drunk and didn't act of my own volition, so I stopped that too.

I have a suggestion: instead of gay conversion therapy, consider regular-style therapy. You're never gonna be happy if you double-down on hating yourself. It doesn't work that way.

man I keep saying this but growing up in a red state must be so weird

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I am a pathological liar and have been since I was a kid. My memory was jogged while reading the "Kid who always lied" thread in GBS and I was motivated to finally admit this. Not in there though, just anonymously.

I grew up with a bad homelife, which I know is the root of it. Dad always worked, Mom didn't really love us but would spoil us with gifts to make up for it, and my older brother had some untreated mental issues. Back then we called him eccentric, I guess he'd qualify as autistic today. He would stay in his room all day and just count the lines in the wallpaper, or stack everything in his room. It was weird and he always scared me a bit because he was so much taller than me and he never really talked to me in all of our years growing up. He ended up going to Vo-tech school and is now an A/C repairman.

I told kids my parents were explorers, like Indiana Jones, and that they were in Egypt looking for mummies. I also said that my brother acted weird because he had brain surgery and had 2 different half-brains combined in to one, and they didn't communicate well yet. I also claimed to have every toy, and if another kid had that toy, well I had a better and more rare version.

I caught all 153 Pokemon (the 150 original plus Mew, Pikablu, and the 4th legendary bird - Steelquattro), played Super Mario World 3 in Japanese, and met Hulk Hogan and was an honorary NWO member and even beat up Lex Luger and Sting with them.

This got worse in high school and college. I had a girlfriend I met while on a trip to Lake Erie. She was swimming naked in the pool at night, I was the only person there, and we instantly hit it off and became a couple. But she was a touring model so nobody could meet her. I went home every weekend during college to care for my dying Mom, and I told everyone it was because I professionally played paintball and had tourneys across the world.

I haven't had a girlfriend in quite a while, but I lie to everyone at work and say I do and that I spend my weekends with her. I take the bus to and from work but lie and I say I have a motorcycle. If anyone asks to see it I say it's in the shop and I took the bus that day. The last bus leaves town at 6 pm, so if we do a happy hour I always leave early. I just say "Haha nagging girlfriend, you know how it is guys" or "I have other plans and gotta go". I never have other plans.

I realize it is bad but didn't realize how bad until I wrote this email. I had to delete and retype it more than 20 times because I kept lying in this confession. I am extremely insecure and, even with the blanket of being anonymous, worry what others think about me at all times.

was the dying mom part also a lie, because I thought it was at first due to being presented in the same way as the touring model girlfriend thing (did you steal that from National Lampoon's Vacation?)

also I remember the Pikablu rumors but not Steelquattro, is that one an original?

Stallion Cabana
Feb 14, 2012
1; Get into Grad School

2; Become better at playing Tabletop, both as a player and as a GM/ST/W/E

3; Get rid of this goddamn avatar.
The only reason that first confession doesn't seem reasonable is it's on SA, but even then I wouldn't say it's impossible even then since I know there are some conservatives on the sight.

From the rest of it holy poo poo yes that could easily happen in a Red State let me tell you from experience. You start to believe some crazy poo poo when you're never exposed to viewpoints that aren't the echo chamber of what you heard at school/church/whatever.

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

Steelquattro? You mean Skarmory?

Stallion Cabana
Feb 14, 2012
1; Get into Grad School

2; Become better at playing Tabletop, both as a player and as a GM/ST/W/E

3; Get rid of this goddamn avatar.

SciFiDownBeat posted:

Steelquattro? You mean Skarmory?

well Pikablu was Merril so that seems correct.

Steelquattro is almost an appropriate name for some weird rear end 4th Legendary bird that isn't Ho-Oh or Lugia since it ends in quattro, which is impressive because I was a dumbass kid and had no idea their names worked like that.

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

何 ??

loquacius posted:

A very gay man

My man, God's got more important poo poo to deal with than where you stick your bepis. Your family might not get it but you gotta be true to yourself my dude. You aint mentally ill, you aint messed up, no God would make you a certain way then expect you to be different from how they made you, that's stupid fuckin' horse poo poo.

Actually tell you what. When you pray tonight, you pray to God to come to Danaru's house and I'll give him a solid gold rear end whoopin' because that's some god drat bullshit. You're you, nothing will change that. I believe in you, and so do plenty of people. If God wants to send you to hell for being you, I'll gently caress him up personally. Count on it. Get out there and catch some dick, we're all cheering you on.

You might think "wehh liberals" but you remember we're all here wanting you to live the way you are. You can't change you.

Putty
Mar 21, 2013

HOOKED ON THE BROTHERS

Danaru posted:

My man, God's got more important poo poo to deal with than where you stick your bepis. Your family might not get it but you gotta be true to yourself my dude. You aint mentally ill, you aint messed up, no God would make you a certain way then expect you to be different from how they made you, that's stupid fuckin' horse poo poo.

Actually tell you what. When you pray tonight, you pray to God to come to Danaru's house and I'll give him a solid gold rear end whoopin' because that's some god drat bullshit. You're you, nothing will change that. I believe in you, and so do plenty of people. If God wants to send you to hell for being you, I'll gently caress him up personally. Count on it. Get out there and catch some dick, we're all cheering you on.

You might think "wehh liberals" but you remember we're all here wanting you to live the way you are. You can't change you.

it's not actually possible to penetrate a religious barrier dude it's stronger than adamantium

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

何 ??

Putty posted:

it's not actually possible to penetrate a religious barrier dude it's stronger than adamantium

I had a feeling, but I still wanted to try :saddowns: no one deserves to hate themselves for that

porkswordonboard
Aug 27, 2007
You should get that looked at

Just sayin', for poor closeted gay dude, my gf grew up in PA in an ultra religious family. I'm talking church multiple times a week for hours at a time, all family and friends in said church (Baptist, and very hellfire-and-brimstone), etc. She never had to come out as much as it became pretty obvious as she got older, but nowadays her family is out of that sick, sad, hateful church and accepts her BECAUSE they realized their daughter was gay and they couldn't agree to punish her for something that she can't control: a simple predilection for someone whose genitals happen to be the same. This lead the realization that if love between two sane, adult, caring people is said to be wrong, there might be a lot of things they've been told that is equally bullshit, hateful, and damaging.

Look up some of the other things the Bible says you should and shouldn't do, and see if you fit that extremely narrow mold. If there's one thing-and I mean even one thing-that you do that doesn't fit that mold, and you tell yourself it doesn't matter/isn't that important, why can't the allowance to love be one of them? If you eat shellfish or have a tattoo or wear polyester it's literally on the same hellbound level as touching another dude's dick. So you can either burn most of your clothes or you could be happy, your pick.

If my gf's parents can make such a monumental change, I'm sure you can find a way to understand why: they love her. Try to love yourself a little here. Be a little flexible. Talk to people who grew up in a similar environment as you did, and are gay, and how that has affected them. It might not be easy, and I think that's really what's scaring you: the conversations you'll have to have. Well, get over it, dude. It's a big hurtle to jump, and you might get a few bruises, but it's worth it.

Give yourself a chance to be happy.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

My wife is awful at sex. So bad that I've started dreading having sex with her. Whenever we do it she basically just wants me to do all the work while she just lays there. I've tried asking her to be on top of me (which elicits an "I don't want to do that right now"), watching porn together, smoking weed, and other stuff in the hopes that it will get her a little more active in bed, but all I get is her laying on her back while I give her a couple orgasms. I've talked to her about it repeatedly but she never keeps up on it so a few days later we'all be back to the same thing. She's got it in her head now that she wants a threesome with another girl, which I'm hoping will show her how to actually *have sex*, but I'm worried that we'll end up with another girl who just expects me to do everything. My arms and fingers just aren't that strong!

quote:

I once jerked off in a kmart bathroom to the cover of an EGM magazine.

My head says Tomb Raider, but my heart says Goro from Mortal Kombat in his banana hammock

Buttcoin purse
Apr 24, 2014

loquacius posted:

I am a pedophile. I also have significant mental illness. These two things combined one day and I touched someone. I was 15 and she was 13.

Maybe you say you're a pedophile due to other things you've done or felt too, but I don't think what you said you did makes you a pedophile. When you're 15 you're still a dumb kid, especially if you're a guy. That's why there are laws to prevent adults from having sexual relations with minors, because you're not able to make those decisions very well yourself when you're a minor.

I'm middle-aged and still beat myself up about stupid things I said and did as a kid, though, and I just have to remind myself that all my peers were doing stupid things too.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

I do really like the idea that that anon's wife is so bad at sex she is actually outsourcing it to someone else

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

.

loquacius posted:

I do really like the idea that that anon's wife is so bad at sex she is actually outsourcing it to someone else

Maybe she's gay and wanting the threesome is her way of getting what she wants.

The Management
Jan 2, 2010

sup, bitch?

loquacius posted:

My head says Tomb Raider, but my heart says Goro from Mortal Kombat in his banana hammock

My money's on Chun li or doa volleyball

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

porkswordonboard posted:

Just sayin', for poor closeted gay dude, my gf grew up in PA in an ultra religious family. I'm talking church multiple times a week for hours at a time, all family and friends in said church (Baptist, and very hellfire-and-brimstone), etc. She never had to come out as much as it became pretty obvious as she got older, but nowadays her family is out of that sick, sad, hateful church and accepts her BECAUSE they realized their daughter was gay and they couldn't agree to punish her for something that she can't control: a simple predilection for someone whose genitals happen to be the same. This lead the realization that if love between two sane, adult, caring people is said to be wrong, there might be a lot of things they've been told that is equally bullshit, hateful, and damaging.

Look up some of the other things the Bible says you should and shouldn't do, and see if you fit that extremely narrow mold. If there's one thing-and I mean even one thing-that you do that doesn't fit that mold, and you tell yourself it doesn't matter/isn't that important, why can't the allowance to love be one of them? If you eat shellfish or have a tattoo or wear polyester it's literally on the same hellbound level as touching another dude's dick. So you can either burn most of your clothes or you could be happy, your pick.

If my gf's parents can make such a monumental change, I'm sure you can find a way to understand why: they love her. Try to love yourself a little here. Be a little flexible. Talk to people who grew up in a similar environment as you did, and are gay, and how that has affected them. It might not be easy, and I think that's really what's scaring you: the conversations you'll have to have. Well, get over it, dude. It's a big hurtle to jump, and you might get a few bruises, but it's worth it.

Give yourself a chance to be happy.

Counterpoint: closeted gay dude is a piece of poo poo not because he is a closeted gay dude but because he obviously has access to the internet and still has medieval views of homosexuality.

SniperWoreConverse
Mar 20, 2010



Gun Saliva
I got a feeling medievals didn't give so much of a gently caress. Iirc at the time "getting married" was mostly for riches because they had to ensure inheritance rights. On the other hand I'm a hosed up retard. This was a time where "each to there own religion" was a viewpoint ascribed to uneducated rustics and deviant heretics.

SniperWoreConverse
Mar 20, 2010



Gun Saliva
Backtrack further and the consensus was "dude likes to gently caress guys, p manly of him"

Improbable Lobster
Jan 6, 2012

What is the Matrix 🌐? We just don't know 😎.


Buglord

SniperWoreConverse posted:

Backtrack further and the consensus was "dude likes to gently caress guys, p manly of him"

Rome, Renaissance Italy, Pirates, all of them were incredibly gay

A Very Sexy Baby
Sep 25, 2007

I can't help it if men are attracted to me.
Lying's a sin too, and lying to women by pretending you're into their bits is pretty awful even if you don't believe in sin. Take a step outside your own head and think about that.

That's like one of the main reasons I came out, and in the aftermath my best female friend from high school revealed she had been in love with me for a long time and was going insane trying to figure out why I wasn't that into her. Wrapping myself in the Bible (I was vice president of Christ On Campus!) didn't cut it for her; she assumed it was just she was a disgusting unlovable person and I was toying her along.

If I really weren't a Kinsey 6, if I were even just a little bit bi and just needed some Holy Spirit nudging to correct my errant ways, it would have been her. She was super cute and we connected on so many different wavelengths that only a biological happenstance explains why I'm not married to her now. I dealt with it, I'm happily out and faggy with a hot boyfriend and cats, and she married a guy who's a lot like me except he legit likes her puss, and they have an adorable multiracial kid now.

You say conversion therapy is untenable only because of having to explain an extended leave to your boss. You're lying about that too.

Khazar-khum
Oct 22, 2008

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
2nd Battalion

SniperWoreConverse posted:

I got a feeling medievals didn't give so much of a gently caress. Iirc at the time "getting married" was mostly for riches because they had to ensure inheritance rights. On the other hand I'm a hosed up retard. This was a time where "each to there own religion" was a viewpoint ascribed to uneducated rustics and deviant heretics.

They most assuredly did get married no matter the class. However, virtually all noble were arranged. But love matches between people did happen, so their families found ways to make them work. And of course people eloped.

Bean
Sep 9, 2001
I'm not sure if I want my username to be "Steelquattro" or "The Onset of Gay" now.

Gloryhold It!
Sep 22, 2008

Fucking
Adorable
I'll be using The Onset of Gay for my discord name for a little while at least

kalel
Jun 19, 2012

A Kinsey 6 is a winner too imo

Warm und Fuzzy
Jun 20, 2006

Bean posted:

I'm not sure if I want my username to be "Steelquattro" or "The Onset of Gay" now.

"Christ on Campus" would make a good username, or all around expletive.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

When I was really young, I would take a poo poo in my hands and put my poop into my Play-Doh dispensers. I'd shape my feces into various forms, like a crescent moon or a star.

quote:

During my formative years I played a lot of Kid Icarus. Watching Kid Icarus getting turned into an helpless eggplant and making him squeak as he gets smashed up has given me a hardcore bondage fetish. Thanks Nintendo!

JnnyThndrs
May 29, 2001

HERE ARE THE FUCKING TOWELS

loquacius posted:

When I was really young, I would take a poo poo in my hands and put my poop into my Play-Doh dispensers. I'd shape my feces into various forms, like a crescent moon or a star.


I wish I'd have thought of this.

subhuman filth
Nov 1, 2006

loquacius posted:

When I was really young, I would take a poo poo in my hands and put my poop into my Play-Doh dispensers. I'd shape my feces into various forms, like a crescent moon or a star. 

*In neo voice* whoah

Putty
Mar 21, 2013

HOOKED ON THE BROTHERS
nothing kills a boner like the new Kid Icarus from smash bros, fetish or no

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Warm und Fuzzy
Jun 20, 2006

loquacius posted:


When I was really young, I would take a poo poo in my hands and put my poop into my Play-Doh dispensers. I'd shape my feces into various forms, like a crescent moon or a star.


Christ on Campus!

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