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Syncopated posted:I [22f] am wondering if my boyfriend [26m] is trying to hint that he doesn't want handmade clothes from me anymore.
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My secretary is draconian like that, if we leave the office for a meeting she wants it in our calendars with where, the exact address and the travel time. She times us when we leave anywhere. It's as exactly as I comfortable as you could probably imagine
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Dec 6, 2016 20:57
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Our boss only goes as far as making us send an email to our group when we leave the office to go to a site, but she filters those emails on her own machine so half of us just don't and she is none the wiser.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:01
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Chomp8645 posted:*Fraud Analyst races down hallway with broken computer tucked under arm and barges into IT room.* - 45 seconds elapsed. I enjoyed this.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:05
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Chomp8645 posted:If someone gets promoted to manager and their first official act is to crack down on BREAK CULTURE that person is a major rear end in a top hat. Ditto for implementing a name and shame policy on anyone whose dying ember of humanity compels them to attempt escape from the existential hell of a non-stop intellectual assembly line. I've worked as a fraud analyst in the past and can understand that it can be time sensitive as gently caress and a constant stream of people going to or from the smoking area/break room looks bad and unorganised. On the other hand, non-stop intellectual assembly line is a very apt description for that job and the people doing it need time to unwind. I'll go with the manager not being familiar with the specifics/demands of the job.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:19
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Comment from the OPquote:At the moment, I can't report to another manager or switch departments. There are supposed to be 2 managers in our department. Six months ago one was fired and the other quit (same situation, same day.) They finally got around to promoting my wife for manager a while ago, but they haven't hired another manager for our dept yet. They won't let him transfer from the department in which they promoted his wife to be his manager. They are making him work for his wife with no recourse except to quit. Maybe I'm spoiled, but this place sounds like a nightmare. e: Also calling their employees "Human Capital" is worse than "Human Resources," which is kind of impressive.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:26
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But he also says he's the most senior employee in the fraud department and everyone looks up to him and respects him ... but not enough to get the manager position himself?
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Dec 6, 2016 21:29
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He opted not to apply. I don't blame him. If I had a choice to be promoted to managing my team, I'd pass. This does make me wonder what the heck his wife was thinking when she applied though. DId they talk about this beforehand at all? This story is starting to drive me nuts. He left out so many details.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:32
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Jeff Sichoe posted:But he also says he's the most senior employee in the fraud department and everyone looks up to him and respects him As was pointed out to me, he doesn't want the manager position, which is understandable. e;fb
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Dec 6, 2016 21:33
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Pvt.Scott posted:I started smoking while working fast food because of the extra little breaks you could squeeze out. Now I'm trying desperately to quit ten years later. Oops. same but i was smoking weed and im not trying to quit
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Dec 6, 2016 21:34
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Jeff Sichoe posted:But he also says he's the most senior employee in the fraud department and everyone looks up to him and respects him edit: lol yeah this story is fascinating in it's mundanity, it would be worth talking about even without the new manager being his wife. I hope he updates.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:34
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Sorry guys I failed in my basic duty to READ THE drat THREAD He should undermine her authority at work and submit to pegging at home and see how that works out
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Dec 6, 2016 21:35
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Literally every detail available on that workplace makes it sound unprofessional, horribly mismanaged and ripe for lawsuits. Even if she were the best boss in the world (she's not), how could you ever expect fair treatment if she is married to one of your teammates?
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Dec 6, 2016 21:38
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I want to know more about what their home life is like. The title of the thread says they're having issues, but the only issues he described is that he doesn't like her rules. If you took out the stuff about her being his wife, this would be identical to any complaint about any lovely boss. Is this guy even human? How do you even end up working for your own goddamn wife, who is apparently smoke break mussolini, and all you can say is "respect is earned!"
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Dec 6, 2016 21:40
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I work at a place where people not only have spouses that are their supervisors, but they cheat on said supervisor (often with other supervisors). If the supervisor makes any remotely passive aggressive behavior toward their (now ex) spouse the underling goes running to the union to file a grievance for workplace harassment. It's a lot of drama. Don't eat where you poo poo, people.
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Dec 6, 2016 21:57
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Honestly... both the guy and his wife come off like assholes? It doesn't seem like it's his fault she got put in his department (and then promoted once within it - some early on responses say she should have never been promoted but to be honest I don't think it'd be fair to hold her back if she had the qualifiers/merits to be promoted in that position just because he also happened to be there - it's just she should probably not have been put there in the first place) and at least he tried to get her the job. And her new policies seem pretty draconian/bad, which is a point against her. But would it kill him to support her in the office and then, I dunno, just loving have a chat with her outside of work about these policies? If she doesn't give a poo poo or bucks against it because she's the boss then, welp, but if he hasn't even tried bringing this poo poo up and is just undermining his wife at work then 
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100 degrees Calcium posted:Maybe I'm spoiled, but this place sounds like a nightmare. the guy did say he worked for a major bank so it's probably the worst sort of corporate dystopia imaginable
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Dec 6, 2016 22:02
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I[27 M] asked my girlfriend of 4 months [24 F] to leave last night. Was I wrong to do so?quote:My girlfriend and I were having sex last night and she wouldnt take her eyes off the tv (my fault for leaving it on I guess) which made me feel very unwanted so I stopped. When I broached the subject she laughed and rolled her eyes. I felt hurt and told her as much she would either laugh or ignore me. This is when I asked her to leave. The thing is I was much more upset at her being dismissive than ignoring me during sex. This is how she always handles my emotions, by being dismissive and distant. She left in an angry manner and we've had no contact since. Was I wrong to ask her to leave? Update: quote:Could it be a cultural thing? She's Latina and I'm white as snow. We're extremely compatible in all other aspects and I find myself falling for her. I just wish should would communicate with me more.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:05
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Syncopated posted:I[27 M] asked my girlfriend of 4 months [24 F] to leave last night. Was I wrong to do so? This dude must be really bad at sex.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:07
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yeah either that or he was keen as and she wasn't so keen so rather than shooting him down she propped up one leg and cranked oprah while the deed was being done not a bad deal really
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Dec 6, 2016 22:11
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I dunno, man, maybe the Westworld finale was on.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:12
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100 degrees Calcium posted:I dunno, man, maybe the Westworld finale was on. He's a drat fool he should have been paying attention to the finale while loving her.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:27
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WampaLord posted:This dude must be really bad at sex. Further down he says that she's never had an orgasm with a partner and that if he's not done after 10-15 minutes of sex she makes him stop because of soreness so idk maybe he's bad.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:34
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He said he's the one who left the TV on by accident, so it's not like she planned it all out "let's make sure I've got some real entertainment going while this untalented little slug pumps away at me". But then the way he brought it up to her made him seem insecure and clingy, then telling her she had to leave? gently caress you man, you're the one who left the TV on in the first place and is also a lovely lay. That's pretty much beyond a doubt as if a person is being hosed correctly they won't even realize the TV is on much less be peaking at it over your shoulder. The correct thing to do would've been (obviously), to go over and turn the TV off, pick the girl up (if possible although I everyone keeps saying to imagine the people in these stories as obese, always. in that case lead her by the hand) and take her into another room, and then really give it all you've got. If you notice her studying the texture of the ceiling or staring out the window with a glazed look in her eyes, then it's not the TV that's the problem it's you  From what I have heard from the source, being exactly "average" at sex means that you are probably pretty bad. Most girls are not satisfied by the majority of their sexual encounters, according to my nonscientific polling.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:35
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Syncopated posted:Further down he says that she's never had an orgasm with a partner and that if he's not done after 10-15 minutes of sex she makes him stop because of soreness so idk maybe he's bad. He needs to go down on her and they need to start using lube.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:36
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Syncopated posted:Further down he says that she's never had an orgasm with a partner and that if he's not done after 10-15 minutes of sex she makes him stop because of soreness so idk maybe he's bad.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:47
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Well anyway, it's pretty clear that whether it's his fault or not, she doesn't like sex with him and it's not a "sometimes" thing. Kicking her out in grief this time doesn't really make sense.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:48
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Bonster posted:Yokai Watch just kicks you back to the start of the boss battle. She wouldn't lose anything. When I was a kid I got mad at laura craft tomb raider took it out of the playstation and whipped it at a wall. Then cried cuz I broke my game. Not sure how that applies to this story. Just want people to know.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:51
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WampaLord posted:He needs to go down on her and they need to start using lube. She's only let him go south of the border twice and doesn't like it. They use lube. He seems aware that she's not really enjoying sex with him and is trying to change that but she doesn't seem to be making the same effort for herself. e: the solution to his problems is to put on masters of sex while they're loving.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:53
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Bonzo posted:I suspect most of the stuff in /r/chilldfree is more like thathappened.txt loving laffo
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Dec 6, 2016 22:54
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I mean, he also says quote:The thing is I was much more upset at her being dismissive than ignoring me during sex. This is how she always handles my emotions, by being dismissive and distant. Which is a pretty fair reason to be upset
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Dec 6, 2016 22:54
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just flick her bean for 10 mins and get the loving job done you cretin
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Dec 6, 2016 22:55
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How difficult can sex be anyway? There's like over 7 billion assholes on this planet and they all had to come from somewhere!
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Dec 6, 2016 22:58
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Danaru posted:I mean, he also says Yeah the dude's not in the wrong at all if this is a regular thing. They should split and find other people that can get them off properly.
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Dec 6, 2016 22:59
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Syncopated posted:She's only let him go south of the border twice and doesn't like it. They use lube. He seems aware that she's not really enjoying sex with him and is trying to change that but she doesn't seem to be making the same effort for herself. She needs to masturbate more and figure out what she likes. Or get a Hitachi and just ditch him.
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Dec 6, 2016 23:00
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I had a long-term girlfriend who had never in her life had an orgasm, and over the course of two years I never managed to give her one. Believe me, I tried everything, and with any other girl I have never had any problems whatsoever. It's really unfortunate, but some girls' vaginas simply aren't built to facilitate orgasms and will never have one in any situation. Some girls go off like a slot machine in about two seconds flat. There's much more variation than between guys, because for the sake of evolution it's not absolutely necessary for the woman to have an orgasm. Luckily, the girl I was referring to still really loved to have sex and initiated constantly. After a while I stopped feeling inadequate because it wasn't productive. I'm very sensitive to rejection or feelings of inadequacy though (as I imagine a lot of people are). If it doesn't seem like a girl is having a very good time it makes me feel awful. I know some guys are more than happy to pump away until sated then pass out on top of their partners but I can't enjoy things unless I'm absolutely positive that we both are. It actually sounds like maybe this girl just isn't all that interested in sex, isn't all that attracted to him, or is in fact a lesbian.
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Dec 6, 2016 23:05
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Yah they're screwed
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Dec 6, 2016 23:07
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This is why you do doggy while facing the TV fuckin' amateurs.
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Dec 6, 2016 23:09
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Play posted:I had a long-term girlfriend who had never in her life had an orgasm, and over the course of two years I never managed to give her one.
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Sometimes you're the only one who can do it and sex doesn't provide the right type of stimulation, and/or you can't get in the zone mentally if you're distracted by a partner
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