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H110Hawk
Dec 28, 2006

Powerlurker posted:

I remember getting a prescription at the pharmacy where they put a little note on your slip that says something like "Your insurance saved you $675 on this prescription!" but when you take a look at the actual EOB, the insurance company chipped in a grand total of three dollars on top of your $10 copay.

I've had that where insurance chipped in $0.

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KingSlime
Mar 20, 2007
Wake up with the Kin-OH GOD WHAT IS THAT?!

Subjunctive posted:

Yeah, but I assure you that if you don't have insurance that's the amount they'll ring up on the cash. You save a lot by having insurance even if the insurance company isn't paying out of pocket for all of the difference.

Now I'm no healthcare professional but that sounds extremely evil.

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

KingSlime posted:

Now I'm no healthcare professional but that sounds extremely evil.

I wasn't a fan when I fell off insurance while needing this little gem every month:

Fuzzy Mammal
Aug 15, 2001

Lipstick Apathy
Wow those are some expensive magnets

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender

KingSlime posted:

Now I'm no healthcare professional but that sounds extremely evil.
The thing is that insurance companies strongarm negotiate prices with healthcare providers, so how much something "costs" will depend on how that negotiation worked out with each insurer and each provider. It's also why basically nobody can tell you the exact price of a procedure before you get it.


Content: Gambling addictions are obviously BWM. Basing your future on the assumption you'll get a company from a person with a gambling addiction is BWM and BWL.

(tl;dr bolding mine)

quote:

Before we get into this, I wanted to point out some facts to save myself time (since I'm at work):

- We have a family business that makes 350k a year.
- My father is the sole person in charge for all of it.
- I manage the business and create all the growth and do the behind the scenes work.
- I'm 22 years old and I started working for my father when I was 18. I own zero stake in the company.
- I get paid $670 every two weeks for my work by my father.
- Me, my sister, my grandma, and my mother all live in the same house as him.
- My mom makes an additional 40k after tax a year from her own company (gutter cleaning company) but gives it to him since he pays all the bills.
- We are also caretakers for my grandma and makes about 30k a year from that as well.
- We live WELL within our means. 200k mortgage (15 years in), house is worth 400k now, maybe 10k in debt in other things. 2 car loans (but they are leases). My father took out a line of credit for the extra equity on the home.. that's about 200k he has to "play" with which is loving scary to think about.
- It's a financial problem because our debt to income ratio is completely hosed (I just know it, I've seen some of the statement my mother took earlier and opened it before he saw it).

EDIT: One other thing is; I DID start my own company (licensed and insured of course) to prevent anything bad happening over 5 months ago after learning of my Dad's habits, and I've been just throwing my mother all the jobs I've been getting and she's extremely happy about it and has no idea it's me working from the shadows. Only positive part of this post anyway. I took her house cleaning/gutter company, re-branded it, made a super nice website with online presence and hope that if anything were to happen, I could use that and maybe with hard work get it big enough to be able to secure my family if my father wont. Currently working on SEO's and Adwords campaigns learning the ins and outs so I'm not ALL the way out... but I currently make 0 dollars from the company.

Yesterday, after many scares/worries my mother caught him gambling at a Casino. God knows how much he has spent over the last 6-7 years. He goes out every single weekend to hang with "friends" but we think it's just him gambling. This is NOT the first time we caught him. I personally caught him when we went to Vegas to "scout out new locations for our business". What actually happened? He left at 5pm and didn't come back til 8am the next morning from gambling. According to my mom, we have 0 savings. We have a few thousand here and there for bills/employees but that's it.

My mother knew my father was always a gambler, and while she ignored the reality of it for a few years now.. She's sold on the fact that he's been doing it all along hence why we never had any savings.

I'm in a huge dilemma. I live fine as it is. I make more than minimum wage. My father has promised me the company when I am 25 years old. I don't feel the financial stress my father brings by gambling but it's tearing my family apart.

We have earned over 2 million in the last 6 years. We have 0 savings. My father is a gambling addict who owns everything in this family. Probably gambles away 15-20k a month or whatevers left after bills. I don't know what to do. He is stubborn and said to all of us "I'm the one that built this so I'm going to do whatever I want, who are you to judge since you guys all live fine don't you?"

I'm at work right now, and the thought of all of this work going to waste just has me so loving mad I can't even put it into words. I spend so much time and effort into growing the company I just dont know what to do.

Do I hold out for dear life and continue through this and work my rear end off as I always have been learning the tools of the trade while living rent-free/debt free.. or do I move out, start paying rent.. leave it in the hands of my father 100% who honestly doesn't run it anywhere near as good as I do.. Hate to admit it. and struggle financially for god knows how long. I have very little savings. No credit card. No credit.

tldr; My dad who is the head of everything in the family and has his name on all of our belongings, wastes all his money gambling it away instead of spreading the wealth/buying a new house/making more money = investing. I was promised the business when I was younger and love the idea since I'm know it 100% in and out and could manage it by myself with ease (just giving my dad 20% of net each month for his things when it's all said and done). Now I'm more worried about my whole FAMILY. We all will suffer if poo poo hits the fan.. what the hell do we do? My mom is crying to me on the phone now and I don't know what to tell her. Is there a way out? My mother is also co-signed for almost everything and if this all comes crumbling down.. She'll end up on the streets along with my sister, me and my grandma.

EDIT: I appreciate the help so far and I know it seems like a "relationships" kind of post.

But what do I do? I am in the will for the company at 25. I don't have ANY credit. After reading all the stuff about gambling and co-signing, I'm scared to even try to get a co-sign with my father for anything. I make enough for me, but not enough to live alone at the moment. I'm concerned for the family of course, but don't know which road I should go down financially. Do I cut ties and potentially lose a thriving business (which was asked.. has about 10 percent GROWTH every year) and start from 0.. or hold out and hope he doesn't sink "the whole ship" as someone here said. Can my mother do anything with a lawyer to stop the spending?

GoGoGadgetChris
Mar 18, 2010

i powder a
granite monument
in a soundless flash

showering the grass
with molten drops of
its gold inlay

sending smoking
chips of stone
skipping into the fog
That's an incredibly sad post. And a good reminder to not rely on anticipated inheritance or whatever from your parents.

Tiny Deer
Jan 16, 2012

Oh man, that company and son are hosed. Dad is going to embezzle everything when he's 24 and 364 days old and bet it all on the ponies, drat.

Run, little business son! Run for your financial life! Don't ever sign anything!

BonerGhost
Mar 9, 2007

So the family business builds houses, right? And they all live together rent-free in one of the model homes?

VitalSigns
Sep 3, 2011

Devian666 posted:

What gets me is not having a bunch of cards but that they're all maxed out and as Ashcans said above just apply for another. Surely whichever financial institution looking at the utilization must see there's a big risk.

Incentives in the banking industry are all hosed up to the point that thousands of Wells Fargo employees were opening fraudulent credit cards in customers' names to hit their quarterly targets.

Deutschebank has a $47T derivatives portfolio insuring other peoples' debt, but don't worry a lot of that is insured by other banks, so it's 100% safe. It's not like a chain reaction could occur where a few bankruptcies prompt margin calls from everyone which touches off a liquidity crisis has everyone scrambles to collect cash from everyone else and those who fail immediately blow up and compound the crisis for everyone else.

But we're showing nice paper profits this quarter so bonuses all around.

Yeah I no longer question how uncreditworthy people are allowed to rack up so much debt. The people approving bad loans aren't the people who will be holding the bag when it all goes to hell so why not.

Krispy Wafer
Jul 26, 2002

I shouted out "Free the exposed 67"
But they stood on my hair and told me I was fat

Grimey Drawer

KingSlime posted:

Now I'm no healthcare professional but that sounds extremely evil.

Here's a little secret, if you work for a large company (think Fortune 500 size), the insurer doesn't pay for any of your healthcare. Most plans with more than 1000 members are self-funded, which means the employer pays out 100% of your medical expenses (minus deductibles and premiums, which they pocket all of). The insurance company is just there to negotiate the cheapest rates and do all the paperwork. And also be the bad guy proxy when the employer decides to lower benefits and increase employee costs.

Zero One
Dec 30, 2004

HAIL TO THE VICTORS!
GWM : My employer offers a discount on the gym next door.
BWM : It's still $75/month after discount.
GWM : My company will also reimburse "wellness" expenses.
BWM : Max $200/ year
GWM : Planet Fitness is just a little further down the street and only $10/ month

DJCobol
May 16, 2003

CALL OF DUTY! :rock:
Grimey Drawer

Zero One posted:

GWM : My employer offers a discount on the gym next door.
BWM : It's still $75/month after discount.
GWM : My company will also reimburse "wellness" expenses.
BWM : Max $200/ year
GWM : Planet Fitness is just a little further down the street and only $10/ month

BWL: going to a "gym" that has pizza and donut days. I was asked to leave a PF after doing deadlifts. Not grunting, not dropping the weights, just setting them down normally.

Nail Rat
Dec 29, 2000

You maniacs! You blew it up! God damn you! God damn you all to hell!!

DJCobol posted:

BWL: going to a "gym" that has pizza and donut days. I was asked to leave a PF after doing deadlifts. Not grunting, not dropping the weights, just setting them down normally.

quote:

"We're going after the first-time exercises or casual user," CEO Chris Rondeau told Business Insider in a phone interview. "Gym intimidation is real."

Barry
Aug 1, 2003

Hardened Criminal
Equal parts sad and BWM:

https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/5gxi79/huge_debt_acquired_by_attending_for_profit/

quote:

I have attended the art institutes for fashion design and acquired a huge amount of debt. I first attended right out of highschool in 2005. Met with school administration and they figured with the help of mothers finances we could afford the tuition with the help of student aid and federal /private loans. I realize now how big of a mistake that was. First off my mother is self employed so her income varies month to month. Some months its nothing. Fresh out of highschool I was naive and never asked twice if she could afford it. I also assumed since the school figured out the numbers they had our best interest in place and wouldn't enroll me if we couldn't afford it. Yeah I know stupid. Now I'm in the worst financial place possible and so is my mother. Secondly I never finished my degree. I completed three years before I finally have up with that school. (Overcrowded classrooms with not even the supplies to work properly ) The facilities were less than sub par, the technology they had us learning on was outdated and not even to industry standards and the teachers were not even in the field the were assigned to teach. Some teachers even were previous graduates that had never even been in the industry out of school. After 4 years I racked up over 50,000 in my name with loans and my mother has 96,000 in hers. The art institutes have recently come in the news for their enrollment tactics with families like mine and for the outrageous cost of the education given. With that said I now have bill collectors calling not only me, but friends, neighbors, anyone around that will answer. I've told them repeatedly I don't have their money nor do I think I could ever pay it back due to being without a degree to even get a better job than minimum wage. It's paycheck to paycheck in my home. I've recently read about borrowers defense and those using it to get loans forgiven. Has anyone heard of this or am I royally screwed? At this point I feel hopeless and like I've screwed over my mother as well. Not a great feeling to have

$150k in debt between herself and her mother to not get a degree in fashion design from the Art Institute.

Ashcans
Jan 2, 2006

Let's do the space-time warp again!

On the plus side, pretty sure that hassling your friends and neighbors is a violation, so maybe they can document all that and take it to a lawyer to get some punitive damages on them. I mean, it won't compare remotely to her debt, but it might be satisfying!

Krispy Wafer
Jul 26, 2002

I shouted out "Free the exposed 67"
But they stood on my hair and told me I was fat

Grimey Drawer

Ashcans posted:

On the plus side, pretty sure that hassling your friends and neighbors is a violation, so maybe they can document all that and take it to a lawyer to get some punitive damages on them. I mean, it won't compare remotely to her debt, but it might be satisfying!

I think that depends on who is doing the calling. If it's the bank that originally gave the loan they have a lot more leeway in their collection methods.

That changes once they sell the debt. He says "bill collectors", but that could still be the original lender.

Nail Rat
Dec 29, 2000

You maniacs! You blew it up! God damn you! God damn you all to hell!!
If the bank's smart, they're definitely not still holding the student loans for an art school dropout from a decade ago whose mother is occasionally employed.

Sepherothic
Feb 8, 2003

Barry posted:

Equal parts sad and BWM:

https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/5gxi79/huge_debt_acquired_by_attending_for_profit/

$150k in debt between herself and her mother to not get a degree in fashion design from the Art Institute.

Two kids, $10 an hour job, and 150K in unfinished untransferable art school debt.

Can I short the US education system?

Shame Boy
Mar 2, 2010

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1t0FRqENr7U

boating.m4v

Zero One
Dec 30, 2004

HAIL TO THE VICTORS!

DJCobol posted:

BWL: going to a "gym" that has pizza and donut days. I was asked to leave a PF after doing deadlifts. Not grunting, not dropping the weights, just setting them down normally.

Do they have equipment to use? Yes.
Are they inexpensive as hell? Yes.

That's all I need. Maybe I'm lucky but I've never seen the staff harass anyone.

22 Eargesplitten
Oct 10, 2010



That's because everyone who knows anything about weightlifting knows they aren't welcome there but will probably still be stuck paying the whole contract on a membership they aren't allowed to use.

They're so infamous that a powerlifting gym did a parody commercial of a commercial Planet Fitness did which all but said weightlifters weren't allowed.

Shame Boy
Mar 2, 2010

Yeah PF's whole schtick is that they have a big stupid alarm and they sound the alarm to keep dastardly jocks from making the nerds uncomfortable or whatever. At some locations the alarm is never ever used, at other locations it's some bored middle manager's only semblance of actual control over others and they will press it the first chance they get.

Nail Rat
Dec 29, 2000

You maniacs! You blew it up! God damn you! God damn you all to hell!!
I thought you were exaggerating but holy crap. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKXjStndpIc

I regret nothing, derail bird

Space Gopher
Jul 31, 2006

BLITHERING IDIOT AND HARDCORE DURIAN APOLOGIST. LET ME TELL YOU WHY THIS SHIT DON'T STINK EVEN THOUGH WE ALL KNOW IT DOES BECAUSE I'M SUPER CULTURED.

Sepherothic posted:

Two kids, $10 an hour job, and 150K in unfinished untransferable art school debt.

Can I short the US education system?

Why would you? The president-elect made a boatload of money in for-profit education, and his pick for secretary of education is all about privatization.

Finally, we'll be able to ditch the outmoded idea of education as a public good and turn it into a pure profit center. The consumers don't even have the expertise to know whether they're getting a good-quality product or a substandard knockoff until it's too late!

LLCoolJD
Dec 8, 2007

Musk threatens the inorganic promotion of left-wing ideology that had been taking place on the platform

Block me for being an unironic DeSantis fan, too!

DJCobol posted:

BWL: going to a "gym" that has pizza and donut days. I was asked to leave a PF after doing deadlifts. Not grunting, not dropping the weights, just setting them down normally.

So it wasn't just me they did that to. Signed up when I was home for three months. I did freeweight and bench exercises. I hate grunters and wasn't being loud, but I was yelled at. Next visit, I was deliberately quiet, like the weights were made of those chemical vials from the movie The Rock. The staff were staring at me the whole time and accosted me despite being nearly loving silent. One of the staff was an angry steroid midget and the rest were bimbo high school girls. Never went back after that summer. The only thing good about it was how cheap it was.

Planet Fitness is a piece of poo poo gym.

gvibes
Jan 18, 2010

Leading us to the promised land (i.e., one tournament win in five years)

22 Eargesplitten posted:

That's because everyone who knows anything about weightlifting knows they aren't welcome there but will probably still be stuck paying the whole contract on a membership they aren't allowed to use.

They're so infamous that a powerlifting gym did a parody commercial of a commercial Planet Fitness did which all but said weightlifters weren't allowed.
It's really a brilliant business model. Let's run a gym that for people who never, ever go to the gym!

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

gvibes posted:

It's really a brilliant business model. Let's run a gym that for people who never, ever go to the gym!

It's pretty common to design a product to capture customers who aren't currently using a similar product. Who, if not "people who never, ever go to the gym", do you think was responsible for the rise of the mega gyms? They just cannibalized the hard core people happily working out at local gyms?

Shame Boy
Mar 2, 2010

I'm pretty sure the business model of most gyms is already "let's run a gym for people who never go to the gym" tbqh

DJCobol
May 16, 2003

CALL OF DUTY! :rock:
Grimey Drawer

LLCoolJD posted:

So it wasn't just me they did that to. Signed up when I was home for three months. I did freeweight and bench exercises. I hate grunters and wasn't being loud, but I was yelled at. Next visit, I was deliberately quiet, like the weights were made of those chemical vials from the movie The Rock. The staff were staring at me the whole time and accosted me despite being nearly loving silent. One of the staff was an angry steroid midget and the rest were bimbo high school girls. Never went back after that summer. The only thing good about it was how cheap it was.

Planet Fitness is a piece of poo poo gym.

The only reason I have a PF membership is because I get it through my health insurance. I usually go to Anytime or a local gym when I'm home. When I travel for work though, there isn't always an Anytime Fitness, Workout Anytime, or a Snap Fitness nearby, and I get stuck using PF occasionally. I've been asked to leave the one time. I've been to a few others that didn't even have a squat rack or a power cage, just a lovely smith machine.

Konstantin
Jun 20, 2005
And the Lord said, "Look, they are one people, and they have all one language; and this is only the beginning of what they will do; nothing that they propose to do will now be impossible for them.
That, and "let's sign them up for long term commitments so they keep paying us when they stop going." I remember hearing that collection agencies are cutting out the middleman and just owning the gyms themselves.

Dillbag
Mar 4, 2007

Click here to join Lem Lee in the Hell Of Being Cut To Pieces
Nap Ghost
I bought a squat rack, a bench, an olympic bar and some plates off of craigslist and built a gym in my garage. It was BWM because since them my car has been broken into three times, rammed by a drunk driver, and had the roof caved in by a meth head falling 30 feet out of a tree. The deductibles add up to years of memberships at the local community centre.

Ashcans
Jan 2, 2006

Let's do the space-time warp again!

ate all the Oreos posted:

I'm pretty sure the business model of most gyms is already "let's run a gym for people who never go to the gym" tbqh

Pretty much, it just sounds like PF has found a way to make driving off the most frequent users a perk.

Subjunctive
Sep 12, 2006

✨sparkle and shine✨

People using the gym costs them money. Driving off the most frequent or intensive users could well be in their interests.

WampaLord
Jan 14, 2010

Subjunctive posted:

People using the gym costs them money. Driving off the most frequent or intensive users could well be in their interests.

Yea but funny enough they're driving off the cheapest users. The lunk alarm punishes people who want to use free weights and bench presses, things that require almost no maintenance. The "preferred Planet Fitness member" who uses all the fancy ellipticals and other machines is costing them way more because those machines cost a lot to repair/replace.

DJCobol
May 16, 2003

CALL OF DUTY! :rock:
Grimey Drawer

WampaLord posted:

Yea but funny enough they're driving off the cheapest users. The lunk alarm punishes people who want to use free weights and bench presses, things that require almost no maintenance. The "preferred Planet Fitness member" who uses all the fancy ellipticals and other machines is costing them way more because those machines cost a lot to repair/replace.
Especially when that "preferred Planet Fitness member" is probably a hambeast already who just loaded up on free pizza or donuts. I say this as a hambeast who has broken 2 Anytime Fitness treadmills. Sorry Anytime Fitness.

Sundae
Dec 1, 2005
All I want in life is a gym that has more than one set of barbells (whatever safety set allows me to squat and deadlift - I'm neither picky nor particularly strong, so anything works for me) and that doesn't also think that having two squat racks somehow justifies a $125 p/mo membership fee. I'd just do it at home, but third floor apartment.

Knyteguy
Jul 6, 2005

YES to love
NO to shirts


Toilet Rascal
This has probably been posted before, but hey (is for horses :downsrim:):
http://affordanything.com/2011/09/16/how-to-get-rich-focus-on-whats-important/

quote:

“Brian’s parents gave (the family) a horse named Red for their kids to ride. They think it will cost a few hundred dollars a month to feed and care for the animal …The trade-off is worth it, says Brian, because “the kids so love having a horse.” In fact, Amy has already got a name if they get a second horse: Buttercup.

If they get a second horse? Seriously? You bemoan that you’re ‘scraping by’ on $150,000 a year, but you want a second horse named Buttercup?

BAE OF PIGS
Nov 28, 2016

Tup
I think planet fitness is great, but I really only go in the winter for the treadmills since I run quite a bit but I'm a baby about running in the cold/dark. Since that's all I really use, $10/month is pretty good when all the other gyms around cost at least $40 a month. Even the anytime near my apartment is $55.

I've never seen the lunk alarm used and the one I used to go to had some pretty beefy bros lifting loud as gently caress sometimes.


I agree the pizza and donuts poo poo is stupid, but I just don't eat them. :shrug:

George H.W. Cunt
Oct 6, 2010





There is a place around here called Fitness Connection that is more or less setup like a 24 hour or a Gold's and cost $10. It was hella dope.

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Prince Turveydrop
May 12, 2001

He was a veray parfit gentil knight.
Derail bird please save us

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