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I [M21] want to have sex with other women, even though I love my girlfriend [F20]quote:[deleted] lol. Couldn't find the cached copy anywhere.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:07 |
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# ? Jun 6, 2024 06:17 |
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That dude needs some loving therapy e: the first one anyway, the second one just needs to keep it in his loving pants
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:08 |
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What is the deal with people whose partners suddenly do some kind of 180? Like for instance the ones that suddenly become religious, join a cult, become vegan, become obsessed with something to the detriment of their relationship, etc? It makes more sense to me that a person starts out into something and ropes their partner into it. Having one partner suddenly change without any warning sounds more unusual than it seems to be. The person has a partner who isn't enmeshed in whatever subculture they're getting immersed, which I would assume would give some kind of passive pushback. All I can figure is that the person had warning signs they were prone to it but their partner ignored them the whole time. A lot of testimonials born again Christians give, for example talk about their life hitting rock bottom in some kind of way. Wouldn't the other partner know about that?
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:10 |
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People communicate/listen poorly and are oblivious.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:12 |
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Lockback posted:
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:13 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:
I hope you get your no strings attached 10k.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:15 |
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Panfilo posted:What is the deal with people whose partners suddenly do some kind of 180? Like for instance the ones that suddenly become religious, join a cult, become vegan, become obsessed with something to the detriment of their relationship, etc? A lot of those changes happen when people have kids. You'll notice that trend when you read those posts. All of a sudden things like religion, diet, and media consumption become big "holy poo poo" decisions because you're in charge of a child and want to do the right thing. People then go overboard trying to do the best thing. It also seems that a big push is one partner staying at home all the time who then becomes obsessed with these ideas.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:16 |
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:the balls on that lady goddamn Her boyfriend is a doormat.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:16 |
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1st AD posted:People communicate/listen poorly and are oblivious. So you think the changes in the other partner were more gradual than the poster lets on? My own parents got divorced when I was young and my mom always emphasized what a shock it was for her to discover that my dad had cheated on her. As I got older and more cynical I started to press her about that fact because my dad is a very quiet guy and I had wondered if maybe he had been checked out of the marriage for a long time. He never gave me a straight answer either, his reasoning for cheating on my mom with his best friends pregnant wife was "I don't know."
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:20 |
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I know earlier I said "Don't cheat", but there's an important complementary rule, "Dump cheaters."
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:21 |
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100 degrees Calcium posted:Her boyfriend is a doormat. Here's where I'd say "she could exploit that and agree to the open relationship so she can keep loving around on him without having to hide it from him" but hiding it from him doesn't seem to be terribly high on her list of priorities anyway so in that context it does seem entirely unnecessary Pick posted:I know earlier I said "Don't cheat", but there's an important complementary rule, "Dump cheaters." Really hoping the comments are saying "get her out of your life and some regular therapy into it" because holy drat does that dude have problems that this is exacerbating
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:25 |
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If you're girl is exacerbating... ... switch to masturbating!
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:30 |
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Panfilo posted:So you think the changes in the other partner were more gradual than the poster lets on? Yeah there's something there that wasn't communicated - people don't suddenly decide to blow up a good relationship, but as a relationship starts to fall apart blowing it up seems like an increasingly good option.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:31 |
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So I don't read Reddit (I hate the way it's formatted), but am totally engrossed in this thread (thanks, ladychat ). Half of these start with "throwaway because my SO is a redditor", and then they launch into the most bizarre stories that give specifics on age and gender and situations right in the title. Like, if my husband was a goon and I was posting over in e/n "my [42F] husband [46M] digs his own poop out with a pencil", he wouldn't come across that and think, "hmm, I'M 46, and my wife is 42, and I dig my own poop out with a pencil. But, gosh, that's not her username. Surely this can't be about us." If you're both hardcore redditors, what's the point of a parachute? Do they just stupidly assume that even though they're having relationship problems, the other person isn't entertaining the idea of reading and/or posting in r/relationships? Do these ever blow up when the other party stumbles upon them? I've seen it happen on SA, just wondering if any of these have had spectacular trainwrecks like the Bill Maher Bang Bus saga here.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:35 |
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JacquelineDempsey posted:So I don't read Reddit (I hate the way it's formatted), but am totally engrossed in this thread (thanks, ladychat ). Reddit's userbase is so, so, so much bigger than SAs. Millions of people use Reddit. The odds are almost impossible unless both people actively follow that subreddit. If anything, I bet people reading r/relationships get false positives all the time. "Holy poo poo, that sounds like my partner!" *accuses partner* Partner - "What the gently caress is Reddit?"
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:39 |
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JacquelineDempsey posted:So I don't read Reddit (I hate the way it's formatted), but am totally engrossed in this thread (thanks, ladychat ). If your S/O knows your reddit username, they can easily see your post history by clicking your username. If you use a throwaway to complain about them, they can possibly see it and guess it's about them if they happen to be browsing the specific subreddit you posted in, but they can't stumble across it accidentally while looking at all the Awkward Penguin memes you posted this week.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:39 |
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Also there are definitely people who would scrub through the OP's posting history, figure out who their SO is and message said SO saying "look what your boy/girlfriend is posting about you"
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:40 |
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HardDiskD posted:I hope you get your no strings attached 10k. And I hope some no strings attached lottery winnings come your way as well! JacquelineDempsey posted:So I don't read Reddit (I hate the way it's formatted), but am totally engrossed in this thread (thanks, ladychat ). I wonder what the point of even saying "throwaway because they know I'm a Redditor" and "names changed" even is. Just do it.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:44 |
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Hello my username is throwaway12345 and this is a throwaway account, furthermore,
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:50 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:And I hope some no strings attached lottery winnings come your way as well! Or even don't say its a throwaway, then if the SO stumbles upon it they will think its someone else's account
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 19:53 |
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If it's a throwaway acct then I'm assuming they changed the ages also.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:04 |
E/N here outlawed the phrase "names changed" or explanations of it and it was a really good decision because it literally doesn't matter to the post or context if a person is Pam or Kim.Lockback posted:A literal doormat gained sentience, found a terrible girlfriend, and posted on reddit. This dude is way too young to be pulling the "I'm a sack of poo poo with no redeeming value" card and it's kind of sad.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:05 |
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Charles Get-Out posted:This dude is way too young to be pulling the "I'm a sack of poo poo with no redeeming value" card and it's kind of sad. I never knew that card had an expiry date.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:08 |
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I've known some really ugly and boring people in their early 20s who were total sad sacks of poo poo, but I give this guy props for being self-aware about it. Also, people rarely "suddenly change". Most of the time their SOs go into the relationship with spectacular blinders on and only see the crazy when the luster on their perfect relationship starts to fade. Also, most of the descriptions are probably exaggerated too to make the poster seem like the innocent party because people are terrible.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:19 |
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I have no idea if Coffee is a Euphemism here or what. Are these real people or is some AI learning relationship posts and awkwardly trying to make its own. I [26F] cried because my boyfriend [26M] didn't want to drink coffee. quote:So, I love coffee. I drink it every morning and like trying out new cafes. When my boyfriend and I were long-distance he agreed he'd try it with me. It excited me because it's something I really enjoy. When we finally met IRL a couple years ago, things changed. Not only did the pet names and verbal affection decline, but he decided he'd rather not try coffee because it didn't appeal to him. lol at her BF making up a screen-name-sounding pet name when they finally met. Ok, so I think Coffee is Heroin. It's really the only way this starts to kind of make sense.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:27 |
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the balls on that lady goddamn [/quote] She's getting touched with more than the balls.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:31 |
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So, in AA/12 Step stuff, the Making Amends parts warns you to not actually expect forgiveness. For my part, I apologized for my actions, was specific, detailed what I was currently doing to change my behaviors and asked if there were any actions I might take to right my wrongs. I also made it clear that I was not asking for forgiveness, and if I was sending a letter or email, etc. stated that I was not even expecting a response. I got a few responses back, my face-to-face stuff was reasonably positive and I at least made peace with a few people. It was cathartic, but still pretty intimidating and uncomfortable overall. I meant what I said, though. I can't even imagine just rolling up and going "oh man, I'm in AA and I'm apologizing for stuff. I secretly ruined your life. Oops! Gotta jet!"
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:40 |
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Me a shy [28 M] started dating a [18 F] Is the age difference too weird?
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:49 |
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I wonder how many /atheism posters also post to /childfree because they have the same tone (Debate me ) to their rants. My 12 reasons I'm personally never having kids quote:Pregnancy/childbirth. Because gently caress that, that's why! EDIT: I swear I didn't look at post history before I saw this. https://www.reddit.com/r/exchristian/comments/5heueb/my_5_reasons_i_am_personally_no_longer_christian/
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 20:49 |
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It figures, she's only seventeen. It's funny how much childfree people describe children as 'bratty'. I'm sure she's going to be a pretty insufferable older sibling.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:03 |
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I like how there's an implicit admission in there that any kids she had would be fat Better for any of the porkers that would shoot forth from my loins to never have to live at all than suffer under all that blubber amirite
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:03 |
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I think this is pretty funnyquote:How can I [39F] prevent a local elected official [60sM] from barging in on my piano gig?
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:05 |
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I wonder how many Childfree people are literally children themselves. That poster was 17, which seems about the right age to be absolutely certain that you know everything and have it all figured out. It's a little less obnoxious when it's coming from teenagers.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:09 |
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Trump needs more to do.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:11 |
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Bonster posted:I wonder how many Childfree people are literally children themselves. That poster was 17, which seems about the right age to be absolutely certain that you know everything and have it all figured out. It's a little less obnoxious when it's coming from teenagers. When I was 17, I was dead certain I was going to have lots of children. Now I'm thinking closer to none. Same stupidity, just in reverse.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:12 |
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Gaunab posted:I think this is pretty funny
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:14 |
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Bonster posted:I wonder how many Childfree people are literally children themselves. That poster was 17, which seems about the right age to be absolutely certain that you know everything and have it all figured out. It's a little less obnoxious when it's coming from teenagers. Agreed. At that age she might be jealous her little brother is getting all the attention. I see a lot of childfree posters obsessed with animals and often they act like it's an either /or thing. I think some of them obsess and dote on animals because they try ti justify being 'responsible' for another living being, just not kids. I think the other reason they prefer animals over people is that animals can't say no.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:17 |
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Coffee has to be heroin. Wtf else
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:24 |
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Better Fred Than Dead posted:Coffee has to be heroin. Wtf else Do people try out different blends of heroin? She might be talking weed, but why use euphemisms for weed?
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:27 |
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# ? Jun 6, 2024 06:17 |
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I choose to believe that she's just really into anal.
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# ? Dec 9, 2016 21:30 |