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quote:I [24f] was just uninvited from a wedding that had already started. Am I overreacting? Holy gently caress that's plain lovely.
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Dec 10, 2016 21:25
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You miss 100% of the foursomes you don't inappropriately proposition via group message.
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Dec 10, 2016 21:32
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Moon Atari posted:You miss 100% of the foursomes you don't inappropriately proposition via group message. - Wayne Brady
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Dec 10, 2016 21:32
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Wayne Brady posted:You miss 100% of the foursomes you don't inappropriately proposition via group message. -Michael Scott
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Dec 10, 2016 21:34
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The guy's main mistake is that there is a clear order to the group-sex process and "proposition people who you don't know very well and whose sexual orientation does not match up with you, with your girlfriend watching" is step number a billion, not step number one like, steps number one through thirty are assorted variations on "make sure your girlfriend is open to the abstract idea, and if she isn't, then stop rather than make an idiot out of yourself in public" and it doesn't even sound like he ran it by her
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Dec 10, 2016 21:35
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Also maybe stop to think that this lesbian couple who have a child together might not want YOUR MAN DICK. Though I guess you covered that.
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Dec 10, 2016 21:36
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Waterbed Wendy posted:Also maybe stop to think that this lesbian couple who have a child together might not want YOUR MAN DICK. yeah "do we know any cute open-minded bisexuals" is step number 58 or so, "gently caress it let's roll the dice with confirmed lesbians" is step number infinity e: you could maybe sell it if (a) your completely-on-board-for-group-sex girlfriend was the one to ask them, not you, and (b) one of the ground rules was that you're not allowed to touch them, but even then it's a stretch
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Dec 10, 2016 21:41
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Honestly, I half suspect there is a 4chan thread to compliment the girlfriend's reddit thread which goes "write some poo poo and I'll send it to my gf and her lesbian friends, trust me I'll do it". That sort of thing is popular there, using "I was hacked" as the excuse. But even if true it would just add an extra layer to his being a dick.
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Dec 10, 2016 21:43
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almightyerin posted:Holy gently caress that's plain lovely. It's real weird how her boyfriend didn't stand up for her, leave with her to hang out until the evening, anything but ignoring her and not giving her a call for 6 (!!) hours. Assuming her boyfriend and the bride are really that close, how hard is it to bring her aside and talk to her privately???? I know it's a /r/relationships cliche that people never communicate, but this one is so odd. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 21:57 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 21:53
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childfree post posted:I never get mad or annoyed at children who are acting up, being loud or obnoxious or are generally pains in the asses. I have trained myself to remember that it's not the kid's fault - it's their parents fault. How hard is it to understand that kids are not tiny adults that always respond rationally? Great parents can have great kids that still act up sometimes. I'd be concerned if my kids didn't. For any goon parents out there, this reminds me of a fantastic trick I learned the other day. If your small child is acting up in a social situation where you need them to shut the hell up RIGHT NOW but they've worked themselves up, you can tell them "You seem upset. I wouldn't laugh if you're that upset. You better not laugh! Only happy people laugh!" and it'll snap them out of their tantrum because they'll try and fail to not laugh. flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 21:56 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 21:53
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almightyerin posted:Holy gently caress that's plain lovely. That bride is an rear end in a top hat and I don't think she (the girlfriend) would be out of line asking her boyfriend to have a little chat with his friend.
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Dec 10, 2016 21:56
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Solus M.D. posted:That bride is an rear end in a top hat and I don't think she (the girlfriend) would be out of line asking her boyfriend to have a little chat with his friend. e: I doubt he'd talk to her considering what he did in the first place I understand that her boyfriend has trouble acting in that situation but drat, I can't imagine just letting her just walk out while I stayed there. I wouldn't give a gently caress about "making a scene" if somebody publicly humiliated my wife like that. Especially considering "making a scene" is leaving with your girlfriend. flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 22:01 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 21:58
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:I understand that her boyfriend has trouble acting in that situation but drat, I can't imagine just letting her just walk out while I stayed there. I wouldn't give a gently caress about "making a scene" if somebody publicly humiliated my wife like that. Especially considering "making a scene" is leaving with your girlfriend. Yeah seriously, even if I was at like my sister's wedding or something and that poo poo happened I would make sure the person I love isn't totally embarrassed and cast out into the cold alone.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:00
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:I understand that her boyfriend has trouble acting in that situation but drat, I can't imagine just letting her just walk out while I stayed there. I wouldn't give a gently caress about "making a scene" if somebody publicly humiliated my wife like that. Especially considering "making a scene" is leaving with your girlfriend. That's why her boyfriend is a weird as heck rear end in a top hat. It's one thing to be scared over making decisions in awkward social situations. I get that, even if I have no qualms about speaking up in lovely, awkward situations. It's another thing to completely ignore your girlfriend after she went out of her way to attend a wedding with your sorry rear end. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 22:07 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 22:04
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:e: I doubt he'd talk to her considering what he did in the first place Ah, I completely glossed over that part. Yeah even with any sort of social anxiety that's a dick move on his part. lovely behavior all around, I feel bad for the OP.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:05
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:I understand that her boyfriend has trouble acting in that situation but drat, I can't imagine just letting her just walk out while I stayed there. I wouldn't give a gently caress about "making a scene" if somebody publicly humiliated my wife like that. Especially considering "making a scene" is leaving with your girlfriend. Yeah, he's a world class pussy, I'd certainly leave with her, not let her wander down the road in her dress and heels. The wedding people can get hosed. And inviting people to any sort of event like that without a plus one is a cheapshit way to be - if you can't afford to invite a couple, you can't afford to invite the person.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:06
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He has to be the bride's "friendzone" bitch or something.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:14
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the move would be to just grab an armful of wedding poo poo (gifts, flowers etc) and then immediately leave, making sure to never speak to these people again.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:17
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JnnyThndrs posted:And inviting people to any sort of event like that without a plus one is a cheapshit way to be - if you can't afford to invite a couple, you can't afford to invite the person. yeah uh have you planned a wedding before, because they can/do balloon out of control if you're not very careful and this is one of many ways that can happen We explicitly invited S/Os if they were married, engaged, or cohabitating, or if we knew the S/O well enough that we considered them a friend as well, and nobody else got a +1, and it was relatively drama-free. That said, you have to be crystal clear about it, and having different "tiers" of wedding guests that are only invited to some events and not others is just asking for poo poo like this to happen. Poor planning caused a bad situation that was handled poorly. Everyone you invite to your wedding should be invited to your whole wedding. If there's a part of it you don't want them at, don't invite them to any part of it.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:26
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loquacius posted:yeah uh have you planned a wedding before, because they can/do balloon out of control if you're not very careful and this is one of many ways that can happen What are you including under the umbrella of "the whole wedding"?
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Dec 10, 2016 22:30
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Waterbed Wendy posted:What are you including under the umbrella of "the whole wedding"? Basically this person's problem is that she was invited to the ceremony (which she went to) and the reception (which hadn't happened yet at the time of the writing) but not the "breakfast" (the thing she was kicked out of). There should not be events at your wedding that only some guests are invited to (apart from your rehearsal obv which is only for your wedding party). This bride overcomplicated things and feelings were bound to get hurt.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:37
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loquacius posted:Basically this person's problem is that she was invited to the ceremony (which she went to) and the reception (which hadn't happened yet at the time of the writing) but not the "breakfast" (the thing she was kicked out of). There should not be events at your wedding that only some guests are invited to (apart from your rehearsal obv which is only for your wedding party). This bride overcomplicated things and feelings were bound to get hurt. I agree with you for sure. I thought you might be talking about the rehearsal dinner or an family brunch the next day. Something are just for close people especially if you have a large wedding. It cuts down on costs dramatically. But inviting one person to everything while excluding their SO within the same invitation is stupid and confusing and the dude should have spent that time with his lady.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:43
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loquacius posted:yeah uh have you planned a wedding before. Yes. Two of them, actually. Both times the event was planned specifically to maximize the number of people that could come, so all the idiotic fancy poo poo was out and the food was simple, but anybody who want to come was welcome. quote:That said, you have to be crystal clear about it, and having different "tiers" of wedding guests that are only invited to some events and not others is just asking for poo poo like this to happen. Poor planning caused a bad situation that was handled poorly. Everyone you invite to your wedding should be invited to your whole wedding. If there's a part of it you don't want them at, don't invite them to any part of it. Agreed 1000% \/\/ what this poster said, exactly\/\/ JnnyThndrs fucked around with this message at 22:48 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 22:44
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loquacius posted:Basically this person's problem is that she was invited to the ceremony (which she went to) and the reception (which hadn't happened yet at the time of the writing) but not the "breakfast" (the thing she was kicked out of). There should not be events at your wedding that only some guests are invited to (apart from your rehearsal obv which is only for your wedding party). This bride overcomplicated things and feelings were bound to get hurt. The problem is that the bride publicly humiliated OP and her boyfriend sat there stonefaced while she left in the rain. It has nothing to do with the wedding setup at all, even if I agree that the bride hosed up in ever doing it that way. The bride's reaction should have been "Oh, sorry for the confusion. Let me get another chair for you." In lieu of that, boyfriend should have stepped up to the plate and done something. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 22:50 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 22:47
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:The problem is that the bride publicly humiliated OP and her boyfriend sat there stonefaced while she left in the rain. It has nothing to do with the wedding setup at all, even if I agree that the bride hosed up in ever doing it that way. The bride's reaction should have been "Oh, sorry for the confusion. Let me get another chair for you." In lieu of that, boyfriend should have stepped up to the plate and done something. Not convinced I'd make a scene or anything. I don't care that much about weddings and stuff and I'll be content either way. Khorne fucked around with this message at 22:57 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 22:54
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:The problem is that the bride publicly humiliated OP and her boyfriend sat there stonefaced while she left in the rain. It has nothing to do with the wedding setup at all, even if I agree that the bride hosed up in ever doing it that way. The bride's reaction should have been "Oh, sorry for the confusion. Let me get another chair for you." In lieu of that, boyfriend should have stepped up to the plate and done something. Right? Going catatonic at the first hint of awkwardness is not how adults deal with things.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:55
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Khorne posted:Not going to lie, if I were the boyfriend I would have offered her my seat and just chilled. At the very least. Or we could both have gone to the pub. Yeah, same here. If it were me in that situation, I would have given the bride the finger for pulling that poo poo and gotten drunk with my girlfriend at the bar while laughing about it.
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Dec 10, 2016 22:56
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:The problem is that the bride publicly humiliated OP and her boyfriend sat there stonefaced while she left in the rain. It has nothing to do with the wedding setup at all, even if I agree that the bride hosed up in ever doing it that way. The bride's reaction should have been "Oh, sorry for the confusion. Let me get another chair for you." In lieu of that, boyfriend should have stepped up to the plate and done something. Oh absolutely, hence poor planning causing a situation what was handled poorly. You shouldn't have events half your guests are invited to and half aren't, and if you do you shouldn't split up couples, and if you do and someone's date got confused by your convoluted-rear end poo poo and shows up to something they weren't invited to, you should handle it with more subtlety than this. OP is within her rights to boycott the rest of the wedding, and hopefully her boyfriend does too.
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Dec 10, 2016 23:23
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Wedding guest tiers are soooo tacky and a great way to make people angry at you. Just plan according to size, Christ. If you can't afford to let all your guests be a part of the whole experience then figure out an option that allows it or don't do it. Just tacky and cheap looking, plain and simple.
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Dec 10, 2016 23:32
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How hard would it have been for the bride to just play it off 'sorry I thought I added you on the list' and let her stay? Especially when given an event big enough you'll have no-shows anyway.
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Dec 10, 2016 23:36
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Bride Lady probably groomed the boyfriend to divorce himself from reality when awkward pub-lic situations happen, hence why he took it sitting down.
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Dec 10, 2016 23:36
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I don't think it's worth making a big deal out of the breakfast at the time, even if it's lovely of the bride and groom. However, making a big deal out of it doesn't include going 'Oh, sorry, we thought there'd be room for both of us! I'll just take girlfriend and we'll head over to the pub.' That's a perfectly pleasant thing to say that makes the bride look like a goddamn rear end in a top hat with no added effort. Unless for some reason her boyfriend is secretly okay with her being excluded but jeez what could that be I just don't know. Edit: he didn't even text her back after she told him she was going home alone Oh my God girl no Tiny Deer fucked around with this message at 23:45 on Dec 10, 2016 |
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Dec 10, 2016 23:40
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Wedding tiers are pretty common in the UK, where this couple are from. I think I've only ever been to one wedding where there weren't tiers. I went to one where the service, meal, and reception were all held in the same room, but I was only invited to the first and third parts, so I had to make myself scarce for the middle bit. It was super awkward.
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Dec 10, 2016 23:43
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loquacius posted:Basically this person's problem is that she was invited to the ceremony (which she went to) and the reception (which hadn't happened yet at the time of the writing) but not the "breakfast" (the thing she was kicked out of). There should not be events at your wedding that only some guests are invited to (apart from your rehearsal obv which is only for your wedding party). This bride overcomplicated things and feelings were bound to get hurt. I'm going to go reread the post but I believe part of the problem was that she was invited to everything. There was nothing on the invitation suggesting they weren't both invited to everything.
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Dec 10, 2016 23:53
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Tears In A Vial posted:Wedding tiers are pretty common in the UK, where this couple are from. I think I've only ever been to one wedding where there weren't tiers. I've only ever seen one wedding do that, my husband and I were invited to both but our friend who we thought were as close to the bride as us but she was only invited to the ceremony, and was really insulted by it. It seems especially weird to not invite someone to the middle part. Again, just comes across as super tacky to me.
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Dec 11, 2016 00:02
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:I'm going to go reread the post but I believe part of the problem was that she was invited to everything. There was nothing on the invitation suggesting they weren't both invited to everything. Yeah the invitation had both of their names on it and it said they were invited to everything.
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Dec 11, 2016 00:10
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Tears In A Vial posted:Wedding tiers are pretty common in the UK, where this couple are from. I think I've only ever been to one wedding where there weren't tiers. It's weird to have not been included in the dinner, since I've only known the tiering to pretty much centre on the reception. Whoever is at the ceremony is at the meal, and then more guests pop along for the reception. Coworkers, acquaintances, etc. But even in U.K weddings with their "two" guest lists, doing what was done to the OP would be super scummy.
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Dec 11, 2016 00:10
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The bride is a piece of poo poo and the boyfriend needs to grow a spine, but that lady could have stood up for herself too. "Actually, we were both invited to this part of the wedding. The invitation had both our names on it. You asked for my dietary preferences. The two of us are here together, there must be some kind of mistake." Yeah she doesn't know the bride and is only there because of her boyfriend, but come on. Also, walking 20 minutes in the rain knowing full well it's going to ruin your clothes and makeup? Do they not have taxi cabs in her part of the world? Even staying put and wasting 3 hours on your phone would be preferable to that. I get a liiiiiittle bit of a "intentionally wallowing in self pity and drama" vibe here.
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Dec 11, 2016 00:23
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Anony Mouse posted:Even staying put and wasting 3 hours on your phone would be preferable to that. I get a liiiiiittle bit of a "intentionally wallowing in self pity and drama" vibe here. I'm not ashamed to admit that I would sit right outside that brunch door with my phone and gently caress around for the entirety of the meal. Well, actually I probably would have just changed my ticket and gone home right then - especially if my boyfriend didn't stick up for me or leave with me. Going home would give me ample time to throw his poo poo on the lawn where it belongs.
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Naerasa posted:I'm not ashamed to admit that I would sit right outside that brunch door with my phone and gently caress around for the entirety of the meal. Well, actually I probably would have just changed my ticket and gone home right then - especially if my boyfriend didn't stick up for me or leave with me. Going home would give me ample time to throw his poo poo on the lawn where it belongs. Someone has never tried changing a train ticket in the UK, basically imagine it'll probably 3 times the original cost again. That is pretty lovely though. Admittedly the bride/whoever could have made a mistake with the info, and you don't want to confront her about it too much on her day - but the boyfriend is a dick. Solution: Open the relationship
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