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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I can't imagine not paying to keep the lights on in her position while still wanting to live together. this is why it makes more sense to assume she doesn't actually have access to the money, rather than she'd rather sit in a cold dark apartment playing mindgames with a blue collar schmuck who she may decide to marry someday if he can just tough it out like i said earlier, i know a guy who will inherit a few million bucks on his 40th birthday but before then he gets a pitiful monthly stipend and he has to hold down a dumb job same as every other jerk until then
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Baron Corbyn posted:Her money doesn't make me like her less, her willingness to let someone she cares about live in poverty makes me like her less. You're the one making up bollocks about maybe the settlor not giving her access to enough money to pay for heating when her boyfriend is working 50 hours a week when it's far more likely that it's a situation like Tom Gorman's and yes, they could afford heating. If you need trust fund money to have hot water you are doing something wrong/stupid.
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Pick posted:Because it disappears quick, and in all likelihood she didn't earn it so why should she spend it? It's a safety net from your predecessors, it's not a loving target gift card. I'll play devil's advocate because I'd at least try to be sensible - assuming she has access to the money, go pay off any outstanding debts, don't touch the rest, and keep working but have a better work/life balance. 
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Dec 23, 2016 04:30
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boner confessor posted:drat it's a shame you're working for minimum wage when apparently you have the power to audit people's financial documents telepathically and can determine their disposable income via the internet. amazing. you're like a bitter working class version of those people who can tell what should and shouldn't be in someone's shopping carts based on their apparent socioeconomic status I'm not working for minimum wage and I don't think she's doing it for fun. People are weird with money and we have another example of the exact same thing on this page or is Tom Gorman a liar, too? Warbadger posted:If you need trust fund money to have hot water you are doing something wrong/stupid. Poor people are wrong/stupid? Nice.
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504 posted:If I was rich I'd stop wearing pants. I would too. I would have the fanciest silk drapes carved by pristine virgins in some distant land to prevent neighbors from peeping like weirdos though. Or maybe I'd live in a tiny cabin in the woods with lots of cats  just like Baba Yaga!no pants 4 life
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My (26F) husband (29M) sold our son's birthday gift for a video game for himself and feels no remorsequote:So as the title says, my husband traded in the Wii we got our 8 year old for his birthday this summer at Game stop for credit to buy a Grand Theft Auto game for himself.
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Dec 23, 2016 04:36
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Everyone defending her is acting as if he couldn't take out an extra $50 each month from her trust fund to pay utilities WITHOUT EVERY REVEALING SHE'S A MILLIONAIRE.
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Dec 23, 2016 04:37
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As a person with more savings than I appear to have, I never tell anyone I'm dating about it. The dynamic always changes and I don't want to pay for every little thing like it always ends up being. Maybe the woman just wants to be treated like an equal instead of a piggy bank.
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Dec 23, 2016 04:39
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Charles Get-Out posted:As a person with more savings than I appear to have, I never tell anyone I'm dating about it. The dynamic always changes and I don't want to pay for every little thing like it always ends up being. No-one's saying she should lavish money and gifts upon him, just pretend she gets a little extra money at her job to pay basic utilities.
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Jeffnote: I'm dating James Bond[35M] Me [30F] with my boyfriend [35M] of 1 year. He is NOT happy with gift. quote:I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year. We met while I was traveling. We've stayed in our respective places while we work out seeing each other again. It's definitely a long distance relationship. But we talk daily and manage.
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Dec 23, 2016 04:46
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Baron Corbyn posted:No-one's saying she should lavish money and gifts upon him, just pretend she gets a little extra money at her job to pay basic utilities. Essentials are worse than gifts. You unbalance the rent or utilities or groceries and it never goes back to normal. I'll agree it's odd that she's willing to live without some basic amenities, and that other story from way back where the two were living comfortably and the woman was just mad he was "wasting" his separate cash on charity was way more agreeable overall, but I sympathize with the position of not wanting to be your partner's financial support. That being said, I don't think a relationship where one dude tries to make ends meet at 50 hours a week and one woman makes sick bank off her rental properties is very tenable in the first place; just not gonna judge the girl for what she decided to do.
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How can anyone defend the OP after he admitted that he snooped through her mail?  People go into a rage when other snoop their partner's phones but when it's the mail it's whatever?
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^thats what I said! Super lovely of him Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Jeffnote: I'm dating James Bond[35M] Donate it?! Those things are not cheap! Send it back so she can return it at least. Jesus Christo
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Charles Get-Out posted:Essentials are worse than gifts. You unbalance the rent or utilities or groceries and it never goes back to normal. With him working 50 hours and her working 20, I'm pretty sure it's already unbalanced and he said it's only some months they go without heating so it's not like it would be regular nor would he even need to know about it until he started snooping around her private mail. HardDiskD posted:How can anyone defend the OP after he admitted that he snooped through her mail? I don't think anyone's defending him. It's just a happy coincidence that he's a poo poo.
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HardDiskD posted:How can anyone defend the OP after he admitted that he snooped through her mail? if he hadn't then we wouldn't be able to collectively pretend she's swimming in money but just choosing to live in squalor because she's, uh, secretly evil, i guess. because people often choose to go without basic necessities if it means their romantic partner suffers equally, that makes a lot of sense
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Baron Corbyn posted:With him working 50 hours and her working 20, I'm pretty sure it's already unbalanced and he said it's only some months they go without heating so it's not like it would be regular nor would he even need to know about it until he started snooping around her private mail. Yeah that's what I was getting at when I said the relationship wasn't tenable. It's not gonna work anyways so he should find a sugar momma who wants to pay for him if he's that intent on getting one and she should find someone who isn't gonna snoop.
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Charles Get-Out posted:As a person with more savings than I appear to have, I never tell anyone I'm dating about it. The dynamic always changes and I don't want to pay for every little thing like it always ends up being. Yeah, and people don't think it's a major mooch to ask for $20 here and there, but if all your friends are doing it, then yeah it rapidly ramps up to be paying for everyone's meals and everyone's cab ride and everyone's x/y/z and it's a major expenditure.
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HardDiskD posted:How can anyone defend the OP after he admitted that he snooped through her mail? I think this is like when the family was making GBS threads all over the toilet and people chose to talk about the tp usage instead, it's being ignored because no one thinks there's more than one side to that particular issue.
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Charles Get-Out posted:Yeah that's what I was getting at when I said the relationship wasn't tenable. It's not gonna work anyways so he should find a sugar momma who wants to pay for him if he's that intent on getting one and she should find someone who isn't gonna snoop.
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ArbitraryC posted:I mean if you consider how long their relationship had previously been going it doesn't look like the guy was looking for a sugar momma. He worked more hours and said she moved into 'his' place but that she pulled from her savings to help with rent, how he was in a situation where he could afford it on his own but can't afford it with her chipping in is neither here nor there, but maybe that's part of the cleverly crafted troll. Totally fair. I didn't look at the age of the relationship, just his clearing of doubts and desire to tie her down now that he knows she's maybe rich. edit in response to your edit: Keep in mind that people spin stories to make themselves look sympathetic and favorable. I kind of doubt they skipped utilities at all, but it's in the text so I'm treating it as gospel for purposes of discussion.
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Charles Get-Out posted:Yeah that's what I was getting at when I said the relationship wasn't tenable. It's not gonna work anyways so he should find a sugar momma who wants to pay for him if he's that intent on getting one and she should find someone who isn't gonna snoop. Eh, I disagree. For them to be talking about marriage/kids they must have been happy despite the money situation. If he wasn't a snoop and she was willing to pay a little extra for utilities, it'd have been fine. boner confessor posted:if he hadn't then we wouldn't be able to collectively pretend she's swimming in money but just choosing to live in squalor because she's, uh, secretly evil, i guess. because people often choose to go without basic necessities if it means their romantic partner suffers equally, that makes a lot of sense It's because quote:Essentials are worse than gifts. You unbalance the rent or utilities or groceries and it never goes back to normal. I'm sorry to shatter your illusion the rich are morally impeachable ubermensch but when someone posts her logical line of reasoning in this very topic you've got to drop your persecution complex about us thinking the rich are cartoon villains, mate.
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Maybe she grew up wealthy and this is her pilgrimage to the other side of the tracks, if you know what I mean. I did it. It was loving awful but I'm glad I did. Taught me to appreciate money and also appreciate owning a mattress.
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Baron Corbyn posted:I'm sorry to shatter your illusion the rich are morally impeachable ubermensch but when someone posts her logical line of reasoning in this very topic you've got to drop your persecution complex about us thinking the rich are cartoon villains, mate. how is it not getting through to you that you have no idea if she can even access the money, so it's dumb to blame her for not spending money she may or may not actually have. you have no window into this woman's financial statements or mindset re: her boyfriend except you have a burning desire to blame her for being a stingy bitch based on nothing but your own imagination like she's living in near poverty, either she's cash poor but rich on paper, or she's holding out in making her own living conditions more comfortable with her own partner based on mysterious reasons you can access from the ethereal plane of jealousy apparently boner confessor fucked around with this message at 05:10 on Dec 23, 2016 |
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Dec 23, 2016 05:08
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boner confessor posted:how is it not getting through to you that you have no idea if she can even access the money, so it's dumb to blame her for not spending money she may or may not actually have. you have no window into this woman's financial statements or mindset re: her boyfriend except you have a burning desire to blame her for being a stingy bitch based on nothing but your own imagination Or she's slumming it and, like literally everyone who is rich, is garbage
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boner confessor posted:how is it not getting through to you that you have no idea if she can even access the money, so it's dumb to blame her for not spending money she may or may not actually have. you have no window into this woman's financial statements or mindset re: her boyfriend except you have a burning desire to blame her for being a stingy bitch based on nothing but your own imagination How is not getting through to you when there are people defending her actions based on the story provided, you pillock? There's a perfectly reasonably reason of not wanting your partner to be financially dependent on you that literally every person defending her has posted in this topic and the other person who was in this exact same situation posted about. It only becomes indefensible when you're making your partner live without heating when you could easily remedy the situation. I mean rich people living in poverty for reasons is common enough that there's a goddamn song about it. GEORGE W BUSHI fucked around with this message at 05:16 on Dec 23, 2016 |
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Anyone remember that starving artist stoner who actually had bank from his grandpa's estate, that was a good story
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Baron Corbyn posted:How is not getting through to you when there are people defending her actions based on the story provided, you pillock? There's a perfectly reasonably reason of not wanting your partner to be financially dependent on you that literally every person defending her has posted in this topic and the other person who was in this exact same situation posted about. It only becomes indefensible when you're making your partner live without heating when you could easily remedy the situation. she is also living without heating so it's really weird she would willingly choose to do this just to put pressure on a guy. welp she's rich, must be evil i guess, i'm sure she's cackling it up lighting cigars with hundred pound notes down at the social club before she goes home to her cold, dank slummy apartment to crawl shivering into bed with a man she secretly despises
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boner confessor posted:she is also living without heating so it's really weird she would willingly choose to do this just to put pressure on a guy. welp she's rich, must be evil i guess, i'm sure she's cackling it up lighting cigars with hundred pound notes down at the social club before she goes home to her cold, dank slummy apartment to crawl shivering into bed with a man she secretly despises I never said any of that but continue to believe that slumming it is not a thing that rich people do in order to defend your moral and, more importantly, financial superiors.
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boner confessor posted:she is also living without heating so it's really weird she would willingly choose to do this just to put pressure on a guy. welp she's rich, must be evil i guess, i'm sure she's cackling it up lighting cigars with hundred pound notes down at the social club before she goes home to her cold, dank slummy apartment to crawl shivering into bed with a man she secretly despises Yes, literally. That's exactly what's happening, because the world is stacked against people with money as well as temporarily embarrassed millionaires such as yourself.
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Has anyone considered she might be very traditional in a sexist way and arbitrarily expect her boyfriend to be the primary breadwinner?
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I don't care if she could pay for it or not, "gimme" money from your predecessors is not something any person has an obligation to touch if they don't want to. The cheapest person I know is my great-aunt, who still sews all her old clothes. She looks and dresses so poor that people hand her money because they think she is an indigent old woman. She has around ten million dollars. That's just how she rolls and did when her husband was alive also. She'll die having barely touched anything the two of them ever earned and that's her prerogative.
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Pick posted:I don't care if she could pay for it or not, "gimme" money from your predecessors is not something any person has an obligation to touch if they don't want to. can you blame her? the existence of her money has made complete internet strangers pop a cork about her holding out based on a reddit post. money ruins relationships
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boner confessor posted:i get that british people get weird about their hosed up class system but gee whiz yall are reading a hell of a lot into a story about how a guy who spied on his partner is actually doing the right thing Please show me a single post where anyone defended this guys actions. For someone who's getting so upset about the poor little rich girl's actions being misrepresented, you're doing a drat fine job of misrepresenting everyone else's arguments.
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Poor, poor dumb little idiot boy, run away. Run far away. Me [22M]with my girlfriend [20F] of 1 month, her "intoxicating" yet unstable ex [22M] wants to hang out with her quote:Little backstory: I have been best friends with my now girlfriend for some time before we started dating and are now a couple. She's great and complements me in many ways. Before me she dated a guy who is pretty much my polar opposite.
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