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ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Giraffe posted:

Me (27m) with my gf of 4 years (26f), my neighbor has a strong suspicion she cheated and it adds up, idk what to do?

Relax, buddy, I'm sure she and her coworker were just planning you a nice surprise party.

Stories like this one make me wish there had to be updates/conclusions before they were posted. It'd be p funny if it turned out she just needed the coworker to help her set a Christmas present up and the neighbor was just bored and nosey with a wild imagination. Sure the neighbors story told as is makes it seem pretty flagrant but otoh is someone really gonna go out of their way to head to their SO's place to bang for a few hours while their SO's dog barks at them rather than just doing it in their own apartment or at their fling's place?

I feel like the "confrontation" is gonna yield some fairly funny results.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 08:30

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# ? May 9, 2024 18:17

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

Gluten Freeman posted:

i love ones like this where there isn't even an actual problem that needs solving. you have a crush, get over it. you're not gonna make your coworker interested in women and/or being a side-piece in a polyamorous relationship just by wishing really hard.

I love how she implies "not wanting to be a side piece" and "being (PRESUMABLY) a woman who is (PRESUMABLY) attracted to (PRESUMABLY) men" are hangups that the other woman should be able to get over

# ? Dec 24, 2016 08:41

underage at the vape shop: May 11, 2011; by Cyrano4747

dont gently caress your coworkers lol

# ? Dec 24, 2016 08:55

Melchiresa: Jun 21, 2006; Nice guy.
Tries hard.
Loves ~~hot dogs~~ The Game.

My [25M] brother [21M] thinks he is a ninja from Naruto

quote:

I guess I should start off by saying he's had a rough time lately. He's always been a little asocial and had some problems with people and making friends. Throughout his late teen years he's grown up a lot. He got a girlfriend, he studied hard, he got out of his comfort zone, and made new friends, moved in with his girlfriend, etc. I wasn't really around much cause I live at my own place but my parents talked about how glad they were that he was making all this progress.

The half year or so, everything seems to have gone downhill though. Apparently, he caught his girlfriend cheating and they broke up, he's also been in a bad accident but only had minor injuries. He's had some fights with friends and (according to him) some have been backstabbing him and stuff. He slept at a friends place after him and his girlfriend broke up and he moved back to our parents after he finished college.
He has completely closed off himself. He says he's taking a break from studying and just wants to work. He's not really sent out any applications and instead spends all his time in his room. I've been at my parents house many times mostly because of him.

It seems to me like he has started looking from some sort of escape from reality. We both grew up watching Dragonball, Naruto, etc. and I still watch Naruto every now and then because I love watching TV shows but my brothers seems to have taken it into a whole next level. His entire room is full of Naruto stuff and posters. He is watching Naruto almost constantly or playing Naruto games. He believes that life would be so much better if this was a ninja world and how refreshing it would be if he could go out on adventures and go on missions and fight other ninjas (his words). He spends his time trying to do hand seals (it's hand signs that the ninjas in the show do in order to perform supernatural attacks), he obsesses about the relationships they have and the wars and how he wants to become as strong as them, etc.

I've tried talking to him several times to cut it out and get his act together but he refuses. Many times he will even lock his door and not let anybody come in. I've discussed with our parents to have him talk to a professional but he throws a tantrum whenever we mention it to him. He simply refuses to acknowledge his problem and refuses to get any help. We're really lost at what to do at this point. It's been going on for a while now and we're really worried for his mental health.

tl;dr: Brother is obsessed with Naruto and thinks he's a ninja. Had some bad things happen to him and he's apparently escaped reality now.

The post is only 3 hours old so there aren't many comments yet, but this redditor helpfully suggests curing an anime escapism problem with even more anime. It's okay though, because it's life changing:

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I'd suggest having him watch the anime "Welcome to the NHK". I know it seems odd but it's been described as a life changer by some. It does seem like he's trying to escape reality but it honestly just seems like he has become obsessed with it. The Naruto fan base has quite a few fans that dedicated. I feel like maybe rather than thinking he's a ninja he wishes the world worked like it does in anime. A lot of fans have felt that way in the beginning. Watching an anime together may also help him open up enough to have a few conversations to figure out the real problem and allow you to very gently suggest he get some help.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 08:57

Streak: May 16, 2004; by Nyc_Tattoo

Never has the answer to anything been "watch more anime"

# ? Dec 24, 2016 11:40

Griefor: Jun 11, 2009

Giraffe posted:

Me (27m) with my gf of 4 years (26f), my neighbor has a strong suspicion she cheated and it adds up, idk what to do?

Relax, buddy, I'm sure she and her coworker were just planning you a nice surprise party.

Pretty audacious to do your cheating in the house of your partner that you do not live in.

underage at the vape shop posted:

dont gently caress your coworkers lol

What if you are a porn actor?

Griefor fucked around with this message at 12:04 on Dec 24, 2016

# ? Dec 24, 2016 12:02

Bubblyblubber: Nov 17, 2014

Griefor posted:

What if you are a porn actor?

Don't gently caress your coworkers for free.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 12:13

corn on the cop: Oct 12, 2012; Break what must be broken, once for all, that's all, and take the suffering on oneself.

â Corey Dostoyevsky

Ranma Fan Art posted:

how are so many incompatible people married to each other what a world we live in

"Getting married will fix everything!"

# ? Dec 24, 2016 13:07

Griefor: Jun 11, 2009

Imagine if people treated other aspects of life the same way.

Hmm, John is always late for work and keeps slacking off, plus he is rude to his direct superior. I'm sure that if we give him a permanent contract, a raise, promote him and give him many more responsibilities, he will shape up though.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 13:25

Doc Hawkins: Jun 15, 2010; Dashing? But I'm not even moving!

Streak posted:

Never has the answer to anything been "watch more anime"

I have seen Welcome to NHK, so I get why someone would suggest it for this situation: it's a black comedy whose main character watches so much television, including anime, that he begins to have paranoid delusions. The message of the show is that there are no dark conspiracies, no secret worlds, no special powers, just sad people who always have a chance to make themselves less sad.

...I think you'd have to be pretty drat far gone to call it "life-changing."

# ? Dec 24, 2016 14:30

corn on the cop: Oct 12, 2012; Break what must be broken, once for all, that's all, and take the suffering on oneself.

â Corey Dostoyevsky

quote:

My husband [32 M] cheated on me [32 F] with my married sister [29 F], we're all going through divorces now, and I've been getting close to my brother-in-law [28 M]

Never really thought I'd ever have cause to post in this place, but here I am now anyway. So much for that.

Been married for 5 years to Michael and he was cheating for the last year of it with Susan, my own sister. She's been married for 3 years to James (BIL). I don't really know what set off the cheating and I don't want to know. It won't make anything better and the best thing for me is to simply remove those two from my life as soon as possible.

Anyway, I found about the cheating just a few months back, late August to be specific, courtesy of James. It was a pretty hosed up thing, all in all. There were chats, exchanges of nude pictures, and from the chats alone it was clear that their affair had been physical right from the start. Needless to say, both James and I filed for divorce, and though Susan and Michael tried fighting them at first, tried to push for counseling, they gave it up, I poo poo you not, in some twisted delusion that it would endear them to us. Should be all over next month.

Other than my sister, I still have some aunts and uncles (and their kids) who I'm fairly close with, but our parents died when we were younger (traffic accident) and so our aunts and uncles took us into their homes and made us feel welcome. Since finding out about the cheating and filing for divorce, their support has been always there for me, 100%, and I can't be grateful enough for it.

But there's also James now.

Before all this happened, James and me were friendly with each other. We didn't mind sharing company, but it's not like we were some great friends either. All in all, typical in-laws relationships, nothing more.

And for the first month since finding out about the cheating, we didn't talk much with each other, but as Susan and Michael kept stalling we wound up going out one day to some cafe, just to lend each other an ear and let off some steam about our unfaithful spouses. It became a sort of weekly thing for us. We'd meet up over the weekend, talk some poo poo about our spouses, and then part ways.

As the weeks passed, we sort of slipped away from talking about our soon to be exs' and just talked about each other. And I realized that I've started to feel something for James. Not infatuation or a crush, but I do feel attracted to him. He is a good looking man, so that didn't really surprise me and I thought at first it was just something that I could ignore. Just something that was popping up because I was missing some male company in my life due to my ongoing divorce, nothing more. But then after a bit I caught myself finding reasons to be more physical with James. Nothing sexual, but y'know, touching him on the hand or putting my hand on his shoulder or just about anything else that wasn't outright screaming that I wanted him.

On some level, I felt pretty embarrassed about this. I worried that I was just being petty, that I wanted to take something from Susan like how she took Michael from me (even though I've since realized that makes no sense in retrospect, since you can't really take a person if they don't want to give themselves to you in the first place) and I backed off with the touchiness.

Then, at the beginning of this month, I realized that I wasn't feeling just an attraction to James, I genuinely started to look forward to our weekly meetups, which were happening more often lately, and I liked him and I was starting to think about us two as a couple and not just as friends. Had a bit of a family meeting with my aunts about this, they gave me really good advice on it and I was really intent on following it, but last Sunday I drank for the first time since God knows when and when James leaned in to hug me and kiss me on the cheek I changed directions and kissed him on the mouth. A peck, really, nothing more than that. I know, it was pretty loving awful of me. Yes, I could see that he might have been attracted to me, but that didn't mean he entertained the same thoughts as me.

He let me down easy and told me that while he did feel something for me, he wanted to go about it slowly and carefully. His words were "We may be getting divorced, but I'm not going to be a cheater like they were". Bit of a downer when he framed it like that, but he has a good point.

James also said that he has no intention of getting involved with anyone during these first few months, until his mind is all cleared, but that he does feel something for me and that he would like to see if the two of us could actually work out together as something more than just this connection between us where our spouses cheated on us with each other.

I don't rightly know why I'm here, why I wrote all this. I suppose it helps putting things in perspective, and maybe I just want some opinions from people who don't know me, who won't try to justify what I feel and what I did with James (kissing him uninvited) because they're my family. My aunts and uncles and cousins offer plenty of support, but they also tend to abstain from judging my actions too much because of the family filtered glasses they look at me and my situation.

Could this work? If we take it slow, if we make drat sure that this is what we actually want and if it's not just some innate response to our spouses cheating on us, some petty urge to spite them by getting together, does this stand a chance? Has anyone actually seen or heard about something like this working out for the better for the wronged spouses?

tl;dr: Got cheated on my husband, who had a year long affair with my sister, who was also married. Found out about the affair from my brother-in-law who found out about it first. Started divorce proceedings, still ongoing, and in the meantime started getting close to my BIL. Got inappropriate with him a week ago, but he didn't completely reject me, just said we needed time to clear out our situation before doing anything further. With how this whole thing started, could we actually stand a chance, could our relationship work in the long run?

# ? Dec 24, 2016 16:16

LethalGeek: Nov 4, 2009

^^^^ this seems ok to me :shrug:

Doc Hawkins posted:

I have seen Welcome to NHK, so I get why someone would suggest it for this situation: it's a black comedy whose main character watches so much television, including anime, that he begins to have paranoid delusions. The message of the show is that there are no dark conspiracies, no secret worlds, no special powers, just sad people who always have a chance to make themselves less sad.

...I think you'd have to be pretty drat far gone to call it "life-changing."

The kind of person who watches anime has very low expectations of their media so it makes perfect sense to me.

LethalGeek fucked around with this message at 16:22 on Dec 24, 2016

# ? Dec 24, 2016 16:18

WampaLord: Jan 14, 2010

Two cheating victims getting with each other is like the best revenge/outcome possible imo as long as they're happy.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 16:33

Giraffe: Dec 12, 2005; Soiled Meat

Griefor posted:

Pretty audacious to do your cheating in the house of your partner that you do not live in.

A lot of the Reddit comments are hung up on this, but he does note that her workplace is only fifteen minutes from his apartment compared with an hour from hers. Opening presents tomorrow should be interesting, though. If she just gives him a book and a watch, I suspect there will be an awkward conversation by the Christmas tree.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 17:03

Jeffrey of YOSPOS: Dec 22, 2005; GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

That's also known as "completing the square".

# ? Dec 24, 2016 17:04

DOMDOM: Apr 28, 2007; Fun Shoe

TL;DR: I think my sister is a porn actress, and now I'm sad.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 17:43

Pvt.Scott: Feb 16, 2007; What God wants, God gets, God help us all

Griefor posted:

Imagine if people treated other aspects of life the same way.

Hmm, John is always late for work and keeps slacking off, plus he is rude to his direct superior. I'm sure that if we give him a permanent contract, a raise, promote him and give him many more responsibilities, he will shape up though.

Uh, have you never heard of failing your way to the top? Promoting the problem upwards is a thing that happens. Networking pays!

# ? Dec 24, 2016 18:17

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

My gf asked for an open relationship after dating over a year

quote:

Okay so I (Michael)(m)(23) will give as much backstory I feel is important to describe our relationship also sorry im on mobile. We have been together for over a year live together had our own place really close. My girlfriend (Katie)(23)(f) is bi sexual and we have had one threesome and are always looking but haven't gotten lucky on that again. At first I wasn't okay with her hooking up with a girl without me I felt it was cheating having sex with another person guy or girl is cheating which I do still believe is true but I opened up to the idea.
After a while I made a sacrafice and put my male ego aside and said it was okay for her to hook up with a girl alone occasionally because I love her and finally accept she has urges I can't fulfill and am 100 percent okay with now.
This was a huge deal for me and her and now it honestly doesn't bother me at all. She actually still has yet to hooked up with a girl alone but it is ok and on the table. Then she said it was okay for me to have sex with a girl if I wanted to with a strict set of rules like not in our house I have to see her and approve just sex no hanging out and some more I can't recall. I appreciated her for also trying to be selfless but I have a pretty traditional view on relationship and I love Katie to death and even though she gave me the go ahead I would feel like im cheating and have no interest and also don't think I could I want her and only her.Katie is able to separate sex and emotions and love sex is just sex to her. Now she's been gone in California the past two months getting a change of scenery to help fight her depression and will be back in a month or two.
Now flash forward to today im at work and texted her that my work gf gave me a Starbucks gift card for Xmas. Now that was my fault I meant it in a joking manner the girl is cute but we aren't close every conversation we've had was strictly work related and she was giving out cards to the whole dept. So my gf got jealous and said why have you never mentioned her and I said she was pretty but definitely not close or work gf I said jokingly. Then my girlfriend asks if I want to be in an open relationship until she gets back.
My stomach dropped and heart shattered instantly. I say Wtf no I don't want other guys having sex with you why would you think that. She said I miss sex ,I miss Dick.we have been over this before looking for threesomes and knew I would never be okay with her and another man and she agreed and said she didn't want to either. So I am hurt she would even ask its only been two months since we've had sex and she's already willing to be with someone else because she misses sex.
She is upset with the way I reacted I did freak out but I didn't call her names nothing bad I handled it well but she doesn't understand why it hurt me so much its not going to happen etc. I feel like she just asked permission to cheat on me and it hurts and she thinks its no big deal and I don't know how to articulate to her how much it hurts me and why she gets defensive and says im overreacting. She's now saying she's mad at me because I didn't tell her about the cute girl at work and only suggested an open relationship so I could try to hook up with the cute girl at work even though immediately after asking she said she misses Dick and misses sex. I guess im just looking for others opinions and a way to explain to her that she will understand that just asking for an open relationship and being willing/wanting to gently caress another guy is a big deal.
I feel like she was being inconsiderate and selfish. I obviously said no and I know she wont im just hurt she would gently caress other guys when were together and she said she thought I would be okay with it despite me saying and her agreeing we don't want that and me saying im not okay with her and other guys in the past when a couple wanted her to be a unicorn for them. Sorry for rambling and wall of text im new to this.
Tl;Dr girlfriend asked me if I wanted an open relationship after dating over a year and living together most of that time. She doesn't understand why I got upset and hurt and doesn't think its a big deal and says I am overreacting. When I try to explain myself she gets angry and defensive doesn't understand why asking that would upset me how can I explain to her that it is a big deal or is it not a big deal and am I over reacting? Is it rational im mad she even asked?
Also I do not think there is another guy or she's cheating but of course I could be wrong but I don't suspect it

She's cheating on him and dude should have :sever:

months ago.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 18:24

Chichevache: Feb 17, 2010; One of the funniest posters in GIP.

Just not intentionally.

Streak posted:

Never has the answer to anything been "watch more anime"

What if I've been watching so much good television lately that I've become desensitized to how fantastic West World and other modern American shows have become? I need some way to really appreciate how good Peaky Blinders and It's Always Sunny are.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 19:33

Sotar: Dec 1, 2009

Chichevache posted:

What if I've been watching so much good television lately that I've become desensitized to how fantastic West World and other modern American shows have become? I need some way to really appreciate how good Peaky Blinders and It's Always Sunny are.

Then watch british TV

# ? Dec 24, 2016 19:43

Chichevache: Feb 17, 2010; One of the funniest posters in GIP.

Just not intentionally.

Sotar posted:

Then watch british TV

Are you trying to say that British television is so bad that it will help me recognize the beauty in American programming? Peepshow is pretty good, dog. I'm sorry you feel that way.

Edit
VVVV
:lol:

Chichevache fucked around with this message at 19:58 on Dec 24, 2016

# ? Dec 24, 2016 19:52

Thundercloud: Mar 28, 2010; To boldly be eaten where no grot has been eaten before!

The last thing we need is more loving Teeaboos.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 19:55

lohli: Jun 30, 2008

Anime guy is obviously broken and on an escapism bender, probably just needs therapy to come to terms with poo poo going south.

# ? Dec 24, 2016 20:07

Bibliotechno Music: Dec 30, 2008

"Me (28f) with my husband (28m), am I spending too much on gifts?" posted:

Like the title says; I don't want to sound like a Scroge but I feel there is a huge discrepancy in our gift giving amounts. So I find this time of the year to be very stressful because it's very difficult for me to get gifts for others. This is because I'll spend hours pouring over getting "thoughtful" gifts. Things people actually like; and the results are usually great, but this year (I have a lot of friends and family overseas) I asked my husband to help me out a little on his end by giving me a wish list and promising I'll also do a surprise gift not on the list. Okay; so his list comprises of Broadway tickets, figures from his game starting at $150 each, a super expensive Kickstarter board game (roughly $300) etc. etc. this all totaled to be over $1,000 and I started taking up more freelance and more hours to pay for it all (these are just for his gifts not including family or friends). So my husband has seen me overworked and asked me to cut down my hours. He works as a manager at a software company and easily makes 5x more than I do. I told him I can't simply cut hours as how else am I supposed to pay for all of these gifts? He told me that he knows I make less but couldn't be spending that much. I then asked him about how much he had spent on my bday/ Xmas gifts all together?

"About $100."

"Per gift?"

"No, total."

So now I feel terrible. I know it's the thought that counts and it's not like I'll return his gifts to the store but really? It's Christmas Eve I'm not gonna go "Go buy me more presents!" But at the same time it's not as if he didn't know the list he gave me werent super expensive items. (I mean he's awesome and deserves every single one, but that's besides the point.) what do?

TL;DR: husband gave me a wishlist for Christmas. Spent over $1,000 on presents. Asked how much he has spent on my bday/ Xmas combined- "about $100 total." How do I stop feeling lovely?

In the comments, she checked with him and yes, he expected to receive everything on his list...because he got everything on her list. Her list was "a mug, lotion, a sweater."
Holy poo poo what a dick.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 03:35

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

Bibliotechno Music posted:

quote:
(I mean he's awesome and deserves every single one, but that's besides the point.)

Yeah he sure sounds like it. Dude asks for over a thousand bucks worth of presents, then tells her not to spend so much/work so many hours :psyduck:

# ? Dec 25, 2016 03:46

Serephina: Nov 8, 2005; 恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー

Um they're married, so the finances are shared, so the monetary imbalance is much less of a 'thing'. If they-as-a-couple are happy spending big bucks on toys for Xmas, more power to them. And he's asking her to cut _her_ hours when he's the breadwinner, seems considerate? Now if they're just dating and have split finances yes this is a huge dick move, but it really sounds like she has guilt issues over the perceived imbalance. I had a similar thing with my wife since she earned so much more than me, and she loved giving extravagant gifts while I was a total miser.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:01

Subjunctive: Sep 12, 2006; ✨sparkle and shine✨

Not all married couples share all finances.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:03

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

Subjunctive posted:

Not all married couples share all finances.

Especially not assholes

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:06

54 40 or fuck: Jan 4, 2012; No Yanda's allowed

Serephina posted:

Um they're married, so the finances are shared, so the monetary imbalance is much less of a 'thing'. If they-as-a-couple are happy spending big bucks on toys for Xmas, more power to them. And he's asking her to cut _her_ hours when he's the breadwinner, seems considerate? Now if they're just dating and have split finances yes this is a huge dick move, but it really sounds like she has guilt issues over the perceived imbalance. I had a similar thing with my wife since she earned so much more than me, and she loved giving extravagant gifts while I was a total miser.

My husband and I don't share finances but holy poo poo that guy is a dick . Even just asking for it seems so alien to me. I don't think I've asked for something specifically from anyone for Christmas for years now

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:12

Scudworth: Jan 1, 2005; When life gives you lemons, you clone those lemons, and make super lemons.; Dinosaur Gum

Serephina posted:

Um they're married, so the finances are shared, so the monetary imbalance is much less of a 'thing'.

Sharing finances is not a thing for every marriage and if she took on extra work you can safely assume they're not doing that.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:22

Clocks: Oct 2, 2007

The seriously weird part is where he expects her to get ALL the things on his list instead of it being a guideline for like a single gift. What the gently caress?

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:22

Motherfucker: Jul 16, 2011; I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.

Bibliotechno Music posted:

In the comments, she checked with him and yes, he expected to receive everything on his list...because he got everything on her list. Her list was "a mug, lotion, a sweater."
Holy poo poo what a dick.

Hey man just because she had the wrong expectations, next year she should wish for tickets to Cancun and a lifetime supply of Kahlua

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:34

54 40 or fuck: Jan 4, 2012; No Yanda's allowed

Clocks posted:

The seriously weird part is where he expects her to get ALL the things on his list instead of it being a guideline for like a single gift. What the gently caress?

How could you be so tone deaf in a relationship that you think it's remotely okay to spend that relatively small amount because it was all she asked for and still think it's fair to expect all your decadent gifts be bought? I can't fathom how selfish this guy is.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:37

Mocking Bird: Aug 17, 2011

54 40 or gently caress posted:

How could you be so tone deaf in a relationship that you think it's remotely okay to spend that relatively small amount because it was all she asked for and still think it's fair to expect all your decadent gifts be bought? I can't fathom how selfish this guy is.

Well....

quote:

He works as a manager at a software company

Fuckin tech bros man

I know several friends with socially and emotionally juvenile partners like this and tech seems to sing a sirens call to them

# ? Dec 25, 2016 04:45

tater_salad: Sep 15, 2007

Wow, a cool hundred on her gifts, this guy's awesome.

My non wife is getting more than $100 spent on her.
The only time I've spent less than this is when I was in my early 20s and struggling to buy our kids poo poo and even then my wife at the time got SOMETHING to open.

Never date or marry an autist if you want things to make sense / be fair.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 14:50

Panfilo: Aug 27, 2011; EXISTENCE IS PAIN😬

Subjunctive posted:

Not all married couples share all finances.

I always found this kind of strange. Legally a married couples finances are comingled anyway and having each couple kick over their half of expenses for bills feels redundant. I have some in laws that are like this and it's a constant source of strife because even though each is supposed to contribute their 'half', the wife inevitably paid for 100% of their kids' expenses in addition to everything else.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 15:15

Leon Einstein: Feb 6, 2012; I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

It's very weird for couples not to share finances, but if they don't have the same mentality about money, it makes sense. I'm guessing the failure rate is higher in those marriages.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 15:26

Lockback: Sep 3, 2006; All days are nights to see till I see thee; and nights bright days when dreams do show me thee.

Leon Einstein posted:

It's very weird for couples not to share finances, but if they don't have the same mentality about money, it makes sense. I'm guessing the failure rate is higher in those marriages.

Wow, what other judgments can you cast out without knowing poo poo?

# ? Dec 25, 2016 15:56

Subjunctive: Sep 12, 2006; ✨sparkle and shine✨

My wife and I had individual savings accounts that were funded a little bit every month. We used it for stuff we wanted but didn't need, and gifts for each other. Just a budget category really, but it was handy.

# ? Dec 25, 2016 16:00

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# ? May 9, 2024 18:17

Bonzo: Mar 11, 2004; Just like Mama used to make it!

My [36f] son [15M] threw and stomped on a xbox game he got for christmas because it was not the one he wanted. My husband wants to let it go

quote:

I have never been so pissed off in my entire life. My son crossed a line tonight my husband just wants to let it go. Like we're in loving frozen all of a sudden, just let it go he says, it's christmas he says.
My little step nephew was here, he was three years old. My brother married a woman that had a child from a previous relationship. He was showing them this toy he got from Santa. He has a broken foot so he was not walking around much and just sat next to his mom for most of the day. She is also pregnant with a girl at the moment so my brother was looking after both of them. One thing I will say is he treats Buck like his own.

My son wanted a video game called Titanfall. That's literally what he wrote on the paper black and white. There was no number in front of it, just titanfall. I went to EB Games and I asked for the game and the clerk gave me the game. I payed for it and I was on my way. He opened it and he threw it on the ground and stomped on it. An argument commenced and he stormed off to his room and yet again my husband leaps in to defend him. I punish him and then my stupid husband goes against everything I set in place.

My SIL turned to her son and said "Just do you know, Buck, if you did that to one of you're toys you would never see another one." I felt really embarrased help please.
TL;DR: Son stomped on video game because it was not the right one.

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