|
HardDiskD posted:Me [18 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 5 months, she wants to hold out for sex. Is it worth it? go down on her and change her life, young man if she won't even allow that then sever immediately
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:46
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 14, 2024 08:37 |
|
|
Cough Drop The Beat posted:There is no reason to tell your girlfriend that you lost your virginity to a sex worker while visiting Germany when the near certain result is angering your partner and likely killing your relationship. Period. dont get me wrong i totally would not tell her in that guys shoes it just seems like a kinda scummy thing to do as youre continuing the relationship when you know you wouldn't if your girlfriend knew the truth
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:47
|
|
|
I honestly don't think "I'm saving myself for marriage" -> "okay, I'll have sex with you" -> "I've thought about it and I'm not quite ready yet, can we get the relationship more solid?" is a crazy train of thought. Five months would be long enough for most people, sure, but if she's just becoming open to premarital sex at all, it's not insane for her to need a little longer. Better than either demanding marriage or having sex she's not ready for, IMHO.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:47
|
|
|
Gaunab posted:My wife[33 F] was cheating on me [32 M] and got mad at me while cheating for being jealous. I'm pretty sure there has never in the history of the entire universe been a real instance of someone "hacking" dirty pictures on to someone's Snapchat or Facebook chat or whatever other method of sharing photos. There were probably people in Roman times claiming their tasteful pottery collection had been vandalised with pictures of their paramour when they got caught out, and I'm sure some dope believed it
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:47
|
|
|
WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My [38 M] son [10 M] keeps on mansplaining to my daughter [6 F] and wife [31 F] boner confessor posted:"oh no, children making a moderate amount of noise during the afternoon, my day is ruined. what kind of rear end in a top hat lets their kids outside where i can see them. this is very distracting while i am painting my miniatures" -r/childfree I have a friend who works nights and sleeps during the day and even tho he's asked the parents if their kids could play anywhere other than right outside his door because it wakes him up (it is seriously loud, I've heard it before) it stops for like 1 day at best.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:49
|
|
|
WampaLord posted:Please don't start a major consent derail over this, but this is an extremely hosed up thing to do on her part. Obviously she doesn't have to have sex just because she said she would, but don't promise that poo poo if you're not gonna follow through. It's her right to change her mind as much as she likes. The problem is she isn't likely to ever feel comfortable having sex before marriage. If the boyfriend ever talked her into doing it, she would probably just resent him for it. The answer is that waiting probably isn't worth it. Sex isn't everything, but I can't imagine this couple ever having a good sex life.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:49
|
|
|
A Wizard of Goatse posted:I blame them both for being stupid loving kids wasting each others' time for months without hammering out basic poo poo like 'should loving be part of our relationship' You live and you learn. Kids build up sex as this amazing life-changing experience when it's just an ordinary aspect of any healthy relationship like giving back massages, kissing, or having regular date nights. Purity culture fucks teenage relationships up hardcore too. There's probably no chance they could ever have decent sex together anyways. Certainly not the girl in this scenario.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:49
|
|
|
Krabboss posted:If the boyfriend ever talked her into doing it, she would probably just resent him for it. Or maybe she'd realize sex is cool and good, you can't know either way.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:54
|
|
|
Antivehicular posted:I honestly don't think "I'm saving myself for marriage" -> "okay, I'll have sex with you" -> "I've thought about it and I'm not quite ready yet, can we get the relationship more solid?" is a crazy train of thought. Five months would be long enough for most people, sure, but if she's just becoming open to premarital sex at all, it's not insane for her to need a little longer. Better than either demanding marriage or having sex she's not ready for, IMHO. Yeah, sounds like she's not ready. She got talked into it but once she had time to think it over she felt differently. They're just incompatible.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:56
|
|
|
ArbitraryC posted:It seems like such an obvious troll but why would they delete it then? Is whole thread gone or are there any comments? A friend [22M] noticed some marks left on me [22F] from rough sex. He is now convinced that I'm brainwashed and my boyfriend [24M] is beating me. quote:Throwaway, because I'm embarrassed as all gently caress.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:56
|
|
|
Antivehicular posted:I honestly don't think "I'm saving myself for marriage" -> "okay, I'll have sex with you" -> "I've thought about it and I'm not quite ready yet, can we get the relationship more solid?" is a crazy train of thought. Five months would be long enough for most people, sure, but if she's just becoming open to premarital sex at all, it's not insane for her to need a little longer. Better than either demanding marriage or having sex she's not ready for, IMHO. the problem isn't with her, it's with the dude who desperately wants to get in her pants and is willing to sit around not having sex holding out for the possibility she might change her mind. you only get so many young, prime fuckin' years, it's completely stupid to wait for someone to change into the person you want them to be rather than just going out and find someone who already is the person you want them to be ArbitraryC posted:
sucks for your buddy but if he works nights, is a light sleeper, and lives in an apartment then that sounds like his problem and not everyone else's boner confessor fucked around with this message at 20:01 on Jan 4, 2017 |
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:58
|
|
|
WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:A friend [22M] noticed some marks left on me [22F] from rough sex. He is now convinced that I'm brainwashed and my boyfriend [24M] is beating me. Woof. This is a tough one, because the only good advice (hide your sex bruises) is no longer applicable. Can't unring that bell.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 19:59
|
|
|
WampaLord posted:Please don't start a major consent derail over this, but this is an extremely hosed up thing to do on her part. Obviously she doesn't have to have sex just because she said she would, but don't promise that poo poo if you're not gonna follow through. You can't drop something like this and demand no derails. It's not hosed up at all for her to change her mind at any time. Toxic poo poo like this take lets people think they're entitled to sex. That said, two teenagers discovering they are sexually incompatible is not the end of the world and they should probably break up.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:00
|
|
Tater Love 
|
WampaLord posted:Woof. This is a tough one, because the only good advice (hide your sex bruises) is no longer applicable. Can't unring that bell.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:02
|
|
|
She'll just have to tell her parents the bruises are the result of her maintaining her purity through self mortification
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:02
|
|
|
He [29M] forgot the car seat again, my [27F] last straw? married nearly 4 yearsquote:I tend to just deal with stuff until I explode... I'm really about to explode. Is this reasonable? What steps should I take? How do I explain my feelings/expectations to my husband? I got some advice for the husband, anyway
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:03
|
|
|
She feels so guilty over having sex outside of marriage that she's been self-flagellating ala the scarlet letter guy.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:03
|
|
|
The friend lifted her shirt with out consent. That's gross as gently caress and she needs to get away from him.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:03
|
|
|
boner confessor posted:sucks for your buddy but if he works nights, is a light sleeper, and lives in an apartment then that sounds like his problem and not everyone else's
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:04
|
|
|
Ride The Gravitron posted:The friend lifted her shirt with out consent. That's gross as gently caress and she needs to get away from him. I mean, it's a fairly normal reaction for noticing a wound on someone. Everything else he did is the gross part.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:05
|
|
|
WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:A friend [22M] noticed some marks left on me [22F] from rough sex. He is now convinced that I'm brainwashed and my boyfriend [24M] is beating me. I think this is the point in your life where you need to decide to grow a spine. Stand up for yourself and be assertive. Tell them all the truth about what is happening, and if they can't deal with it or refuse to drop it, forcefully tell them to gently caress off and get the gently caress out of your private sex life. Or start grilling them about their sex life and all the gritty details that you have no business knowing. If they're halfway decent people they should realize they've crossed a line.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:06
|
|
|
Ride The Gravitron posted:The friend lifted her shirt with out consent. That's gross as gently caress and she needs to get away from him. At this point she'd be within her rights to just tell people that he's a creep who tried to lift her shirt up and got angry when she tried to stop him as far as I'm concerned
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:06
|
|
|
ArbitraryC posted:It's pretty reasonable to ask them to not play right outside his door when he has a good reason for it. unless this guy's doormat is a magical fairy land of disney style whimsy and imagination i'm going to assume that the children are not playing immediately outside his door and he's exaggerating the situation out of frustration and or shame. children, as a whole, are generally not entertained by doors Dial-a-Dog posted:At this point she'd be within her rights to just tell people that he's a creep who tried to lift her shirt up and got angry when she tried to stop him as far as I'm concerned yeah, tell people you do roller derby or rock climbing or something and this guy was inspecting your body in a perv way
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:06
|
|
|
Unless you are a trained medical professional about to save a life, no it is not normal
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:07
|
|
|
WampaLord posted:I mean, it's a fairly normal reaction for noticing a wound on someone. Everything else he did is the gross part. no it loving isn't, don't grab people out of nowhere and strip them just cause you're curious what they got under their clothes
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:07
|
|
|
A Wizard of Goatse posted:no it loving isn't, don't grab people out of nowhere and strip them just cause you're curious what they got under their clothes I loving give up.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:08
|
|
|
boner confessor posted:unless this guy's doormat is a magical fairy land of disney style whimsy and imagination i'm going to assume that the children are not playing immediately outside his door and he's exaggerating the situation out of frustration and or shame. children, as a whole, are generally not entertained by doors it is literally outside his door, I've been there on one of his day's off and the way the apartment is setup does indeed mean being 2 feet from his front door is a plausible spot for children to play, but there are also other areas.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:08
|
|
|
WampaLord bringing in the hot takes on consent all over this last page, ladies watch out if you've got a bruise on your hip, those pants are coming off
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:09
|
|
|
WampaLord posted:I mean, it's a fairly normal reaction for noticing a wound on someone. Everything else he did is the gross part. This following your extremely dubious take on consent isn't very surprising.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:09
|
|
|
A Wizard of Goatse posted:no it loving isn't, don't grab people out of nowhere and strip them just cause you're curious what they got under their clothes Yeah he sure did strip her 
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:09
|
|
|
I look forward to my upcoming red text about how I'm a rapist.monkeytennis posted:Yeah he sure did strip her loving thank you.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:09
|
|
|
Not reddit, but picking up a post from MetaFilter, which is a bit like shooting fish in a barrel:quote:Donald Trump killed my sex life
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:11
|
|
|
ArbitraryC posted:it is literally outside his door, I've been there on one of his day's off and the way the apartment is setup does indeed mean being 2 feet from his front door is a plausible spot for children to play, but there are also other areas. Just drown it out with the groans of pleasure from when he's finishing in your rear end.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:11
|
|
|
Go ahead and lift your female friend's shirt without asking, let me know how that works out for you.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:11
|
|
|
WampaLord posted:I look forward to my upcoming red text about how I'm a rapist. We'll go down together! (Not in a pervy, rapey way though). 
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:12
|
|
|
WampaLord posted:I look forward to my upcoming red text about how I'm a rapist. Maybe don't try to normalize lifting up women's shirts with out their consent.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:12
|
|
|
FreakOfScience posted:Not reddit, but picking up a post from MetaFilter, which is a bit like shooting fish in a barrel: Sounds like he built a wall in their bedroom
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:13
|
|
|
FreakOfScience posted:Not reddit, but picking up a post from MetaFilter, which is a bit like shooting fish in a barrel: They need one of them to role play as a conservative and do some hate loving.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:14
|
|
|
I'd rather have an orgy of non-consensual skirt lifting take place right outside my door than listen to this crap any longer.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:15
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 14, 2024 08:37 |
|
|
zakharov posted:Go ahead and lift your female friend's shirt without asking, let me know how that works out for you. It honestly sounds like something that would happen on an old drama show where you're supposed to think it was a good thing for the guy to do cause he was just being protective and her boyfriend is a real shitbag but someone doing that irl just floors me. Plus straight up telling her that "She's brainwashed" then going behind her back and telling everyone she knows about it makes the dude seem like he's probably got some ulterior motives.
|
|
#
?
Jan 4, 2017 20:16
|
|