Pick posted:

Me [23F] with my Brother [26M] mom passed away and gave me significantly more "inheritance" than my brother because I was her caretaker. He is furiousNon-Romantic

Antivehicular posted:

Calling it now: the dude has decided he doesn't actually want a kid and thinks that the OP has gotten pregnant again deliberately to "entrap" him or WTF ever.

VanSandman posted:

Because he's a moron.

Meridian posted:

Eeesh. I think one of the best things one can bring to a relationship is being debt free. 100k debt and lecturing her about her financial poo poo? Come on son.

WampaLord posted:

One the one hard, sports cars are stupid, but on the other hand he can clearly afford it without putting himself into debt so gently caress it.

Pick posted:

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My[30m] wife[30f] became a different woman after we married.Relationships
submitted 2 years ago by bombinth

Hello reddit I am hoping you guys can give me insight on what to do with my relationship to my wife. My wife and I dated for about a year and a half until I proposed and we were engaged for 4 months. We have been married for 15 months.

During the time we were dating our relationship was amazing. My wife(girlfriend at the time) connected very well. She would do all sorts of things to make me happy. Every week she would ask for a list of recipes I wanted her to make for her. Sex was frequent and she would be up for it whenever I wanted. To add to that, she would regularly blow me for long periods of time and did so enthusiastically. Everything was so spontaneous. When we would go out in public she would hold onto me tightly. She would give me great haircuts as well.

My parents loved her, and so did my friends and family. Everyone I told about the relationship would all tell me to lock that down. One thing I want to point out, is that there was no significant disparity in wealth. I only make 10k more than her, plus she had a lot of frugal habits.

We ended up getting married and very quickly things started going downhill. Our ritual of her making food from recipes quickly came to a halt. She told me that she was too stressed out from work, which I accepted. However, other things quickly started to go. Sex dropped from whenever I wanted, to about once a week. She stopped giving me blow jobs because she said it strained her jaw however she had no problem doing it before we married. A lot of times when she comes home she will just spend time playing games on her Ipad.

I have talked to her about but nothing really changed. About sex, she told me that if I really want it that bad she can bend over for me and I can finish. I don’t want that, I want her to enjoy herself too. When it comes to the recipes, she says she will get to it when things slow down at work however nothing has.

Our relationship isn’t bad, we don’t fight often and she does do a good bit of things. However, I do feel cheated in a way that our pre marriage relationship was so amazing. Now my wife is talking about children, and frankly I don’t want to go down the path of kids because it will get even worse. When I brought this up, she tells me that I am being extremely selfish.

tl;dr: our premarriage relationship was awesome. After we got married things went down the drain

Leon Einstein posted:

Nah, it's bad to spend your annual salary on a car. The general rule of thumb is 1/5 your income. Also, doesn't sound like he's got other savings. It's a stupid move financially.

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WampaLord posted:

Is the pregnant lady overreacting or not about scooping the litter? Is that something that a pregnant lady should not do under any circumstance?


Yea I missed the price of the car when reading the story. It's BWM.

Also, Pick, you have to slow down. Don't dump 12 stories back to back, people need time to discuss.

Pick posted:

:toxo: is a genuine risk to an unborn child.

VanSandman posted:

Which is why no one who wants children should have cats.

Pick posted:

Me [25 M] with my wife [25 F] of 5 years, she uses "her feelings" to impose annoying restrictions that are insignificant.Relationships

Pick posted:

:toxo: is a genuine risk to an unborn child.

LSD CURES JUNKIES posted:

No she isn't,toxoplasmosis can cause terrible birth defects and it's transmitted by infected cat poo poo.

Pick posted:

They pick it up hunting rodents; if a cat is an indoor cat and doesn't hunt rodents it's not a problem.

LSD CURES JUNKIES posted:

Why can't he just buy a used one?

Pick posted:

They pick it up hunting rodents; if a cat is an indoor cat and doesn't hunt rodents it's not a problem.

Pick posted:

Sorry, spending 120K on a sports car when you make 130K a year pre-taxes, and don't own a home or any other sound investments first, is insane and insanely stupid.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

But you weren't induced at 30 weeks

....right?

WampaLord posted:

Is the pregnant lady overreacting or not about scooping the litter? Is that something that a pregnant lady should not do under any circumstance?

JnnyThndrs posted:

(Sidenote: his salary sounds high, but without significant deductions[like mortgage interest] , taxes will utterly bury him, he's probably looking at ~70K take-home, and depending on where he lives, that's not that much money)

Pick posted:

They pick it up hunting rodents; if a cat is an indoor cat and doesn't hunt rodents it's not a problem.

ravenkult posted:

I don't know if I'm projecting, but I know 100% what he's talking about and it's annoying as gently caress. I had an ex that expected me to wake up in the middle of the night because she worked night shift, which meant going to bed at like eight in the afternoon like I'm 90 years old.

Leon Einstein posted:

Nah, it's bad to spend your annual salary on a car. The general rule of thumb is 1/5 your income. Also, doesn't sound like he's got other savings. It's a stupid move financially.

Antivehicular posted:

Hyperbole aside, some of this stuff does sound irritating, like the carpooling. It's just that his throwing in stuff like "she wants me to pick up my side of the room" makes me assume some of it is just him whining.

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And not to mention that he was getting lap dances and feeling on some other girl's tits. Its pretty drat close to cheating in my eyes.

Antivehicular posted:

Hyperbole aside, some of this stuff does sound irritating, like the carpooling. It's just that his throwing in stuff like "she wants me to pick up my side of the room" makes me assume some of it is just him whining.

ArbitraryC posted:

It's super hard to tell from the post and it's also really hard to judge who needs to do a better job of meeting the person halfway. "When you do x it makes me feel y and we need to do something about that because it's important to me" can either be completely reasonable or incredibly unfair depending on the context.

ArbitraryC posted:

Kind of telling that he doesn't mention at all what he does for her.

LSD CURES JUNKIES posted:

That's what I think too. He doesn't want to help cause he doesn't care and doesn't want a kid. What a shitbag.

Pick posted:

The Gothest Manipulator

Pick posted:

hmmmmm seems like a bit of a tangent, this is about him not getting what he wants from her all the time

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

literally 100% of the time the kind of person who says "I am a very analytic and logical person" and dismisses the other person as this wibbling illogical mass of feelings is actually just an rear end in a top hat incapable of distinguishing what they want from the dictates of pure Vulcan logic

ArbitraryC posted:

Maybe they just need couples therapy.

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Boyfriend (21 M) got upset at me (20 F) about a cheese cake I madeRelationships
submitted 1 year ago * by Cheesecakethrowaway1

Throwaway because we share a reddit account but he also knows about my interest in this sub. Sometimes will check it out.

This Christmas him and his family asked me to stay in town as opposed to going home. I have been here for about a month now. I attend school here but out for the break.

The month I have been here during the week days my boyfriend works and I stay at home with his family. I love to bake and cook. When he is working I would bake something or make dinner for when he gets home. The entire time we have been dating I have always catered to what he like and doesn't like. I missed making a few things and brought up that I want to make a couple things but knew he wouldn't like it. He supported me and gave me the okay. We went to the store and got what I needed. He got mad at me for some of the stuff I was getting and even yelled at me for getting cookies when we already had gram crackers that could be used for a crust.

I should of known and just stopped there. I was planning on making cheese cake bars with a chocolate topping. He said once that it may be to big and it would be wise to downsize. Everything I had made in the past week was nearly gone right after I was done making it. I talked to his mom and asked what she thought and she said to make the full size deal. So I make it in the next few days. When he got home he instantly was making comments. Chocolate is gross. You should of done half without chocolate. It's to big. Etc. It has been about a week and a half now and he makes a comment every day.

We have discussed multiple times that I will make it smaller next time and that I was sorry. Yet he keeps bringing it up. Last night was his breaking point. I made chicken. But it had skin and bone which he voiced he didn't like. I offered to use normal chicken breasts and he said he will just try it how it should be. After I have cut all the ingredients and about to start cooking he tells me it is to big. I tell him other people can have some and left it at that. He didn't like it but told me he did. Took some to work and didn't even eat it. Had to throw it away and there is still some of the cheese cake and chicken in the fridge.

This morning we were cleaning up and he looked in the fridge and said yet again you need to make this smaller and should of listened to me about the chicken. I confronted him saying that he shouldn't of taken the chicken if he didn't like it because other people said they would eat it. But also that it isn't needed for him to bring it up every day that I made to much and that he didn't like the cheese cake. He said well its been in there every day. We argued and I explained I messed up but also that it isn't okay for him to keep nagging me and bringing it up every day. That it doesn't make me feel good or make me want to make something again. He said I am wrong and that I am being wasteful.

What do I do or say? I am hurt he keeps bringing up that he didn't like it and that it was to big. Seems like he is just trying to prove he was right but being rude about it.
Tldr; made a cheese cake I knew my boyfriend wouldn't like. Ended up having to throw some away. Brought up every day since I made it that he was right about making a smaller one, that he hates chocolate, that I should of made some without for him, that I am wasteful.

Edit: He doesn't say it nicely and is speaking down to me. We have had about 4 or 5 discussions about making it smaller or what I should do next time. That I shouldn't make it again because HE didn't like it. Then also would bring it up maybe once a day on top of the other discussions we have had. Everytime he opens the fridge he would say

Edit: PM for recipe

Edit: Tried to talk to him again. He was playing fallout the entire time. Laughed when I asked him to stop. Had a horrible attitude

Pick posted:

cheesecake

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I want to start by saying I watch porn, I enjoy it, and I have - up until recently - had no issue with my significant others watching or viewing it. My boyfriend and I have been together five months and recently he's felt comfortable enough to watch pornography together. At first he insisted I chose, but recently he's been slowly showing me his and I'm honestly a little uncomfortable with the subject matter and themes that he insists are just fantasy and I should be fine with it. The subject matter that concerns me is primarily the treatment of women in the art and videos in his collection. He has a lot of anime porn and drawn porn saved from deviant art and in it women are beaten, choked, chained up against their will, often the sex is non consensual (if the objections and struggles and violent reactions are anything to go by), a type of porn he calls 'stuck' where women are usually trapped in a small space and then taken advantage of, and what seemed to be a slave auction of fantasy type (orc, troll, elf, furry type people) women. One piece that really stuck out to me involved goblin men throwing rocks at the exposed backside of a naked elf woman in a stockade. I just don't understand this and was hoping to have some outside input on if I'm overreacting to harmless fantasy that's a bit more risqué than my own or if this is something less normal. I feel I should add that he is never violent towards me which is why I'm concerned I'm overreacting - in fact he is incredibly submissive where as I take a very dominant role (which is something he suggested, I enjoy greatly, and he has politely declined any interest in changing when I asked if he wanted a turn or chance to tie me up). I'm not sure if that has bearing on this, but I figure the more info the better.

TL;DR: My boyfriend insists the violence and dehumanization in his preferred flavor of porn is nothing to be concerned about but I am unsure as I've not encountered porn like this before and seek an outsiders perspective before escalation on the conversation on said porn.