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Mirthless posted:it would have to get intercepted, though, and the big vendors on alphabay make 20,000+ sales a year, they know how to ship drugs without it getting detected in transit. USPS can't monitor your mail without a warrant so unless he was on probation for exactly this sort of thing AND they had reason to believe he was back into it they would more than likely never intercept. If you were going to do something like this you'd want to order something detectable (like a large amount of MDMA or Heroin) from the Netherlands or some other country that customs pays extra close attention to, and even then it would have to be a significant enough amount to launch an investigation. There's so much protection in the system against this sort of plan that it's completely infeasible. my mom works for the post office and it's a ton. She's never smoked weed and can describe to me in excruciating detail what it smells like.
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:You could always have it shipped to his house, give him time to open it, then call the police absolutely irate that your loving convict neighbor is opening boxes of drugs on his goddamn porch when there's kids around. People do this, usually with heroin, and usually to information security bloggers.
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:You could always have it shipped to his house, give him time to open it, then call the police absolutely irate that your loving convict neighbor is opening boxes of drugs on his goddamn porch when there's kids around. What kind of weirdo opens their mail on their porch, particularly packages?
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Me [39F] with my boyfriend [28m] of two months, he is begging me to co-sign on his motorcycleRelationships submitted 45 minutes ago by throwawayrocks38383 My boyfriend of two months has been a dream come true. I have literally prayed for a man from God, and he has answered my prayers. He brings so much joy and happiness into my life. He is a very affectionate guy and our relationship is very stable. We moved in together after knowing each other for two weeks after he professed his love for me. He did not have a job at the time, so he said he would do house keeping while I worked. A few cracks appeared in our relationship. Things like I would come home from work and find him sleeping, as if he had been asleep all day. He would not clean up after himself, but he always apologized and said he never learned because he had lived with his mother up until meating me and did not know how to do house keeping. I said it was fine, but he needed to work to a change. A few days ago he started talking about how a motorcycle would help him get a job, and that his credit was bad and he owes to several debt collectors. He begged me for one and even broke down in tears. I said I would have to think about it. What should I do?
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[32M] with [28F] should I avoid being friendly with women in day to day interactions? My girlfriend gets upset when I talk with women and am friendly. This includes cashiers, old women, any day to day interaction while she is present with me. She also is upset I have porn. Should I adapt and if so how. She very frequently will start fights that go on for hours about imagined threats to our relationship. I don't flirt, just sometimes casual conversation occurs. On a flight I was playing hearthstone and a woman started talking to me about games. A 5 hours fight resulted and she wanted to ask the woman to give her phone number to me and I had to stop her. Another time a cashier started talking to me about space balls and band of brothers dvd's I was buying. She threw a fit for the rest of the day. I feel like it's ridiculous and it's too much. I broke up with her then, a couple days ago. Our 1 year anniversary was going to be Saturday. Otherwise she is fantastic. Very fun to be with, very attractive, athletic, great sex, higher sex drive than me, caring, loving and funny. Not the brightest always. Also some definite cultural differences (she lived most of her life in South China and is here on a student visa). The only other major issue was she would bring up things she was upset with me about that she had been hiding for a long time. Tl;dr: I think I will eat Chinese food tonight.
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I need a motorcycle for a job. "Which job?" No, no, like any job. Can't work without one. It's a law now.
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WampaLord posted:What kind of weirdo opens their mail on their porch, particularly packages? Nobody but would the police get hung up on a detail like where he actually opened it and would they believe him when he said he opened it inside? A Moose posted:Me [39F] with my boyfriend [28m] of two months, he is begging me to co-sign on his motorcycleRelationships this one just makes me feel bad for her even if it's because she's an idiot.
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A Moose posted:[32M] with [28F] should I avoid being friendly with women in day to day interactions? Good to see my ex is dating again, she never told me she was from China though
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1st AD posted:my mom works for the post office and it's a ton. She's never smoked weed and can describe to me in excruciating detail what it smells like. Now I'm curious. How do you describe the smell in excruciating detail?
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1st AD posted:my mom works for the post office and it's a ton. She's never smoked weed and can describe to me in excruciating detail what it smells like. In my degree work I did an amount of work talking with a guy from the USPS-OIG who are the guys who are in charge of dealing with illegal mail stuff (technically USPIS also does this but not as much). And basically what he told me was that the USPS needs a warrant to search a package and so unless it's PAINFULLY obvious that something contains a ton of drugs or they have a case file on the person shipping it they don't usually bother and instead tip off the cops in wherever the package is being shipped to. It really depends on the area though, apparently in NYC the judges there are extremely trigger happy with warrants for mail fraud and mail crimes, and so they bust people all the time there, the same goes with most ports like SF/Miami/etc. The places where people get away with it more is the middle of the country where local law doesn't have things like drug task forces and large local ATF offices.
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Motorcycle wanting boyfriend needs to be a little more clear in her prayers or start praying to a better god.
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A Moose posted:[32M] with [28F] should I avoid being friendly with women in day to day interactions? My fiancee and I were just laughing about people like this two days ago. It's such an incredible level of crazy that won't lead to anything but both parties being permanently pissed about something.
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Khorne posted:These are ridiculous rules, but the entire situation is ridiculous. Her boyfriend clearly didn't follow them. the fact that she's so naive about it makes me so, so, so sad honestly these open relationship stories always make me sad. for the ones we hear about anyway, it's always one partner who wants it and then the other one just confusedly following them around until too many boundaries get broken and they can't take it anymore. jesus people if you and your spouse don't have intimacy between each other work it out or quit the relationship, the making-it-work-by-loving-other-people thing seems to go bad every single time El Estrago Bonito posted:In my degree work I did an amount of work talking with a guy from the USPS-OIG who are the guys who are in charge of dealing with illegal mail stuff (technically USPIS also does this but not as much). And basically what he told me was that the USPS needs a warrant to search a package and so unless it's PAINFULLY obvious that something contains a ton of drugs or they have a case file on the person shipping it they don't usually bother and instead tip off the cops in wherever the package is being shipped to. It really depends on the area though, apparently in NYC the judges there are extremely trigger happy with warrants for mail fraud and mail crimes, and so they bust people all the time there, the same goes with most ports like SF/Miami/etc. The places where people get away with it more is the middle of the country where local law doesn't have things like drug task forces and large local ATF offices. Yeah a lot of drug enforcement and prevention WRT the postal service is the assumption that everything is being monitored and you'll get caught shipping things you're not supposed to. The thing is, your fourth amendment rights apply to mail you ship through the post office - it's your property, until it's your recipients property, and the government can't search it or seize it along the way without a warrant or probable cause. It's amazing what "search" qualifies as. For example, (without a warrant or probable cause) they can't take a photograph of the mail you receive. They can't keep a list of the mail you receive and the recipients you received mail from. They can pretty much never open your packages no matter how long they have them or whether or not they can find you. They can't even have drug dogs posted on duty at their sorting centers because the dogs aren't allowed to sniff any packages that they don't have a probable cause to sniff. The post office has to call the police to come to their sorting centers when drugs are detected. Which means somebody has to take time out of their day to deal with the police, in a government branch that doesn't give frequent pay raises and has been under periodic hiring freezes for years. These people are understaffed, underpaid, and overworked. And most of them smoke weed. Basically you have to gently caress up or get supremely unlucky to get caught. Learning about how little the post office can actually do with your mail made me feel so good about the postal service, seriously, I love those guys and everything they represent. It's functioning government that respects the letter of the law WRT your rights and doesn't give you a hard time about it. edit: Mind you none of the above applies to customs who will rifle your poo poo all day long and not even feel bad about it, so don't order anything illegal from out of the country ever Mirthless fucked around with this message at 01:48 on Jan 12, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:the fact that she's so naive about it makes me so, so, so sad Also, this stuff only applies to the USPS, if you ship stuff fedex/UPS they can do (almost) whatever the gently caress they want with your packages, including: xraying them and having dogs sniff them. I am not entirely sure about straight up opening them, but I wouldn't doubt that they can do that as well. Basically, if you want to deal drugs remotely, send via USPS and just realize that 1/100 packages will disappear but likely nothing will come of it.
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MF_James posted:Also, this stuff only applies to the USPS, if you ship stuff fedex/UPS they can do (almost) whatever the gently caress they want with your packages, including: xraying them and having dogs sniff them. I am not entirely sure about straight up opening them, but I wouldn't doubt that they can do that as well. Basically, if you want to deal drugs remotely, send via USPS and just realize that 1/100 packages will disappear but likely nothing will come of it. Yep. In fact, this very situation (less the specific reference to shipping illegal drugs) is the example I use to show why the government is better than private business at handling infrastructure programs like this. UPS and Fedex alike are utterly incompetent at handling the mail. (well, the parcels they're allowed to touch anyway) Even my ancap friend had to admit that USPS was better than the private sector (though his assertion is only because the state rigged the game for themselves.  )
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Stop playing competitive overwatch with her. Explain that it is causing problems for you because it's putting you in a bad place. If she can't understand and empathize then she needs to grow up. yup
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That actually seems pretty reasonable to me? Not overwatch and not my gf but I have friends I play unranked games with and I have friends I play ranked games with. Unless overwatch just has one mode that seems like a super easy solution.
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Unless he's earning money for these matches he can withstand losing in a video game a few times to bond with his girlfriend.
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ArbitraryC posted:That actually seems pretty reasonable to me? Not overwatch and not my gf but I have friends I play unranked games with and I have friends I play ranked games with. Unless overwatch just has one mode that seems like a super easy solution. It's one thing to vote your friends out, but you don't vote your girlfriend out of the band unless she's holding you back from getting signed. It's not his loving job, it's an activity. Relationships require a lot of teamwork and patience. Sometimes one person drags down the other. If you can't handle carrying your girlfriend in overwatch, what the hell are you going to do when it's something serious and actually life altering? Go read one of the chronic pain threads sometime and realize that there's a lot worse you might face with your partner than them being really lovely at playing anime team fortress Mirthless fucked around with this message at 03:03 on Jan 12, 2017 |
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Why not just play unranked tho? Most of the fun of pvp games is getting better and playing with/against people at your level. That's basically the whole point of pvp stuff. They can still play together there's not really any reason it has to be ranked.
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Me [43 M] with my fiance [19 F], I have found out she is not a virgin u/fianceliedtome10m This is an arranged marriage. We are from India but living in the United States. My fiance and I met through a matchmaker back in India. When I saw her photo I was instantly struck by her beauty and I fell in love right there. I was assured by her family that her American lifestyle had not influenced her traditional upbringing, and when I asked them if she was still a virgin they assured me that she was. The same story was received from her. But my friend Ramesh has provided me evidence that this story was a fabrication. I have grown quite attached to her, but I have always wanted to marry a woman who was untouched by another man. Please understand that this is my culture and take that into consideration when commenting. I am considering breaking the engagement, but considering all the time and effort that has already gone into this I do not know if that is the best course of action. So I am asking for your opinions. tl;dr: Fiance lied about being a virgin, I am considering breaking the engagement
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Like I would be on overwatch bfs side of it was like "I use this as me time and feel I'm losing that because she wants to play so much with me" but his argument is literally "I'm losing in video games"ArbitraryC posted:Why not just play unranked tho? Most of the fun of pvp games is getting better and playing with/against people at your level. That's basically the whole point of pvp stuff.
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ArbitraryC posted:Why not just play unranked tho? Most of the fun of pvp games is getting better and playing with/against people at your level. That's basically the whole point of pvp stuff. Probably because she wants to play ranked too, and probably needs to play ranked to get any better. In effect, this guy is saying "I want to play Overwatch, I just don't want to play with you" by leaving her out, and considering the only thing he really seems to be losing by playing with her is ranking it feels awfully arbitrary and petty, given that he is, you know, not a professional player. Your achievement points and ladder ranking should be like the last thing on your mind in the list of relationship priorities, lol
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Me [43 M] with my fiance [19 F], I have found out she is not a virgin Has he ever actually interacted with this woman? There's no indication in this story that he even views her as a human being; it has the tone of someone who was about to buy a car off Craigslist and got a bad Carfax report.
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I'm not saying he shouldn't play with her just that they should separate ranked from unranked cause obviously it's not actually a good thing for their relationship to do ranked mode together. Her wanting to get better it is reasonable but it sounds like whenever he tries to coach her she gets upset so I dunno why not remove the source of drama and compromise.
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Antivehicular posted:Has he ever actually interacted with this woman? There's no indication in this story that he even views her as a human being; it has the tone of someone who was about to buy a car off Craigslist and got a bad Carfax report. Well he did he "got the same story" from her so I'm assuming they have interacted at least once but I doubt he sees her as a person. Tl;dr murder him
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ArbitraryC posted:I'm not saying he shouldn't play with her just that they should separate ranked from unranked cause obviously it's not actually a good thing for their relationship to do ranked mode together. If she were a white belt and he a brown belt, people wouldn't be saying he should only spar with white belts. Even if he wasn't a professional martial artist. Similarly nobody would tell a cyclist to always ride slower because his girlfriend wasn't as fast -- he'd be told to go slow when they were together, and balls-out in other races. It's two activities that happen to use the same software. Treat it like two activities. He could create a second account for playing with her if he doesn't want to hurt his stats.
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Subjunctive posted:If she were a white belt and he a brown belt, people wouldn't be saying he should only spar with white belts. Even if he wasn't a professional martial artist. Similarly nobody would tell a cyclist to always ride slower because his girlfriend wasn't as fast -- he'd be told to go slow when they were together, and balls-out in other races. There are multiple game modes, only one of which is the competitive one. Why not just play the other modes?
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fruit on the bottom posted:There are multiple game modes, only one of which is the competitive one. Why not just play the other modes? I think he wants to play ranked, just as many people do. If she doesn't want to play ranked, he could play unranked with her, and ranked by himself. I understood, or imagined, that she wanted to play ranked for some reason, in which case he may want to segregate his play.
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I am markedly worse at ranked play than my friends at MOBAs but it didn't make me want to not play ranked. My friends were not helping me manage a household or banging me on the reg, though, so I don't really blame them for kicking me off the League of Legends team. I think the "he should get a second account" suggestion is the most reasonable one, imo. He should get a ranked account to play with her so he doesn't have to worry about having a horrible winrate and can just focus on having fun with her while she learns to play competitively. I'm sure she wouldn't begrudge him that and it would be a nice compromise, certainly a nicer one than just not playing ranked with her.
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Subjunctive posted:If she were a white belt and he a brown belt, people wouldn't be saying he should only spar with white belts. Even if he wasn't a professional martial artist. Similarly nobody would tell a cyclist to always ride slower because his girlfriend wasn't as fast -- he'd be told to go slow when they were together, and balls-out in other races. There's literally an in game option to take the drama away it seems weird to me that it would even be an issue.
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Antivehicular posted:Has he ever actually interacted with this woman? There's no indication in this story that he even views her as a human being; it has the tone of someone who was about to buy a car off Craigslist and got a bad Carfax report. The culture of arranged marriages has not ever, and will not ever, view women as human beings.
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Subjunctive posted:I think he wants to play ranked, just as many people do. If she doesn't want to play ranked, he could play unranked with her, and ranked by himself. I understood, or imagined, that she wanted to play ranked for some reason, in which case he may want to segregate his play. if he can't bring himself to play quick play (unranked) because that's time spent not increasing his stats then he's probably playing way too much overwatch anyway. him being a wanna be pro gamer goober makes more sense than her insisting she play only ranked, instead of just playing the game with her boyfriend
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I bet she only started playing because it was the only way to spend time with him ... 
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