Pick posted:

al gore

Pick posted:

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DEAR AMY: I am a 23-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years. We currently live together and plan on getting married and having children.

We are perfect together and I couldn’t ask for a better partner.

His mother and I do not get along. From the very beginning of our relationship she has talked constantly about his exes. She will post pictures and tag them and invite them to family functions where her son and I are expected to attend.

For the past couple of years we have both told her that this makes me feel uncomfortable and that I won’t be going to these functions if an ex or multiple exes will be there.

The last family function was three months ago. I decided not to go because his ex accepted the invitation from his mother. My boyfriend decided he would not attend, either.

This caused a major uproar and his family is now accusing me of keeping their son and brother from them. I have decided I want nothing to do with them anymore.
Is it right for us to be upset about this? Am I being unreasonable or jealous?

My feelings are badly hurt and I can’t understand why they can’t let these exes go. Can my boyfriend and I still thrive in a relationship if there is a strain between me and his family?

Worried

Cumslut1895 posted:

wow, finally caught up on this thread. Autistic ALL men should just loving kill themselves, huh.

Tiny Deer posted:

Yes.

In unrelated news: hey Pick I found the guy who hit the misandry report button.

Tiny Deer posted:

Uh, let me check real quick--

Cumslut1895 what is your stance on odd numbers, spinners, and animes?

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Me [28 M] accused my GF [28 F] of sabotaging her birth control. She wasn't. How do I make it up to her?Relationships
submitted 4 hours ago by throwbadaccusations

As the title suggests, I've been with my GF for about 7 months now and she's on the pill. I admit, I don't really know much about birth control, it's just something my GF have taken care of plus we're using condoms as well. Anyway, we were planning to go camping for a week starting this weekend and I noticed that my GF had thrown a strip of her birth control away with some pills still in them. I know she had to take them everyday. My friend who was with me at the time convinced me that she was sabotaging her birth control to "trap" me into getting pregnant. In hindsight, I shouldn't have listened to him. I couldn't figure out a reason why she didn't take the pills, they didn't seem expired or anything. To make things worse, I texted her about it and she didn't respond for hours and I messaged her about 5 times and called her twice in the space of about 3 hours with my accusations.

Finally when she did call me back, she to me to reach into the overnight bag and there was a strip of pills there that she has been taking. Also the "sugar pills" are white, and those are the ones she's thrown out, I can see that she's taking the different coloured ones which seem to be actual birth control stuff. She told me that she skipped the "sugar pills" and decided to keep going with the hormone ones this month so that she wouldn't get her period while we were camping because of the timing. We were camping old fashion, no toilets, in tents etc so now it makes sense she wanted to do that. I had no idea that there were sugar pills or that you could skip your period for a month. She blasted me for assuming that she wanted to "trap" me into anything. She pointed that she earns good money, we'd already talked about what to do with accidental pregnancies and that she's told me multiple times that she's focusing on her career right now and she wasn't interested in having kids at the moment. She also said crap about my friend - that he was an idiot, he couldn't get girls because he assumed all women were some baby crazed enemy and that he's toxic. She wanted to break up with me on the spot but I apologized over and over and asked her to at least come over and talk it out. She's agreed to talk but she's not keen on the camping trip. In the mean time, I've searching a lot about the pill and stuff and it totally makes sense to me. I was completely wrong.

TLDR: What do I do to apologize and make it up to her. I know I've screwed up big time. What can I do to make it up to her? I should have talked to her about it first instead of accusing her of trapping me. The more I think about it, the more I realize how out of line I was. She doesn't like flowers by way of apology so that's out. I have about 4 hours to figure something out.

Pick posted:

I certainly don't think that anyone should kill themselves but I also don't think being an emotional black hole entitles you to a submissive sex slave


e: you can't hold this against me because I have no control over being not a doormat, I am naturally not a doormat so you have to let me not be a doormat to you

but this isn't aboot me

Nazzadan posted:

Update from Mormonbot, in the nofap subreddit
[23M]Boyfriend's addiction escalated into cheating, but I[24F] still want him to get better. How does one help a partner on hardmode?


she had another update where she went 90 days without flicking the bean and now orgasms with him from PIV, so I'm happy they worked it out I guess?

Ride The Gravitron posted:

My Boyfriend [24] farted on my face [22] for Thanksgiving, and I don't know how to forgive him.

u/Jcuu13448d

We've been dating for 2 months now, and I told him I wanted to have something special for Thanksgiving because it's our first big holiday together. He promised that he'll give me something special, and when I asked what, he 'joked' that he'll fart on my face.

I took it as a joke and laughed about it.

Come the actual day, we're just play-fighting on the bed as we sometimes do. He caught me in a vice-like grip and I couldn't get away, and lo and behold, butt in my face, he farted. Then, he bent down and whispered in my ear, 'Happy Thanksgiving.' I went around telling everyone that's what he did, but no one would believe me! He's always going around acting like the good guy and ever too-polite. And now I'm the bad guy for trying to 'spread lies' about him.

Urghs. I'm not answering any of his text messages and I'm not if this is the final straw for us. I made it clear that I wanted a nice celebration or gift, and all I got was a smelly fart in my face. I can't stop crying about this. It's like he doesn't care.

Edit: To all those people saying that Thanksgiving gifts aren't a thing, well yes. It's usually dinner and food but we had an agreement. I spent a whole day making him cookies and what I got in return was this stunt which he's not taking seriously at all. Maybe I should have made that clear.

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My [22F] roommate [21F] is trying to sublease her room to someone I have a restraining order against. Please help!

When I was a freshman in college a guy named Pete [21M] (name changed) began harassing me to date him. I refused over and over again and it ended with him ripping my shirt off at a party to try to touch my breasts. I filed a police report and Pete was found guilty of assault. I have a 1000 ft restraining order against Pete.

Fast forward to this week, and my roommate Shelly needs a subletter to take over for her while she studies abroad for the summer. She didn't know she was leaving until two weeks ago and has been looking for someone to take over since then. She found Pete on CL and asked me if I approved. I showed her my court documents but Shelly claims she can't find anyone else to take over and that I will "have to deal". We got into a heated argument and she just left the apartment.

This morning, Shelly texted me that Pete would be moving his stuff into the apartment today. I called the police, but Pete hasn't showed up yet so they can't do anything. Shelly also says she will be staying for the remainder of the week.

The lease says that she can move whoever she wants in without my permission (same goes for me), but there's still the issue of the restraining order. The landlord told me that it was between Shelly and me to figure out. We both have 1 year leases that expire in December with the same terms.

tl;dr: Roommate is trying to sublease our apartment to a man I have a restraining order against. She told me to deal with it. Landlord and cops haven't done anything about it.

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After I made my Reddit post, Shelly was locked in her room for three hours. I tried to talk to her, but she wouldn't come out of the room. She left her room to get food, and just walked past me as if I didn't exist. Everyone who I called told me that until Pete actually showed up, no crime was being commited so I couldn't report it until then. I just sat by the door and window watching for Pete's car. This continued until early Saturday morning when Shelly woke up for her morning jog. I was still on lookout for Pete's car (I stayed up all night on the couch).

Shelly tried to sneak out past me, but I woke up and blocked the door. I needed an explanation for why I was being forced to stay up all night waiting to call the police on Pete when she knew that I had a restraining order against him. Shelly's explanation was that the restraining order doesn't matter to her, that she has dealt with 'unreasonable people' like me before, and that she has never listened to any restraining order before now, so why should she just for me? The more I listened, the sicker I felt. Shelly basically admitted to me that she is a oval office.

I told Shelly that she was a real piece of work and that I was going to maintain my watch for Pete and that I would contemplate taking legal action. She told me that whether I liked it or not, she was done looking for subletters and that it was my problem. I told her to get out and go for her jog and she left and came back a bit later and locked herself in her room again.

Sometime around noon, I had accidentally fallen asleep becaue I had been awake 36+ hours at that point. I woke up and saw Pete helping Shelly move her stuff into her car. I didn't see him in the apartment, but he was helping her in the parking lot. I immediately locked them both out and called the police. Shelly and Pete came to the door again and when Pete saw it was locked and when he saw me watching from the window, he blew up at Shelly. He started to ask her why I was in the apartment and why Shelly didn't tell him that I was the roommate. He demanded his money back and I could hear them screaming at each other through the door.

The cops showed up, handcuffed Pete and Shelly. I told them my story and Pete said he had text messages and emails to back himself up. The cops checked his phone, saw texts from Shelly saying along the lines that her roommate wouldn't care about x,y,z because he was a chill guy. Pete had posted his own ad looking for a male roommate. That's right, Shelly is a liar too. The cops released Pete because he had proof that he didn't know it was me (I'm okay with this because I saw the emails/texts too). Shelly was charged with disorderly conduct and her mom came to get her.

Sunday evening, Shelly and her Mom come back to the apartment to finish packing for her study abroad. Shelly made some snide remarks about me 'definitely going roommate hunting' to find her a subletter as I said I would. I ignored her. Shelly left for her plane this morning.

You know the good thing about separate leases? I am only liable for my rent, not hers. So I'm going to sit on my butt for the rest of the summer while she gets evicted for lack of rent payment.

tl;dr: Pete had no clue it was me, Shelly got arrested. She thinks I'll find a subletter, but I'm going to let her get evicted.

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Shelly and I were not close friends. We were simply roommates with our own separate bedrooms and a connecting kitchen/living space. I have only known her since last December when we originally signed our leases. We have hung out, but the only real connection we had is that she likes anime/Japan and I am Asian.

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the only real connection we had is that she likes anime/Japan and I am Asian.

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My (28F) friend (26F) pretends she is Japanese, is alienating everyone around her

Hello all and happy holidays.

My friend Cara has been obsessed with Japan and Japanese culture since we were in high school. She used to buy loads of candy from the local Asian corner stores and would watch lots of anime. Our friend group was very diverse and so no one thought too much of it. I just thought of it as a typical teenage phase like being emo or goth.

As we got older, however, Cara's behavior changed dramatically. She began to hang out with completely different people and reinvented herself to them. She started to tell people she was half Japanese and that her real dad lived in Japan. She said her caucasian father here was actually her step-dad and that her mom made her refer to him as her father because she wanted to erase any memory of Cara's "real" father. She majored in Japanese language in college. This was to "prepare for moving back to Japan" according to her. She had also begun to dye her hair black for years (insisting it was her natural color to anyone who met her) and wearing brown/black lenses. She also has legally changed her name to sound more Japanese.

She broke off contact with most friends who knew her from early on, and thus knew her and her family well. The few friends who she kept around eventually began to leave on their own because of her compulsive lying.

We were at a party recently with some of her new friends. When she was in another room, I overheard them talking about their recent trip to Japan with her. They were saying she was so embarassing and they felt awkward when she pointed out places she said she had gone to as a child. It seems they are just hanging out with her for a laugh.

Cara is an only child and very spoiled. She is used to getting her way often and is prone to tantrums. I don't think I necessarily want to remain her friend but I dont want her to continue down this path. I tried to talk to her about her lying, but she freaked out on me. She said I was crazy and that she really is half Japanese, and that Ive always been jealous of her because she looks exotic (she does not. she is plain faced, dirty blonde, and overweight).

She recently broke up with her boyfriend because he got too close to the truth about her. He tried to have dinner with her parents and Cara freaked out and told him he had no r ight to go behind her back. She actually went so far as to push him into a wall and yell at him. Shes been trying to tell everyone they broke up because he was talking to another girl, which is bullshit. Source? I was there, along with our friend Alex, in the basement when they were arguing.

Her parents have no clue about her behavior. She is careful to keep her friends away from family. She told them she studied Japanese because she wants to be a translator. I am considering perhaps writing them a letter because I am sincerely concerned for Cara. I think she needs therapy and need to face her lying.

Any advice on how to handle this?

TLDR; 100% caucasian friend pretends she is part japanese, compulsively lies to keep the story up. alienating her friends, and i think she needs help

LethalGeek posted:

Much as that Pete guy obviously sucks rear end at least he had the good sense to see this woman and immediately try to NOPE out of the situation as fast as he could.

LethalGeek posted:

Much as that Pete guy obviously sucks rear end at least he had the good sense to see this woman and immediately try to NOPE out of the situation as fast as he could.

Themata posted:

Here's an emote that works as a response to most posts in this thread:

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You see it all the time. Like if you're an adult and you play with Legos (and you're childfree), you're told to "grow up." Or people view you as immature if you play videogames and like anime/animated movies/TV shows or whatever. Why are you automatically viewed as immature when you enjoy doing things that are technically considered "kid" pastimes? Why do people think you have to give up the things you enjoy doing just b/c they're not considered adult enough? I don't get it. I don't want my adulthood to be boring.

Themata posted:

Here's an emote that works as a response to most posts in this thread:

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Did you make this? That is so awesome!

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Don't date gamers

Pick posted:

al gore

Nooner posted:

Not from Reddit, but from SJ Merc News and I feel really fits the thread:

Malkof posted:

It can work for some goons too.
Anywho, /childfree redditor cannot compute:

Why do people have such issues with adults (especially non-parents) doing "kid" activities?

Mirthless posted:

we shouldn't stigmatize play among adults, it's positive for productivity and cognitive function. this nerd is probably the kind of guy who gets mad and throws a tantrum when the last tie fighter lego kit sells out to a child at toys r us, though, and he is a lot of the reason you can't really get away with playing with toys as an adult.