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Themata posted:I was thinking outside shoes since the OP themselves aren't Japanese based on their post, and figured wherever he lives, he just wears outside shoes around the house. I'm Korean so I'm also used to a no shoe home, but most of everyone else around me were not. Maybe he's a weeb and wears slippers like his authentic Japanese girlfriend. 
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Ride The Gravitron posted:My (27M) Real Dad (60s?) found out about my wedding and is insisting in going. I want there to be an episodic show about a dad for hire, travelling the country solving problems and saving lives like only a dad can. Making dad jokes, having a thick moustache, running away from his tragic backstory (family died and his roaming dadventures are his way of coping with survivor's guilt, which is bad for anyone but worst of all for dads).
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Jeff Sichoe posted:Holy poo poo toilet shoes?? The wife is lucky if i don't get piss half way up the wall They have bidets everywhere. They take a bath before they take a bath. I'm amazed they even let filthy barbarians like us into their country! (hehehe)
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Moon Atari posted:I want there to be an episodic show about a dad for hire, travelling the country solving problems and saving lives like only a dad can. Making dad jokes, having a thick moustache, running away from his tragic backstory (family died and his roaming dadventures are his way of coping with survivor's guilt, which is bad for anyone but worst of all for dads). A Roamin' Dad, if you will?
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Me [28F], with my boyfriend of 2.5 years [31M]. He is obsessed with the movie The Mask and it is ruining our relationship. Met him online dating a few years ago and we hit it off right away. The first time I went back to his place, he suggested we watch The Mask. I had seen it before when I was younger, thought it was funny, but wasn't like, in love with it or anything. We watched it, made out a little and started to fool around when I suggested we turn the movie off since it was very distracting having it on while we were starting to transition into possible sexy times. He just told me to ignore it and eventually I did. I chalked it up to him just being nervous and not wanting to ruin the momentum, so it turned into a good night. Our relationship has been great and he is easily my dream guy. We get along, never argue, both love our families, but over time, some weird things start to slip through the cracks. He would bring up The Mask every now and then, which I just chalked up to being one of his favorite movies. He would quote it quite a bit and thought it was hilarious when he could insert a line from the movie into every day life. Again, I just thought this was him loving a movie. Then little things started to seep through the cracks. When I would come back to his place, the movie would almost always be on, apparently he had it on repeat. He was generally pretty good about turning it off when I asked, since I was starting to get sick of hearing it. Then he suggested we take swing dancing lessons so we could reenact the entire scene where Jim Carrey and Cameron Diaz dance in the club. I agreed, mostly because I thought it would be fun and it was for awhile. I was less interested in learning salsa so he could start to choreograph his own Cuban Pete dance. He spent a decent amount of money to get the costume that Jim Carrey wore in that scene, along with maracas, and bought his own similar mask so he could really get into character. Yes, this was all weird, but at the time, only a small part of the relationship. What is starting to bother me now though is that it is starting to creep into our sex life. Nothing has been crazy, we do the usual stuff, but the last few months right before we do PiV he yells "Somebody stop me!", which really takes me out of the mood. Even worse is that when he finishes, he does the "Smokin" line. I have asked him to stop and he will for one or two times after that, but then he does it again like he can't help it. What felt like the final straw was that he asked to wear the green mask while we have sex. This is really creepy, but I love him and it is hard to say no. Seeing the green face staring at me while we have sex is really jarring though. I just want to enjoy my life with him, but I don't know how much more I can take. He is even thinking of changing his last name to Ipkiss and bought a second mask for me to wear while we are in bed together. He even asked me to come up with some original girl Mask catch phrases. I am at a loss reddit, really need some advice on how to handle this. tl;dr: Boyfriends obsession with the movie The Mask is getting so bad that he even incorporates it into sex. ruining relationship.
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Jan 16, 2017 08:16
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hahahahahahaha change nothing
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I want to believe in Mask Man so badly
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The only reason she's still with him is because he's smokin.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:literally never once heard of open relationships outside of dreadful internet people moaning about them so I assume they're still in the same class of online-only mythical beast as the blue-haired genderblobs accosting random people to check their privilege oh they exist in certain circles in decadent urban wastelands like mine. But funnily enough they're about as much of a joke IRL as they are here... I did meet 2 dudes and 2 girls in a quad relationship thing on the L once... I guess they seemed into each other but I wonder how long that ended up lasting. More people just seems like exponentially increasing drama
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That Mask one is great. I wonder what he thinks of the sequels?
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Need help still: I [17M] am homeschooled and my parents won't let me have friends. I'm lonely and isolated and just looking for some help.Personal issues submitted 7 hours ago * by The-Zesty-1 I posted back in August asking for help since I'm a sheltered homeschooled kid who hasn't been allowed to have friends, and I just wanna say thank you for all the help and advice; and I figured I'd give a little update, since I'm still feeling like I need help. I'd say things haven't really gotten any better since that post. Nothing's really changed, I'm still practically friendless, just taking each lonely day as it comes. My mom is still clinging to me since I'm practically taking my dad's place because he's still never around. He and my mom had one of the biggest fights they've ever had on Christmas Eve that I was dragged into and forced to take a side, and it really hurts having to tell both of your parents how you think they've messed up, and dealing with their reactions. They're probably going to split up at some point (probably for the better in my opinion), but still, it's a living hell here. They're going to let me get a job now that the new year started, and hopefully some place will hire me. I visited the college in Florida I want to go with my mom back in November, and I will end up going there in the fall to major in accounting, so that's pretty exciting. It will be really nice to be hundreds of miles away from home where I can make my own decisions and do what I can to stay away from my family. I'm excited to be able to make friends and have a life, but I'm kinda nervous about the academic part of it. I haven't been in a classroom setting in about a decade, and I'm just concerned whether or not I'll be able to actually do well. I have done my best in my homeschooling curriculum (which has been pretty tough to say the least) in order to do my best to prepare for college, and although I feel like I've been doing my best and will be fine in college, I'm still a bit nervous. I'm thinking about quitting saxophone even though it's been the only thing I've been this passionate about in a really long time. I just feel like I've hit a wall in my playing and no matter what I do I can't get past it, and the stress from my family (which has skyrocketed recently) has really hit me and can be seen in my playing since I'm not getting any better. I'm still practicing like crazy, but I feel like I'm not getting anywhere. My mom yelled at me when I mentioned possibly giving it up, since apparently I've put in "too many hours of practice just to throw it all away". my family is absolutely sick of hearing me talk about it and listening to me play. It just seems like because I'll never be able to play music as much as I want, not practice enough, and not feel supported, it just feels like a waste of all my time. I love it, but it just feels like a waste since I'm not getting any better, no matter how hard I try. Other than that, things have been decent. That girl I mentioned I met in my last post hurt me pretty badly; I now only have one friend who's incredibly far away (my mom is actually letting my skype her, which I can't believe); school's been stressful; my mom's cut off most of my ties at church now. I just feel like I have nowhere else to vent. I need some help; all of this has been taking a toll on my mental health too. Suicidal thoughts have been frequent, as well as thoughts telling me to run away or crazy stuff like that. I just still need help. tl;dr: still feeling under pressure because of homeschooling/sheltering parents, and it's making me want to quit the things I love and mess with my mental health. Just looking for some more help.
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At first I thought he meant the other The Mask movie, the one about the Elephant Man.quote:My mom is still clinging to me since I'm practically taking my dad's place because he's still never around. Oh boy, this sounds super healthy and normal. Maybe there's hope for this kid at college, at least she's letting him go to college.
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Gaunab posted:Be careful if you make a sex tape. "recovered the hard drive", lol.  I doubt either of them actually deleted the video and were holding onto it out of sentimentality, and this is just the lovely excuse they gave their partners when they found them Delete or throw away your sex tapes when you exit your relationships. Your future partners may just be insecure for getting upset about it but at the same time 1. can you really blame them and 2. you really didn't need to be holding onto a sexual momento of previous partners when you're in a relationship with somebody else. If it ever gets found the best case scenario is you have an incredibly awkward conversation with your partner (or worse, they don't tell you and just act weird around you for months) so why even risk it in the first place? edit: the worst is when they get into a cold fish relationship like the first one did, the last loving thing you want is your partner to find a video of you having better sex than what you have with them. I mean, if they're just inept comparatively that's nobody's fault but they don't need proof of it on full motion video. I'd be pretty surprised if the girl in the first story can even save the marriage at this point, it sounds like there was already some serious tension in their relationship around her ex going into this (I'd love to hear the whole story there, lol) and he can't exactly un-watch the video now, and just the fact that it still existed in the first place raises a lot of awkward questions, esp. if he suspected she was still hung up on her ex. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 15:18 on Jan 16, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:"recovered the hard drive", lol. I didn't remember I still had the smut I made with my exes and when my current partner found it we had this conversation: "hey why do you still have all that smut?" "idk, do you want to delete it?" "is that okay?" "yeah go hog fuckin wild" beats me why some people suck
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mfcrocker posted:I didn't remember I still had the smut I made with my exes and when my current partner found it we had this conversation: Some people have feelings that are more easily hurt than others. Can't hurt to be considerate of that.
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WampaLord posted:Leave porn to the professionals and just don't make a sex tape to begin with. I think it's fun if you're comfortable with strangers seeing it or you know you're going to be with your partner forever I feel really bad for people who got revenge porn'd by their exes so by no means is this victim blaming but drat you really gotta be sure you're going to be with somebody for a long time or that you can really trust them with this sort of thing because it seems to backfire a lot alternatively, you need to be an exhibitionist and wear a simple mask or hide your face from the shot
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mfcrocker posted:I didn't remember I still had the smut I made with my exes and when my current partner found it we had this conversation:
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Mirthless posted:
sure, and the best way to do that is probably to genuinely not give a poo poo about the smut like, i still had it for the same reason i still have 100+GB of mp3s i never listen to Lunchmeat Larry posted:post it imo i can't, it was deleted 
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mfcrocker posted:sure, and the best way to do that is probably to genuinely not give a poo poo about the smut the best way to do that is not carry mementos of your exes from relationship to relationship because that upsets a lot of people and basic consideration for the feelings of your partner is one of the cornerstones to any successful and healthy relationship I think we can all agree that it's unhealthy to get hung up on people you were with in the past or return to the dating pool of previous relationships so what's the argument for keeping it other than your own vanity? "My partner doesn't really have a right to be upset about this" is technically true I guess but it's still going to upset many (most?) people anyway.
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Mirthless posted:what's the argument for keeping it other than your own vanity? What's the argument for making it other than your own vanity?
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WampaLord posted:What's the argument for making it other than your own vanity? Well, yeah, but making porn with your current partner might result in an impromptu sexual encounter with them down the road if they accidentally find it again, whereas your current partner finding porn you made with an ex down the road might result in the detonation of your relationship. Your partner doesn't want to find the vanity project you put together with your ex, because it's not really helping their vanity any, and a lot of cases it seems to destroy it altogether.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Need help still: I [17M] am homeschooled and my parents won't let me have friends. I'm lonely and isolated and just looking for some help.Personal issues This sounds like he's headed into a murder-suicide situation unless he gets out. Either Mom will kill her family to keep him from going anywhere or he'll kill her with his saxophone.
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Eponine posted:This sounds like he's headed into a murder-suicide situation unless he gets out. Either Mom will kill her family to keep him from going anywhere or he'll kill her with his saxophone. I don't know if I'd go that far but I'd be very very surprised if mom didn't try to find some way to ruin his college plans and when that happens he'd be a fool to not  and ghost
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Mirthless posted:I think it's fun if you're comfortable with strangers seeing it or you know you're going to be with your partner forever
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Mirthless posted:the best way to do that is not carry mementos of your exes from relationship to relationship because that upsets a lot of people and basic consideration for the feelings of your partner is one of the cornerstones to any successful and healthy relationship What if, like the poster you're quoting, you forgot it was on the laptop to begin with?
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WampaLord posted:What's the argument for making it other than your own vanity? Its fun?
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fruit on the bottom posted:What if, like the poster you're quoting, you forgot it was on the laptop to begin with? Don't forget! Nah, I did miss that part but still, try to keep track of these things! Just saying, it's a disaster waiting to happen.
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I'm [M 39] debating ending my engagement with my fiancée [36 F] because she's not who she promised she'd be.quote:Okay, here we go.
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Bonzo posted:I'm [M 39] debating ending my engagement with my fiancée [36 F] because she's not who she promised she'd be. Why would you go on date number two, much less this: quote:One thing led to another...we ended up getting engaged 
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did he just like... propose and move in with her by accident? Does he know her at all? He's acting like he's somehow surprised by her not having changed her long-term behaviour that there was never any real sign of her changing, and he talks about the relationship like it's a bus journey he gently fell asleep on, allowing it to carry him away without him having any say in the matter, only to wake up in the wrong town and promptly buy a house there
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Mirthless posted:the best way to do that is not carry mementos of your exes from relationship to relationship because that upsets a lot of people and basic consideration for the feelings of your partner is one of the cornerstones to any successful and healthy relationship Weren't we all just saying a few pages back how the guy upset that his girlfriend had sexual partners before him should get over it? How is this any different? I think its ridiculous to be so insecure that you demand any and all mementos from a previous relationship be destroyed because you are in a new one, be it a sex tape, photos, a gift, etc. It doesn't necessarily mean you are hung up on that person or pining for that relationship. You might keep a tape for vanity reasons, sure. (And that is perfectly fine.) Or out of sentimentality. Or because its exactly the stuff you're into. While revenge porn is a thing, I don't think we can say how prevalent it is. Its not like we hear about all the sex tapes that aren't used for revenge.
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Lunchmeat Larry posted:did he just like... propose and move in with her by accident? Does he know her at all? He's acting like he's somehow surprised by her not having changed her long-term behaviour that there was never any real sign of her changing, and he talks about the relationship like it's a bus journey he gently fell asleep on, allowing it to carry him away without him having any say in the matter, only to wake up in the wrong town and promptly buy a house there
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Bonzo posted:I'm [M 39] debating ending my engagement with my fiancée [36 F] because she's not who she promised she'd be. There was a post a while back where a woman had the same problem with her boyfriend, so she quit her job and told him she wanted to stay at home all day playing video games like him, and he freaked out at her and promised to change his ways. I think he should do that.
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Some of his followups:quote:There's where the whirlwind aspects of the relationship come in. All of this: from dating to engagement to cohabitation: within a year and a half. quote:She blamed everyone and everything but herself (and me, coincidentally) for not working. The meds she's on. Stress with her sisters. The weather. The lack of work (a bullshit excuse, IMHO)...i do wonder if or when she'll own up. quote:That's a very good point. In my anger, I didn't post good points. Main one I can think of: she has amazing green eyes, and is a total cuddle bunny. She supports my geeky pursuits, and even watches NASCAR and WWE with me.
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minivanmegafun posted:I'm kind of curious why she's on disability. Probably related to the "meds she's on". Also I'm betting this guy hasn't had a relationship in a while so he's holding on to whatever he can
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THINGS I HATE ABOUT MY FUTURE WIFE: Filthy habits No ambition Freeloader No interests Liar Lazy Disrespectful Doesn't clean or do anything around the house Wastes my money Refuses to leave the house or interact with me in any way THINGS I LOVE ABOUT MY FUTURE WIFE: Hugs me Has eyeballs Sits next to me when WWE is on
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