minivanmegafun posted:

yep either he's loving Frosty and enjoying hot gay orgies or he doesn't exist period.

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Wednesday night out of no where, he texts me saying some poo poo like "hey interestingly enough someone came into my life and i honestly didn't know she'd be as significant as she's become. we can still be friends". I was in shock for multiple reasons, first of all I never suspected anything, we were talking about moving and he had just introduced me to all of his family a couple days before and we had just started to get serious, second he's allowing me to still be his friend, and it was through a text? Really?? So I just responded "okay thanks for letting me know" and that was that, the last words I ever exchanged with him

A couple hours later the texts and calls come pouring in and he's begging me to talk with him yada yada, I never reply or answer and he texts me some long message about how he i'm meant to be in his life as is she and he met her before me but he never expected to fall in love with her or thought she'd mean anything to him and he didn't ever think anyone else would make him question us blah blah blah and then he said he feels he's "supposed to have two women in his life" i actually screamed!!

The next day is the same, as soon as morning comes the texts and calls come in and he's telling me how depressed he is and how he can't live like this, he needs me, and that he's "working on something big" and i "need to have faith in him" yada yada I blocked him but he just makes new snapchats/instagrams just to message me on there. He's even taken to contacting my friends now. He's saying he doesn't know if he's choosing the right choice but that i'm not an option to him and i never was (literally, if you're making a choice then i was an option...) and the real kicker is that he ends it saying he loves me more than the other girl and that she senses it, that it'll never be the same as me and he's begging me not to hurt him and don't be so hard on him.

Yesterday was the most entertaining day a message from a new ig acc came that started off with him saying how pissed he is, that the other girl was friends with him through a mutual friend and she apparently found a deep connection towards him (i only bothered to read the preview then deleted it) and a follow up message saying he felt he was forced to send the first text and that it wasn't true, it was bs and he "cried sending it and he doesn't want this to end" then he went on to say he's gunna become a recluse and that he wants absolutely nothing to do with the other girl but she just doesn't know it yet, and that he isn't good enough for me or her for that matter. he also had the audacity to say that knowing all my ex put me through he'd figured I'd be more understanding. I was in an abusive relationship before him where there was a lot of lying and cheating and deception, hello the most hurtful part of it all is that he knew what had happened, actually earned my trust, then continued to do that to me! He even said he knows he's irreplaceable..but at the same time he's worried that i may think less of him now... UM! what!!

This whole time I haven't shed one tear over this boy because if he got another chick occupying him he ain't worth the thoughts/trouble/tears. I do have problems with anxiety though and this situation was a lot to take in and very overwhelming for me because ultimately i did love him, he was my best friend and i trusted him a lot.. so i was struggling with that for a bit but now i'm okay. I just don't know what to do right now, should I answer and say anything?? Or just continue to block and ignore him? Of course I miss him but at the same time, if he loves me as much as he says then NOTHING would have interfered with us and he wouldn't have "felt forced" to do anything to end us. I think he just realizes he's made the wrong decision and regrets it and/or it didn't work with the other chick.

Truthfully if he had the decency to tell me in person I would have heard him out but he texted me and is now begging to see me. I will never get back with him (and my parents would surely kill me if I did but thats another story)

tl;dr: My ex sent me a text saying that there is someone else, and a couple hours after that till now he's just been trying to take it back. I won't ever take him back but should I answer/reply ever or just continue to block and ignore him? He keeps making new accounts to message me and keeps messaging the people in my life.

Meander posted:

My [20F] (now ex) boyfriend [22M] told me he has another significant other out of no where

Clark Nova posted:

Starbucks is a much too sophisticated and refined space to bring children to! A majority of their sugar drinks have a mild coffee flavor! Adulting!

CharlestheHammer posted:

I would text him back just to see what his endgame was or how he expected that to go.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My [26m] boyfriend is really into teenagers...


Edit: I forgot to mention, his "cousin" isn't a relative, is the daughter of a maid that abandoned her and his parents took care of.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

I know he's into teenagers, based on facts like he started hitting on his exgirfriend when she was 13 and he was 19.

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I'm on a break with him since yesterday, cause this is hands down a reason for me to leave, but i love him. My dad is like that and my grandpa spent time in jail because of molesting kids. I'm not traumatized but i just have no tolerance for anything related to that.

I do love him as i said

Meander posted:

My [20F] (now ex) boyfriend [22M] told me he has another significant other out of no where


This girl is awesome and should get with that Pete dude - "ok thanks for letting me know" when the dumbass breaks up with her by text, and that's it.

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

I like how she has no tolerance for that kind of thing as if any normal person has tolerance for pedophilia.

Modus Pwnens posted:

You know what, I'm just going to come right out and say it, and I don't care what anyone thinks -- I don't like pedophiles.

Modus Pwnens posted:

You know what, I'm just going to come right out and say it, and I don't care what anyone thinks -- I don't like pedophiles.

tactlessbastard posted:

Sometimes you just really have to stand up for the little guy underage girls.

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Two weeks into our relationship he admitted that he was currently under investigation for having fifteen images of child pornography on his computer.

My feelings were so strong at that point that I didn't care

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Lmao why is it childfree people write so goddamn insufferably.

Forthwith we must retreat to the coffee shop! Away!

Ride The Gravitron posted:

When Should I (28F) Tell the Guy (32M) I'm Dating That my Brother is a Convicted Pedophile?Dating


Throwaway account because, well, do I need to explain?

First, some history on my brother. He was convicted of viewing and downloading child porn 5 years ago in 2012. He served 6 months in prison, got out for a month and then was re-arrested because he groped a poor 13 year old (and got caught thank God). He came out 6 months later and, as far as the family knows, hasn't reoffended. However, my dad and I have recently discovered that he does secretly watch Dance Moms on TV. Let's put it this way, he's hasn't shown a previous interest in dance or reality drama.

Now for me. I've been dating this really great guy for about 3 months now. I'm totally digging on him, he's great, want to keep seeing him. My issue is that my instinct is that having a pedo for a brother is something I should reveal sooner rather than later, but I'm also wondering if it's necessary at this point. I mean, I'm pretty sure my guy likes me back, but it has only been 3 months. I guess I'm just super wary of getting further down the road with him, like a year's time when we're more serious, and when I do tell him he's upset I didn't let him know sooner.

So, good people of reddit, I ask if it were you, would you want to know such a thing so soon? Or would you be happy if you were only told when things got more serious in the relationship?

tl;dr - brother is convicted pedo who still has tendencies towards ogling young girls; do I tell the guy I've been dating for 3 months yet?

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My [24F] boyfriend [25M] of a year has been secretly getting rid of all of his body hair for the entire duration of our relationship.

Apologies for any formatting errors, etc etc I'm on mobile.

My boyfriend and I met through mutual friends on a night out and have kept in contact ever since. We were very flirtatious before actually taking the leap and becoming official, and one day, before we started dating, we were playing 20Q over messenger and he asked how I felt about a lot of body hair on guys.

I'm fully prepared to get a lot of flack for this, but mountains of body hair is just not my thing at all. I don't mind some leg and arm hair, but super thick haired bear-like dudes just don't do anything for me. I don't find giant beards attractive either (both aesthetic and texture). Just personal preference, you know? I tend to go for cute boyband types, and he had a really clean, cute haircut and pretty eyes. Think early Jesse McCartney?

So I responded (politely!) and truthfully said that an over abundance of hair is a total turn off for me, and he responded "good thing I don't have thick hair then!" And we moved onto some other questions. All was good.

It surfaced again a few times after that, in that if we saw a really hairy guy or someone with a beard down the street or whatever he'd constantly make comments like "wow, so much hair, what a turn off. Isn't it great that I'm practically hairless?"

Fast forward to yesterday, and I haven't seen him in person for the past two weeks because he's been visiting family out of the country. He comes back and I notice that he's got a bit of a beard going. Not super bushy though, so I acknowledge it in a neutral way and he asks if I like it. I say it's okay, not my cup of tea, but the current length looks nice on his face. Then we start making out, I go to pull his shirt off and he's practically got a forest attached to his chest. I'm talking grizzly bear levels of dark, thick, bushy hair. It was crazy. His arms and legs were a little thicker and darker too, but his chest just had... an absurd amount of hair on it. Bearing in mind that I've had sex with this guy and made out with him a LOT, and was used to him just always being smooth, it was kind of a shock?

So I sort of stopped and asked "when did this appear?" (expecting him to say it just randomly started growing, to which fair enough because bodies are weird) but then he replied with, "this is my natural body hair. I've been this hairy since I was about 15" And it turns out that the day after we played 20Q, he shaved his entire torso, arms and legs, and has been doing so on the regular because he thought I wouldn't want to date him if I found out that he was covered. This is the first time in almost a year that he just hadn't done it because he was with family and I wasn't there, so he didn't have to keep it up. Then he saw himself, hair and all, and decided that he missed it and really likes the way he looks now and doesn't want to shave it off again. He also wants to grow out his beard even more (he didn't have a beard before I met him, so that's completely new for both of us).

I'm not really sure what to do here. I don't want to ask him to keep shaving it because that's controlling (and he obviously doesn't want to), but I really really really don't fancy super hairy dudes. And he's right in that if I'd known from the start, it probably would have affected my attraction towards him (like it's doing now, but it would have been a lot easier to deal with at the start instead of now when I'm emotionally invested)? As in, I don't want to break up with someone (who is otherwise lovely) over some hair, but the hair is a huge turn off. Am I shallow for not finding the hair attractive? Is there some sort of compromise we can come to?

TL;DR: My boyfriend has been shaving almost his entire body for the past year after finding out when we were friends that I wasn't into hairy guys. He went away on holiday for 2 weeks with family, let the hair grow out, came back looking like Chewbacca, likes the way it looks and doesn't want to go back to shaving. I'm really not digging it, but it is his body after all. What do?

Zzulu posted:

MODS?

Danaru posted: