BOOTY-ADE posted:

He was already legally able to drink before she was even born. Let that sink in for a bit.

Moridin920 posted:

My [22 M] girlfriend [23 F] of 2 years refuses to party as a couple, and only goes out alone or with friends.

BOOTY-ADE posted:

He was already legally able to drink before she was even born. Let that sink in for a bit.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I thought the acceptable age was half your age plus 7

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

I [19 M] asked my coworker out for coffee, causing issues with other coworkers [19Fs]


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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

the joke is that he made up a formula to say it's okay - eg, "no you see she's older than 1/3 of my age + 4"

Yawgmoth posted:

Clark Nova posted:

That rule is something that's been mentioned before, though it's usually half age plus seven, not plus one. But yeah, I agree that if you have to convert your age from Fahrenheit to Celsius to justify to yourself or your parole officer that it's okay, you probably shouldn't.

Clark Nova posted:

That rule is something that's been mentioned before, though it's usually half age plus seven, not plus one. But yeah, I agree that if you have to convert your age from Fahrenheit to Celsius to justify to yourself or your parole officer that it's okay, you probably shouldn't.

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Because she usually doesn't read that much I figured I could lead her on the right path. Now she isn't dumb, maybe not book smart but certainly street smart and I thought she might appreciate some good literature. So I gave her a couple of my personal favorites to read, including Calvino's complete Cosmicomics and "If on a winter's night a traveler". She actually read both of them but when I asked her what she thought of them she told me that she thought that If ... was too self-referential and she was annoyed by the multiple plots and Cosmicomics was unrealistic because, and I quote, "there is no way that Qfwfq is actually that old".

Now I was quite shocked by this, my favorite author simply being dismissed by my girlfriend.

I'm now wondering whether I should still bother with this relationship at all or just keep her around till I found a girl that can appreciate Calvino better.

tl;dr: Girlfriend saying that she didn't like any of Calvino's works she's has read makes me question whether I still love her.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

My [22M] girlfriend's [18M] dislike for Calvino makes me question whether I still love her
should crosspost to the Quit Being a loving Child TBB thread

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

My [22M] girlfriend's [18M] dislike for Calvino makes me question whether I still love her
should crosspost to the Quit Being a loving Child TBB thread

Clark Nova posted:

Only date someone if they are three quarters of you age plus seventeen. Add a year to their age for every serious book™ on their bookshelf (whether they've read it or not). Subtract a year for each cat they own and three years for every anime DVD.

Andrast posted:

I have far too many serious books™. Only retirees can date me.

No wonder I'm single.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

[Update] An rear end in a top hat coworker [m?] sentmy [36 F] husband [39M] an inflammatory text at a work even

u/Workpartythrowaway777d

Original post: /r/relationships/comments/5oudfe/an_asshole_coworker_m_sent_my_36f_husband_39m_an/

I spoke to my boss first thing weds morning and told him what happened. While he was not at the bar he knew about the event. Later in the morning he spoke to rear end in a top hat coworker and didn't hear anything else during the workday.

I also told a friend at work what happened. She was there and can vouch for me being at the bar. Without me asking she decided get rear end in a top hat coworker on a conference line and called my husband and had rear end in a top hat apologize for what he did. I don't know exactly what was said and had no idea this call had been made until I got home later in the evening.

My husband gave me a big hug when I arrived and told me about the call. He said that throughout the day he had already come to the conclusion that it was a poo poo prank by a drunk rear end in a top hat. As someone touched on in the comments, the idea that someone I was cheating with would send that text was so absurd that it must have been a prank. He said the call was helpful, but warned me he laid into rear end in a top hat pretty good telling him what turmoil he caused and straight up told the guy to "stay as far away from his wife as professionally possible" or he would make sure his career is impacted.

We talked for hours and he reinforced some expectations going forward. Simple stuff like giving him a heads up if I'm late (he will do the same), pass protecting my phone and generally keeping on guard around people in general.

I think we're about 95% back to normal. This week was kind of a shock and I think we're both a little fatigued from all the drama and plan to spend the entire weekend together.

I'm at work and there's no conflict. He's here but no direct apology yet. But the day is young an honestly I don't care to have any contact with this guy in the future.

Sorry I didn't respond more to the original thread but it kind of turned into a poo poo show of picking apart my "alibi". It agree did look odd that I didn't realize the time or didn't look at my phone for 3 hours as some claimed. I did have an idea about the time. I did look at my phone during the evening. But didn't think to check in because during that time I felt like I was always "on my way out". I dropped my phone in the table at some point before the text and moved to another table to chat up a few coworkers and say goodbye. I got distracted and didn't get to my phone until after the text had been sent. At 8pm I know I should have checked in but it skipped my mind.

Thanks for those who voiced their opinions about not having a cellphone strapped to your body every minute of the day. I am pretty notorious for putting it in my purse and missing half the calls I receive.

Also, I think the next time we meet for drinks after work Inam going to invite my husband. He is very social and talkative and woukd get along with everyone for sure.

Tl;dr: I think it's all good. Husband has been assured nothing happens and the coworker probably got it into his head what a poo poo thing he did.

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

I [19 M] asked my coworker out for coffee, causing issues with other coworkers [19Fs]


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quote:

Throwaway, since I don't actually use Reddit. Friend suggested I try here.

So a little background, my girlfriend already has one child who was taken by CPS due to age and her drug addiction. She got clean while pregnant with our daughter, apart from weed and cigarettes.

We currently live with my parents and my younger sister, 19F. We're on the list for public housing and plan on moving out as soon as we can.

Since giving birth, my girlfriend has worked and I've taken care of the baby. She works 5 days a week for four hours, so we're both home a lot. (I'm looking for a job, but not many places around us are hiring and we don't drive, so it's a little difficult)

My sister helps out a lot with the baby, watches her when we smoke (I just smoke cigarettes) and helps out a lot around the house, since she can't work due to illness.

But recently I've noticed a theme. Whenever I'm out looking for work and I come home, my sister is watching the baby. When I ask, she says that my girlfriend didn't want to watch her alone, and the second she comes to sit with her, my girlfriend disappears outside to smoke (or into the garage to smoke weed) and doesn't come back inside until I'm home to take the baby again.

We had an incident, when our daughter was about a year old, where she started calling my sister 'Mama', which was difficult to stop, since the second she was left with her Mom, my sister would be taking care of her.

I've brought this up with her before and she claims that my sister volunteers to come up. But when I ask my sister, she says that my girlfriend hounds and bothers her and says she'll take the baby outside while smoking (something I refuse to do, because it's really bad for the baby!) so my sister feels guilty and ends up coming to help out.

I know my sister is getting annoyed that she's basically being a mother to her niece, given she's in charge of the housework, so things like the cleaning and dishes end up behind because she's so busy with the baby. Which in turn makes our parents annoyed that things are getting behind. (They both work full time, our dad working away from home from sunday through friday)

So basically, how do I deal with this? Should I confront my girlfriend about not parenting? Should I tell my sister just not to come up and help out? The only time I go out is when I'm traipsing around town looking for work, so it's not like I'm off partying all the time and leaving her with the baby all the time. In fact, I'm the main caregiver, but when I'm out, I like to think that the baby's Mother is the one looking after her.

TL;DR Had a baby, baby's mom doesn't seem to be pulling her weight and my sister is doing most of the baby care when I'm not around. What do I do?

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My family has always been kind of conservative, they did things the old way and everything seemed to work out for them. Even as they saw how things began to change around them they kind of continued to stay in their bubble and not let any of it influence their thoughts or feelings, thinking that it would never concern anyone of our family.

And I was thinking the same way until I met a nice young guy at a school party whom I seemed to get along with great. We seemed to have some kind of mutual understanding for each other and also shared the same interests so when he invited me home to him I thought why not, maybe I could give it a try, and that I would try not to fall from the path my family had tried to set me on.

But when I arrived at his place and no one was home it became clear that we would have a lot of fun and he had also already prepared everything necessary for the whole afternoon. So we were going for it for hours, first he kind of showed me slowly what I had to do and how to do it, he would teach me certain techniques and how to best apply them and how to use my fingers in the most effective way.
That day changed me completely, I never wanted to go back to how it had been. My family didn't understand, they saw I had changed but were not sure how, certainly my behavior might have been a bit different but I tried to hide it as well as I could.

But since then my interest has only increased, I've visited other guys, often from other cities who I had met through internet services and who showed me there was even more to it than I previously thought.
Now this is all becoming too much of a burden, I don't want to hide it from my parents anymore. So long story short, and my question: "How can I explain to my Streetfighter family that I got into the Melee scene without them flipping out?"

tl;dr: Want to come out to my family, but am not sure how they will react and want to minimize damage

Tiny Deer posted:

Me [23M] with baby [2F] feel like girlfriend [21F] isn't pulling her weight with our baby.


Whichever friend sent this guy to Reddit knew what he was doing, the comments are brutal.

Tiny Deer posted:

Me [23M] with baby [2F] feel like girlfriend [21F] isn't pulling her weight with our baby.


Whichever friend sent this guy to Reddit knew what he was doing, the comments are brutal.

Tolkien minority posted:

this post isnt really too funny or interesting but i burst out laughing at the last line for the sheer gooniness
I [18M] am not sure how my family will react to me coming out

Tolkien minority posted:

this post isnt really too funny or interesting but i burst out laughing at the last line for the sheer gooniness
I [18M] am not sure how my family will react to me coming out

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Wanna slap that idiot around a bit, she's certainly on the road to having this kid taken away as well.

Tiny Deer posted:

Me [23M] with baby [2F] feel like girlfriend [21F] isn't pulling her weight with our baby.


Whichever friend sent this guy to Reddit knew what he was doing, the comments are brutal.

Pick posted:

seriously, posts like this make people Republicans

quote:

She got clean while pregnant with our daughter, apart from weed and cigarettes.

Parsley posted:

Parsley posted:

Pick posted:

seriously, posts like this make people Republicans

Pick posted:

bitch isn't doing her share *has no job, smokes weed all day*