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Pick posted:Her: Oh boy, I get to decorate! This is fun! pick I know you can do better than this, fanfiction-wise she's right that they need to break up but lmao
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Pick posted:Her: Oh boy, I get to decorate! This is fun! i mean honestly it sounded like she just started putting up decorations because he was laggin on it a bit and he just was like 'can we not put that ONE up it looks a bit tacky tbh' and she flipped her poo poo :\ even if your reading is 100% what happened, that's some lovely communication on both people's parts and some way overreaction on the girl's part. Like if she just said "why do you poo poo on harmless things I enjoy for no reason?" in the first place instead of thinking it and raging that would have been better idk. The argument that he isn't involving himself in the process is kind of immaterial imo because presumably he has some interest in what his home looks like, esp to other people. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 21:30 on Feb 8, 2017 |
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Feb 8, 2017 21:28
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iiiit's nooottt aaabbbouuuttt theeee deeccooorrraattiiiooonnnsssss
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Feb 8, 2017 21:30
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he's a "logical" wet blanket and she goes straight from zero to smashing things when she doesn't get her way, it's like the world's worst sitcom
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Feb 8, 2017 21:29
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Pick posted:iiiit's nooottt aaabbbouuuttt theeee deeccooorrraattiiiooonnnsssss well right but why doesn't she just say "why are you making GBS threads on harmless things I enjoy for no reason?" instead of just thinking it angrily then "AAAAAAAAAAAAA" and stalking off? i mean 4 years man how do these people discuss real issues?
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Feb 8, 2017 21:31
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Moridin920 posted:well right but why doesn't she just say "why are you making GBS threads on harmless things I enjoy for no reason?" Because he thinks the answer is "fine, then put up the decoration I don't really care" She can't get him to understand it's not about the decoration, and she almost certainly doesn't want to put it up now anyway because he's put a negative association on it.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:33
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Pick posted:Her: Oh boy, I get to decorate! This is fun! pick are you on sale for four dollars from a school district yard sale because you are hella projecting here
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Feb 8, 2017 21:33
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food court bailiff posted:pick are you on sale for four dollars from a school district yard sale because you are hella projecting here lmao Boyfriend (23) does not know how to enjoy his money. quote:I am 28 F, and am back in school while working part-time. I noticed that my boyfriend and I have very different views on finances. I may not be that great at saving, but I do know how to use my money to spend quality time with friends since I barely ever see them these days. I know how dangerous microspending is so my spending habits are not to the extent where I don't save at all.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:he's a "logical" wet blanket and she goes straight from zero to smashing things when she doesn't get her way, it's like the world's worst sitcom Pretty much this, also the fact that she told him it's his fault she smashed it because he made her do it is holy gently caress  EDIT: A Wizard of Goatse posted:
Just lol at this guy desperately trying to understand human desires and bluescreening about a smoothie
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The perennial value of this thread is the encouragement that people who are alone might be better off that way. And the boyfriend who "doesn't know how to enjoy his money" probably wants to retire earlier so he's not working for the rest of his life. He does still sound like kind of a prick, though. chumbler fucked around with this message at 21:37 on Feb 8, 2017 |
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food court bailiff posted:pick are you on sale for four dollars from a school district yard sale because you are hella projecting here have you ever said something like "I love my cat" and had someone's response be "well your cat doesn't love you, it's just taking advantage of you. they can't feel love. i thought you were a scientist" and then been like well geeeeeee thanks!!
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Pick posted:have you ever said something like "I love my cat" and had someone's response be "well your cat doesn't love you, it's just taking advantage of you. they can't feel love. i thought you were a scientist" and then been like well geeeeeee thanks!! no, because i don't really talk about my cats to people, because i'm not a weirdo i mean i know that posts about conflicts in decorating might be triggering to you due to your insane taxidermy thing but like, dial it back a bit
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Smashing stuff is basically an implicit threat of violence and a hella nono in any relationship, being a girl doesn't make it okay. The whole "look at what you made me do" thing afterwards is just the icing on the cake.
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when a woman im dating does something dumb, i make sure to smash poo poo around her and then yell at her for making me
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Feb 8, 2017 21:39
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ArbitraryC posted:Smashing stuff is basically an implicit threat of violence and a hella nono in any relationship, being a girl doesn't make it okay. The whole "look at what you made me do" thing afterwards is just the icing on the cake. You're the one projecting because there's nothing there that suggests she dropped it purposefully.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:41
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Boyfriend (23) does not know how to enjoy his money. If you offer to treat someone it's hella tacky to try and nickle and dime them, but at the same time I don't really like her attitude of "he should be spending more money on me because we're dating". Tho honestly, who needs to get a smoothie with their food, portion sizes are so large nowadays that even as a big guy I can never finish my orders and never bother getting stuff on the side. Just make going out and grabbing a smoothie there another date at some other time.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:43
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:lmao sever, jfc quote:but at the same time I don't really like her attitude of "he should be spending more money on me because we're dating". I normally wouldn't either but like, drat dude lol if my date offered to pay for dinner and then started haranguing me over a $3 smoothie I'd be kinda disgruntled too.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:45
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Lady- snapped in a completely understandable way, it's probable that she didn't intentionally drop the glass (hence, you know, the word dropped as opposed to threw), wasn't allowed time to cool off Dude- is picky about decorations which yeah it's not a reason to yell, but if she got this upset about this simple thing I'd bet money that he questions all of these small wants and when it finally boils over goes "well it's not a big deal, don't get upset???"
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Pick posted:Because he thinks the answer is "fine, then put up the decoration I don't really care" I like you Pick but you're going Full Mirthless right now
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CannonFodder posted:She might be a 900 year old alien that looks 13 in Earth years. She might be a two year old alien that looks 13 in Earth Years from Voyager. Now that's a real pedo.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:47
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ArbitraryC posted:Tho honestly, who needs to get a smoothie with their food, portion sizes are so large nowadays that even as a big guy I can never finish my orders and never bother getting stuff on the side. Just make going out and grabbing a smoothie there another date at some other time. but that's not your choice to make for the other person really It's just like here let me graciously offer to pay for your dinner; that doesn't mean I now get to police what you get barring you ordering the most expensive thing on the menu or something absurd like a bottle of Dom. That's kinda just the social etiquette right?
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Moridin920 posted:but that's not your choice to make for the other person really why'd you delete the part where I agreed with that only to lecture me as if i didn't? It was just sort of a side thought not commentary on their dumb fight.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:47
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Yawgmoth posted:I like you Pick but you're going Full Mirthless right now let's not say things we can't take back.
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food court bailiff posted:pick are you on sale for four dollars from a school district yard sale because you are hella projecting here I would take a wild guess that this is probably something that happens in their relationship (on small and large scale issues) often enough that it's a pattern and it has worn on her over the years. She obviously could communicate her emotions better too.
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I kinda regret posting that one now, not only did it start a big pointless derail but it wasn't even that funny to begin with here this one's got a pretty pretty princess My (25f) fiance (28m) doesn't want me to spend money on the wedding but he spent over 3,000 on a kilt quote:So me and dave have been together for three years and engaged for six months and I've started wedding planning but every time I plan something dave gets upset about how much I'm spending even though I'm actually spending very little. I spent under £120 on my wedding dress. My three bridesmaid dresses he didn't want to pay for so I bought a cheap plain dress and customised it myself with crystals, this took a lot of work to make them look the way I wanted. I am making my own wedding cake, the venue is being paid for by my parents, make up artist is a family friend (free) as is hairdresser . I have paid for every item from my own personal account and he has only paid for half of his wedding outfit (kilt) and wants me to pay for the rest. I have covered every expense for favours and decoration and he won't even pay for his own outfit. It's over £3000 for his and I'm expected to pay half, now he has said he wants us to pay for his father's outfit too. I'm not against this but he doesn't understand that I really cut costs on my wedding dress so that we can have more money for our lives together and that's why he says he complained. I have spent less than 1000 on favours, cake decorating equipment, wedding dress, shoes, bag, for me and bridesmaids, invitations and we have venue, singer, hairdresser, nail tech and makeup artist all free ( I have bought them all nice thank you gifts) the last thing to pay for are the rings but they aren't like to be the most expensive thing.
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Ouhei posted:While I don't think the girl is completely innocent in this thing, you have to keep in mind we're getting logic robots account of the events and he's clearly leading the story in a direction that favors him (his constant insistence that he did nothing wrong and how he was right by trying to "fix" it). Yeah. I dunno if y'all have ever been with someone like this, but when all of the small inconsequential decisions you want to make are constantly adjusted or questioned it just builds up. And yeah it would be better to just address it earlier, but you're always made to feel like you're making a big deal out of nothing and it wears you down
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ArbitraryC posted:If you offer to treat someone it's hella tacky to try and nickle and dime them, but at the same time I don't really like her attitude of "he should be spending more money on me because we're dating". If he pulled this poo poo on anyone he was taking "out to eat", e.g. his mother or his old college roommate, it would be equally infuriating.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:My (25f) fiance (28m) doesn't want me to spend money on the wedding but he spent over 3,000 on a kilt
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Pick posted:She's right to dump that albatross. Albatrosses are cool. Pick you are better than this
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Mak0rz posted:Albatrosses are cool. Pick you are better than this albatross in the sense of a burden, obviously I would never throw away a cool bird
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:lmao I used to be like this, then I aged past 23 and realized that I made enough money to save for retirement and enjoy it at the same time instead of living on rice and shoveling it all into a dragon hoard. So I guess the solution for this guy is to grow the gently caress up. Yawgmoth posted:How the gently caress do you spend $3,000 on a loving kilt. Even better, £3000. Ensign Expendable fucked around with this message at 21:56 on Feb 8, 2017 |
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Feb 8, 2017 21:53
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Pick posted:If he pulled this poo poo on anyone he was taking "out to eat", e.g. his mother or his old college roommate, it would be equally infuriating. It's two separate points sorry if i was unclear. When he offered to pay he should just get what she orders and that was hella tacky and inappropriate for him to make her pay for the smoothie, at the same time other parts of her post "well if I had his money I'd be much more generous with it" just sorta rubbed me the wrong way completely unrelated to the smoothie incident.
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I mean yeah what does he think he's even saving for? He'll be 65 with 0 life experiences and go 'welp TIME TO RETIRE........ oh.'
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Yawgmoth posted:How the gently caress do you spend $3,000 on a loving kilt. Very carefully.
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Feb 8, 2017 21:55
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Moridin920 posted:Don't marry the kilt idiot. $3k on a kilt and wants to drop $3k more on another lmao. Meanwhile she gets to show up at the wedding in a £120 sackcloth because no one can be prettier than me
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Moridin920 posted:I mean yeah what does he think he's even saving for? He'll be 65 with 0 life experiences and go 'welp TIME TO RETIRE........ oh.' I mean, or you can die. And then you didn't do anything.
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Moridin920 posted:I mean yeah what does he think he's even saving for? He'll be 65 with 0 life experiences and go 'welp TIME TO RETIRE........ oh.' If you're making like 100k and saving a fuckton of it since you're mid 20's you'd be surprised at how quickly you could retire. 3 dollars isn't gonna make a difference in that but on the flipside the vaste majority of americans are living pay check to paycheck in debt so there are worse problems to have. Maybe it's different if you grew up poor
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