Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I don't get how other people going through IVF treatments affects this crazy person's life. If another couple enriches their own lives and the life of their potential child, then what is the issue????

Parsley posted:

Childfree essentially co-opt legit concerns and discussions as a way to continue making GBS threads on parents, primarily mothers (it's more so mothers who will go through the truly invasive IVF stuff.)
So, in this case, pretending they care about orphaned children, the problems with the adoption system, the societal idea that adopted children are less so, etc. They don't care, they just enjoy being able to look down their nose at the woman who desired pregnancy.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I don't get how other people going through IVF treatments affects this crazy person's life. If another couple enriches their own lives and the life of their potential child, then what is the issue????

54 40 or gently caress posted:

This made me curious so I check the post history and this person posts obsessively in childfree and r/overpopulation

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Pvt.Scott posted:

Eugenics from a purely genetics-based view with the goal to solely eliminate birth defects and congenital diseases and the like is an ok idea. Lol if you think any program like that would stay on mission, though.

gentle pete posted:

What are your opinions on anime and circumcision?

Pvt.Scott posted:

I think some sort of universal basic income (In a dirty socialist ) would make more people willing to take the financial risk of adoption. You'd probably see less DINK couples with tiny dogs in sweaters, too. Just a wild guess though.

Batterypowered7 posted:

Infertile. Myrtle.

E: By the way, how's the pregnancy coming along?

My [17M] crush [17F] that I was getting closer to thinks I did sexual harrassment at work. It's a misunderstanding

Hi Reddit,

This situation is ridiculous and an example where reality goes beyond fiction. I don't know what's the "polite" or at least least dickish thing to do here. And I guess I'd like if possible a virtual tap on the shoulder because it feels really lovely and I don't see anyone I know bringing support rather than laughing in my face if I try to talk about it.

So I've had this crush from school, "Lea" for a few months, and lately (last two months) we had gotten closer and flirty, texting good morning and all evening. Please don't chastise me for going the friend route, I get it, I know that, but that ship has sailed. I thought getting closer like that was a good sign, and even if not at least I was spending a lot of quality time with my crush.

Starting today she introduced me at her workplace so that I could work here too and I was given a trial tonight. I really took this offer because I wanted to know how she works and to spend some time around her even if it is at work. It's at a daycare center, we're obviously not educators here, but there is need for staff to do other stuff around, moving furniture, some live cleaning, and a bit of keeping an eye on the children so they don't wander around while the staff is occupied with others. We're not supposed to spend too much time taking care of the kids but in practice they'll want to play with us and when we don't have anything to do at the moment we'll play with them a little. An easy job if you ask me.

Now on what happened: I had been playing cars with this kid, "Tim", when I was asked to come move a big table on the side. While I was finishing I noticed Tim was going out of the room and I ran after him. I found him in the locker room going through Lea's bag. I took him away from it and snapped from him whatever he had taken from it. Turns out it was a pair of underwear and Lea entered right in this moment. I poo poo you not. I was caught with her bag open and rummaged through and her underwear in my hand. Then she took it from me, told me to get out and it was time to close anyway, most parents had come and taken their kids, Tim's were right there at the door. We had finished to tidy up for the night. What the hell was I supposed to say that wouldn't sound ridiculous? I was at a loss and I didn't think anyone would be willing to discuss it.

So... I changed from working clothes, I got back home, and started to think consequences. I don't think I can work here after that and I emailed the guy who offered a trial that I was not going to continue (it was supposed to be two weeks.) Nevermind the job, I didn't need it and I suppose I won't be seeing anyone from there again. In principle I'm supposed to be the guy who's mature for his age: I live mostly alone, do my chores, cooking, laundry alone and in some aspects am an emancipated minor. I can do a job from home that pays better and I know better and I can do after homework. That's the principle but in reality I know nothing of the real world and this whole evening is surreal to me. Again I don't care about the job but I'll have to see Lea tomorrow and deal with not texting anymore and I have no idea what I'm gonna tell her. Probably nothing, I don't suppose being on talking terms is still on the table.

I guess that's my plan, run like hell. But I don't really want to behave like a bad guy and I'm wondering if that's not what I'm about to do. I'll be looking like the bad guy, that I'm going to have to make do with, but I'd rather not actually behave in a lovely way. I have no idea what Good Guy Greg is supposed to do here though.

tl;dr: Started a trial at a new work with crush. The first night it looks like I went to her locker and stole her underwear. I did not, a kid made it look like I did. I don't think anyone would believe that. I've already forgotten about the job, but I still have to see my crush at school and we were talking constantly. I'm at a loss what I'm supposed to do.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I got a baby head jammed in my ribs and can't bend forward because of it. Few more weeks to go!

Still entertaining the idea of posting video of the rolling and bulging to /childfree to see just how many people I can make literally shake

VanSandman posted:

I think your unfounded opinion is erroneous, in my own unfounded opinion.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I got a baby head jammed in my ribs and can't bend forward because of it. Few more weeks to go!

Still entertaining the idea of posting video of the rolling and bulging to /childfree to see just how many people I can make literally shake

quote:

I'm 20, and my girlfriend is 21. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. Everything's been great, we both work and have our finances straightened out and we've been very much in love with each other. She does what she can to please me and I'm the same way towards her.

Two days ago, she told me she had an odd request that she'd like for me to grant for Valentine's Day. She told me that she'd like to have sex with a male prostitute. Her reason: She misses having sex with a big penis.

I've been incredibly self conscious about my size, I'm 4" long and not very girthy either. This was addressed a while ago with my girlfriend and she told me that she didn't care, and that there were other ways for me to please her and that sex isn't all about the penis, it's about the intimacy.

I was very shocked at her request, and I asked her if I was really that unsatisfactory in bed. I always put her first in the bedroom and make up for what I lack in the downstairs department. She told me that it wasn't that I was unsatisfactory, but that she just misses the feeling of having a big penis in her and for one night she would like to have one again with a prostitute, no strings attached. I got angry and told her no, but she didn't seem to take me very seriously and told me that she wanted me to consider it, and it would make her very happy.

I'm at such a loss here. We've been so great together and I never saw something like this coming. I don't know what to do. I want her to be happy, but I also don't think that her request is reasonable. She told me she'd never cheat on me, and that she would only do it with my permission. I trust her, but if I don't let her do what she asked, I'm afraid that she will go behind my back.

What the hell do I do? I've been looking forward to Valentine's Day for a long time, and I even had flowers and chocolates arranged to show up at our house for her. I was planning on making her a really nice meal, and the two of us could watch a few romantic movies, and then head to the bedroom. Apparently she'd rather spend her night in the bedroom with some random gross male prostitute instead of the man that loves her crazy and would do anything for her. It makes me feel even more self conscious about my size and I feel inadequate and that I can't please her.

TL;DR: My girlfriend asked me if she could have sex with a male prostitute on Valentine's Day because she misses the sensation of a big penis, and I have no idea how to take it. I told her no, but she wants me to consider it.

UPDATE: This blew up a lot more than I thought it would. Thanks for all the support and input guys. I'd like to respond to each and every one of you, but seeing as there's now over 300 comments, that won't be very possible. I've come to the conclusion, from the help of you all, that I'm going to end things. She took something she knew I'm very self conscious about and basically humiliated and embarrassed me for it. The apartment is mine, and I'm going to tell her, probably today, to pack up her things and move out. She has a sister roughly 15 miles away, she can live with her. I'm incredibly depressed that this is the way things are going to go, but after consideration and being made aware of many points from you guys, it's clear what she wants in the bedroom is more important to her than a relationship with someone that loves her dearly. She picked the most intimate of days of the year, just to say she wants someone that has something that's impossible for me to acquire. I'm sure I can find someone that loves me and everything about me, including my penis. Thank you all for your kind words and advice, and I will keep you updated.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I think some sort of universal basic income (In a dirty socialist ) would make more people willing to take the financial risk of adoption. You'd probably see less DINK couples with tiny dogs in sweaters, too. Just a wild guess though.

corn on the cop posted:

your story is dogshit leave the poor girl alone

Batterypowered7 posted:

Hope the birth goes smoothly. My wife gave birth 12/14/16, got to the hospital at 1:20pm, started pushing at 7:00pm, was done at 7:20pm. Please do post the video to /childfree and come back with trip results.

E: Content.

I [26F] just got off the phone with my sister [39F] she does not want her son [15M] anymore because she has a new love interest and wants to start a family with him

u/Alex_Stephanie 258d

Yeah so I am about to kick pick my nephew up in half an hour. His mother does not want him anymore. Her exact words were " He is from a failed relationship, I will sign him over to you or what ever I need to do. But I want a fresh start with _________ and start a new family"

She met this guy and he is moving in tomorrow. My Nephew Seth just finished his freshmen year on friday is on summer vacation. As I said I am going to go pick him up in half an hour because she told me too.

Seth is a well behaved kid, it's not like he acts out or is disrespectful. Not once have a I heard my sister complain about that and he actually gets really good grades.

I just don't know what to do, I am more than prepared to take Seth in. I have a good job and I recently single so I can devote time to him. It's just this whole situation is a cluster and I don't know what to do.

tl;dr: my sister is kicking out her son because she does not want him anymore. She wants to start a new family with her new man

Batterypowered7 posted:

Hope the birth goes smoothly. My wife gave birth 12/14/16, got to the hospital at 1:20pm, started pushing at 7:00pm, was done at 7:20pm. Please do post the video to /childfree and come back with trip results.

E: Content.

I [26F] just got off the phone with my sister [39F] she does not want her son [15M] anymore because she has a new love interest and wants to start a family with him

u/Alex_Stephanie 258d

Yeah so I am about to kick pick my nephew up in half an hour. His mother does not want him anymore. Her exact words were " He is from a failed relationship, I will sign him over to you or what ever I need to do. But I want a fresh start with _________ and start a new family"

She met this guy and he is moving in tomorrow. My Nephew Seth just finished his freshmen year on friday is on summer vacation. As I said I am going to go pick him up in half an hour because she told me too.

Seth is a well behaved kid, it's not like he acts out or is disrespectful. Not once have a I heard my sister complain about that and he actually gets really good grades.

I just don't know what to do, I am more than prepared to take Seth in. I have a good job and I recently single so I can devote time to him. It's just this whole situation is a cluster and I don't know what to do.

tl;dr: my sister is kicking out her son because she does not want him anymore. She wants to start a new family with her new man

Batterypowered7 posted:

Hope the birth goes smoothly. My wife gave birth 12/14/16, got to the hospital at 1:20pm, started pushing at 7:00pm, was done at 7:20pm. Please do post the video to /childfree and come back with trip results.

E: Content.

I [26F] just got off the phone with my sister [39F] she does not want her son [15M] anymore because she has a new love interest and wants to start a family with him

u/Alex_Stephanie 258d

Yeah so I am about to kick pick my nephew up in half an hour. His mother does not want him anymore. Her exact words were " He is from a failed relationship, I will sign him over to you or what ever I need to do. But I want a fresh start with _________ and start a new family"

She met this guy and he is moving in tomorrow. My Nephew Seth just finished his freshmen year on friday is on summer vacation. As I said I am going to go pick him up in half an hour because she told me too.

Seth is a well behaved kid, it's not like he acts out or is disrespectful. Not once have a I heard my sister complain about that and he actually gets really good grades.

I just don't know what to do, I am more than prepared to take Seth in. I have a good job and I recently single so I can devote time to him. It's just this whole situation is a cluster and I don't know what to do.

tl;dr: my sister is kicking out her son because she does not want him anymore. She wants to start a new family with her new man

insufficient guns posted:

Found this post in r/relationships on my phone, when I went to my pc to post it, OP had deleted it. Luckily he made the exact same post in r/sex

My [M20] girlfriend [F21] asked if she could have sex with another man for Valentine's Day

insufficient guns posted:

Found this post in r/relationships on my phone, when I went to my pc to post it, OP had deleted it. Luckily he made the exact same post in r/sex

My [M20] girlfriend [F21] asked if she could have sex with another man for Valentine's Day

quote:

Hello. This is a throwaway account.
I need some advice from strangers since friends and family tend to agree with me and that is not helpful.
I will try to keep it short.

About 2 months ago, I was riding my motorcycle on a joy ride and was headed home. Took a day off work. On my way home, I noticed a car that had its hood up. I stopped to help and I met my future girlfriend there. Didnt hit on her or anything, was just there to lend a helping hand. I waited with her for the tow truck and got her number. A week or so later, we went out and really hit it off. I should mention she has a 3 year old daughter who is an amazing little person. A month or so later, we begin to drift apart. I am introverted and I usually keep to myself and like to ask questions. I generally dont talk about myself and that is usually how I am unless I am drunk. The woman tells me that she loves attention. I try to give it to her and it seems forced. I like my space and I like to give people space. In an attempt to fix things (I see/saw real potential here), I wrote a very long email to her telling her things that I would like to see differently. The email is really long so please bear with me. I will copy and paste it and change names as needed. Here it is:

GIRLFRIEND,
Let me start this off by saying that I am not leaving you. I know I am cryptic about things like this so let’s get that out of the way. I have strong feelings for you. I have had them since early on. Very strong and very good feelings.

We are approaching our 2 month mark of being together officially and that makes me happy. I am getting to know you more and more each time I see you and I like hearing about what you hope to accomplish and what your life goals are. It makes me proud to have a girlfriend that is not happy with staying the same person. You are hoping to evolve into something better than you are now. That can sometimes be hard to find as many people are fine with just being mediocre.

You are a good mother to DAUGHTER and that can also be hard to find. It’s an uphill battle to raise her as with any child and you usually don’t take the easy/lazy way out. The only thing I wish you did differently is that I wish DAUGHTER ate better. I see her eating nothing but fried food and rice and in my opinion, that will lead to problems further down the road. I don’t want to step over any boundaries and I don’t think I am in this case.

I think I have said this to you before but I really wish you wouldn’t smoke so much. It can’t be healthy for you. I am of the opinion that a person should be able to do what they want to their own body but I see nothing good coming out of that. Granted I am on the outside looking in but it seems to be an addiction. I’ve seen you go into withdrawal without it. I get a little disappointed when I see that you smoke or feel the need to be high a lot of the time. Maybe I just don’t understand it enough but that’s how it looks right now.

You and I are very different people. We know this and I appreciate that. We can learn a lot from each other as we were brought up in very different kinds of households and we did different things growing up. We have some things in common but they are very few. I like variety in what I eat, you stick to what you know you like. I like being on time to where I am going and you seem to be late a lot. That does bother me but it’s not a big deal. I have learned that when you say 5:00 you really mean 5:30 or later (at the earliest). That was just a part of getting to know you. It’s how you are and it’s how things go.

I look around and I see how other couples behave around each other. They are usually pretty affectionate towards each other. They joke around and laugh with each other. I look at how we behave around each other and I don’t see that. We don’t joke around much. We rarely touch. I want that. I want to be like that when I am near you. I am very affectionate and I don’t care who sees. I have a beautiful girlfriend and I want the world to know that she is mine and I am hers. I wish you saw yourself as I see you because you would know that you are gorgeous and then you would understand why it is that I like holding and kissing you.

You have told me many times that you do not like to be affectionate in public. A lot of people don’t and that is not something you can change. I feel like you reject me sometimes and that can get frustrating. I have a very strong urge to kiss and hug you and when you push me away or brush it off, it hurts. Of course this does not apply to when DAUGHTER is around and I understand that. I however do like being affectionate in public. I guess the question is, “who gets their way?” It often seems like you get your way and my needs take a back seat and that is not right.

I have needs and you do too. I think we are just both a little stubborn and like playing hard to get with each other. That is wrong as we shouldn’t be playing hard to get as we already have each other! I don’t have any other girlfriends and you have no other boyfriends so whats the big deal?

Regarding sex: I am at my wit’s end with it. The pictures you sent me can only get me so far. I see you and I want to tear off your clothes and be with you all night and we haven’t done that in a long time. Something always gets in the way. To me, that is a major problem. Sex is important to me and I know you like it too. Like I promised you, on the weekend of the 17-19th, we will be in a hotel with each other and that will take care of that. I want to tear into you so bad and I’ll show you exactly what I mean on that weekend. That will be a very good weekend...

There are things we have to fix in this relationship, GIRLFRIEND. We can’t ignore them or what could be a very happy life together can fade away into a bitter and wasteful dead relationship. I don’t want that for Us. As I have told you, I see a great future for us. Very happy and healthy. It is because of that future that I write this email. Just remember that while I do have a mountain of patience, I don’t have unlimited patience.

A few hours after this, she texted me that it was over. We then spoke on the phone and she told me that there were things about me that she did not like but did not say anything. I do not understand that logic since if you don't like something, you should speak up.

This was 2 weeks ago (the breakup)

Yesterday, I get a text saying hello, etc. We chat for a bit to catch up and eventually get into arguing. She told me that she showed my email (forwarded) to all her friends and family and they all think I am in the wrong. I don't like that she sent the email that was intended for her eyes only to other people. It's done and so I cant do anything about it but I dont know how (if) I can look those people in the eye as that is some embarrassing stuff to have out in the open.
If you read through this far, thank you- I know it is long winded but I need an impartial opinion on this. Feel free to ask any questions or missing details.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

jfc did yall do anything this weekend besides argue about anime and loving Mirthless

Me [28 M] with my ex-girlfriend [27 M/F] Left me after I wrote an email spilling my guts

54 40 or gently caress posted:

adequate sexy education/birth control

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Me [28 M] with my ex-girlfriend [27 M/F] Left me after I wrote an email spilling my guts

Bubblyblubber posted:

Goddamnit 54 40 sexy education is the reason we're in this mess to begin with! KIDS ARE NOT LEARNING PROPERLY FROM ALL THE ALGEBRA-CAUSED BONERS!


That there sure is an appropriate one-month-of-dating letter, huh?

insufficient guns posted:

Found this post in r/relationships on my phone, when I went to my pc to post it, OP had deleted it. Luckily he made the exact same post in r/sex

My [M20] girlfriend [F21] asked if she could have sex with another man for Valentine's Day

Bubblyblubber posted:

That there sure is an appropriate one-month-of-dating letter, huh?

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

If she's ballsy enough to ask him for permission to cheat on loving Valentine's, which is ungodly horrible enough, you might think she wouldn't ask for a goddamn hooker. Jeez.

WampaLord posted:

The funny part is she didn't even try to go for "hey maybe let's open our relationship" first and try to ease him into it, just "I wanna gently caress a hooker, be okay with this."

VanSandman posted:

At least poor old tinydick made the right choice