Yawgmoth posted:

No. Ketchup goes on nothing because it's disgusting tomato frosting.

Leon Einstein posted:

Don't flatter yourself; it's actually because you say such stupid poo poo.

Arguing that a woman isn't overweight because she's only slightly overweight according to the metric you're using is straight up idiocy.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Psycho Society posted:

Barbecue sauce is like 70% sugar these days

Psycho Society posted:

Barbecue sauce is like 70% sugar these days

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I [25 F] am growing tired of my[28 M] boyfriend of 4.5 years' picky eating.Relationships
1,027 points 611 comments submitted 1 year ago by cravingvariety to /r/relationships

Robert and I have been together for almost five years now, but have only lived together for about a year. Up until recently, we were long distance, and saw each other every weekend and on most holidays. We were lucky to be able to do that, and I knew going into this all that he's a picky eater. What I did not know was just how picky, because he downplayed it a lot, until we moved together.

We have an otherwise happy relationship, but I love to travel, as does he, and I am not a picky eater. I would like to be able to eat the local food wherever we are, but he throws a tantrum if he sees me eating something that he doesn't like, and he won't kiss me or be intimate with me for days after, even when I brush my teeth and do the entire oral care routine in front of him (which he demands). I feel like he's trying to use intimacy as a weapon to keep me from doing what he doesn't like, and that's irritating as well, and it honestly is a big bummer to not be able to try new things while we're travelling. For me, that's half the fun of being in a new place.

At home, it's more of the same. I can't bring home anything that he wouldn't eat, and if I do, I have to be prepared to be frozen out for however long because of my "betrayal" as he's called it.

Here is the list of things he doesn't like:

All fruits, with the exception of bananas and grapes
Cheese
Milk, except for chocolate milk
Water, unless it has an artificial extract in it or other sort of flavoring
Vegetables, with the exception of avocado
Nuts
Legumes
Soups
Anything with a sauce
Bread, except for cheap, white bread
Frozen things
Yogurt
Tea, Coffee and hot drinks
Alcohol, even when it's all cooked off (like, rum cake for example)
Pasta
Rice
Real Chocolate
Granola and most cereals
Oats
Grits
Mustard
Food that has any spices in it at all- not just "spicy" things
Ketchup
Mayonnaise
Pork
Chicken
Seafood
Eggs
Pudding
Gelatin
Popcorn
Crackers
Anything that's touched another food type

There's more, but you get the idea

This leaves a lot of things totally off of the table, literally, and it's starting to really be a problem for me. I come home earlier than he does at night, so I've been buying just enough for what I need for dinner, cooking for myself, deodorizing and cleaning the kitchen and putting it all back so it doesn't look like I've done so, and then making a Robert approved dinner for "us" later, when he gets back, but I'm getting tired of doing that.
Everything, other than this is working for me, in our relationship, and I'm not really sure if this is enough to break up over, after being together so long. I've tried to come to a compromise with him before, but he dismissed everything and wouldn't budge, at all.

He knows that his behavior and attitude makes me upset, but all he can focus on is how much he doesn't like that I want to eat things he doesn't want to.
Those of you with picky partners, how do you deal with mealtime and travel?
tl;dr: Boyfriend hates a lot of food, insists that I restrict my diet to match his- I'm getting tired of sneaking around, not sure what I should do.

Edit: Since a lot of people keep asking, this is a list of what he does eat:

Bananas
Grapes
Avocados
Beef
White Bread
Butter
Cheerios
Chocolate Milk
Instant Potatoes
Flavored Water

Last night, for dinner, he had a bowl of instant potatoes, a steak, a glass of vanilla flavored water and a bowl of grapes.

Pick posted:

Again, you got to go with no added sugar, because the sugar palette on the average North American is completely overton window'd to Candyland

Mirthless posted:

I didn't say she wasn't overweight, I said she wasn't fat.

Pick posted:

let us come together in our hatred, not be torn apart

quote:

tl;dr: Boyfriend hates a lot of food, insists that I restrict my diet to match his- I'm getting tired of sneaking around, not sure what I should do.

Pick posted:

let us come together in our hatred, not be torn apart

Pick posted:

let us come together in our hatred, not be torn apart

Pick posted:

Ketchup with no added sugar is good .

I agree on ketchup with added sugar, which is in the same food group as carrot cake and candied yams.

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So, we had a ceremony in October and were going to get legally married after the 1st of the New Year. That has been the plan all along. When I said in a couple weeks we will be getting our marriage license he freaked out and is saying he wants to wait until our relationship is better before committing legally. I feel so hurt and betrayed. We have kids together and I have been going by Mrs.[his last name] and now I feel like a fraud. I was looking forward to changing my last name and more than anything, I just feel betrayed. When I committed to him, I was committing to better or WORSE and now I feel like I have to be perfect for him to think I'm good enough to marry. He even had the audacity to call me a gold digger during our argument even though I pay for ALL of my poo poo AND the kids'. I don't give a poo poo about money, happiest times of my life were when I was poor so, I don't equate money with happiness, I would be happy living in a trailer. I just think I'm stuck now because I don't want to force someone to marry me and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who thinks I'm not good enough. I'm just so heart broken because I don't want to gently caress my kids up.

TL;DR Had ceremony with husband, planned to legally marry, husband now backing out

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Me [20F] with my "boyfriend" [21M] of 2 months, won't see me again, because of my race

Hey Reddit, sorry if I've posted this in the wrong subforum, used Reddit only once before.

A little bit of background: My mother is from Nigeria, but since she was 10, she was living in Hungary. She met my father here, who was Hungarian. I have a brother too, I think he had it way harder than I have, he had no friend, no nothing here, because he was black. Two years ago he went to study abroad and said he will never look back. I always wanted to have a boyfriend, you know cuddle and whatnot, but the boys were never interested in me, I never really thought it was because of the colour of my skin. I was naive, I guess.

I had a few friends, but never had a boyfriend at all. I always got strange looks on the street, but I guess I got used to it, anyways. I went to university here in Hungary, I wasn't a really good student, but thankfully I got in somehow.

The current "story" starts here:

Sooo in uni I've met this nice guy, who unlike most of the other people didn't mind the fact that I wasn't Hungarian (Or more like... white, because they get along with their fellow eastern European people, expect a few). So we got along just fine, we were hanging out more and more and during one party, we have kissed and more...

After that we have started to hang out more and more. We did other... things too, but after two months, this Sunday actually I've asked him if we were a couple or not. He seemed visibly shocked and said no, I've started crying, a lot at his place. I've told him why, he didn't answer me and asked me to leave his place and it would be better if we wouldn't see each other again.

Today he sent me a text, where he explained himself. He told me that we can't be a couple, because if he dated me, people would mock him and he doesn't want a girlfriend like me either. When I have asked him what do you mean "like me", he told me "You know.. black."

I've never been so heartbroken in my entire life, I just want to get him back and I don't care what other people would think about it, everybody looked down upon me in my entire life here, he was the first one who didn't and now I've lost him too.

What can I do?

tl;dr: Met a guy, we hanged out a lot, kissed etc, but he told me he won't date me because I'm black, but I love him.

artichoke posted:

Isn't this the one where he ends up assaulting her? Vanilla flavored water is ringing a bell.

Psycho Society posted:

time yo

quote:

I have no right to bring vegetables into our living space without his consent. He said that I was basically raping him, and making him feel violated.

Yawgmoth posted:

I am conflicted because I like carrot cake but candied yams were made by the devil. Or possibly introduced to the devil on a trip through Minnesota.

LethalGeek posted:

Everyone just loving ignore Mirthless gently caress.

I [29F] feeling betrayed by [46M] husband backing out of legal ceremony[new]

submitted 2 hours ago by Fist_City_86
Never date older dudes

LethalGeek posted:

Everyone just loving ignore Mirthless gently caress.

I [29F] feeling betrayed by [46M] husband backing out of legal ceremony[new]

submitted 2 hours ago by Fist_City_86
Never date older dudes

Mirthless posted:

oh my god i looked it up and it's more horrifying than just "assaulting her", jesus christ.

content warning, sexual assault:


First off, thank you to everyone who replied and gave advice and support, it was totally amazing and all of it was good to read and take into consideration. You guys helped a ton.

I wish I could say that this update was good news and that everything went smoothly. It didn't. Shortly after he woke up, I presented him with breakfast and said something along the lines of "When you have time today, and after you've woken up a bit, I'd like to talk to you about something." which was met well. Off I went to think about what I wanted to say. About an hour later, he said he was ready to talk, so we went into the living room and sat together. I stayed calm, and didn't make it a blaming and shaming situation, what I said was along the lines of "Robert, I love you, and I love what we've been building. I feel like we're at a point in our relationship where we're serious enough that I think we need to talk about nutrition.
I know that you take a multivitamin, but I would like if you would go to a Doctor and make sure that you truly are getting all of the nutrients you need. I want you to be around for as long as you can be. I am also going to stop adhering to your diet, because it's not healthy for me. For my health, I need to keep vegetables, fruit, nuts, legumes and grains in the house. I will pay for this myself, and you only need to chip in for your groceries- nothing's changing for you, but this is unhealthy for me, and I need you to understand that."

He actually let me finish what I needed to say, but he proceeded to pretty much have a meltdown. He was defensive, called me some unsavory names and told me that I have no right to bring vegetables into our living space without his consent. He said that I was basically raping him, and making him feel violated. He got physical with me. He threw me into a wall, punched me repeatedly, broke my rib and proceeded to sodomize me. Through everything, he was yelling and I was crying and paralyzed with fear. It was all a blur, but the next thing I knew was my neighbor coming into our living room and pulling him off of me while saying that the police were on their way. Robert took off. Neighbor helped me get my pants on and told me not to move too much. He stayed with me through everything and we gave information to the police- he even came with me on the ambulance to the hospital. At the hospital, a rape kit was done and my rib was dealt with.

The police were able to find Robert thanks to me being a weirdo who keeps hers and her SO's license plate numbers memorized and written in my phone just in case. Charges have been filed and I got a restraining order this week. I am safe now, and moved into my own place, closer to school and work and I have my own kitchen that I can keep whatever the gently caress I want in. I feel so much more free and overall, am happier. I don't know if Robert will ever get help for his eating problems, but I am glad to say that it's no longer my concern.

tl;dr: Said I wanted to keep veggies in the house, got rib broken; broken up, moved out and happy now.

Fullhouse posted:

don't date picky eaters!

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My cousin is a bit like that. He can't even handle the smell of most foods, it makes him gag. I don't know how it's possible to live like that, or why it happens. Both of his sisters eat normal food.

Fullhouse posted:

don't date picky eaters!

Grevling posted:

My cousin is a bit like that. He can't even handle the smell of most foods, it makes him gag. I don't know how it's possible to live like that, or why it happens. Both of his sisters eat normal food.

Mirthless posted:

Also, lol@him thinking not marrying her is any kind of serious legal protection against anything, they almost certainly became common law married when they had kids together

Leon Einstein posted:

Common law is the exception, not the rule.

zakharov posted:

Definitely the lesson here

Mirthless posted:

oh my god i looked it up and it's more horrifying than just "assaulting her", jesus christ.

content warning, sexual assault:

Psycho Society posted:

You could argue picky eating is the anime watching of food habits though.

Yawgmoth posted:

I am generally against torture but holy poo poo this guy is making me rethink that stance in his case.

quote:

22M] I used to call this girl [20F] butterface among friends, now dating and it's getting real. I know I have to tell her, but how?

u/thrwwybttrfcbb15m

So, I've known this girl for quite some time, but we never really talked to each other except for the standard 'Hi' & 'Bye'. Among friends we used to call her butterface. I coined this nickname myself a few years ago and we just kept using it. Well, we got to know each other better the last few weeks and things are going well. Of course I realize I'm a huge douchebag for calling her that, and I know there's no way I'm getting out of this any good. I do know that I have to tell her, but I have no idea how I should approach her about it.

Background: butterface is what you call someone with a great body but a not so great looking face (but her face -> butterface). She used to be not so pretty but that changed. I guess that's just karma coming my way.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

TLDR: Used to call this girl butterface among friends, now dating and it's getting real. I know I have to tell her, but how?

Mirthless posted:

Lots of people do it, but if you're not over it by the time you're 2 it's probably a bad sign?