Moridin920 posted:

I'd feel very very disgruntled in an "unhappy vassal in CK2" kind of way but it's their money to do with what they will.

I'd def cut off that financial support though because gently caress them then haha.

Moridin920 posted:

I'd feel very very disgruntled in an "unhappy vassal in CK2" kind of way but it's their money to do with what they will.

I'd def cut off that financial support though because gently caress them then haha.

Psycho Society posted:

That is really weird. One of the best parts of a relationship is getting to know the other person for the first time. And you just pretended that wasn't happening?

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Hi all. My school has a program where you can buy valentine’s day gifts like flowers, teddy bears, chocolates, or just a simple card and send them to your friends while they’re in class. It’s really adorable. I decided to send cards to all my friends. One friend in particular, Melody, has had a really hard time lately with anxiety and stress over college; she also mentioned that she “didn’t think anyone would care enough” to be her valentine, so I decided to send her a few roses instead of the simple card I sent to all my other friends.
I sent her the flowers with a message that said, “you are adorable and anyone would be lucky to have you as a valentine!” or something like that, but I didn’t sign the card. I just put a little winky face and a heart, like I did on all the rest of the cards. I know all my friends would know it was me because I’d talked about sending them something in advance.
So anyway, unbeknownst to me Melody has gotten her gift and is ecstatic because she thinks it came from a real “secret admirer”. She has been showing everyone in our friend group. Obviously, my friends figured out it was from me because of the heart + winky face, and they let me know.
So today I had to break it to Melody that she didn’t have a secret admirer, it was just me who sent it because I wanted to brighten her day. I knew it would be hard to tell her but I had no idea how bad it would be. She’s both furious at me and incredibly depressed. Melody thinks that I was trying to “trick” her into being happy and then humiliate her when I told everyone it was “fake”.
I don’t know how to deal with this. Obviously I didn’t think properly and I should have signed the drat valentine, but I’ve done a huge blow to Melody’s confidence and I’m afraid she’ll never forgive me. How can I explain my true intentions without belittling her? How do I make up for hurting her feelings so much? I’m really torn up about the fact that I hurt her so much, even unintentionally.
tl;dr sent my friend a valentine with no name on it, she thought she had a secret admirer. I told her the truth and now she thinks I did it on purpose to set her up to look pathetic, and she's extremely upset.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Me [30/F] with my parents [62/M&56/F], I was informed that they will give my inheritance to my brother (24/M).

Antivehicular posted:

Me [22 M] with my friend [21 F], gave away her spot in our senior year house for next year. Who's the rear end in a top hat?

This one isn't actually interesting, but I respect just asking "Who's the rear end in a top hat?" at the end of your subject line. It's the end of the tl;dr, too.
God, I don't miss high school.

Psycho Society posted:

That is really weird. One of the best parts of a relationship is getting to know the other person for the first time. And you just pretended that wasn't happening?

Pick posted:

It's actually a pretty responsible one. You intrigued me with "isn't actually interesting" because what you meant was "some people tried to make a choice and there were some difficult factors and overall what happened hurt someone's feelings". Generally I'm actually with the OP; someone being willfully indecisive and jeopardizing the rental was justification to seek someone who could commit and lock it down.

Antivehicular posted:

Yeah, I mean "not actually interesting" in the sense of "not entertaining for this thread." The OP acted in a perfectly reasonable manner and I don't think they're the rear end in a top hat here, and I'm not even sure I would call the insecure renter an rear end in a top hat, since it's not an easy situation. I just generally assume that stories about difficult situations that are slightly awkward but not really anyone's fault aren't really good thread fodder.

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My ex was a narcissistic and sociopathic rear end in a top hat. He led me on for months and then broke up with me right before my interview for medical school. During our last days together, he played breakup songs for me and said he wasn't ready to settle. He said he wasn't attracted to me anymore, wanted to gently caress other women, and destroyed any confidence that I had left. He treated me like less a human. Luckily I've forgotten a lot of the awful things he said.
I cut off all contact with him immediately. It was tough as I loved him immensely. Eventually I got into medical school and now I am a happy first year. I love medical school, and I am learning so much. It's been about a year and a few months after the breakup, and I am still seeing a therapist to deal.

Through a mutual friend, I heard that he got engaged this Christmas. I investigated because I am an idiot, and found his wedding website. There dozens of pictures of him and his new fiance. She's gorgeous, older, blonde. Plus all of their pictures are so loving lovely dovey and romancey. It's like they're both trapped in this fairy tale love bullshit. There are pictures of him proposing, pictures of them at wedding together, pictures them them behind a giant love sign.
In the meantime, I am single and alone. I am pretty devastated. He told me he was a sociopath and couldn't feel love, now he's in this loving relationship with someone else. He said he didn't want to settle, now he's getting married. He treated me dirt, now he's found a girl to treat like a queen. I wanted to be that girl.

tl;dr: My dearly beloved ex is engaged and apparently in a perfect loving relationship/getting married this June, make me feel better?

Antivehicular posted:

Anyway, onto TEEN PROBLEMS(TM):

I [18F] gave my friend [18F] an unsigned valentine. She found out it was from me and is now upset that I wasn’t a “secret admirer”. How do I salvage this friendship??Non-Romantic
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God, I don't miss high school.

Psycho Society posted:

Me [27F] with my ex-boyfriend [27M] of 1 year, he's engaged and I am devastated.


drat, girl didn't get let off easy. "I want to gently caress other people because I just don't love you anymore" and then bam, married.

Psycho Society posted:

Me [27F] with my ex-boyfriend [27M] of 1 year, he's engaged and I am devastated.


drat, girl didn't get let off easy. "I want to gently caress other people because I just don't love you anymore" and then bam, married.

ArbitraryC posted:

I feel like there was the flipped version of this story like a month ago, brother doing okay, sister got knocked up at 16 and kept it. Brother off living in a studio paying for himself, sister doing cc and getting a 2 bedroom paid for by parents. Kinda sucks but thems the breaks. Squeaky wheel gets the grease, just take solace in the fact that you don't need the help.

Psycho Society posted:

Me [27F] with my ex-boyfriend [27M] of 1 year, he's engaged and I am devastated.


drat, girl didn't get let off easy. "I want to gently caress other people because I just don't love you anymore" and then bam, married.

Antivehicular posted:

Never assume anyone loves another person as much as their Facebook engagement photos make it look.

ArbitraryC posted:

I feel like there was the flipped version of this story like a month ago, brother doing okay, sister got knocked up at 16 and kept it. Brother off living in a studio paying for himself, sister doing cc and getting a 2 bedroom paid for by parents. Kinda sucks but thems the breaks. Squeaky wheel gets the grease, just take solace in the fact that you don't need the help.

boner confessor posted:

"i was in a toxic relationship with a horrible manipulator who savagely dumped me. now i found a carefully manicured website and from the outside everything appears to be perfect and magical and this is in no way another elaborate performance of normality. why did he change for her and not for me?"

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My fiance [26/M] has called-off our engagement because of a drunk driving incident. I [27/F] want him back.

My fiancé, Rob and I have been together for five years and have a very happy relationship. We’ve never faced major obstacles; we have a similar outlook. We are/were supposed to get married in April and I’ve been planning and looking forward to this for months. Last weekend, we had bachelor/ette parties and did things with our best friends. Rob went with his friends out of the city and I went with my girlfriends into the city for a girl’s weekend. The evening was great until it became a nightmare.

We got into a car, and having drank too much, my friend got pulled-over. My friend was arrested on the spot and a passenger got arrested after interfering with the police. I wound-up being picked-up by family and instead of a fun weekend, it was a nightmare.

I told Rob right away because I knew he would be furious. Rob’s twin was killed by a drunk driver as a child. It was a tragic death. It happened over 20 years ago, but Rob is passionately anti-drunk driving. Rob drinks, but even after half a beer, won’t drive a motor vehicle and won’t drink if he possibly may need to drive. I knew he would be mad. He was so mad he has tentatively called-off the engagement.

My mom called him, but he wouldn’t budge. I’ve emailed, called, texted but he hasn't returned any of my means of communication. I know and agree what I did was stupid and wrong, I’ve even committed to giving-up drinking if he’ll reconsider. I really love him and feel terrible about everything.

Is this salvageable? Or is there nothing else I can do to change his mind?

tl;dr: Fiance has (tentatively) called off our engagement. I would do anything to get him back, but not sure I can. Is there anything I can do?

Pvt.Scott posted:

I just want an Amazonian goddess to cradle me in her swole limbs at night and tell me that everything will be alright. Is that so much to ask for?

corn on the cop posted:

take your completely appalling lack of judgment with you and give your soon-to-be-ex some space. maybe you'll get lucky.

InediblePenguin posted:

there's a massive difference between "i want you to be my boyfriend" and "you're my boyfriend" though, wtf scott

Mirthless posted:

i get the feeling all that sexual aggression may have had an effect on you a little, lol

corn on the cop posted:

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I told Rob right away because I knew he would be furious. Rob’s twin was killed by a drunk driver as a child. It was a tragic death. It happened over 20 years ago, but Rob is passionately anti-drunk driving. Rob drinks, but even after half a beer, won’t drive a motor vehicle and won’t drink if he possibly may need to drive. I knew he would be mad. He was so mad he has tentatively called-off the engagement.

take your completely appalling lack of judgment with you and give your soon-to-be-ex some space. maybe you'll get lucky.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I just want an Amazonian goddess to cradle me in her swole limbs at night and tell me that everything will be alright. Is that so much to ask for?

Pvt.Scott posted:

Whales ate my[27f] fiancee's[29m] family before his very eyes when he was but a lad of nine years. He has called off our wedding now that he has discovered that I am a marine biologist specializing in whales. I want him back but I can't contact him because he is roaming the seas in a fugue state searching for "the beast what took me own and now took me love."

corn on the cop posted:

take your completely appalling lack of judgment with you and give your soon-to-be-ex some space. maybe you'll get lucky.

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Did the groom use the exact work 'tentative', or are you just hoping that's the case?

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He hasn't said anything to me. I'm hoping it's tentative and we can work it out...

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Yeah, I don't think he's coming back

fruit on the bottom posted:

Pvt.Scott posted:

Whales ate my[27f] fiancee's[29m] family before his very eyes when he was but a lad of nine years. He has called off our wedding now that he has discovered that I am a marine biologist specializing in whales. I want him back but I can't contact him because he is roaming the seas in a fugue state searching for "the beast what took me own and now took me love."

Psycho Society posted:

And nah people who get into cars with people they know are drunk enable drunk drivers like crazy. They deserve nothing but derision imo