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Straight White Shark posted:Redpiller material is weird. There's a surprising amount of genuinely good relationship advice dressed up in really toxic language and attitudes Nope, full stop right there. There is a minimal amount of good advice at best. The only good advice they have is "work out, hot girls don't like out of shape dudes."
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Straight White Shark posted:Redpiller material is weird. There's a surprising amount of genuinely good relationship advice dressed up in really toxic language and attitudes, so people who don't buy into the dogma whole hog may accidentally wind up doing ok in their relationship and chalk it up as a success. uh no there is nothing on TRP worth taking seriously, it is all about maintaining male focused power dynamics in a relationship. If there is any good advice, it is purely accidental, and the wrapping it comes in undermines any positivity it would add to a relationship.
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Mirthless posted:there is nothing on TRP worth taking seriously, it is all about maintaining male focused power dynamics in a relationship. If there is any good advice, it is purely accidental, and the wrapping it comes in undermines any positivity it would add to a relationship. I agree 100% and didn't mean to imply otherwise, but the fact remains that a lot of redpill guides read like they tore a page out of a perfectly decent relationship manual and then randomly inserted "because all women are stupid cheating whores" here and there throughout the text.
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It's sort of in the same way that chiropractors can sometimes be beneficial if only by accident, and yet all of that can also be done by a more qualified physical therapist without the main course of bullshit to go with it.
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fruit on the bottom posted:It's sort of in the same way that chiropractors can sometimes be beneficial if only by accident, and yet all of that can also be done by a more qualified physical therapist without the main course of bullshit to go with it. it's more like a crooked chiropractor, in that sometimes they're beneficial by accident, and sometimes they break a baby's spine and then blame it on the parents (the baby is metaphorical, probably)
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:The internet says 8.4% in the US, which is definitely "uncommon" and way less than random chance would predict. That's because there are tons of societal, practical and maybe biological reasons that take random chance out of the picture. For instance, immigrants tend to congregate in communities because they have a shared history, family ties, culture, etc. They also need jobs where they are moving, so if the first Vietnamese man who moved to Wherever, USA bought a doughnut shop and got established, you'll see a lot of Vietnamese doughnut shops or businesses related to them like bakeries etc. popping up because as immigrants come in they network and help each other with the resources they have access to, which are going to be linked back to the original guy's success. Those immigrants are going to mostly date and marry and reproduce within their mini-community because for starters, that's who they are in constant contact with and share the most in common with. Humans do find things like foreign accents and uncommon (for the region) features etc. because we find genetic diversity attractive, but usually not too much diversity, otherwise social pressure will push back against the interloper it sees as the "other". Only some of those who would engage in an interracial or intercultural relationship ignore the social pressure put on them not to, so the mixing and integration on both social and genetic levels takes plenty of generations and is hindered by the tribalism of human nature. If you're a white dude who grew up in a white neighborhood you're most likely to end up with a white partner. You're also most likely to be assaulted or murdered by a white person, most likely friend, lover or family. Same with black people. Since the USA's white majority has subtle systems (most not even necessarily consciously)in place to keep races segregated, interracial couples remain relatively low despite what raw numbers would indicate, and integration has slowed to a crawl. That leaves more lovely ladies to turn me down, I say. E: as a caveat, my opinions are uniformed and usually bad. I was raised in a multicultural environment (military bases my whole life moved every 2-3 years) but was still part of the upper class (father was an officer and is a medical doctor) which still colored my associations towards the lily white. Pvt.Scott fucked around with this message at 17:43 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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Like I said, a chiropractor
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fruit on the bottom posted:It's sort of in the same way that chiropractors can sometimes be beneficial if only by accident, and yet all of that can also be done by a more qualified physical therapist without the main course of bullshit to go with it. Bingo. Lots of alternative health and bullshit fad diets fall into this category too. Like, "don't eat bread or sugar because that's a lot of empty calories" is pretty solid weight loss advice that a lot of people can benefit from, but if you wrap it up in ideological justifications and build an echo chamber around it you wind up with people drinking beef fat and killing their dogs with malnutrition (to get back on topic in this, the dog murder thread.)
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RNG posted:Thank you to whoever posted r/MRP (married redpill) a while back. I honestly expected this one to be worse based on the title, it's not like he ran her through "the door" he just got tired of her blaming her own fuckups on him and said they could talk again when she wasn't just using him as an emotional punching bag, I hardly see the issue. e: I mean it's not super clear maybe he screamed that into the phone or something but out of context her not knowing anything about cars, getting embarrassed at the dealership, then calling to vent at him is not something he should have had to put up with.
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Straight White Shark posted:Redpiller material is weird. There's a surprising amount of genuinely good relationship advice dressed up in really toxic language and attitudes, so people who don't buy into the dogma whole hog may accidentally wind up doing ok in their relationship and chalk it up as a success.
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Yes, I am literally doing the same thing Earl is. E: except in this scenario Randy is the redpiller and I'm explaining to someone else why Randy thought about eating poison.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:The internet says 8.4% in the US, which is definitely "uncommon" and way less than random chance would predict. Thats all marriages. New marriages rates are a little under double that. To me 1 in 10 marriage is not particularly uncommon and 1 in 6 or so new marriages is pretty regular. Also assuming projected trends continued the numbers are likely higher as existing data is between 2 to 7 years old now.
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Me (26F) with my soon to be SILs (23/25F). One is causing drama over my engagement ring and now wants proof from my fiance about its worth. I'm worried about what family I'm marrying into with my fiance (27M)Non-Romanticquote:I've been with my fiance Michael for almost four years now and it's been a great relationship so far. He proposed a month ago and we are both really excited to start our lives together. Hes truly wonderful. His family, well... :/
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Me (26F) with my soon to be SILs (23/25F). One is causing drama over my engagement ring and now wants proof from my fiance about its worth. I'm worried about what family I'm marrying into with my fiance (27M)Non-Romantic Yikes. On the one hand, showing her proof won't actually shut her up, but I'd love to have a big sit down meeting, lay all this poo poo out on the table, and cap it by tossing down the proof about the ring not being a real diamond. The actual reality answer is .
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# ? Mar 1, 2017 18:14 |
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If he needs a surgical procedure to cut them out of his life his fiance can probably help refer him.
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Mirthless posted:At least she has the support of her in-laws? good god. what a nightmarish story. i don't even know where to start. i'm so glad she managed to get through that without him hurting her. edit: oh jeeze, maybe not serial rape but uh yikes [/quote] Is this the same story as the woman hiding from her husband in the motel?
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# ? Mar 1, 2017 18:21 |
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Michael's got no spine and she will spend the entirety of their short marriage being made miserable by it. It is 100% on him to cut them off and cut them out. The fact that he thought it was a good idea to introduce her to them at all is insane.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:Me (26F) with my soon to be SILs (23/25F). One is causing drama over my engagement ring and now wants proof from my fiance about its worth. I'm worried about what family I'm marrying into with my fiance (27M)Non-Romantic I hope she's ready to if her fiance isn't willing to do the same to his insanely abusive family and go non-contact forever. Don't even invite them to the wedding and block them on every social media account. Jeez. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 18:50 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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Straight White Shark posted:I agree 100% and didn't mean to imply otherwise, but the fact remains that a lot of redpill guides read like they tore a page out of a perfectly decent relationship manual and then randomly inserted "because all women are stupid cheating whores" here and there throughout the text. it's an occasionally effective means of manipulating people, in the same way as and to a lesser extent than clicker training them
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Me (30/m) and my girlfriend (26/f) got into an argument about okraquote:I bought some okra at the grocery store the other day. I've never had it before and decided to try it. She told me I probably wouldn't like it, and I should put it back. I decided to get it anyway. I bought maybe half a pound which ended up being like $1.50. We're not on a super tight food budget or anything.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Me (30/m) and my girlfriend (26/f) got into an argument about okra I Dated An Eight-Year-Old WampaLord posted:Yikes. On the one hand, showing her proof won't actually shut her up, but I'd love to have a big sit down meeting, lay all this poo poo out on the table, and cap it by tossing down the proof about the ring not being a real diamond. how is that supposed to be a major own instead of the sister instantly and effortlessly pivoting to screeching about how tacky it is to give his fiance a fake ring she don't give a poo poo she's just out to alienate him from his fiance so she can keep her private slave A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 19:45 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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gentle pete posted:My [21F] boyfriend [22M] is embarrassing in public. Reminds me of the pissbitch. He just needs to find his "zone" get REEEEAAAAL beefy, BITCH
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Yeah Michael needs to cut out his insane sisters if he wants that relationship to work
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Batterypowered7 posted:150lb at 5'8" is underweight? poo poo...
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Me (28f) and my husband (40m) seem to have different desires in life, and he tells me that mine are childish. I've been craving more experiences since I'm nearing 30 (maybe a pre-pre-midlife crises??) and he's content sitting at home every night.quote:We've been married for 5 years and I admit..marriage isn't all I thought it would be. I kinda had this fairytale imagined.. And well.. It definitely isn't that. Which makes sense, it isn't realistic anyway.
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I don't really have pity for these idiots that marry someone 15 years older than them and then complain they're at different stages in life.
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I [40m] married my wife (28f) when she was 23 and she's panicking now that she's nearing 30 and has realized she's not going to be young or pretty enough much longer. How do I convince her to stick around to clean my house and suck my dick until I can line up a naive 21 YO art student to dump her for?
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# ? Mar 1, 2017 19:58 |
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if you're 40 and you have no desire to do anything but watch TV you are poo poo
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Zzulu posted:if you're 40 and you have no desire to do anything but watch TV you are poo poo Yeah, this isn't just "different stages of life" this is "you married a boring rear end person."
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Straight White Shark posted:Yeah, this isn't just "different stages of life" this is "you married a boring rear end person." quote:I don't want to be single.. I wanna do all these things, but with him right there too. I'm no longer satisfied sitting at home every night watching TV, I wanna be out. I wanna do things before I'm 80 and can't anymore. I feel like I'm aging so fast. Khorne fucked around with this message at 20:06 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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Khorne posted:She should just say that to him. If weve learned anything from this thread she should do that while in a public place, during the day, from 25 yards away with a loaded side arm at the ready
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If you wanna bring guns into it, just shoot him square in the heart already. Guy's already dead.
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Straight White Shark posted:Yeah, this isn't just "different stages of life" this is "you married a boring rear end person."
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"If you want to do anything fun maybe you should go be single" is just not a normal response to "hey lets go do fun stuff together. " Its not an age thing. My wife is a year older than me (mid 30s) has a greater appetite for travel than I do, but when she said she wanted more travel in our life together and that we didn't do enough fun stuff after having 2 kids, I said "ok lets go hiking every weekend and here is my credit card and the days I can get off of work. Book us a trip without the kids." When she wants to take a trip with her girlfriends I ask her to make sure it is at a time when I can get some childcare to help. It is telling that he is reacting this way to her wanting to do things Together. Dude is probably both boring and a control freak.
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# ? Mar 1, 2017 20:34 |
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I wish I appreciated how easy traveling was before I had kids. Now I'm lucky to get out of my county. Old dude is a loser.
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Leon Einstein posted:I don't really have pity for these idiots that marry someone 15 years older than them and then complain they're at different stages in life. Yeah seriously what the gently caress did you think was gonna happen????
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Is "I just want to sit around mindlessly consuming media for a few decades until I die" really a stage of life? Maybe he's depressed? I hope my partner doesn't want that when we're 40.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Is "I just want to sit around mindlessly consuming media for a few decades until I die" really a stage of life? Maybe he's depressed? I hope my partner doesn't want that when we're 40. I'm pretty sure its a fulltime lifestyle, a third of the country didn't get fat cause they got thyroid problems A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 20:53 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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I can sorta see not being super keen on traveling tbh, it can be stressful and tiring and sometimes you don't wanna blow your hardly any vacation time (lol USA numba 1) on it, but like not wanting to go out and hike/walk/bike/whatever with your SO on the weekends is pretty weird. Even if you're not a fan of long trips there's probably more than enough poo poo within a couple hundred miles you could drive to on weekends too.
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^^^ Not wanting to travel is weird and unattractive imo. Just look at those funko pop things and all the poo poo from thinkgeek. There are loads of people who feel the media they consume is part of their personalities. It's so weird.
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