flick my Mr. Bean posted:

It's me. She bought the poster a PS4 because she felt guilty about cheating on him with me.

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My bf thinks he's big poo poo because he's always been popular

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We're in Latin America. I think he's being racist towards people who are darker than him, and so when he's with me, he's turning the racism towards himself. Does that make any sense? Are these normal things to say in Latin America?

Moridin920 posted:

these people exist irl? wow


also yeah that's super common there

like a racist chicken pecking order

Splicer posted:

Suggest an open relationship

e: punch and/or sell his dog

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Serious question, is there anywhere in the world that mindset doesn't exist? Like everywhere everyone hates one another and racial aggression seems consistent everywhere based on skin tone

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Serious question, is there anywhere in the world that mindset doesn't exist? Like everywhere everyone hates one another and racial aggression seems consistent everywhere based on skin tone

Nazzadan posted:

I (19M) in a dead relationship with (19F) thinking of cheating with (23F) but dont know if I can handle the guilt.


justleavejustleavejustleavejustleave

Straight White Shark posted:

Do not punch the dog

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Serious question, is there anywhere in the world that mindset doesn't exist? Like everywhere everyone hates one another and racial aggression seems consistent everywhere based on skin tone

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What lead me to make this post. Her cousin got married yesterday. Okay, I understand taking a partner to something like that is a big deal, meeting the whole family. Maybe too soon for us. But, she took him and didn't tell me until the last minute. She said she didn't want to pressure me by meeting her whole family so soon and they already know. I was pissed and told her so. She said he was already expecting to go and she didn't want to say anything. I told her this wasn't cool and she was seriously testing the boundaries of what I was okay with. She said I was being needy and needed to back off. I gave it 60 min, then apologized and asked if she wanted to come over to my place after the wedding to watch netflix and spend the night. I know it would be like midnight, 1am, whatever, but it was a little bit of a 'loyalty test' if you will. She said she's text me as they were leaving.

So, last night rolls around. I stay up until 1:30am without hearing from her. Then, I get a few barely coherent texts from her. She was super drunk. Said she couldn't drive over to my place and just wanted to go to sleep. I told her I could pick her up and we could hang out, watch TV and she could tell me about the wedding. No reply, I went to sleep pissed.

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When my mother was seven months pregnant with me, my biological father (50's M) left her and denied that the fetus (me) was his. After a DNA test, he was sued for child support. To date, he has paid roughly ten payments, and owes a little over $80,000. The county I grew up in is incredibly poor, and as such cannot recover his assets (which he also hides).
I grew up extremely poor. My mother and I lived in a trailer in the middle of the woods for sometime, without power or water and I was always hungry. It was very difficult to come up with enough money to eat anything besides rice, let alone clothing or luxuries like toilet paper. My biological father, one the rare instances I saw him, would drive nice trucks and always owned horses. I believe the last time I saw him I was about nine.
Anyway, one of the ways he successfully evaded child support was to list all his assets in his brother and sister-in-law's name. So his trucks, house, horses, bank account were all in his brother's name. Along with all the money he received form his family, and they are very wealthy. So this current issue stems from his sister-in-law who has been aiding in hiding his money, and yet still wants to maintain some sort of strange relationship with me.
I have always been a friendly person, and my high school graduation invitation was open to anyone in my very small town. My mother rented out a local community center (very small town so this was pretty cheap) and we took an add out in the local paper (cheap too and I knew everyone in town anyway. Population <400). This aunt showed up, and I hadn't seen her since birth. She told me how proud she was of me, and gave me a gift. The gift was "every photograph she had of me, framed!" It was... three pictures of me as a newborn in the same outfit.
I'm not saddened by the gift, and I guess I don't really care about the money. But it really bothers me that while I was literally starving as a child, and homeless, that she didn't care - but when I was being honored or having a good moment - all the sudden she was there.
Fast forward to my graduation from University, she sends me a Facebook Message and request telling me how "proud she is of me." And later, when I get into law school, she does it again. And then today, when I rehab my house and posted photographs.
Logically, I know I should just ignore her, or be happy that she is being kind to me - but I do feel, emotionally, that she contributed to my neglect, by allowing my biological father to launder money through her and by having him at every single family event. She (and that side of the family in general) also shower their children with expensive cars, clothing, and attention - whereas, I have barely ever been acknowledged. The only time she even associates with me is when I do something markedly extraordinary.
Is she taking pride in our relationship, like look at my niece who is like this side of the family? Is she just trying to be nice, but failing to grasp the hypocrisy? Am I just being sensitive? I don't want to delete her off my social media, since it is informative to know what's going on medically with the family and it really never bugs me except when she reaches out to me directly. It would make me feel better to write her something, in a letter or PM maybe. But I can't really articulate what I'm feeling. It's honestly quite violating and paternalistic for her to take pride in my accomplishments when my successes are not due to that side of the family, but rather happened in spite of them. What would I even say?
tl;dr: Biological father's sister-in-law aids him (still) in hiding his income and assets so that he doesn't have to pay child support, am I right in feeling angry when she reaches out during my moments of achievement to congratulate me?

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Serious question, is there anywhere in the world that mindset doesn't exist? Like everywhere everyone hates one another and racial aggression seems consistent everywhere based on skin tone

Pvt.Scott posted:

That's why it's funny when everyone piles on the slightest whiff of racist thought ITT. America is a racist shitpile and my mere existence adds to the problem, but the US isn't even shooting for bronze in the Racist Olympics.

It's good that we're concerned enough about racism for a subset of the US population to call it out. That's better than most of the planet manages on a regular basis. We've got a long row to hoe here.

tactlessbastard posted:

Tell me more about your long long miserable loveless marriage, 25F

Punkin Spunkin posted:

I'm gonna punch your loving dog so hard

chumbler posted:

I think at this point this thread should really be titled /r/relationships: Just don't have relationships.

Kullik posted:

Clearly i agree with the use of these terms, in no way was i simply arguing that comparing finding trans women attractive with loving dogs, is loving revolting.

Nazzadan posted:

I don't really know how to feel about this one
My estranged aunt (50f) takes pride in my accomplishments, irritates me (24f) to no end.


Reddit thinks that the aunt maybe doesn't know the full extent of her husband's involvement with evading child support, or she is remorseful and genuinely proud of her.

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we've been dating for 10 months, I've just started college and she about to start in the fall. we get alone amazingly i love being around her, she makes me happy. However, i like to drink and hang out with friend but im not into getting "turnt up" (her awful choice of words not mine) like she does. loud parties with a gently caress load of people are ok but every weekend with this horse poo poo is ridicules to me. i just want to get drunk and watch lovely Netflix movies for fun but she doesn't enjoy that kind of stuff as much as i do. she about to start college about a hour away and I'm sure she'll be parting even more and i know i shouldn't be controlling but I'm not going to be really into her getting shitfaced with a bunch of guys all the time. anyone have experience with this kind of difference in a relationship? is it too big of a difference to over come? TL;DR she loves to party and im really not that in to it. how big of a problem is this?

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since i already started ill talk some more about her catch phrases, such as but not limited to.
''going mad hard" "poo poo faced in yo bitch face" "gently caress em, we ball" no, she works at publix she means "gently caress em we bag, paper or plastic"
i realize now i was born a grumpy old man and ill die that way. i think ill buy a cat

PleasingFungus posted:

the original post author wasn't that far off from you!



i think she was categorizing the bestiality and the trans porn together because she found them in the same MISC folder - it was her boyfriend's grouping & wording, not hers.

that's not the really funny part of the post, though. the funniest part is the replies to her comments

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"poo poo faced in yo bitch face"

Nazzadan posted:

im really not that into it but she is [f18] [m19]

Waterbed Wendy posted:

People should stop punching down, around knee height, and start punching down at about hip level.

#punchlargerdogsnotthesmalleronesthanks

Nazzadan posted:

im really not that into it but she is [f18] [m19]

What a DWEEB!!!

Barudak posted:

start hitting up the chicks in your colleges Actuary program.

PleasingFungus posted:

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I'm 23 and my boyfriend (whom I have been dating for a little over a year) is 27. Up until 4 or 5 months ago I've been fairly happy, he's a really great guy who absolutely adores me and gives me everything I could ever want, including the most amazing/awesome/cutest dog ever. I don't have as much money as he does (which he knows) so I've always felt really guilty about not being able to give anything back. When I tell him that, he says it's fine because he wants to shower me with gifts.
I love him, a lot. Sex life was meh but we genuinely enjoyed each other's company and personalities, so to me that made up for any sub-par activity in the bedroom. During the first couple of months of the relationships, however, I had rose-colored glasses on, and didn't notice some serious red-flags. Like his anger issues over the tiniest of things. I don't feel threatened or worried about being hit, but I was raised in an abusive household and sudden anger flare-ups cause some serious PTSD in my brain. I've explained to him and he tries to work on it, but then forgets and goes right back to being angry. He's also extremely jealous, any time a friend (boy or girl) posts on my Facebook wall or sends me a text he needs to know 1) who it is, 2) how/why I know them, 3) what they want, 4) if they're attracted to me. He also has a tendency to read over my shoulder, I have nothing to hide, but I just don't like people looking over my shoulder.
He has serious lows, and never any highs. He gets depressed over things like worrying about the future and if he'll have a job with his major in history, and if I'll leave him "like everyone else" because I'll find out how much of a "failure" he is. (He's not a failure.)
He says he loves me every five to ten minutes (not exaggerating) and if I don't say it back right away, he asks if I love him and gets really depressed that it took me a "long time" to respond. I've asked him once to maybe ease up on saying "I love you" all the time so that it will be more special when it's said, and he acted like I had just shot him in the heart and told him I hated him and his favorite t-shirt. He still says it every five minutes, but doesn't get overly upset when I don't respond or just respond with a "you too." He'll sulk, but then he gets over it five minutes later when he asks again and I do respond.
He hates my mother. Normal, especially if you know my mother, but it's to the point of wanting to stop me from visiting her and my old home when she's in the hospital.
We have nothing in common. Nothing. Something that normally would have bugged me but since I had just gone through a really sudden break-up, I latched onto him like pooh-bear to honey. He's a history buff and a former Marine, I'm a game designer and a horse instructor/rider. He dislikes games and is terrified of horses, I yawn at history lectures and am not the biggest fan of the military.
We got along so well the first few months, and lately I just feel trapped and stressed. Really I just want to break-up since he refuses to fix anything in the relationship, but I'm worried that he'll hurt himself, and I feel extremely guilty because we moved in together and got a dog and it's just wrong to walk away from that. I just know that I would actually miss the dog more than him if a break-up occurred.
Problem? I've never broken up with anyone, ever. I've always been the one broken up with, and I have a really hard time saying "no" to people. I have no idea what to do and I really just wanted to rant in someone's ear and cry on someone's shoulder and listen to some advice. . .so I came here. Help?
TL;DR I love this guy, but I'm not "in love" with him, and I'm worried he'll hurt himself if we break up, but he refuses to work on any issues.