Who What Now posted:

Why the gently caress aren't the super-beetle fights televised or at least up on YouTube?

Laughing Man posted:

I mean especially since he probably caught it from her, right?

La Brea Carpet posted:

Posting this one for the comment below

Me (38M) how to deal with what just happened

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

They're freshwater fish

Gloryhold It! posted:

What you don't know that the Amazon's salt water now? It's been that way because of environmentalist tears since the 90's

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Yeah I would probably tell her friends at that point. I'm the biggest preacher of just moving on and still...bleh.

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My BIL is an absolute scumbag. At 24, he has accomplished absolutely nothing in his life. He didn't finish high school; he's never been employed longer than a week; he's never really walked-up a flight of stairs; he has never read a full book, learned to ride a bike or taken care of anything in his life. Nothing.

He "makes money" through petty scams, peddling a bit of dope and finding ways of bilking people out of cash. He "rode his bike" around town, "got an injury" and was taken to the hospital where they "hurt his back." He sued the bank whose parking lot he "fell down" in and the hospital for back injuries. It blew-up in his face when security cameras saw him pushing the bike (that he can't ride) and laying down. After that, the rest was gravy.

My MIL has been a teller at the bank for 20 years, was so embarrassed by his antics that she cast him from the family home. They found him, a week later, sitting with a bag of cheetos, on a street corner where he had been for days. So, my MIL took him to a number of doctors and psychiatrists. Diagnosis: Lazy. My BIL is so lazy he would starve and freeze to death before doing anything. 5 different doctors have come to the same conclusion. One social worker said he was the epitome of lazy.

My wife, the eternally sweet person, let her brother move in. That was before Christmas. I'm beyond ready to boot his butt, but she thinks she can 'save' him. Instead, she's ruining our marriage. My wife is an elementary school teacher so she gets home around 4 and begins taking care of him. She gets him to eat a snack, makes his dinner, puts out his clothes for the next day, does laundry and tells him its bath time (she runs him his bath). He then sits in the living room, eating Cheetos until midnight or 1 AM. Then he sleeps until noon or 1PM. Meanwhile, I get up at 5:30AM, clean-up after him, get myself ready, get my wife to drive me to the train station, take a commuter train, two subways, and get to work for 7:45, work a full day, leave the office around 6:30. I then walk a bit, take two subways, a commuter train, get picked-up from the station and get home for 8:00. I kiss the kids goodnight, eat some dinner, study for my professional development hours, watch 10 minutes of TV, and get into bed. I won't see my wife, because she's tending to her brother and his needs - late night soda and cheeto run from Wawa, he needs his shirt pressed (for no f***ing reason), she needs to fix the apple remote (i.e. put his show on for him). I mean, how much lazier could he be? I'm really worried she's wiping his butt, too.....

Our daughter, who is 8, recently said: "When is fat rear end leaving?" My wife, hurt, said she needed to be nice to her uncle. But, I agree with our kid. Her brother invites himself to everything; he came on our date night ordering the most expensive meal on the menu, drinking a boat load of wine and then barfing on our rug; he ruined our daughter's birthday by eating her cake before the party even began. He routinely smokes in the living room, despite everyone's warnings and has even attempted to bring hookers into the house. Methed-out, haggard hookers he met while collecting some sort of welfare (which is another topic unto it self). I haven't been intimate with my wife in months because he knocks on the door at all hours, but frequently enters without knocking. If the door is locked, he'll push and push until one of us opens it.

I've laid-down the rules for him 3 dozen times, but nothing works. There is no consequence because his whole family makes excuses for him. I have really had it with his bullshit. I'm fed-up, the kids are fed-up and my wife just seems oblivious. Every time I've discussed this with her, she gets overly emotional and says she doesn't know what to do, that he'll become homeless. I no longer care. Homeless? Fine by me. I'll buy him a family size bag of cheetos and off he can go.

I really don't know how to approach my wife without it devolving into tears. I can't live with her brother anymore and I'm almost ready to take the children and leave. I am not going to subject them to further exposure to him. I want to approach her in a way that is solution-oriented, but every time I do, it becomes a cry fest. I really am at my wit's end and don't know how to go from here. I've spoken with my FIL, the only person who has ever been direct or pushed BIL, and told him point-blank that it's ruining our marriage. He, too, is at a loss for how to help.

Is it ultimatum time? I feel like threatening her with divorce and an epic battle for custody, because I cannot and will not further expose them to her brother. Is this a mistake?

tl;dr: My lazy brother-in-law has been living with us since before Christmas and is single handedly ruining our marriage. I'm not going to tolerate it anymore. I honestly cannot believe how lazy and feckless he is. He works hard at destroying our home life and would rather be homeless than ever do anything for himself.

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

They're freshwater fish

Werong Bustope posted:

I [35/M] want to give my BIL [24/M] an ultimatum, but my wife [33/F] is not ready to. At the end of my rope

Lonely Virgil posted:

Take him out to the woods, leave him there, and tell your wife he went to go live on a farm.

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My BF left his texts open and I saw a dick pic. It wasn't his dick. My heart sank. Maybe I spend too much time on /r/relationships, but I immediately thought he was cheating on me with a man. So I snooped.

Nope. It's two bros who have been laughing at each others dicks for literally years. Nothing in the text suggests any sort of gay activity or infidelity. The text says things like, "ugh, jesus, nice bush" or "GAAH! Got me" or "sick dude!" They even set up little photo shoots with their dicks in weird situations.

He wasn't even phased when he walked in the room and saw me looking at his phone. He was like, "watcha doin, looking at dick pics?" I have never encountered anything like this before so I asked him what the deal was. He said that he and this particular friend think dick pics are funny and that they've been doing this since the dawn of camera phones. He promised that he understands social propriety, he doesn't just go around sending people dick pics, and this is really just something he does with this one friend. He said if it made me feel better I could look through all his texts right then. He... didn't really seem to care that I just got an eyeful of his buddy's rather generous member. He was going to show me "the funniest pic of all," but I politely declined.

I'm not sure how to feel about this. I mean... it's pretty clear that there are no women involved, and that these two aren't gay. Just MASSIVELY immature. The thing is, my BF is actually a pretty mature and together adult in most areas of his life - certainly ahead of the curve. If this is his one weird little sublimation of latent immaturity, maybe I should let it slide? I don't know. Anyone else encounter this?

tl;dr: for the last decade my bf and his friend have exchanged and continue to exchange pictures of their penises.

Werong Bustope posted:

A palate cleanser.

My BF [27] and his friend exchange dick pics.

Jeff Sichoe posted:

Kick him out during the day, lock the doors, all weather

La Brea Carpet posted:

Well dammit now I want to know what the funniest one was.

Mustache and hat?

Hot dog bun?

Dienes posted:

Operant conditioning is literally the only way organisms learn. Calling it animal training grossly and deliberately over-simplifies things. Its not some 'lower-level teaching' - your college professor, 5th grade teacher, boss, parents, literally every instance in which you learn is operant conditioning. It is not just some form of clicker training. There's a whole sub-discipline of ABA that deals with college instructional design, another for organizational management, etc.

Edit: A behavior technician is a high school diploma level position that requires no actual experience or education in the field. Please don't present yourself as an expert on ABA.

Autism Speaks spends a lot on research on the cause of autism and the treatment of autism. They will help more people in the long run answering those questions than giving a handful of families money for treatment.

There's issues with Autism Speaks, for sure. Admin/advertising spending is crazy high, and they need more representation of autism in their leaders. Their ads are an issue - things like videos of kids with autism beating the poo poo out of people. I don't like them, because it just creates fear and stigma. But I also hate the push to pretend that low-functioning autism doesn't exist. Autism isn't some super-power, and it can be a huge loving tragedy. Unless you don't consider cases like a kid gouging out their own eyes or wandering into the woods at 2am a tragedy, I guess.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Leaning tower of penis

Penis De Milo

Dicks playing poker

54 40 or gently caress posted:

The Roses of Heliogalphallus

Werong Bustope posted:

I [35/M] want to give my BIL [24/M] an ultimatum, but my wife [33/F] is not ready to. At the end of my rope

Werong Bustope posted:

I [35/M] want to give my BIL [24/M] an ultimatum, but my wife [33/F] is not ready to. At the end of my rope

timefly posted:

If that guy is lazy enough to starve or freeze to death it seems like mental illness, not that he shouldn't be kicked out but not being willing to keep himself alive probably isn't "just" laziness

quote:

So, my MIL took him to a number of doctors and psychiatrists. Diagnosis: Lazy. My BIL is so lazy he would starve and freeze to death before doing anything. 5 different doctors have come to the same conclusion. One social worker said he was the epitome of lazy.

Werong Bustope posted:

My BF [27] and his friend exchange dick pics.

Play posted:

haha this guy is pretty rad. while I can't picture doing that myself I very much admire his attitude about the whole thing. and no way in HELL would I say no to seeing the funniest one

a second dick has hit the tower perhaps?
two dicks getting married?
a dick with a tophat and a monocle?
armored hoplite dick?

kinda wanna get in on this cottage industry myself. girl should just get over it it's not really normal but it's also not some horrible crime

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Sounds like pretty severe depression at the very least. That said he still sounds like a loving bum and a mooch

La Brea Carpet posted:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Puppetry_of_the_Penis

Surprisingly work-safe link, but somebody already beat (heh) you to it.

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Their tricks include:
Wind Up
Atomic Mushroom
Wristwatch
Snail
Three-Wood
Parachute
Eiffel-Tower
Hamburger
Hot dog
Pelican
Fruit Bat
Windsurfer
G-String
Brain
Weed-Snipper
Loch Ness Monster
The Guy Pierce
Wedding Ring
The Woman
The other Woman
Mollusc
Baby Bird
Flying Squirrel

La Brea Carpet posted:

therobit posted:

Yes, because goons know better than licenced professionals that met with and evaluated a patient. Seriously, not everything is mental illness or some tragedy that people need help for. Sometimes people are dumbshits or lazy assholes with no other pathology or reason behind it.