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small ghost: Jan 30, 2013

Also in peril =/= in fear, even if that wasn't just Pvt. Scott pontificating.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 10:13

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# ? May 15, 2024 12:48

Khorne: May 1, 2002

Werong Bustope posted:

Also in peril =/= in fear, even if that wasn't just Pvt. Scott pontificating.

I am gonna just pm you, or not pm you, because I've made a big enough rear end of myself in public.

I want to go on record saying I am very much against violence, I've nothing against victims abuse, and I am well aware that lots of people do lovely things. I know that women face more violence and discrimination than men, and I don't think that's right. On a personal level, I view both genders equally. I also don't feel "male anger" despite being a male so that term grinds my gears.

Khorne fucked around with this message at 11:09 on Apr 5, 2017

# ? Apr 5, 2017 10:54

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

So about a 9 - 9.5, on the middle class white male scale then?

# ? Apr 5, 2017 11:14

Kitiara: Apr 21, 2009

Gorilla Salad posted:

So, on a scale of one to ten, how middle class, white and male are you?

I'm Hispanic, female and grew up lower class yet I can see his point. Perhaps he didn't express it in the right tone, but if you are so freaked out at ANY male raising his voice then telling you to get counselling/therapy is not a bad suggestion.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 11:16

54 40 or fuck: Jan 4, 2012; No Yanda's allowed

Khorne posted:

I am gonna just pm you, or not pm you, because I've made a big enough rear end of myself in public.

I want to go on record saying I am very much against violence, I've nothing against victims abuse, and I am well aware that lots of people do lovely things. I know that women face more violence and discrimination than men, and I don't think that's right. On a personal level, I view both genders equally. I also don't feel "male anger" despite being a male so that term grinds my gears.

Yeah, you have made an rear end of yourself, that's definitely true. Not that the discussion needs to continue but you saw the opportunity and Khorne, gosh darn it, you really ran with it :allears:

[CA,USA] Am I in any way legally obligated to watch my younger sibling?
u/throwawaymyleaf[/CA,USA]

quote:

I am 17 and I am responsible for my 7 year old sister. Am I legally obligated to watch her? I have been watching her for approximately 9 months and it has gotten in the way of work opportunities, extra curricular stuff, and study aid that would have been after school.

Although I cant imagine taking any legal action against my mother, I want to know my liberties/obligations if any in this topic.

Mom, dad, I OBJECT to watching Spencer on Thursday
This one also has a perfect comment:

quote:

No. (Cain v. Adam (632 BCE) 4 Gen. 2, 14.)

54 40 or fuck fucked around with this message at 11:38 on Apr 5, 2017

# ? Apr 5, 2017 11:28

Marius Pontmercy: Apr 2, 2007; Liberte
Egalite
Beyonce

Khorne posted:

It's a valid concern in some situations. If you're worried about being sexually assaulted in day to day life, in public, in the US, in broad daylight then I'm not sure what to say.

I got assaulted in broad daylight, in public, with more than 10 witnesses, in the US, by a man last summer because he thought I did not properly acknowledge his compliment. He screamed at me and my girlfriend and then came after both of us with a 2x4.

Am I terrified 100% of the time? Not really, but I am exceptionally aware of times where I am alone in a place with a man I do not know or when a man forces me to interact with him unnecessarily. Gonna call the cops on me for abusing myself brb.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 12:16

zakharov: Nov 30, 2002; Tater Love

Khorne this really is the epitome of mansplaining

# ? Apr 5, 2017 12:27

Minera: Sep 26, 2007; All your friends and foes,
they thought they knew ya,
but look who's in your heart now.

Someone got mad once

Kill all humans

# ? Apr 5, 2017 12:39

cock hero flux: Apr 17, 2011

Milotic posted:

I (28 m) found out my mother (48f) is alive after thinking she was dead for twenty one years, she now has another family

drat that's an ice cold momma.

mother of the year 21 years in a row

# ? Apr 5, 2017 12:51

Megillah Gorilla: Sep 22, 2003; If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.; Bread Liar

zakharov posted:

Khorne this really is the epitome of mansplaining

Did you know that Khorne also does not :airquote:

see

race?

# ? Apr 5, 2017 13:04

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

(Indiana) What to do with unattended toddlers?

quote:

I am located in Indiana. I work at an apartment complex and recently I've been having a rash of naked toddlers running around unsupervised. They are usually only wearing a diaper. They run up and down hallways, into other people's apartments, in the parking lot, etc.

Most of the time I know where they live and can return them. The few times I haven't known them, when I approached them, they went home.

So far, I've been taking them home and calling CPS. I'm just wondering, because nothing is being done and the situation is being repeated by the same people, if I took them to my office and called the police, would I get in trouble? It's just, it's the same parents over and over again. These children range in age from 2-4. They've been found running around in diapers in the rain, the cold, at night, almost getting hit by cars, etc. I'm very tired of this happening. I also don't want a dead or abducted child on my hands.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 13:09

WrenP-Complete: Jul 27, 2012

Khorne posted:

If someone experienced a traumatic event and that colors their perception it's more understandable. Also, "Men:" is pretty patronizing and shows a poisoned us vs them mindset when we're all people.
It's a valid concern in some situations. If you're worried about being sexually assaulted in day to day life, in public, in the US, in broad daylight then I'm not sure what to say.

A few years ago, I was assaulted by two men, strangers, in the US, in a residential neighborhood, in the lobby of my apartment building, during the day.

I'm also not sure what to say! I suppose it's possible if you *haven't* experienced a traumatic event, that's coloring your perception. Makes it more understandable.

WrenP-Complete fucked around with this message at 13:18 on Apr 5, 2017

# ? Apr 5, 2017 13:11

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

[NYC] Lost 50K and sanity to a girl

quote:

tl;dr willingly gave a girl a lot of money, mostly through direct venmo payments. I have her name and phone number, but not much else. Don't know how to get it back.

I'll start with the obvious: I'm an idiot. I fully realize I f***** up. Things started so slowly, week by week, then month by month...I can't even believe I got here. Just want to cry or hide under a rock.

So I met this girl on one of those sugardating sites (again: I'm dumb). She did not seem like a hooker, and seemed genuinely nice and in need, so I helped her out with rent and few gifts. In exchange, we had a few dinners over few weeks, and I felt (and she made it appear) that this was a real relationship, with a potential real future. We had a lot of things in common like family culture, upbringing, etc. She was very attractive, but down to earth at the same time. This went on for a few months until she started making excuses to not see me, not following up on promises to meet family/friends. In fact she never gave out too much personal information, always had an excuse why I couldn't come by her place, and she said she worked at a US military office...so conveniently I could never go visit her at the office.

I broke things off, but then after a few months I was going through some family issues in life and reconnected with her. A lot more money was given, including for plastic surgery and more gifts and...it just hurts my brain to think about it. It was almost 1 year at this point and she kept mentioning things like meeting my family, marriage, where we might live together. I really stopped imagining her as "some girl from a site" and more like my future wife. She was very good at being manipulative and making me think I needed to continue taking care of her to keep her around.

We had made plans to move away together across the country, and about 3 weeks before, she just said "no". It's devastated me, and made me realize everything she ever did or said was fake. Also my job and home are lost because I had assumed I'd be leaving.

I'm not a lawyer or a cop or a hacker, but here are some ideas I had:

I could sue her. I figure the amount here is enough that its not going to just get thrown out of court. I'll say "we verbally agreed it was a loan" and ask for it back? The venmo payments dont have a specific description though, and there is no text msg record of me saying this.

I could call the cops, but not sure what the charge would be? I can totally believe she is scamming other people, and now I could believe she's a hooker too. Maybe I could lie and say I did hire her for sex, so she'd get arrested...but then I would too I suppose. And unlikely I would get any money back.

Anyways that is my sad story. I'll be happy if I can squeeze this part of my life out of my brain forever...but I'm very afraid I wont be able to.

First comment:

quote:

>. . . willingly gave a girl a lot of money.
End of discussion.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 13:18

54 40 or fuck: Jan 4, 2012; No Yanda's allowed

Danaru posted:

[NYC] Lost 50K and sanity to a girl

First comment:

Hahhaha I read this one, the comments are great because it's just everyone telling him he's goddamn stupid for considering illegally lashing out at her on top of being a moron as it is already

# ? Apr 5, 2017 13:28

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Goddamn can we please bring back Home Ec as a class?

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:09

Tender Bender: Sep 17, 2004

I'm disappointed he had the foresight to realize it would be a bad move to frame himself for soliciting a prostitute, that would've been funny.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:31

Anagram of GINGER: Oct 3, 2014; by Smythe

Well I'm a man and wo-men can subdue me with like a good perfume then take half my poo poo so

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:43

Anagram of GINGER: Oct 3, 2014; by Smythe

dammit I was just teasing purple death ray for always posting about something and now I'm going to get probated again

I feel really bad and I'm sorry.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:45

Bubblyblubber: Nov 17, 2014

Isn't it kind of the point of sugar daddy deals to pay a lot of money for little actual contact /loving? Like those guys that pay women to laugh at their tiny dicks?

Thought the title was just being hyperbolic, but nah

Blowjobs are destroying my relationship. [24F] [25M]

quote:

u/QueenofEverythingg
My boyfriend and I have been together for several months now, and I care very deeply for him, and would like to be with him for a very, very long time... But our relationships is falling apart because of the blowjobs that I give him.

When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we had sex all the time. He went down on me all the time. Life was great and we had the best sex life ever.

But then I started giving him blowjobs... And that's when everything went downhill. He LOVED my blowjobs. Couldn't get enough of them. Wanted them several times a day, anywhere, everywhere. He had to have them.

I was flattered, but not for long. I soon noticed the amount of times we had sex go down, and the amount of times he got a blowjob go up. Oh, and going down on me? Yeah, that didn't happen anymore. He just wanted bjs, and nothing but bjs. He was obsessed with them.

Our relationship got to the point where we would just never have sex, ever, and I would never get eaten out, ever. He would only ask for blowjobs, and I was left constantly unsatisfied. Here was my boyfriend having multiple orgasms every day, totally satisfied, and here was me... With nothing.

I had a talk with him. He said he'd change. Things changed for maybe a week, then he went back to his old ways. Had another talk, another, and another. He just keeps going back to his old ways.

He said I give him the best blowjobs he's ever had in his life and that he prefers them over sex. He said he could go the rest of his life without having sex with me, as long as he got his blowjobs - and, in that circumstance, he would be totally happy.

The sex isn't what it used to be. He doesn't try as hard. It's all so lazy and forced, and I can tell he'd rather be getting a bj.

He only goes down on me when I complain, and that makes me feel terrible about myself. I can tell he's only doing it to make me happy, not because he genuinely wants to. How can I enjoy receiving oral if he's not enjoying giving it?

Oral is the only way I can get off, so not receiving it is a huge deal to me. And receiving it only because I whined and complained for it... Well, that's even worse than not receiving it at all.

Things never used to be like this. He used to love having sex with me, used to make a big effort, and used to love going down on me too. Now he just wants blowjobs... He's completely addicted. I've lost the passion we once had in our sex life.

Don't get me wrong, he'll still make SOME effort. He'll still have sex with me here and there, still go down on me every now and then. But it's just not what it used to be. He does it only because I complain, and while he tries to make some kind of effort, I can tell his heart's just not in it.

I've tried cutting back on his blowjobs, but that doesn't restore the passion. At the end of the day, he'd still much rather be getting a blowjob.

It's not that I'm bad at sex, or unattractive. It's just that I can't make my vagina do the things that my mouth can. You can't even begin to compare the two.

TL;DR My sex life is suffering because of my boyfriend's addiction to blowjobs and I don't know what to do

He's a sweet guy and makes me so happy... But this issue is always lingering.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:49

purple death ray: Jul 28, 2007; me omw 2 steal ur girl

Elsa posted:

dammit I was just teasing purple death ray for always posting about something and now I'm going to get probated again

I feel really bad and I'm sorry.

Namaste, friend, it's all good

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:49

Streak: May 16, 2004; by Nyc_Tattoo

Elsa posted:

dammit I was just teasing purple death ray for always posting about something and now I'm going to get probated again

I feel really bad and I'm sorry.

make another cartoon and everyone will forget everytyhing

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:50

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

quote:

the P-word

Tbf, typing out 'the P-word' is the kind of thing a pussy would do

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:53

PHIZ KALIFA: Dec 21, 2011; #mood

if "society" does have a "red pill" that lets you see "the truth" it's the fact that violence is 100% the foundation of all American society and suffuses every single aspect of every social dynamic. If you're a sheltered white kid who became a sheltered white adult with only white adult friends its easy to think that this world is how it is because it's the right way.

you get close with even ONE person who has felt the world's lash, your perspective gets blown the gently caress open. i pray y'all rape joking rear end muppets spend the rest of your lives atoning.

edit: everyone works to make everything better for everyone. that's community. that's the strength of human society. the power. . . of pine-soul.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 14:54

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Bubblyblubber posted:

Blowjobs are destroying my relationship. [24F] [25M]

All hail the blowjob queen, monarch of the isles of man and the kingdom of fellatio, long may she reign

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:01

Captain Yossarian: Feb 24, 2011; All new" Rings of Fire"

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Hahhaha I read this one, the comments are great because it's just everyone telling him he's goddamn stupid for considering illegally lashing out at her on top of being a moron as it is already

Yo check your PMs lol

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:02

Pebergehund: Jan 21, 2010

Bubblyblubber posted:

Isn't it kind of the point of sugar daddy deals to pay a lot of money for little actual contact /loving? Like those guys that pay women to laugh at their tiny dicks?

I can imagine there is often a huge difference in expectations between the two parties, with with girl thinking she's going out to dinner in exchange for some expensive clothes while the guy thinks he's hiring an escort

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:08

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

Sometimes you gotta half-rear end that blowjob. drat girl don't you know poo poo?

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:09

Mirthless: Mar 27, 2011; by the sex ghost

Bubblyblubber posted:

Isn't it kind of the point of sugar daddy deals to pay a lot of money for little actual contact /loving? Like those guys that pay women to laugh at their tiny dicks?

Thought the title was just being hyperbolic, but nah

Blowjobs are destroying my relationship. [24F] [25M]

this girl needs to realize she has a talent that deserves to be met with an equal talent and begin her search for the world's most cunning linguist

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:11

purple death ray: Jul 28, 2007; me omw 2 steal ur girl

Mirthless posted:

this girl needs to realize she has a talent that deserves to be met with an equal talent and begin her search for the world's most cunning linguist

This is an HBO original series waiting to happen

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:14

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

purple death ray posted:

This is an HBO original series waiting to happen

An entire one-hour pilot with a script that's just muffled, indecipherable words, gagging noises and groans.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:18

Pvt.Scott: Feb 16, 2007; What God wants, God gets, God help us all

Elsa posted:

dammit I was just teasing purple death ray for always posting about something and now I'm going to get probated again

I feel really bad and I'm sorry.

Haha, nah man. This poo poo is my fault.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:40

Splicer: Oct 16, 2006; from hell's heart I cast at thee
🧙🐀🧹🌙🪄🐸

Bubblyblubber posted:

Isn't it kind of the point of sugar daddy deals to pay a lot of money for little actual contact /loving? Like those guys that pay women to laugh at their tiny dicks?

Thought the title was just being hyperbolic, but nah

Blowjobs are destroying my relationship. [24F] [25M]

ish
http://oglaf.com/gifted/

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:49

WampaLord: Jan 14, 2010

Awesome Blowjob Lady needs to realize she has literally all the leverage and can demand anything in exchange for blowjobs.

"I'll blow you after you eat me out and do the dishes." Now I know making sex transactional like this is supposed to be bad, but gently caress this dude for not appreciating what he has, make him earn them.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:54

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

Just give real bad ones and claim your forgot how to do it.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 15:57

54 40 or fuck: Jan 4, 2012; No Yanda's allowed

new phone who dis posted:

Just give real bad ones and claim your forgot how to do it.

Just orchestrate a safe bonk on the head- the perfect crime

Captain Yossarian posted:

Yo check your PMs lol

Nothing there :shrug:

# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:02

purple death ray: Jul 28, 2007; me omw 2 steal ur girl

new phone who dis posted:

Just give real bad ones and claim your forgot how to do it.

Fake a head injury and claim amnesia

E: drat it

# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:02

Nazzadan: Jun 22, 2016

My [17F] Daughter is upset with me[41M] after coming out as gay to me.

quote:

So, Throwaway cause I know she uses reddit, as do I.
I'd like to preface this that her uncle - my brother - is gay, and I have never talked bad about it or that it bothers me, so this really has me confused.
So Last night I was in my living room reading a book when *Sally comes in looking rather sheepish. I clocked her with a smile and went back to reading my book. I knew the look on her face meant she wanted to say something, but I would let her get it out in her own time.
After a few minutes she kind of blurts out that she has something to tell me. I put my book down and she starts raving on about her feelings and how confused she's been for a few years. This was weird for me as I am not the most emotionally available person, and I kind of thought this was a conversation she should have with my wife, and her mother, but whatever I'll try and help her like a dad should.
Maybe 10 minutes into what had become a bit of a ramble, she kind of wore her self out and just let out "I'm gay dad." I was a little side struck for a few seconds and (admittedly looking back it may have come off a little callous maybe) I said back to her "Oh, okay. good for you." I picked up my book and read again. It didn't matter to me whether she was gay, and I thought making a big deal about it might upset her, so the low key approach should have worked right?
Nope, been avoiding me ever since. even after I told her, that her sexuality is of no concern of mine as long as she is happy. Her mother is confused as to why she thought a 'need' to tell me about it. We're both pretty liberal people and I have a gay brother with whom I love, so why she is sad and noticeably upset with me I have no idea! Have I missed a trick here? Did she want me to make a fuss over it?
I wouldn't consider my self an unfair or strict dad, or given her reason why she thinks I need to approve of her sexual preferences. My only ruling on this is, be safe. We live in the UK so it's 16 for age of consent and When she turned 16 I told her that I know what I was like at that age and that not all boys are being nice just to be nice, and that as long as she is safe and responsible that's good. I was not gonna lie to myself and pretend she was not going to start having sex. Me and her mum agreed that it was better in the house than in an alley, wasn't exactly thrilled but my wife assured me she was a responsible young woman and would be safe.
I really have no idea what I have done wrong.
tl;dr: Daughter comes out as gay, I tell her "okay" it doesn't bother me, and now she's upset with me. Why?

My gay daughter is mad that her coming out went about as well as it possibly could, what's the deal reddit??

# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:03

WampaLord: Jan 14, 2010

Nazzadan posted:

My [17F] Daughter is upset with me[41M] after coming out as gay to me.

My gay daughter is mad that her coming out went about as well as it possibly could, what's the deal reddit??

Saying "Oh, okay, good for you" is not handling it "as well as possible" it makes it seem like he doesn't care about his child. This is a huge moment for her, he should treat it seriously and have a serious conversation with her.

# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:04

54 40 or fuck: Jan 4, 2012; No Yanda's allowed

That doesn't make a good Tumblr post, now does it? Accepting family doesn't bring in the paypal donations, people!

# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:06

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# ? May 15, 2024 12:48

Nazzadan: Jun 22, 2016

WampaLord posted:

Saying "Oh, okay, good for you" is not handling it "as well as possible" it makes it seem like he doesn't care about his child. This is a huge moment for her, he should treat it seriously and have a serious conversation with her.

The dude's brother is gay. He clearly doesn't have a problem with it and even said he was taking a low key approach to it to not upset her.

She worked herself all up and got deflated when dad was like, "kid gay, so what." Not dad's fault, dad is a cool accepting homolover and that's fine with me. In the comments he decides to invite her new girlfriend over for dinner.

Edit: reading more in the comments, he was trying to do the opposite of what his parents did to his brother which was constantly pestering about if he was sure. So he was just leaving it at, "okay, you are."

# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:08

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