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But nobody is asking anyone to renounce anything. They might just assume she is the same as their family, as the son didn't bother to tell them otherwise.
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ArbitraryC posted:to reiterate for the 50th time I don't think she played the situation right, I would never do what she did and would have gone with something more polite, but imo they made the first faux pas and it just feels like a play stupid games, win stupid prizes situation. They went for a religious powerplay and flubbed it. asking someone to say grace isn't a faux pas unless you're overly sensitive about your religion and this is a trigger issue for you. it's a polite request made in good faith which is easily declined in a polite fashion. i deem thee a goony weirdo *bangs clown gavel*
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If you wanna be a dick about grace big not a total dick say something along the lines of Parents; Want to say Grace? Girlfriend: I thank the weather that grew this food, and the workers that picked the food, and the people that cooked the food, etc
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imagine if your son's girlfriend who you've never met comes over, you offer her chicken, and she sneers about being a vegan. is it a faux pas to offer her meat the first time you're meeting her without knowing she's a vegan? should we be sensitive and respectful of all possibile dietary traditions?
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boner confessor posted:imagine if your son's girlfriend who you've never met comes over, you offer her chicken, and she sneers about being a vegan. is it a faux pas to offer her meat the first time you're meeting her without knowing she's a vegan? maybe this could have been somehow avoided by the mysterious figure sticking his dick into her?
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"Let's give thanks for this food and the fact that we are all able to be together tonight." There, done. It's pretty much just a toast. My [31M] girlfriend [29F] has a locked room in her house, I don't know what is in it quote:My girlfriend Amy and I have been tougher for 5 years and we are planning on moving in together into her home when my lease is up in two months.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:31
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Considering the parents didn't make a deal out of it at all and it's just the boyfriend, I feel like this is prolly an important distinction.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:31
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La Brea Carpet posted:"Let's give thanks for this food and the fact that we are all able to be together tonight." Finally, a pointless way to end your relationship that I empathize with.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:35
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [31M] girlfriend [29F] has a locked room in her house, I don't know what is in it She has such sights to show him.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:35
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Dude should just ask his parents not to force their religion on his girlfriend. There problem solved.
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I'd be cutting that padlock off so fast.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:38
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La Brea Carpet posted:"Let's give thanks for this food and the fact that we are all able to be together tonight." Dead parents' stuff probably.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:39
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Yeah if it was a shorter relationship it might be a dungeon or something, but after 5 years it's gotta be a dead relative's things.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:40
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ArbitraryC posted:Considering the parents didn't make a deal out of it at all and it's just the boyfriend, I feel like this is prolly an important distinction. Respectful parents won't make a scene
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Submarine Sandpaper posted:Respectful parents won't make a scene Right and if they were respectful maybe the bf coulda give em a heads up that avoided awkwardly putting an atheist on the spot to endorse a religious practice? Maybe the fault lies with the limp dick'ed dude afraid to tell his parents about the dynamics?
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Apr 13, 2017 03:43
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Yeah if it was a shorter relationship it might be a dungeon or something, but after 5 years it's gotta be a dead relative's things. Yeah, I know a couple that lost their five-year-old and they just shut the room off, they can't handle it.
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Some of the comments are treating it as if it's a real security issue. "It's some horror movie poo poo man, you gotta know or you don't move in!!" I'd, uhh, be more sly than that. He did say: quote:If she's ever had a loved one die I've never heard about it. Her parents are both alive, and she's never mentioned an ex or child or anything like that
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What you do is say, "Is that a loved one's things? Do you want to talk about it?  " and then she'll either:1. Confirm and probably be glad to finally tell you and get some emotional support 2. Deny and then clarify what it is (her collection of cat turds) 3. Be all Bluebeard about it and then you can run away
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So, what's the scenario here, she thinks saying grace itself is innately harmful in a way that overrides any temporal concerns about being nice to people or impressing her boyfriend's parents, which pretty much sounds like she's still a believer and just styles herself some kind of kitchen-table Satan locked in an extremely petty war with God, which lol; or there was literally no harm in the asking or saying of grace, it was a social courtesy on the level of saying 'excuse me' when you brush past someone, and she just felt zero need to be even minimally civil to stupid god-botherers of any kind and you're defending her as equivalent to all other religions because... you think all religious practice is really just motivated by spiting nonbelievers? idgi, sounds super lovelyLa Brea Carpet posted:"Let's give thanks for this food and the fact that we are all able to be together tonight." genderswap Bluebeard's an angle I haven't seen before
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Apr 13, 2017 03:46
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heheh i know your bluebeard obsession but i beat you old man
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Apr 13, 2017 03:47
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ffff fine whatever just don't go in my basement
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When I was nine, my family lived in a big farmhouse in the country. It had a full attic, basically an entire third floor not sectioned into rooms. And that attic was full of bees. My parents told me not to open the door next to my room or I would die. We lived there two years and never got stung. Everything was fine as long as you did not open that fuckin door. If you told people they didn't want to come around, though. Lady's got bees.
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ArbitraryC posted:Right and if they were respectful maybe the bf coulda give em a heads up that avoided awkwardly putting an atheist on the spot to endorse a religious practice? Oh well I didn't consider the parents forced the gf to make a total rear end of herself.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:50
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It's a really great opportunity to buy a lock pick practice set and padlock. Then if it is a horror film scenario, he can relock it and leave her for not saying grace or something. This way he won't be hunted down for seeing her portal to hell. (He should buy a lock pick set).
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Apr 13, 2017 03:50
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I'd never be able to live with a mystery like that.
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Apr 13, 2017 03:51
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La Brea Carpet posted:
This is the kind of problem I wish kept me awake at night.
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Submarine Sandpaper posted:Oh well I didn't consider the parents forced the gf to make a total rear end of herself. When I'm in religious situations I leave the room beforehand cause it's obvious when poo poo is gonna go down and that is goony as gently caress; I would never even consider what this person did cause holy poo poo
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Apr 13, 2017 03:52
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I'm not saying the GF was right, I'm saying everyone in this situation is wrong. They put her in a lovely situation, she reacted badly. It's everyone's fault.
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As the door finally swings free you find that behind it, there is nothing but a bare brick wall. "It leads nowhere," shes says, suddenly behind you, "just like a relationship without trust"
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:I'm not saying the GF was right, I'm saying everyone in this situation is wrong. They put her in a lovely situation, she reacted badly. It's everyone's fault.
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Barudak posted:As the door finally swings free you find that behind it, there is nothing but a bare brick wall. "It leads nowhere," shes says, suddenly behind you, "just like a relationship without trust" Hey, we need more posts like this in TFF, get back there
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:I'm not saying the GF was right, I'm saying everyone in this situation is wrong. They put her in a lovely situation, she reacted badly. It's everyone's fault.
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Submarine Sandpaper posted:who is more wrong? Wrongest even? If you make an illegal left turn in front of someone who has the chance to break, who is more at at fault for tbonin you?
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Submarine Sandpaper posted:who is more wrong? Wrongest even? I need to know the BMI's and posting history of everyone involved before I even begin to unravel this case
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Man maybe they were asking her to say grace ironically just to see how she responds, ever think of that??? I am an strong proud atheist man and sometimes I suggest people say grace, as a joke. My acting is top-notch, thus it is pretty rude if a new person responds in such a manner!!!
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:Hey, we need more posts like this in TFF, get back there I gotta back in posting season form after gorging at the Falcons Ringless Buffet.
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Barudak posted:As the door finally swings free you find that behind it, there is nothing but a bare brick wall. "It leads nowhere," shes says, suddenly behind you, "just like a relationship without trust"
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Hats Wouldnt Fly posted:When I was nine, my family lived in a big farmhouse in the country. It had a full attic, basically an entire third floor not sectioned into rooms. And that attic was full of bees. if the genders were swapped I'd guess "a bunch of dead prostitutes" but this works too
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I'm heartbroken The first episode of Grace & Frankie is the only really good one, but it's drat good.
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Haifisch posted:My (27m) girlfriend (26F) of 5 months has become "spiritual" after taking drugs and I'm staunchly atheist. My nigga, have you tried Peruvian DMT?
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