ArbitraryC posted:

Also the asexual aspect I could maybe vaguely understand the confusion but doesn't aromantic mean specifically that you don't actually get romantically attracted to people, as in, you've defined yourself as a person who doesn't want a relationship?

Elsa posted:

and Dexter. Or something.

VanSandman posted:

Who hurt you, Pick

fruit on the bottom posted:

Dexter only hurt bad people!

Though OP is a redditor...

Elsa posted:

Oh. Yeah I never watched Dexter. Maybe I meant American Psycho. Of all types of sociopaths, to cross a surgeon lol. That's TV plot material.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Isn't this like the third "surgeon boyfriend/husband is a sociopath" post?

Pick posted:

Like half of the true crime stories about criminals from upper economic strata involve surgeons

La Brea Carpet posted:

Isn't this like the third "surgeon boyfriend/husband is a sociopath" post?

Pick posted:

Like half of the true crime stories about criminals from upper economic strata involve surgeons

Pick posted:

Like half of the true crime stories about criminals from upper economic strata involve surgeons

Bamabalacha posted:

Can confirm, my future brother in law is a surgical oncologist and there's something...off and/or hyper spergy about him. And from when we've hung out with his work friends he's the most normal one, yeesh.

At least my SO is only his fraternal twin?

Edit: like we were out for dinner with him and some of his friends from med school and one kept grabbing my arm and telling me I had beautiful veins

Bamabalacha posted:

Can confirm, my future brother in law is a surgical oncologist and there's something...off and/or hyper spergy about him. And from when we've hung out with his work friends he's the most normal one, yeesh.

At least my SO is only his fraternal twin?

Edit: like we were out for dinner with him and some of his friends from med school and one kept grabbing my arm and telling me I had beautiful veins

La Brea Carpet posted:

Why are these people who spend 80+ hours a week locked inside a hospital dealing with high stress situations and life and death daily not acting normally?

Pick posted:

Yeah that's better.

Why are men all so fine-boned now? Even the fat ones.

Pvt.Scott posted:

E: I've heard the beautiful veins comment in the wild. Professional appreciation is fine and good.

quote:

Michigan, US. So I was using a dating app (not saying which one) we switch to a messaging service (also not saying which one) and at this point he starts hinting he's into "dark and taboo stuff". I'm in the bdsm community so I'm thinking something most people consider gross. I ask him to elaborate. He says "very yng" again I ask for elaboration and he says "age play without the fantasy". He's just told me he wants to have sex with children. I didn't ask what age. All I have is his email and a dating profile. No evidence of wrong doing. Is this something I should submit to someone? Cops? Feds? I'm not sure what to do but I was a victim myself and I feel I have to do something...

quote:

Redditor A:
It is not a crime to be a pedo. It is only a crime to abuse children.

OP:
Yes I'm aware but he's telling me he's "into it" in a way I feel he is participating in seeking behavior.

Redditor A:
Why? It sounds like he wants to role play. That may be creepy but it isn't illegal and it doesn't automatically follow that he is seeking out children at all.
That's what age play is, adults role playing the fantasy. He specifically indicated he was into it without the fantasy.

Redditor B:
If he indicated to you that he has committed a crime then go ahead and file a report. All I am saying is that sexual preferences or role playing is not illegal, as long as everyone is above the age of consent. So if you have no evidence that this goes beyond thinking and into actions the police don't have anything to act on.

Redditor A:
Being "into" something doesn't mean he's ever done anything. I agree that it's a big warning sign that at the very least, he is sexually attracted to minors. But that isn't illegal.

Redditor B:
It's not illegal to be sexually attracted to minors. You have nothing, no evidence that he has ever broken any law. No sex with a minor, no child pornography.
You can go report it to police if you really want to, but what are they going to do? There is zero evidence of any sort of crime or wrongdoing.

Fatty posted:

Because thats from r/legaladvice. They really only give a poo poo about legal issues and people frequently get shouted at for giving moral advice.

Bamabalacha posted:

I've heard it in the hospital before, but never by two dudes going "oooooooh" and running their hands up and down my arms while we were going to town on some Pho.

ArbitraryC posted:

He said that he wants to gently caress children in p clear terms.

Fatty posted:

Because thats from r/legaladvice. They really only give a poo poo about legal issues and people frequently get shouted at for giving moral or ethical advice.

Shugojin posted:

Yyeeahhh remember the rest of reddit loudly proclaimed paraphrased Voltaire quotes about r/jailbait

Undeterred, other people continued to just point at it and shout LOOK. LOOK AT THIS. LOOK AT IT. until the site administrators finally did something about the forum for distributing sexualized pictures of minors

La Brea Carpet posted:

How did you get an advance copy of my letter to Penthouse?

Bamabalacha posted:

Edit: like we were out for dinner with him and some of his friends from med school and one kept grabbing my arm and telling me I had beautiful veins

Shugojin posted:

Yyeeahhh remember the rest of reddit loudly proclaimed paraphrased Voltaire quotes about r/jailbait

Undeterred, other people continued to just point at it and shout LOOK. LOOK AT THIS. LOOK AT IT. until the site administrators finally did something about the forum for distributing sexualized pictures of minors

quote:

Edited for clarity

Sorry, I wrote this when I was a little drunk. I am going to clear this up a little, hopefully it will be therapeutic.

I was putting away my (ex)boyfriend's laundry two days ago and found a ring in one of the drawers.

Don, ex, has always been a bit of an introvert.

I travel a lot for work and am gone at least one week a month, sometimes more. I thought this was good, because Don likes to have time to himself. He had a lot of hobbies and spent a lot of time with his friends playing games while I was gone. He worked, but his hours and pay were better.

I got a managerial position and almost didn't take it, because I would be gone even more. He told me to do it, we needed to save for our future, and our kids. In the last six months, he has been pushing to move out of the cousin's house and start our lives. He talked a lot about marriage and what he wanted. He had me look at engagement rings online.

The one I liked is the one he bought. I thought it was for me and got so excited about it. I was stupid and let it slip to my best friend (J) I found the ring. She told Don and he told me the truth. He gave her the ring.

J (ex best friend) told me she had been sleeping with him for 3 years. Like she was proud of it. He said he was in love with her. She was there for him more. I didn't understand at first, because he told me to take the position and yet he made dumb excuses like that.

Then, in what had to be the stupidest thing I have ever heard, they asked M and I to move out. They said they wanted to make it their home.

M (J's cousin) told them to leave and they took their clothes and left. They were loving behind my back for three years. I was an idiot and because "I love him" I overlooked a lot of the problems that might have been there.

I have been going between numb, okay, and angry. Right now I feel like I am in charge, better off without them, but then I become so numb and break down crying.

I guess I just want to know how I get through this. What do I do? What do I say?

tl;dr: boyfriend proposed to my best friend of seven years.

Pick posted:

You can't have any tolerance for pedo poo poo. There are a lot of god damned pedos and you cannot, for one single second, give them the impression it's okay.

Mirthless posted:

if there's anything the last couple of years have taught us, the slippery slope is real and the second you start opening the door to unreasonable ideas it's only a matter of time before those unreasonable ideas become the norm

Pick posted: