A Wizard of Goatse posted:

please take a minute to dream up the weirdest thing you think it could possibly be before clicking, based on what you already know of these two very sane individuals

I was told by /r/dogs to take my post over here.

I am a very experience dog owner but my girlfriend is... unappreciable, at best. She currently has some sort of bizarre doodle breed she paid $10,000 for (I wish I was kidding, folks) and this dog is insane. Zero training, the thing didn't even know sit when I met him.

I have since trained him and he's decently behaved around me. She still lets him run wild around her. The dog is massively overweight despite my best measures because every time I increase his exercise my girlfriend increases his food. Speaking of, she only feeds him hot dogs. As in she cooks hot dogs, puts them in buns, adds toppings and then feeds him about 5-6 per meal three times a day. I don't know how he is still alive.

I try to feed him kibble but she continues to sneak the hot dogs behind my back. I started keeping guard in the kitchen, throwing out any hot dogs that appear in the fridge but she still managed to stuff him full with them. I've gone so far as to camp out in front of the fridge for 2 weeks straight and she bought a mini fridge behind my back and hid it in the cabana. Stuffed full with hot dogs. I finally taught the dog to potty train despite her best efforts. She will not let him play with other dogs because she is very overprotective of diseases and doesn't even let him go outside (I have to exercise him when she's gone or very early before she wakes up). I've started sneaking him away during the day to a training facility so he can be socialized under the inspection of a trainer.

She refuses to cut the dogs hair so it's a dirty matted rag walking around. She says dogs in the wild don't cut their hair and she won't either. INSANITY. So last week while she was at work I shaved the dog's hair off. She came home and had a complete meltdown, screaming and sobbing uncontrollable. She ran outside and gathered all the hair and is keeping it in a box on our kitchen table. And has since rejected the dog and instead pets the shaved hair.

This morning she threw away a $60 bag of dog food and told me the dog must've eaten it overnight and would need hot dogs until we could get more. I have her on camera throwing away the entire bag that I paid for. This isn't the first time. She's tried to hide and throw away his leashes several times so I couldn't walk him among other things.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

please take a minute to dream up the weirdest thing you think it could possibly be before clicking, based on what you already know of these two very sane individuals

I was told by /r/dogs to take my post over here.

I am a very experience dog owner but my girlfriend is... unappreciable, at best. She currently has some sort of bizarre doodle breed she paid $10,000 for (I wish I was kidding, folks) and this dog is insane. Zero training, the thing didn't even know sit when I met him.

I have since trained him and he's decently behaved around me. She still lets him run wild around her. The dog is massively overweight despite my best measures because every time I increase his exercise my girlfriend increases his food. Speaking of, she only feeds him hot dogs. As in she cooks hot dogs, puts them in buns, adds toppings and then feeds him about 5-6 per meal three times a day. I don't know how he is still alive.

I try to feed him kibble but she continues to sneak the hot dogs behind my back. I started keeping guard in the kitchen, throwing out any hot dogs that appear in the fridge but she still managed to stuff him full with them. I've gone so far as to camp out in front of the fridge for 2 weeks straight and she bought a mini fridge behind my back and hid it in the cabana. Stuffed full with hot dogs. I finally taught the dog to potty train despite her best efforts. She will not let him play with other dogs because she is very overprotective of diseases and doesn't even let him go outside (I have to exercise him when she's gone or very early before she wakes up). I've started sneaking him away during the day to a training facility so he can be socialized under the inspection of a trainer.

She refuses to cut the dogs hair so it's a dirty matted rag walking around. She says dogs in the wild don't cut their hair and she won't either. INSANITY. So last week while she was at work I shaved the dog's hair off. She came home and had a complete meltdown, screaming and sobbing uncontrollable. She ran outside and gathered all the hair and is keeping it in a box on our kitchen table. And has since rejected the dog and instead pets the shaved hair.

This morning she threw away a $60 bag of dog food and told me the dog must've eaten it overnight and would need hot dogs until we could get more. I have her on camera throwing away the entire bag that I paid for. This isn't the first time. She's tried to hide and throw away his leashes several times so I couldn't walk him among other things.

ZearothK posted:

Okay, that is certainly a few loads of weird.

I recind my previous judgement, the guy's alright, just a well-intentioned doormat dating an absolute psycho.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

please take a minute to dream up the weirdest thing you think it could possibly be before clicking, based on what you already know of these two very sane individuals

I was told by /r/dogs to take my post over here.

I am a very experience dog owner but my girlfriend is... unappreciable, at best. She currently has some sort of bizarre doodle breed she paid $10,000 for (I wish I was kidding, folks) and this dog is insane. Zero training, the thing didn't even know sit when I met him.

I have since trained him and he's decently behaved around me. She still lets him run wild around her. The dog is massively overweight despite my best measures because every time I increase his exercise my girlfriend increases his food. Speaking of, she only feeds him hot dogs. As in she cooks hot dogs, puts them in buns, adds toppings and then feeds him about 5-6 per meal three times a day. I don't know how he is still alive.

I try to feed him kibble but she continues to sneak the hot dogs behind my back. I started keeping guard in the kitchen, throwing out any hot dogs that appear in the fridge but she still managed to stuff him full with them. I've gone so far as to camp out in front of the fridge for 2 weeks straight and she bought a mini fridge behind my back and hid it in the cabana. Stuffed full with hot dogs. I finally taught the dog to potty train despite her best efforts. She will not let him play with other dogs because she is very overprotective of diseases and doesn't even let him go outside (I have to exercise him when she's gone or very early before she wakes up). I've started sneaking him away during the day to a training facility so he can be socialized under the inspection of a trainer.

She refuses to cut the dogs hair so it's a dirty matted rag walking around. She says dogs in the wild don't cut their hair and she won't either. INSANITY. So last week while she was at work I shaved the dog's hair off. She came home and had a complete meltdown, screaming and sobbing uncontrollable. She ran outside and gathered all the hair and is keeping it in a box on our kitchen table. And has since rejected the dog and instead pets the shaved hair.

This morning she threw away a $60 bag of dog food and told me the dog must've eaten it overnight and would need hot dogs until we could get more. I have her on camera throwing away the entire bag that I paid for. This isn't the first time. She's tried to hide and throw away his leashes several times so I couldn't walk him among other things.

datajugend posted:

Kibble $200
Data $150
Rent $800
Hot dogs $3,600
Utility $150
someone who is good at the economy please help me budget this. my relationship and dog is dying

datajugend posted:

Ask the dog if hot dogs are sandwiches.

Fartbox posted:

datajugend posted:

Kibble $200
Data $150
Rent $800
Hot dogs $3,600
Utility $150
someone who is good at the economy please help me budget this. my relationship and dog is dying

fruit on the bottom posted:

spend less on hot dogs

ArbitraryC posted:

What on earth could she be suing him for then?

quote:

My wife is openly cheating on me. We've been together for almost 5 years, married for almost 2. We have a 3 year old son and a 1 year old daughter. We were living in Florida, but because my wife has multiple health issues we decided moving back to Massachusetts would be best as there would be better healthcare options.

Admittedly our move to Massachusetts could have been handled better. I left a stable job in Florida and came to Massachusetts unemployed. Once is MA I found it difficult to find employment at first, my wife however found a part time grocery store job. When I did get a job I had to quit because my wife would not watch our own children. At this point I knew there was a problem in our relationship, but I thought we just needed to communicate better. I thought our relationship was fixable, since I have never cheated, or abused her. There was no alcohol or drug use, and before said move to MA I was working and handling all the finances.

Suddenly she is going out and not coming back until 2 or 3 in the morning. She will not watch our children, and has made it impossible for me to hold a full time job so she can continue with her part time grocery job. I suspected she was cheating on me, and confronted her several times. She denied it. A part of me still wanted to believe we could save our marriage at this point.

Up until this point we were staying with a friend, eventually after my wife had (another) meltdown screaming and throwing things, our friend kicked her out but allowed me to stay with the kids so we would have a roof over our head. For four months she only took the kids on five occasions, with one time being a sleepover. I have been with the kids 24/7 since, living off the help of my family and friends. She is now open about her cheating and brings her boyfriend around my children and family, openly calling him "her boyfriend" even though we are not legally separated.

Four days ago we moved into an apartment (we had been on the wait list for months before the cheating and as such were both on the lease). She did not want me to move in, but I was not leaving my kids, we are still married, and I'm on the lease. She has already tried to kick me out with no provocation, tried to deny me a set of keys, and is bringing her boyfriend into our home.

We are in seperate bedrooms and her boyfriend stays over. I do not consent to this but for the sake of my children I will not make a scene. It is killing me having to witness her complete disrespect of me and our marriage without care. My children are the only thing keeping me going at this point. So please what are my options?

I need to have custody of my kids, my wife has a diagnosed mental illness that she is not taking meds for, and I cannot have my kids around her disrespectful boyfriend of four months.

How can I keep the boyfriend out of our home, can I file a restraining or harassment order? I know we have to get a divorce but in the mean time I want her and her boyfriend away from my children and I.

I know this is a lot so any questions to clarify I will gladly answer.

tl;dr: My wife is cheating on me in my home, in front of me and my children. I will not abandon my children but I cannot live like this. Help.

quote:

Short background:

We have been married 2 years and we have a 6m old daughter. I think the marriage is pretty typical, ups and downs. I quit my job to stay at home with my daughter, so he is the primary income earner. He also handles all the finances. All of our accounts are joint, but until now I have never felt a need to watch them closely.

The amount of time he spends on Twitch has always been an issue in our marriage. Whenever I get him to cut back, he slowly eases back into it. I never imagined it would get to this.

Anyways:

So yesterday morning I went grocery shopping. When it came time to check out my card was declined. I called the bank, turns out the checking account is empty. Weird I thought, that has never happened before, okay, can you transfer over some from savings?

Nope, that's empty too. I was just completely dumbfounded, there was 38k in that account. We were going to use it on a house. To keep this short I dug through our account history to figure out what the gently caress is going on(obviously). Almost all of it went to twitch or streamlabs. Some transactions were as high as $1000. One day in particular he gave away 4500.

Further sleuthing revealed our rent is passed due.

I confronted him by phone and he got extremely defensive and angry. He said that it was his money anyways. Except it's not... I helped build the savings when I was working. Once I quit it kind of leveled off. The call ended in a hang up.
He didn't come from work and I haven't heard from him since. I don't know what the gently caress he could be doing seeing that we are broke.

I am posting this because I can't sleep anyways. I just don't know what to do. I'm scared and alone.

TL;DR - My husband gave away all of our savings to twitch streamers. Our rent is passed due. Since confronting him, which didn't go well, I haven't seen or heard from him. Advice?

WampaLord posted:

I normally never double post stories, but holy poo poo, y'all.

Y'ALL. HOLY poo poo.

Me [25 F] with my husband [28 M], I just found out he has given all of our savings to twitch streamers. We are flat broke, and bills are passed due.


$4,500 on Twitch tips!

IN ONE DAY

Thumbtacks posted:

What are the odds it was sent to a hot girl

The OP posted:

I am familiar with twitch. Boob streamers do not appear to be the root cause. So I got that going for me at least....

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

please take a minute to dream up the weirdest thing you think it could possibly be before clicking, based on what you already know of these two very sane individuals

WampaLord posted:

I normally never double post stories, but holy poo poo, y'all.

Y'ALL. HOLY poo poo.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

please take a minute to dream up the weirdest thing you think it could possibly be before clicking, based on what you already know of these two very sane individuals

WampaLord posted:

I normally never double post stories, but holy poo poo, y'all.

Y'ALL. HOLY poo poo.

Me [25 F] with my husband [28 M], I just found out he has given all of our savings to twitch streamers. We are flat broke, and bills are passed due.


$4,500 on Twitch tips!

IN ONE DAY

WampaLord posted:

I normally never double post stories, but holy poo poo, y'all.

Y'ALL. HOLY poo poo.

Me [25 F] with my husband [28 M], I just found out he has given all of our savings to twitch streamers. We are flat broke, and bills are passed due.


$4,500 on Twitch tips!

IN ONE DAY

Zeroisanumber posted:

I love that he got defensive about it. He probably does it because he gets a ton of shout-outs from people with thousands of followers and it makes him feel like a big man instead of a married computer janitor schmuck.

Haifisch posted:

Me [22 M] with my girlfriend[22F] of about two months. She lists off reasons why she dislikes me daily, before telling me how much she likes me and why she doesn't want me to leave.

"My girlfriend is a hellbeast, is this normal?"

WampaLord posted:

I normally never double post stories, but holy poo poo, y'all.

Y'ALL. HOLY poo poo.

Me [25 F] with my husband [28 M], I just found out he has given all of our savings to twitch streamers. We are flat broke, and bills are passed due.


$4,500 on Twitch tips!

IN ONE DAY

Pvt.Scott posted:

One of my buddies in high school had an older brother who was dating a screeching, pit-spawned demoness of a woman who was just awful in every conceivable way. Our group of friends just started calling her The Beast and dude's parents even joined in before long since she was constantly around their house. He got the hint eventually. Pussy is a hell of a drug.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

My[30M] girlfriend[28F] is suing me, how can we get through this?

suement