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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Just going back to this one to remind everyone that dude is almost certainly a software engineer and he doesn't have to be destroying his relationship, or all enjoyment outside of work period, for minimal gain in his career. Software engineers are the most in-demand human resource in America after nurses these days. If he's anywhere decently competent, he could easily walk away to somewhere that will pay him a handsome wage for a regular humane 8-5 40 hour week with ordinary work-life balance. But he'll never do that because he's too brainwashed into thinking he needs to "advance" at his insanely overworked slavery tech shop to keep up with his further enslaved bros. Tech giants are a sad, sad loop of delusional dreams that usually end in failure. This is true, but also many of those jobs are in the Bay Area or Seattle, both of which aren't cheap.
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Jun 2, 2017 16:31
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feedmegin posted:My dudes have you considered having a National Health Service? It turns out that works pretty well, by and large. There's about a third of America who enthusiastically believes that health care is a financial privilege and not a fundamental right for all. The people who most believe in this are often on the lower end of income, maybe median income at best, but they do not want to give the poor people (keyword: blacks and other people of color) health care as long as they exist and often cite God or Jesus to justify this in their broken rear end minds. Capitalism owns.
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Jun 2, 2017 16:32
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maskenfreiheit posted:This is true, but also many of those jobs are in the Bay Area or Seattle, both of which aren't cheap. Plenty of them are in semi-affordable places like Minneapolis or Madison.
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Jun 2, 2017 16:33
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I am a SOFTWARE ENGINEER, just like my daddy and his daddy and his daddy's daddy. I come from a long long line've software engineers and I'll die've high blood pressure before I'll 'seek healthy alternatives'!!
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Jun 2, 2017 16:34
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Hugh once programmed a utility that let him track when his other coworkers were at work.
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My boyfriend [27] just started hitting me [24], but I have hit him in the past. I'm confused and don't know how to feel.quote:I have been with my boyfriend for about four years. He has been extremely mentally abusive the last few months, but very recently he has started to be physically abusive as well. 
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Jun 2, 2017 16:38
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maskenfreiheit posted:This is true, but also many of those jobs are in the Bay Area or Seattle, both of which aren't cheap. Literally every major city (let's say over 100k or so in population) in America has an overabundance of tech jobs. Sure, you won't be working for Google, Facebook, or Microsoft, but you'll be living a very comfortable life, in a city with significantly saner living costs, where you won't be worked to the bone as a coding slave. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 16:42 on Jun 2, 2017 |
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Esoteric Scientist posted:My boyfriend [27] just started hitting me [24], but I have hit him in the past. I'm confused and don't know how to feel. goddamn its like a cycle of some kind... a cycle, of ABUSE!
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Literally every major city (let's say over 100k or so in population) in America has an overabundance of tech jobs. Sure, you won't be working for Google, Facebook, or Microsoft, but you'll be living a very comfortable life, in a city with significantly saner living costs, where you won't be worked to the bone as a coding slave. Do you work in tech? I've noticed many places outside major cities use different/outdated tech. So someone with 3 years of Python experience might get passed over for not having 3 years of Perl experience by a podunk HR dept, for example.
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Jun 2, 2017 16:40
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Esoteric Scientist posted:My boyfriend [27] just started hitting me [24], but I have hit him in the past. I'm confused and don't know how to feel. This one is really sad. 
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Jun 2, 2017 16:41
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Me, grad student, [27F] with my Professor [40M]. He harassed me and got away with it. Now he is threatening legal action against me for returning keys to his graduate student. What do I do?quote:Throwaway because I think this professor lurks reddit. I apologize in advance for this lengthy post. I am a PhD student in the life sciences at a big institution in the US. There is a new professor (I'll call him Andrew) who joined our relatively small department who seems to pick fights with almost everyone, but lately, I have been his target. Oddly, he only seems to pick fights with women (I am also a woman). He seems to have a grudge against me, and I don't know why.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Literally every major city (and most smaller medium-sized cities) in America has an overabundance of tech jobs. Sure, you won't be working for Google, Facebook, or Microsoft, but you'll be living a very comfortable life, in an area with significantly saner living costs, where you won't be worked to the bone as a coding slave. But then people will always ask him "you worked at google?! Why would you ever quit?!"
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maskenfreiheit posted:Me, grad student, [27F] with my Professor [40M]. He harassed me and got away with it. Now he is threatening legal action against me for returning keys to his graduate student. What do I do? You came within a few feet of me and I'm very upset, I'm a real person and not a goddamn alien.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Literally every major city (let's say over 100k or so in population) in America has an overabundance of tech jobs. Sure, you won't be working for Google, Facebook, or Microsoft, but you'll be living a very comfortable life, in a city with significantly saner living costs, where you won't be worked to the bone as a coding slave. But I have to work for Fooglebook because they make the best smartphone OS 
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Pebergehund posted:But then people will always ask him "you worked at google?! Why would you ever quit?!" "my dick stopped functioning from stress" that'd shut those fuckers right up. Perfect for a job interview too.
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maskenfreiheit posted:Me, grad student, [27F] with my Professor [40M]. He harassed me and got away with it. Now he is threatening legal action against me for returning keys to his graduate student. What do I do? Grad school is basically a BDSM dungeon without the sex. Just get out and go have a life.
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Pick posted:Grad school is basically a BDSM dungeon without the sex. Just get out and go have a life. sign me the gently caress up
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Update! My husband (29m) of three months thinks I'm (25/f) ugly. Where do I go from here?Updates I talked to my husband. He apologized and said that this stemmed from his frustration from my diet and lack of exercise. Like I said in my post, I'm 115 lbs but I'm also not in shape. Just skinny. He goes to the gym 5 days a week. He said he's disappointed. I guess him seeing other women or other moms going and getting "toned" showed him that I'm lazy. I'll admit. I am! I have a baby. I also know my diet isn't the best. To be honest, toning up is not on my list of priorities. He said he was venting with his friend. I still am weary though. We are going to counseling this week.
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Pick posted:Grad school is basically a BDSM dungeon without the sex. Just get out and go have a life. 
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Dunning Krugerrand posted:This one is long but the surprise twist ending on part 2 it made it worth it. You should read the whole thing but I added some bolding for the lazy. Should have been like "yeah, that's probably what pushed him over the edge" and then called a divorce lawyer to set up an appointment without breaking eye contact.
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Motherfucker posted:"my dick stopped functioning from stress" Should put it on his evaluations too Good: exceeded all my kpis Bad: stress has destroyed my dick
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My [M27] boyfriend of two years wanted me [F26] to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies. I did, but now he thinks I'm ugly and he is secretly spending that money on something else. So I have fairly bad skin. I have about six to seven red pimples on my face at any one time, uneven skin tone, and dark undereyes. I also have rather small eyes and eyelashes. So without makeup and a regime of beauty products, I don’t look as pretty. However, my boyfriend is aware of, and hasn’t complained about my natural look before. We have live together for about six months, and recently in the last two months I have made a change. My boyfriend was rather upset with how much I spent on makeup and beauty supplies a month since we have combined expenses. I probably spend about $75 a month on lotions, makeup, and whatever else I need. He told me, “why not just go without makeup and use what I use?” He thought the extra $75 would be better spent on something we buy together, like food. So I did. I wanted to make my boyfriend happy, and it seemed like a good idea at the time. It wasn’t. After a few weeks I started to break out even worse, and once my old makeup started to run out I noticed that my boyfriend stopped taking me out. We used to go on a date every Friday, but not anymore. We would go out with friends on Saturday, but suddenly my boyfriend wants to just “hang out with the guys” for weeks. And grocery shopping? He started doing it by himself on Friday when I am at work (he’s self-employed). So I asked him about it, and he told me, “You’ve really let yourself go. I think you need to lose weight if you want this relationship to be more serious.” I have never been so insulted in my life. One, because we have been talking about marriage since we moved in together (though it “mysteriously” stopped recently), and two, I’ve lost ten pounds since I started to really focus on my exercise regime. I told him this, and he said I was lying. Clearly I’ve gotten fatter, because my face is all puffy. I wanted to shout at him, but I didn’t, and we sat in the living room. I told him that the only thing that changed, other than my weight gain, was that I stopped using all my beauty products and instead used the cheaper stuff he does. I asked him if the reason why we stopped going on dates is because I don’t look as polished as I normally do. He said yes, that’s why. I know how much attraction means to guys, so I told him that I should probably get back to my beauty regime, but he got very, very upset and said that I spend too much money and that I was obviously just not trying hard enough with what we already have. That maybe I was skipping out on washing my face and that maybe the scale is wrong and I have gained weight (I also weighed myself at my friend’s last week, so we would both need to have identically miscalibrated scales). After that we didn’t talk to each other for awhile, him because he thought I was lying, and me because I just needed to calm myself down so I wouldn’t say something I regretted. I went into the bedroom, and my boyfriend’s laptop was on his bed. When I moved it the screen flickered and I noticed that on his desktop was a bunch of videogames I hadn’t seen him play before. I feel really bad about it, but I thought something was off so I went onto our bank account website. Normally my boyfriend pays all the bills out of our joint account, and I have always paid everything in cash (I just like the feeling of it) so he usually gets money out of the bank for me during the day and I go spend it. Well, I noticed a lot of transactions for steam. About $75 worth for the last two months. Money is pretty tight in our household; we are putting money towards savings and student debt, but we are frugal otherwise. We each have a personal budget though for non-essential expenses, about $150 each. I didn’t realize it before, but when I stopped buying beauty products, my personal budget also went down instead of up, and my boyfriend has been spending the difference on video games. I don’t know what to do from here. TL;DR: My boyfriend asked me to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies to help out our budget. Now he considers me ugly and fat and may not commit to me in the future. Also, the money that was supposed to go towards shared expenses went towards secret video game purchases.
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Man I thought the 'I beat my boyfriend and now he beats me' thing was sad but holy gently caress.
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Pick posted:Update! My husband (29m) of three months thinks I'm (25/f) ugly. Where do I go from here?Updates Ahhhhh, even if she's super short she's still most likely pretty small. Like my mom is 4'11" and weighs just under 110 and is a teeny tiny person.
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Esoteric Scientist posted:My boyfriend [27] just started hitting me [24], but I have hit him in the past. I'm confused and don't know how to feel. The Lockhorns: Origins
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Bamabalacha posted:Ahhhhh, even if she's super short she's still most likely pretty small. Gf is like 5'4 or 5'5, 117, skinny but not like anorexic or anything. I think Americans just have a skewed view of healthy weights nowadays. Not that it matters in that case tho, dude's a pos.
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ArbitraryC posted:Gf is like 5'4 or 5'5, 117, skinny but not like anorexic or anything. I think Americans just have a skewed view of healthy weights nowadays. Oh yeah, I'm 5'7" and generally between 115 and 120 and I'm skinny but not skeletor skinny. This also reminded me that the pictures of when my mom was pregnant with my brother are loving hysterical. He was 11 pounds when he was born and my mom basically looks like a sphere in all the pictures in the months leading up to his birth. And my brother was born a few days after Christmas so there are a looooot of pictures.
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That's pretty loving skinny, I'm 5'8" and when I was 118 I looked and felt like absolute poo poo. 125 is like a necessary minimum.
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Jun 2, 2017 17:14
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I'm 6'1" and 150, toching me is like touching a particularly angry urchin just spines everywhere
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weight doesn't matter, muscle mass does i'll date a 250lb woman but only if she can crush my head like a watermelon
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maskenfreiheit posted:Do you work in tech? Yes, I live in Columbus and work in tech. Anyone semi-competent with 3 years of solid Python experience could net an $80k+ programmer job here working for Nationwide Insurance, L Brands, Chase, Wendy's, Huntington Bank, etc with fairly normal work-life balance. This is the case in any major city in Ohio, Michigan, Wisconsin, Illinois, and much of the Midwest and rest of the country that isn't the Bay Area or other stereotypical tech giant areas.
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Pick posted:That's pretty loving skinny, I'm 5'8" and when I was 118 I looked and felt like absolute poo poo. 125 is like a necessary minimum. I have a baby face, absolutely zero boobs, and do a lot of yoga. I prefer being in the 120 range though. And I felt waaaay worse when I was around 130, but that can probably be put down to eating crap.
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I'm 5'11" and 140 or so lol
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maskenfreiheit posted:Me, grad student, [27F] with my Professor [40M]. He harassed me and got away with it. Now he is threatening legal action against me for returning keys to his graduate student. What do I do?  hahaha I guess at least she's learning one of the fundamentals of grad school. In a bubble full of people with massively inflated egos, never ever interact with the craziest ones, don't even get close to them if you can, wear a loving ghillie suit instead of a lab coat to hide from them if you have to. On my first year as a PhD student I went to a friend's lab to borrow some diazomethane because ours had gone bad, and I had no idea that his advisor was one of the major lunatics in our department (I knew she was kind of a weirdo, but that could be said baout half of the professors there). As I was walking away with their bottle of diazomethane she rushed out of the lab and started screaming at the top of her lungs that I was stealing their diazomethane. It was equal parts shocking and surreal. That was my first and only interaction with her; after that I learned to avoid her like the plague.
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I am 9'11" and 420 lbs and this is important for all of you to know
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Pick posted:Plenty of them are in semi-affordable places like Minneapolis or Madison. Can confirm, being an SE in Milwaukee owns. The great lakes region is basically clinging for dear life to the east coast as the rural midwest tries to suck it into the void.
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Unless a woman is like 4'9", 115 lbs is going to be anywhere from the skinny side of normal weight to terrifyingly skinny. Lmao. 😂🤣
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