Motherfucker posted:

His ability to sense evil has been blunted by spending the majority of his marriage in the keeping of a witch. No doubt the soul pact he signed at the commencement of their marriage in his blood somehow keeps him from seeing things clearly.

Pick posted:

Hugh was skinny but I don't think he ate solid food most days, he'd sit at his computer with a 2-liter bottle he'd refilled with oversaturated Tang

Pick posted:

My [M27] boyfriend of two years wanted me [F26] to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies. I did, but now he thinks I'm ugly and he is secretly spending that money on something else.

So I have fairly bad skin. I have about six to seven red pimples on my face at any one time, uneven skin tone, and dark undereyes. I also have rather small eyes and eyelashes. So without makeup and a regime of beauty products, I don’t look as pretty. However, my boyfriend is aware of, and hasn’t complained about my natural look before.

We have live together for about six months, and recently in the last two months I have made a change. My boyfriend was rather upset with how much I spent on makeup and beauty supplies a month since we have combined expenses. I probably spend about $75 a month on lotions, makeup, and whatever else I need. He told me, “why not just go without makeup and use what I use?” He thought the extra $75 would be better spent on something we buy together, like food.

So I did. I wanted to make my boyfriend happy, and it seemed like a good idea at the time. It wasn’t.

After a few weeks I started to break out even worse, and once my old makeup started to run out I noticed that my boyfriend stopped taking me out. We used to go on a date every Friday, but not anymore. We would go out with friends on Saturday, but suddenly my boyfriend wants to just “hang out with the guys” for weeks. And grocery shopping? He started doing it by himself on Friday when I am at work (he’s self-employed).

So I asked him about it, and he told me, “You’ve really let yourself go. I think you need to lose weight if you want this relationship to be more serious.”

I have never been so insulted in my life. One, because we have been talking about marriage since we moved in together (though it “mysteriously” stopped recently), and two, I’ve lost ten pounds since I started to really focus on my exercise regime. I told him this, and he said I was lying. Clearly I’ve gotten fatter, because my face is all puffy.

I wanted to shout at him, but I didn’t, and we sat in the living room. I told him that the only thing that changed, other than my weight gain, was that I stopped using all my beauty products and instead used the cheaper stuff he does. I asked him if the reason why we stopped going on dates is because I don’t look as polished as I normally do. He said yes, that’s why.

I know how much attraction means to guys, so I told him that I should probably get back to my beauty regime, but he got very, very upset and said that I spend too much money and that I was obviously just not trying hard enough with what we already have. That maybe I was skipping out on washing my face and that maybe the scale is wrong and I have gained weight (I also weighed myself at my friend’s last week, so we would both need to have identically miscalibrated scales).

After that we didn’t talk to each other for awhile, him because he thought I was lying, and me because I just needed to calm myself down so I wouldn’t say something I regretted. I went into the bedroom, and my boyfriend’s laptop was on his bed. When I moved it the screen flickered and I noticed that on his desktop was a bunch of videogames I hadn’t seen him play before.

I feel really bad about it, but I thought something was off so I went onto our bank account website. Normally my boyfriend pays all the bills out of our joint account, and I have always paid everything in cash (I just like the feeling of it) so he usually gets money out of the bank for me during the day and I go spend it.

Well, I noticed a lot of transactions for steam. About $75 worth for the last two months.

Money is pretty tight in our household; we are putting money towards savings and student debt, but we are frugal otherwise. We each have a personal budget though for non-essential expenses, about $150 each. I didn’t realize it before, but when I stopped buying beauty products, my personal budget also went down instead of up, and my boyfriend has been spending the difference on video games.

I don’t know what to do from here.

TL;DR: My boyfriend asked me to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies to help out our budget. Now he considers me ugly and fat and may not commit to me in the future. Also, the money that was supposed to go towards shared expenses went towards secret video game purchases.

Pick posted:

One time I came over on a Thursday and while I was talking he got up to go to his kitchen and retrieve a box of cooked white rice which he ate cold and he said "this is from last Friday..." but didn't offer me any.

Pvt.Scott posted:

What games were they though? Was it a holiday sale? You can get like 10-50+ games for $75 on a Steam holiday sale if you shop around.

Pick posted:

One time I came over on a Thursday and while I was talking he got up to go to his kitchen and retrieve a box of cooked white rice which he ate cold and he said "this is from last Friday..." but didn't offer me any.

dudeness posted:

Re-using 2 liter bottles for any purpose is a sign of mental illness.

Pick posted:

One time I came over on a Thursday and while I was talking he got up to go to his kitchen and retrieve a box of cooked white rice which he ate cold and he said "this is from last Friday..." but didn't offer me any.

I Was The Fury posted:

Oh, good, that justifies taking your girlfriend's cosmetics money for loving computer games and then telling her that she's too fat and ugly to date ever since you forced her to not use cosmetics

Batterypowered7 posted:

That last bit had no right being as funny as it is. Either he didn't want to poison you or he didn't think you were worth sharing week-old rice with.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I Was The Fury posted:

What the gently caress

Pick posted:

I loved him so much

Pick posted:

I loved him so much

Avenging_Mikon posted:

Hey Pick, I'm a fat shut in with bad hips and worse social skills, but I promise not to throw out your cupcakes or crawl under trucks. How about it?

Blue Train posted:

Is it really past tense or are you trying to fool us

Pick posted:

I loved him so much

Pick posted:

I loved him so much

Avenging_Mikon posted:

Hey Pick, I'm a fat shut in with bad hips and worse social skills, but I promise not to throw out your cupcakes or crawl under trucks. How about it?

Barudak posted:

It is past tense, but shes building a time machine.

Pick posted:

Nah, a vital component was meeting me in highschool when at the time I had never met anyone else my age with a skeletal disorder.

Pick posted:

Nah, a vital component was meeting me in highschool when at the time I had never met anyone else my age with a skeletal disorder.

Bamabalacha posted:

My mom has always said to me "don't be with someone just because they are broken in the same ways you are".

She meant it more mentally, but it still holds up!

Blue Train posted:

Is there any other kind?

Pick posted:

That's true, also in part because you should want someone who is broken in a complementary way. I mean, broken in such a different way that your respective brokennesses make for one kinda functional person. For example, I am extroverted, friendly, and know how to cook, which could balance out his introverted nature and old-rice-eating.

Bamabalacha posted:

My mom has always said to me "don't be with someone just because they are broken in the same ways you are".

She meant it more mentally, but it still holds up!

Bamabalacha posted:

She busted it out when I was whining about the problems I was having with boyfriend junior year of university. We were both depressed at the time and ended up feeding into each other I guess. And while you're right that complimentary but opposite weirdness can be a positive, it's much better when you come out of your wonkass shell and become better for the other person.

Batterypowered7 posted:

Arachnodactyly ain't even one of the bad skeletal disorders. Pick's probably got some saxophone-playing hands. She can probably palm a basketball!

Barudak posted:

Some people are in a relationship but dont spend any time together at all but cant imagine living separately so they just sort of function like a business partnership.

dudeness posted:

Re-using 2 liter bottles for any purpose is a sign of mental illness.

Yawgmoth posted:

Agreed. Have you ever had water out of an old 2L bottle? It tastes weird and I have no words to describe it. It's just... off. and gross.

Pick posted:

That's true, also in part because you should want someone who is broken in a complementary way. I mean, broken in such a different way that your respective brokennesses make for one kinda functional person. For example, I am extroverted, friendly, and know how to cook, which could balance out his introverted nature and old-rice-eating.

Pick posted:

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Marfans can and does kill, I get an electrocardiogram every 6 months to make sure my heart probably isn't going to explode in the near future.


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