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I'm completely grossed out by this.

To put some context, we live on the second floor of a duplex. An 7 yo and her mother, who is also our landlord live below us. The next door neighbors are an elderly couple who have their grandchildren stay with them sometimes. I have no idea if they were there last night. The next building over is a pre school. Obviously no one was there since it was the middle of the night but that still weirds me out. Bf does have a waterworks kink and I can't help but feel like it's involved.
My bf was in the other room 'drinking beer and playing video games' so he doesn't know I heard. But I'd like to discuss it with him.

I think this behavior is unacceptable and immature and hugely unattractive. Frankly, I find it trashy, and don't want to be associated with that.

Is this normal behavior? Do I need to get over it? What do I say to him?

Tldr bf peed out a window and I don't like it

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One day my mom discovered that some bushes in our backyard were dying. Couldn't figure out why. Turned out that my brother had been, pretty regularly, peeing out his bedroom window (which was in the attic) when he was too lazy to come downstairs. His friends would occasionally do it too. It sort of made sense to us, because we lived in an 1800s Victorian and it is so crazy squeaky and creaky that anyone coming down the attic stairs would wake up everyone in the house.

On that note though, my mom still asked him to cut it out because the poor bushes were suffering, so he did.

My dad also occasionally pees in our backyard rather than come into the house. We have a very hidden backyard though so there's no chance of being seen.

I told those stories so you are aware I'm pretty familiar with some men's weird bathroom behaviors. That said, even I think it is weird that your boyfriend would pee out a window where everyone could see it.

You and your boyfriend should watch the Horrible Bosses movie where the one guy pees on the side of a bar right next to a park and is caught by the cops and registered as a sex offender. That poo poo really happens and someone could easily mistake your boyfriend's urinating as touching himself to a preschool.

Or just tell him you heard what he did the other night and you would appreciate it if he never did it again because if anyone found out it would reflect poorly on you as a tenant.

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Im 16 and I used to pee out of the window a bunch too, but thats just because I'm lazy. There is also almost 0% chance of someone seeing me because of where my room is.

I stopped because one time I peed out of the window and my mom saw the pee from downstairs and came up and almost caught me. I lied and said I was just pouring out an old glass of water and she acted like she believed me, but I am pretty sure she didn't. I have since stopped peeing out of the window.

Anywho I doubt your boyfriend had any bad intentions. I know other people who pee out the window and they all do it because they're lazy and usually drunk.

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Well, you did say he has a urinating kink.

You live in an apartment with people living below you. Apartments are usually pretty standard so I'm thinking where you have a window, so do the downstairs neighbors.

More than likely, he is beginning to explore or already enjoys the voyeurism aspect of the kink and this may be a part of that.

There are two main reasons why this kink is attractive (of course, 100 shades in between and other reasons):

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

I [22f] woke up in the middle of the night to the sound of my boyfriend [24m] peeing out the window.

Finally, a topic that's in GBSReddit's wheelhouse

Pick posted:

I have never experenced love or relationships and it was not until I was 40 and diagnosed with this syndrome(after a melt down at work) that I realised why. I partly lost my virginty at 31 with a escort but the hotel broadcast my attempts a lovemaking all over their other rooms. This resulted in some one shouting comment on my lovemaking. And they where drunk.
Since them I have tried to get into relationships but to no avail.On holiday in sweden and denmark I see many wonderful blonde/blue eyed women and think 'shes nice' . But I don't have a clue on how to attract them.

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I think I've fallen for an aspergers 40something male. Well I don't know if he has got it, he certainly hasn't said but he is an oddball and I have left him twice now in less than a year due to his coldness and aloofness. I have taken a couple of tests to see if it's me but my scores came up 9 and 14 so it's not me. The clues that lead me to think he has got this are as follows

His job is his hobby (or his hobby is his job) he is a company director of three companies connected to specialist cars, skateboards and bmx bikes. It's quite simply his life. He visits the USA 6-7 times per year for car shows. And usually takes on average about 1000 photos of cars per visit...yes an obsession.

His house is a shambles, even employing a cleaner you wouldn't know. Work needing done such as carpets laid, painting or decorating have not been touched for 5 yrs plus when his wife left him.
He was married for 13 yrs and has two children. He told me he never loved her but she suited his purposes and she was the best around at the time and she had her
own life and allowed him to get on with his (job/hobby)

He is obsessed with dating sites and looking for that amazing woman and has dated oodles of women since his divorce but only one and me have come close.
He regularly watches porn which I feel has de sensitised him to women and he only sees them as sex objects.

He told me I had many endearing qualities, more than most and any guy would be lucky to have me but all he wanted from me was a gently caress buddy arrangement as in his words..."I'm looking for my amazing woman, I can't find her so what do I do in the meantime" this as you can imagine really hurt.

He monopolises the conversation.....I would say 95 percent about issues at work 4 percent about issues with friends he feels are mental bullies towards him and yeah a bit about his kids and how sexy I look.
He feels uncomfortable in a social environment and when his friends find it easy to chat to women, he feels uncomfortable and would rather go home.

He is on the Internet most of his time (work, dating sites, social network sites and porn)

Wears thick glasses as his eyesight is poor (I'm not surprised)

Very geeky and nerdy looking. My friends are shocked when they meet him...they say "what do you see in him" "he's weird, you can do better" etc etc

A real loner and one who thinks there is absolutely nothing wrong with him. I tried once to see if he could be more open about himself to interact and perhaps he would find it easier to mix but his response "I'm not diluting myself for the sake of others, those people out there like me and understand me, I will find"

I asked him if he was emotionally detached or emotionally unavailable, his reply..."emotionally available to the woman who holds the key and has the right combination " (bizarre)

You may wonder what I do see in him, I really don't know other than he has a meek, mild and genteel way. There isn't an aggressive bone in his body and it's quite calming being in his company (even though he does talk shop all the time). He is quite childlike too, but I find this quite sweet.

I want to address this with him, but unsure if it would be a good idea. I think I could handle things better by having a clearer understanding of him and I know if the case is he does have aspergers or mild autism...it wouldn't bother me and I wonder if this is his fear of becoming too close to someone because of this (maybe his secret he can only share with people he knows well and trusts)

Pick posted:

god what the gently caress is wrong with men seriously

Pick posted:

god what the gently caress is wrong with men seriously

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

A culture that teaches them to never express emotions, vaccines giving us autism

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

A culture that teaches them to never express emotions, vaccines giving us autism

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

A culture that teaches them to never express emotions, vaccines giving us autism

Pick posted:

no I meant the peeing!

Pick posted:

god what the gently caress is wrong with men seriously

Pick posted:

Pick posted:

no I meant the peeing!

Pick posted:

no I meant the peeing!

Pick posted:

no I meant the peeing!

Pick posted:

no I meant the peeing!

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

It's like you're asserting your dominance over nature like gently caress you nature you're getting pissed on

Pick posted:

no I meant the peeing!

Mak0rz posted:

I guess being an accomplice in the seventh major extinction event in the history of earth's life isn't assertive enough

Mak0rz posted:

I've had a dick for 30 years and I'm going to be honest I've always preferred excreting my waste into a toilet unless it was absolutely not possible (e.g. cod fishing, field work).

My family would have deck parties all the time and myself and my grandfather are about the only two guys who'd take the effort to remove their shoes and walk 10 feet to the bathroom instead of walking 100 feet to the bushes in the back of the yard.

Mak0rz posted:

I guess being an accomplice in the seventh major extinction event in the history of earth's life isn't assertive enough

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I am currently visiting my friend Amanda in the country she lives in. While I am on vacation here, I am staying with Amanda and her boyfriend [27M] who have an apartment together. I've been here for a week and am staying 3 more nights. Amanda and her boyfriend sleep in their own bedroom and I am staying on the sleep sofa in the living room(there is no other room).

Over this past weekend Amanda' boyfriend was travelling for work and came back last night. At like 2am I could suddenly hear them having sex.

I am so creeped out by this. I guess they were trying to stay quiet but I could definitely hear them because it was so quiet at night. I have never heard ANYone have sex and I am a virgin myself. I kinda don't even want to stay here any longer because of that situation and feel uncomfortable around them now. What should I do?

Tldr; Heard friend have sex last night. Feel very uncomfortable.

dudeness posted:

If you pee in a toilet it's all going to splash back up and get on you and make your wiener even smellier and weirder. Peeing out of a window is more hygienic .

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

A culture that teaches them to never express emotions, vaccines giving us autism