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maskenfreiheit posted:also, cheating isn't abuse, just bad behavior. despite what you were told after they passed out the participation trophies, not everything bad your partner does is abusive Don't you have somewhere else you can complain about kids these days
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CharlestheHammer posted:People who hire PIs are trash just break up you limp dick idiot Gotta agree with this
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CharlestheHammer posted:People who hire PIs are trash just break up you limp dick idiot Sometimes it's to have evidence to take to court which makes sense actually
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BENGHAZI 2 posted:Sometimes it's to have evidence to take to court which makes sense actually Those people are already broken up, the PI isn't for that.
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BENGHAZI 2 posted:Sometimes it's to have evidence to take to court which makes sense actually Or you have obscene wealth. Gal I know got cheated on, hired a PI to take photos and then mailed the package to the guys whole family, friend circle, and professional circle then worked to have him kicked out of the US and removed from his college program.
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CharlestheHammer posted:Those people are already broken up, the PI isn't for that. Fair
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Barudak posted:Or you have obscene wealth. Gal I know got cheated on, hired a PI to take photos and then mailed the package to the guys whole family, friend circle, and professional circle then worked to have him kicked out of the US and removed from his college program. What if it's part of an elaborate cuckold thing
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Blue Train posted:Gotta agree with this lol cause they catch you cause you are a cheating shithead
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maskenfreiheit posted:i qualified it with "low grade" because it's not as bad as cheating, but it is a form of abuse Monitoring and controlling all of a romantic partner's communications could be considered abuse. If you have strong reason for suspicion and have reason to believe that you will have certainty after looking at an email account or text history and check once, it is really stretching it to call that abuse. Watering down the definition of abuse is harmful because it makes actual abuse harder for people who are seeing or experiencing abuse to identify it.
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installed a app in case my phone got stolen, come to find out that my GF[23] has been snooping on my phone for a while now!quote:[I'm 25 and in Pharmacy School] Ok, I've read a bunch of "SO snooped on me" in this great reddit. My questions is what do I do? I caught her a while back (about a year), snooping when she brought up a conversation I has with a girl classmate over a class assignment. She said she would never do it again. I like that he avoiding burning his source for as long as possible. Good work McNulty.
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*people who cheat on their partners, callously violating someone's trust and potentially opening them up to an unknowing transmission of an STD* "snooping is real bad and people that do it are bad and should be ashamed of themselves"
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therobit posted:Monitoring and controlling all of a romantic partner's communications could be considered abuse. If you have strong reason for suspicion and have reason to believe that you will have certainty after looking at an email account or text history and check once, it is really stretching it to call that abuse. http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/#tab-id-5
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WoodrowSkillson posted:*people who cheat on their partners, callously violating someone's trust and potentially opening them up to an unknowing transmission of an STD* Agreed
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maskenfreiheit posted:i qualified it with "low grade" because it's not as bad as cheating, but it is a form of abuse Just had to get that sick rear end participation trophy burn off, good one CBS
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WoodrowSkillson posted:*people who cheat on their partners, callously violating someone's trust and potentially opening them up to an unknowing transmission of an STD* To be fair I am not cheating on my partners, my partners are cheating on theirs. Also I actually do wear condoms hth Also I argued in favor of snooping but hiring a pi is stalking
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Blue Train posted:To be fair I am not cheating on my partners, my partners are cheating on theirs. Also I actually do wear condoms hth it's my right as an american to hire a gumshoe to track my dame
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Blue Train posted:Hmm my best friend's car is in my driveway and I hear r&b playing, smell incense, and hear my girlfriend moaning. Better not check it out, wouldn't wanna snoop looking at them when they're parked in your driveway not the same as monitoring their communications and reading their mail hth cheating is also bad if trust in your relationship has been eroded so far that you're going to hire a private eye or go through their mail and phone then THE TRUST HAS ALREADY ERODED, JUST loving LEAVE it's not complicated, it's not a far-out idea, y'all just like to argue
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Girlfriend (21F) says "it's normal for girlfriends to snoop through their SO's facebook, all girls do it". Is it?`quote:TL;DR 22F GF says it is normal to look through private messages. Is it? Is it unreasonable for me to be annoyed by this?
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Dont hire a private investigator unless youre sure its just cheating because otherwise youll wind up dead as a sinister conspiracy closes in on the investigator who decides to finish your case pro bono because despite being a jaded man, deep down in there hes got a golden ticker.
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maskenfreiheit posted:Girlfriend (21F) says "it's normal for girlfriends to snoop through their SO's facebook, all girls do it". Is it?` He should have a password set and she shouldn't know it
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Prank went wrong and my cousin was arrested (Florida)quote:My cousin and me both go to the same college. With some of our friends we sometimes get together on campus and play jokes or pranks on people on campus that we sometimes put on YouTube. It's always small, harmless stuff. (Virginia) My cousin is an absolute idiot. He played dead as a prank on emergency personnel. What kind of charges could he be facing? quote:Basically, my cousin (16) decided it would be funny to play dead. He put some foam around his mouth and laid on the ground until his mother found him. She called 911 in a frenzy, an ambulance and the fire dept responded. My cousin continued to play dead as they started to work the code. He only gave up the game by laughing when they put some kind of breathing mask on him, I guess? [CA] Prank Went Wrong and I Punched Someone quote:At 4 in the morning, when going to the toilet, my 2 drunk flatmates decided it would be funny to hide (we have this perfectly places hole sort of thing, hard to describe) and leap out at my. I reacted fairly instinctively and may have broken her jaw slightly. Is the fact that I was acting on instinct and not malice a defence here? The victim doesn't want to involve the police and blames herself, but paramedics had to be called so a report was filed and she may not have a say in this.
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From TX, is it legal to continuosuly make prank calls in which I tell people to suck my dick and give my loving money back legal ?
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Lol at the comments on the first one quote:For his next prank, he should run into a jail cell, lock the door behind him, and then sit there for one to three years.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Lol at the comments on the first one lol glorious.
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Is releasing 72,000 ladybugs in my school as a senior prank considered vandalism?quote:Edit: forgot to put my location, it's in Wisconsin. I'm not gonna put the town however unless I have to because whether it's legal or not I do not want to be caught.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Prank went wrong and my cousin was arrested (Florida) i'm baffled every time these sort of posts show up in this thread. is it a generational thing? should i blame a youtube celebrity? i need to get to the rotten core of this prankwave!!!
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In the olden days before social media, the prankster would just be murdered and the town would agree to speak no more of them
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My [28 F] husband [34 M] of 5+ years constantly lies to me about his buying/selling of electronics; just found out he sold my tablet and pocketed the cashquote:I'm at a loss right now and I have no one to turn to. The wife apologizing to her Redditor husband for invading his privacy by checking Ebay to see which of her belongings he's pawning hit me in the feels 
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Sisal Two-Step posted:i'm baffled every time these sort of posts show up in this thread. is it a generational thing? should i blame a youtube celebrity? i need to get to the rotten core of this prankwave!!! There are more people living in environments where you could prank someone and they heydey of privilege passed so these people go to jail instead of getting off with warnings. Also loving morons who watch prank videos on YouTube and think they are real life and not staged.
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maskenfreiheit posted:My [28 F] husband [34 M] of 5+ years constantly lies to me about his buying/selling of electronics; just found out he sold my tablet and pocketed the cash She needs to be figuring out how much half of his belongings is.
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fruit on the bottom posted:In the olden days before social media, the prankster would just be murdered and the town would agree to speak no more of them https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ken_McElroy 
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So weird that no one saw anything. Spooky!
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Sisal Two-Step posted:i'm baffled every time these sort of posts show up in this thread. is it a generational thing? should i blame a youtube celebrity? i need to get to the rotten core of this prankwave!!! [Emergency!] (Ontario, Canada) Cops showed up at my friend's door. His parents aren't home, he's slightly panicked. What should he do? quote:Basically, his cousin, whom he was in a skype call with, prank called someone and they decided to contact the police. His cousin and him both know the person in real life. My friend did not partake in the prank call and was simply there when it happened but is still assumed to be involved. (There are multiple friends in my friend group that can say that he was not involved, just for the record.)
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The guy (28/M) I've (25/F) recently been dating has told me that he's only ever had sex with women whose time he has paid for. We met two months ago, on a dating app. I'm fairly new to the world of Tinder and OKC. He was the second guy I had met through a dating app. The first one didn't go so well, but when I met him, I felt comfortable and at ease as if we had known each other for years. We spent hours together on our first date. It was just supposed to be coffee, but we ended up grabbing food after and then going out for drinks. Because of my work schedule, I don't have a lot of time to go on dates and stuff, so we mostly text. We've only gone out a handful of times. Every time, we learn more about each other. I've opened up to him about my relationship history (the fact that I was engaged a year and a half ago and that my ex had cheated on me, thus breaking it off) and that I've had a few casual encounters since but that I'm ready to start dating again. He told me that he's only had one serious relationship, in his early 20's, and that it lasted a year. We've also had some very open discussions about sex, and he said he's had about twenty partners. I didn't really think much of it at the time. Although I've only had five sexual partners, I have friends who are in the fifties. It doesn't matter to me. As long as he's clean, it's not that big of a deal. That said, the last time we saw each other (two nights ago) things got kind of heated between us at my place. We only stopped because my roommate came home and we were in the living room. The moment we relocated to my bedroom, I noticed that he was really nervous. Every step he took, he seemed to be overthinking it, and he overall just didn't seem to know how to go about it fluidly. It got to the point that I stopped him midway through taking my clothes off and asked if he had ever done this before. This being sex. He told me he had, but that there was something he had been hiding from me. After a few seconds of silence, he told me that he lied to me about his ex. Apparently they had dated only a year prior, and apparently he was a virgin when he met her. As some people do, he went through most of his 20's trying and failing to have sex. I already knew he was on the more introverted side, but I had no idea how much he had struggled socially until then. Although I was disappointed that he had lied to me, I did understand why he did it. He was embarrassed. He had no idea if we'd last. He had no idea he'd end up liking me and talking to me for as long as he has. Because he had lied about his ex, I figured he had also lied about the number of women he had been with. When I asked about that, he very quickly told me that he hadn't lied about that part. The adamance with which he had said it, had left me wondering. I asked him if he had really had sex with twenty different women in the space of one year, and he told me that he had, and that as much as he had tried to have sex with his ex, he couldn't stay erect with her (probably due to watching too much porn and desensitizing himself by the time he had a real person in front of him) so when they broke up, he decided to try it with an escort. Apparently he had no problems with the escort, so he kept at it ... and every partner he's had since has been someone whose time he's paid for. In short, he has never had sex any other way. I was in shock. I could tell that it was really hard for him to tell me. I tried my best to remain calm, but I really couldn't digest it with him there, so I asked him if he could leave. He did. On his way out he apologized for lying to me and he said that he would understand if I never want to speak to him again. It's been two days. I haven't contacted him since. Honestly I liked him a lot before he told me all of that. He was awkward, but in a way that was almost endearing. At most I figured he was just shy. I'd like to be open minded, but don't know if I can date someone with his history. And honestly I feel kind of embarrassed now, but I can't figure out why that is. I'm not the one who lied. The crazy part is that I still like and miss talking to him. He texted me early this morning asking, "Have I ruined everything?" I don't know what to say. How would you feel about something like this? tl;dr He originally lied to me to cover up the truth regarding his sexual history. I get why he did it. But I still feel really stupid and embarrassed now that I know the truth. And I like him too much at this point to just brush him off. What should I do? UPDATE I haven't replied to his first text, and he's just now sent me another saying, "I guess it's over then," with a photo attached to it. He printed off one of the photos that I have on OKC, and, going by the stains on the paper, jerked off to and onto it. I might just vomit.
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fruit on the bottom posted:So weird that no one saw anything. Spooky! Shiva personally descended the heavens to kill that man, and you cant convince me otherwise.
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gently caress she might not be fully disgusted in me, EMERGENCY MEASURES!
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The argument about cheating as abuse makes me want to reshare this anecdote I posted earlierTender Bender posted:My ex installed spy software on my PC because she didn't trust me. She found out I would sometimes say I was going to bed but actually play video games for an hour and then go to bed
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