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A Wizard of Goatse posted:elaborate sex rules aren't made for people with sense and a clear grasp of interpersonal relations, they're made for the kind of terrible retards who orient their lifestyles and social circles around wanting Ilsa She-Wolf of the SS to cattle brand them
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Pick posted:why the gently caress are you idiots masturbating all of a sudden How dare you reduce my adoration of Audrey Hepburn to something so base and physical. Fie! Fie on you!
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We've talked plenty about how dudes can be real bad at picking up on hints and tones of voice and body language as evidenced by their cluelessness when girls are throwing themselves at them. Now imagine telling a dude like that to consensually rape the poo poo out of you without any safe words because you think you should be able to trust him to be able to tell when you really mean "no, stop."
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Jun 8, 2017 00:27
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smh at the kinkshaming happening itt
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Jun 8, 2017 00:28
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HoAssHo posted:We've talked plenty about how dudes can be real bad at picking up on hints and tones of voice and body language as evidenced by their cluelessness when girls are throwing themselves at them. Now imagine telling a dude like that to consensually rape the poo poo out of you without any safe words because you think you should be able to trust him to be able to tell when you really mean "no, stop." Yeah but 50 Shades told me the sadistic weirdo will intuit what I think is hot and only ever do that without me having to ask
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Jun 8, 2017 00:31
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Yeah but 50 Shades told me the sadistic weirdo will intuit what I think is hot and only ever do that without me having to ask this was literally feed her pancakes that magically don't make her loving fat
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Yeah but 50 Shades told me the sadistic weirdo will intuit what I think is hot and only ever do that without me having to ask like 90% of my issue with that book is that basically it follows a pattern of she says no, he says come on you'll like it, and then he forces her to do it and she happens to like it he's fuckin sexually assaulting her but its ok because she has an orgasm this is not super hosed up or a bad thing to popularize
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Jun 8, 2017 00:33
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HoAssHo posted:We've talked plenty about how dudes can be real bad at picking up on hints and tones of voice and body language as evidenced by their cluelessness when girls are throwing themselves at them. Now imagine telling a dude like that to consensually rape the poo poo out of you without any safe words because you know he will never ~truly~ hurt you b/c you share a special magical bond on account of a few endorphins and normies will never understand the deep connection u share
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Jun 8, 2017 00:34
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Jun 8, 2017 00:36
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It's the fantasy that you never have to do anything or know what you want and a hot millionaire will figure all your poo poo out for you, packaged as something dark and transgressive instead of just lazy and unimaginative. Of course it was going to make it big.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:It's the fantasy that you never have to do anything or know what you want and a hot millionaire will figure all your poo poo out for you, packaged as something dark and transgressive instead of just being lazy and unimaginative, of course it was going to make it big. 
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:It's the fantasy that you never have to do anything or know what you want and a hot millionaire will figure all your poo poo out for you, packaged as something dark and transgressive instead of just lazy and unimaginative. Of course it was going to make it big. Billionaire. That fucker was a 26 year-old billionaire. I knew this super naive weird Catholic girl who read all three and tried to get me to read them, telling me she didn't like them for the sex but because it was "a beautiful love story."
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HoAssHo posted:Billionaire. That fucker was a 26 year-old billionaire. I think she was hitting on you
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HoAssHo posted:We've talked plenty about how dudes can be real bad at picking up on hints and tones of voice and body language as evidenced by their cluelessness when girls are throwing themselves at them. Now imagine telling a dude like that to consensually rape the poo poo out of you without any safe words because you think you should be able to trust him to be able to tell when you really mean "no, stop." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4hNaFkbZYU
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Jun 8, 2017 00:48
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So I can un-bookmark this thread now?
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Me [30M] and my girlfriend [27F] have been together 2.5 months. We seem to have very abruptly exited the "puppy love" phase and I am not taking it well.Relationships submitted 15 minutes ago by 4456throwaway Sorry in advance for the lack of brevity. As the title says, my girlfriend and I have been together for about two and half months. For the first two months we were over the moon for each other: texting all day and sending Snaps to each other when we were apart, fitting in time to see each other whenever we could (working around our busy schedules, sometimes to the detriment of our responsibilities), engaging in fun, flirtatious, verbal stuff (joking about getting married, repeatedly reiterating how much we enjoy/like each other, etc.). Just...really enjoying each other fully. Couldn't get enough of each other. Then, in the past couple of weeks, we've gone on some long out-of-town trips during which I met many members of her family. Now that those trips are behind us, it feels like a switch has been flipped in our relationship. Like we have very abruptly left behind the "puppy love"/"honeymoon" phase of our relationship. And, frankly, it's kind of got me reeling a little bit. A few examples of what seems to have changed: less or no physical affection, unless I initiate it. less or no verbal affirmation (I love you, I miss you, can't wait to see you this weekend, etc.) unless I initiate it, and even then her replies feel rote she has started calling me "dude" or "man" in place of when she used to say "honey, babe, sweetie," etc. Not all the time, but often enough that it makes me feel uncomfortable. the fun, wistful, "planning for the future" talk has all but ceased. No more discussions of moving in together, joking about getting married, etc. things just generally feel more platonic and "friendly" than romantic our conversations feel stilted, and more business-like than fun and flirty Basically, it just feels like a switch has flipped in the past week or two. I feel like she is a bit withdrawn. I often don't feel like I'm hanging out with a girlfriend/lover/partner but rather with just a platonic friend. We're also just not seeing each other as often as we were early on when we couldn't get enough of each other. A few quick facts about us that may be relevant: We live a good fifty minute drive apart and both work quite demanding full-time, salaried jobs that have us working evenings and weekends a lot She has a young child (whom I have met several times and get along with, fwiw) The past three weeks have had us meeting each other's parents and other family members in rapid succession. I am definitely the more emotional of the two of us. She doesn't strike me as the type to talk about feelings or "the state of the relationship" very readily. I've long struggled with issues of mild depression, anxiety, OCD, and insecurity that often shade other parts of my life. (I'm the type who, when I miss a call from my boss, immediately convince myself he's calling to fire me!) She was set to get married last year and the relationship ended abruptly, at her behest. I know no more details about why or how it ended. I guess I'm just feeling insecure about leaving the fun, puppy-love phase of the relationship and feel really let down and, honestly, kind of sad about it. I worry that we are already growing apart simply because we aren't as obsessively engaged with one another as before. She doesn't seem to see a problem, and when I've tried to lightly broach the subject she just says she thinks everything is fine. I've been told before that I can be needy in relationships so I'm wondering if this is just me being my old needy self or if there really is something that needs addressing here. As absurd as it may sound, I worry that after a year of casual dating following the end of a long-term relationship last year that maybe I'm just addicted to the dopamine rush of a new person and now that I'm not getting my fix I'm almost...I dunno, having withdrawals? I have really fallen hard for this woman and I love her and want to make this relationship work, but just feel like we're hitting a patch that is not fun. If this is just the normal evolution of the relationship into the long-term phase, I want to learn to embrace it and relish it. At the same time, I don't feel like the puppy-love stuff has to just die. Plenty of people I know enter the long-term phase of a relationship while still acting like drunk-in-love teenagers around each other. What do you all think? Thanks in advance for your thoughts and advice. tl;dr: Girlfriend and I have abruptly exited the "honeymoon phase" and I'm feeling really down about it. Am I just overreacting? Should I just go with the flow? Or should I address it head-on with her, and risk pushing her away/freaking her out? Does anyone have experience with this phenomenon?
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11 years ago we found a USB stick with footage of me [27F] in bathroom. My brother [26M] was blamed for it and disowned. Now I learned that it was my father's, who has passed away.Non-Romantic submitted 32 minutes ago by Rrfili78 So about 11 years ago we found a USB stick in our house that had photos and videos of me in the bathroom. It was such a horrible time, my parents concluded that it must have been my brother who had done this. They decided against involving the police but they sent him to live with my uncle and go to military school. Once he turned 18, he was kicked out and disowned by everyone. I never heard from him after he was disowned, even though we knew he was in contact with a couple of cousins. I never saw him after he was sent to life with our uncle (until just a few days ago). I believed that it was him since my parents were so sure. They told me that they know it's him beyond the shadow of a doubt and I listened to them when they told me that he's dead to us now and I should forget that I had a brother. I hated him so much. My dad died two years ago. Last week I missed him so I went through his things to help me feel better. That's when I found a USB stick carefully hidden in one of his books (with space carved out from the pages). I got curious, plugged it in and saw that it's similar pictures to the old ones, just of me when I was older. I was literally in such a shock that I couldn't even scream. It was my dad all along. He not only did this to me, but also was happy to destroy my brother's life to protect himself. I couldn't do much a few days but decided that I need to talk to my brother. So I got his details from our cousin and went to see him. I basically went on my knees begging for his forgiveness but to my surprise he told me that he does not blame me at all. He said that he blames our parents for treating him like that without any evidence and knows that I was in such a vulnerable situation and just listening to them. I was shocked that he was so understanding. I promised him that I will make up for the things that have been done to him which he told me to not bother. Even when I told him that I should let our mom know, he said he doesn't care either way since he is not going to ever forgive her. He said our entire family are horrible people and he won't be back even if they wanted him to. In the end he said "I don't have a family, maybe except you" and I reassured him that I want to be his family again. What do I do with this information? Do I go to my mom? I think it will turn her entire world upside down. Or do I just not bother? I think I too am done with my mom and other people. I don't know if I can forgive them for what they did. Telling them about this will probably be the last thing I'll do before cutting them out of my life. tl;dr: We found a USB stick with footage of me in the bathroom. Parents assumed it was my brother and sent him away and eventually disowned him. Now 11 years later I have learned that it was my father who has died. Not sure what to do with the information that I have.
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Pick posted:BDSM is actually for mentally ill people, like, exclusively. Nah it feels good to get beat with a belt or choked or slapped around like a dirty whore
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Blue Train posted:Nah it feels good to get beat with a belt or choked or slapped around like a dirty whore I'm the only one that Daddy feeds his poopies to so that means that I'm special.
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Pick posted:Sorry in advance for the lack of brevity. The word is verbosity
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hugh?quote:It's our [26F/30M] anniversary. My husband doesn't know how to be romantic in our relationship.Relationships I love you. Please come back.
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Blue Train posted:The word is verbosity Logorrhea
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Pick posted:I give him a complete list of what he could buy me so he doesn't have to worry that I won't like it. If I don't he stresses out and complains that he doesn't know what to get me. This is my dream woman
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Jun 8, 2017 01:03
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Five love languages is some bullshit made up by a dude that probably got caught forgetting his wife's b-day.
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Blue Train posted:This is my dream woman my girlfriend does this and does not expect me to be smart enough to deviate from it more than once a year rules
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Blue Train posted:like a
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We don't do any of that romantic bullshit and just maybe go out for dinner for our anniversary and maybe say "happy Valentine's Day" if we remember. It rules. I don't want any of that rose petals and candles poo poo.
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Assuming USB dad is real, I hope the girl gets the gumption to leave her family forever instead of staying with them because there is 0 chance her mom didnt know.
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HoAssHo posted:We don't do any of that romantic bullshit and just maybe go out for dinner for our anniversary and maybe say "happy Valentine's Day" if we remember. It rules. I don't want any of that rose petals and candles poo poo. Romantic bullshit is actually like really important
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Pick posted:Romantic bullshit is actually like really important Depends on the person but expressing devotion is important yes
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Pick posted:11 years ago we found a USB stick with footage of me [27F] in bathroom. My brother [26M] was blamed for it and disowned. Now I learned that it was my father's, who has passed away As Barudak says there's almost no chance the mom didn't know too, and she would be right to disown the entire family sans brother
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Blue Train posted:Depends on the person but expressing devotion is important yes Let me tell you about the five languages of love - Strength, Dexterity, Constitution, Charisma, Luck.
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Barudak posted:Assuming USB dad is real, I hope the girl gets the gumption to leave her family forever instead of staying with them because there is 0 chance her mom didnt know. That and she goes to the cops.
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dudeness posted:Let me tell you about the five languages of love - Strength, Dexterity, Constitution, Charisma, Luck. Pro move is to use charisma as a dump stat but put luck at 10
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Blue Train posted:Depends on the person but expressing devotion is important yes Right. Considerate gestures are great but the real sappy romantic flowers and chocolates stuff isn't for everyone and isn't real proof of devotion. .
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dudeness posted:Let me tell you about the five languages of love - Strength, Dexterity, Constitution, Charisma, Luck. when it comes to love, don't make wisdom your dump stat
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Sexual dungeons and dragons isn't actually a bad idea at all. 
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HoAssHo posted:Right. Considerate gestures are great but the real sappy romantic flowers and chocolates stuff isn't for everyone and isn't real proof of devotion. . what about when their expectations are so low that not making GBS threads on the floor makes you amazing
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BENGHAZI 2 posted:what about when their expectations are so low that not making GBS threads on the floor makes you amazing well, then it sounds like you've won
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Pick posted:11 years ago we found a USB stick with footage of me [27F] in bathroom. My brother [26M] was blamed for it and disowned. Now I learned that it was my father's, who has passed away.Non-Romantic I feel like I have to point out that the guy was fifteen when this happened. The father was willing to destroy his fifteen year old son's life in order to perv on his sixteen year old daughter. I'd say  but he's already dead.
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