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Pvt.Scott posted:Yet I've been willingly celibate for a decade or whatever despite possessing a libido. lol
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Haifisch posted:I [26M] masturbated at the same time as my best friend [27M] and my SO [23F] of 1.5 years says I cheated. Does she not want her man to have the strongest, most fully charged crystals?
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 03:47 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Does she not want her man to have the strongest, most fully charged crystals? That meme never gets old "No one knows but me, my bros, and anyone browsing the Houston Casual Encounters section for comedy gold."
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 03:59 |
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My [39/F] Ex-Husband [38/M] of 18 years has revealed that he is gay and cheating on me... Everyone tells me to just "be happy for him"?quote:I met my husband when we were in college, hit it off, and got married relatively young. We rarely had any problems with each other, and have been relatively supportive. I've had ongoing problems with depression and anxiety for years, a result of having been raised in a toxic environment... We have two children, both under 18 currently. Our family seemed happy for a long time.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 04:42 |
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Pvt.Scott posted:Yet I've been willingly celibate for a decade or whatever despite possessing a libido. r/in-denial-cels
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 04:44 |
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Anony Mouse posted:My [39/F] Ex-Husband [38/M] of 18 years has revealed that he is gay and cheating on me... Everyone tells me to just "be happy for him"? This was a good plot point in Grace & Frankie, and tbh you shouldn't be any happier that they're cheating on you with a man than if they were with a woman and you ought to be pissed as hell.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 04:47 |
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I [38M] can't seem to convince wife [40F] I need time to myselfquote:For the past little while, my wife has become more and more "in my face" where it concerns us spending time together. We've been married for 8 years and while it's been fine for the most part, we've been struggling lately. quote:[–]fiberpunk [score hidden] 12 hours ago
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:14 |
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Me [M 22] Transitioning from a monogamous to polyamory relationship with wife [F 24], need advicequote:So I got married less than a year ago with intentions of a monogamous relationship (24 F Wife, Me: 22 M), and we'd been together for about 2.5 years. Apparently 3 days after the wedding my wife fell in love with our mutual best friend (29 F) who lives with us. I found out 3 weeks later that they'd been fooling around behind my back. I love both of them as they've been like my family for the last year. They're both in love and my wife is still in love with me who I'm still in love with. The best friend and I are still very much best friends. So now we're in a polyamorous relationship.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:18 |
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Haifisch posted:I [38M] can't seem to convince wife [40F] I need time to myself I love it when the OP self-owns
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:22 |
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Anony Mouse posted:Me [M 22] Transitioning from a monogamous to polyamory relationship with wife [F 24], need advice What is this mans definition of committed to the relationship.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:23 |
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"Guess I'm Poly?" dude got owned so hard he's going to need a constitutional amendment.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:35 |
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That's the problem with all this, "wah wah, we need acceptance!" bullshit that's been coopted by every weirdo with an internet handle. It's all a front for guilting/shaming/strong arming other people into giving you what you want. If you believe in a lifestyle or a paradigm, you don't need other people's acceptance, you need the loving self confidence not to care whether you have other people's acceptance. It's way more important to the development of a person to learn not to care what other people think, than it is to learn a mechanism for bullying people into telling you that they support you.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:42 |
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blarzgh posted:That's the problem with all this, "wah wah, we need acceptance!" bullshit that's been coopted by every weirdo with an internet handle. It's all a front for guilting/shaming/strong arming other people into giving you what you want. "acceptance" for most of the groups demanding it outside of Reddit and Tumblr generally means "stop murdering us or systematically trying to push us out of society altogether, which you are literally doing frequently", hard to self-esteem your way out of that one though lord knows plenty of blowhards have recommended it over the years
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 05:57 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:"acceptance" for most of the groups demanding it outside of Reddit and Tumblr generally means "stop murdering us or systematically trying to push us out of society altogether, which you are literally doing frequently", hard to self-esteem your way out of that one though lord knows plenty of blowhards have recommended it over the years I'm not talking about Syrian refugees, im talking about people that dress up like dogs and gently caress each other.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 06:07 |
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Yeah, you get non-marginalized people finding stupid things they need 'acceptance' for(poly, furries, etc) because they've seen actual marginalized people fighting for it(and getting attention for it). The fun part is when they decide they want to be part of minority spaces, which leads to stupid arguments like whether poly/bdsm/etc people count as queer or not. That said you also get fuckheads using these unrelated weirds as an excuse for not taking LGBT people/black people/immigrants/whatever seriously, which is probably what A Wizard of Goatse was talking about. Anyway, have a poly post: [27/f] Married & Wanting to Overcome Poly Feelings quote:After a few months of throwing around the idea of swinging, my husband (26/m) has rejected it due to not wanting to imagine me (27/f) with another man. I, on the other hand, was/am really excited about the idea of an open marriage for both him and myself. (We've been together 4 years.)
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 06:13 |
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cumshitter posted:Looked up the restaurant one on reddit. No more details from the OP (yet) but someone offered a pretty plausible explanation: he's getting paid but either gambling it away or spending it on drugs. Nah, this poo poo happens all the time in the restaurant business. Most cooks just have the balls to walk as soon as the checks get unreliable. Had to do it at my last baking gig, which went under about a month later. This guy's a loving pushover. Liquid Communism fucked around with this message at 07:16 on Jul 8, 2017 |
# ? Jul 8, 2017 06:40 |
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Beard ladys husband made so many divorce mistakes. Moving out, admitting to infidelity. She deserves to clean him out. And sh should.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 07:02 |
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:Paraphrased it from an addage I've heard about keeping your man happy/not withholding sex as a weapon lest he become unfaithful: "a well-fed dog won't root through the trash." that's a nice way to talk about your partner
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 07:20 |
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quote:The sex was never any good and each time it was over after about 3 minutes. It just got gradually less and less till I said it wasn't worth doing it just so that he could say that he still had a sex life. By that time it was about once it twice a year. That was a few years ago now. I have my own room now many people do, I sleep a lot better since I moved out of the bedroom. He just didn't have a clue about sex I don't think he knew that women were supposed to enjoy sex as well. It was the cause of many arguments but it never made an iota of difference. They just think they're right and there's no compromise. He thinks he deserves to have a beautiful young girl for a girlfriend, I think he sees a teenager when he looks in the mirror. His mother totally spoiled him especially financially she treated him like he was a child. I suppose he is really.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 08:24 |
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quote:I'm actually wondering if he has significant issues that I was until now unaware of with understanding his own emotions. Here's an example. One of his talents is that he is a musician. He once had a performance in the evening, and I asked him if he would like for me to attend, as I wanted to support him in "his other world", which was outside of the world we usually interacted in. I asked because I didn't know if he wanted his worlds to "mix": me, who lived in his geeky world, to mix with his music world. He honestly could not answer that. He kept saying over and over: "If you want to see a show, then you should go." This happened twice. The first time, I went. He seemed surprised to see me in the audience when he came out on stage, even though I told him I would come. I don't think he was upset by it, just surprised--probably by the intermixing of worlds thing. The second time I asked him, he had the same response. This time when he said I should go if I wanted to see a show, I told him that I only wanted to go to support him and asked if that is something he would want, but his answer didn't change. This time I didn't know what to do. Honestly, I didn't want to make him feel like I was encroaching on his other world, and I was so afraid it would come off like that. But I wanted to show my support. This time, I actually sat in the parking lot, cried because I didn't know if I should actually go in or not, and ultimately just went home thinking that if I went in, it would just overwhelm him. He doesn't know that. Later I told him I didn't go because I didn't really know if he wanted me there or not, and my only reason to go would have been if he wanted me there. He basically glazed over and didn't really respond.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 08:48 |
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Jeeze, that's the kind of thing which makes you want to crawl under a truck
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 09:51 |
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quote:He's not my boyfriend at this time. We went from a professional relationship to starting to grow a friendship but that's when he started withdrawing at times. I did overwhelm him with sharing my own emotions, both what I feel for him and the hurt I had over the withdrawals. I think he's the most amazing person I've ever met, and my feelings for him are unconditional. I don't think he's ready for a close relationship, especially considering there are some non-Aspie related issues such as age difference and the former professional relationship in which he was my subordinate. Add to that his discomfort with processing all this. I don't know if this withdrawal is forever or just temporary space. If I contact him, I honestly do not know if he'll be like "Oh, hi, I'm so glad to hear from you", or if I won't get a reply at all (and I know what that means). That is the hardest part for me, because I am only seeing the Aspie side of him for the first time since getting closer as friends, even though I knew of his diagnosis from early on and observed it clearly with his interactions with others. That probably sounds weird since we had known each other for two years, but I really interacted with him primarily in our geek world during that time where he "owned that" and was so confident and comfortable. We respect each other. I was actually very surprised to see the shy man who didn't like crowds when I saw him outside of our geek world. I guess I'll find out eventually, but I really only wish I knew where he stands. I know he's uncomfortable, that is clear. But I need to know if he is uncomfortable because he doesn't know how to understand his emotions or how to act in this situation, or if he is uncomfortable because he doesn't want to have anything to do with me (i.e. if my interest in him is an annoyance because he has no interest back). I know he has interest in women, just perhaps not me? Don't know. I want him in my life in whatever capacity he'd have me. I'm sure you can relate, Pick.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 10:36 |
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Grem posted:I'm sure you can relate, Pick. Absolutely, the most powerful tool for deflating a story is realizing how entirely unspecial you and your circumstances are.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 10:38 |
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Wait hold on, is it you?quote:I agree entirely. And I usually do not hold back so much like this. Buuuuuut it's not something I really want to discuss with him over email or text. But I don't have a "reason" to casually see him either. (throws hands in air) It's touchy because it's not just about his Asperger's, but it's a lot of other things too, like age and how he was formerly my subordinate. All those things come together to make what I think are walls he's built. I don't know if he feels he "can't" (because it's difficult) or if it's that he "won't" (because no desire) break those walls down. And it's not easy for me either because I feel like our former relative positions might make it seem like I am being inappropriately forward with him if I am too direct. If not for his Asperger's, in this situation I would leave it up to his lead at this point. But knowing how hard it is for him to process these kinds of things, and him saying he was uncomfortable with these types of conversations before, there's part of me that says what I usually rely on to guide me is wrong. I see something extraordinary in him and I know there's a whole world hidden inside that head of his that I'd like to be a part of. I've seen it leak out on specific occasions and I'm drawn to it. He's an amazing human being. This sounds so ridiculous and pathetic when I read it back to myself. Therefore, clearly I'm in love with him. And I don't think he's ready for that, regardless of how he actually feels.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 10:40 |
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No it's actually not me, that's what's so crazy about it. You all think the Hugh story is nuts, but what's nuts is it's totally rote and overplayed.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 10:41 |
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Pick posted:No it's actually not me, that's what's so crazy about it. You all think the Hugh story is nuts, but what's nuts is it's totally rote and overplayed. desperate nerd tries to gently caress unwilling person?
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 10:46 |
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Pick posted:When in doubt, remember men are scum and care only about sex. You think, "but without me, he'll be eating out of trash cans and pooping in tins". He doesn't care. As long as he can get his wiener in ~special holes~ that is his only metric for quality of life. At some point he'll dump her and the kids and go ruin their lives for someone else whose life he'll ruin. It's the circle of life. Pretty harsh statement, there. I am utterly devoted to my wife, and have been so for over 30 years. The fact that you might be having problems does not automatically translate to "All men are scum". Maybe picking a better quality of man might help.
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genesplicer posted:Pretty harsh statement, there. I am utterly devoted to my wife, and have been so for over 30 years. The fact that you might be having problems does not automatically translate to "All men are scum". Maybe picking a better quality of man might help. Theodore Roosevelt is dead.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:09 |
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lol at the musician's gf crying
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:17 |
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Pick posted:Theodore Roosevelt is dead. How do you reconcile the idea that men care only about sex with Big H's unwillingness to gently caress?
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:24 |
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blarzgh posted:It's way more important to the development of a person to learn not to care what other people think. Khorne fucked around with this message at 12:31 on Jul 8, 2017 |
# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:29 |
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lol at being so broken as a person that you assume your bf doesn't want you at his shows and when you ask him and he gives you a clear and unambiguous green light you still dither over it and cry in your car and go home
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:51 |
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An extremely powerful self own
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:52 |
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my bf doesn't seem to ~~know his own emotions~~ i say as i sit in a parking lot crying
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 12:54 |
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Haifisch posted:My (27F) younger sister (21F) moved into our house and my husband (30M) has become a completely different person. to be fair ethiopian women are amazingly hot
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 13:00 |
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Barudak posted:Is there a version of compersion where Im trying to find a joke funny but its not working?
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 14:32 |
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CannonFodder posted:I've seen that word twice on one page so I looked it up. Thanks Wikipedia! And to think I was planning to not drink myself into a stupor tonight. Frubble?
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 14:36 |
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:Frubble? I don't want to follow those citations, but they exist and Wikipedia allows it.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 14:47 |
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Liquid Communism posted:Nah, this poo poo happens all the time in the restaurant business. Its in about every episode of Kitchen Nightmares, and there's usually more than one person not getting paid that still work there for some dumb reason.
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# ? Jul 8, 2017 15:39 |
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Anony Mouse posted:Me [M 22] Transitioning from a monogamous to polyamory relationship with wife [F 24], need advice Your wife cheated on you within three days of getting married, then instantly bullied you into accepting she get hallf your stuff while she fucks a guy who you live with and your trying to make it work. Even a dog would have poo poo on her rug and run away by this point.
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