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- OctaMurk
- Jun 21, 2013
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My husband (38M) admitted to playing a disgusting "prank" on me (37F) over the past two weeks.
Kill them all
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Jul 11, 2017 03:13
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- Cough Drop The Beat
- Jan 22, 2012
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by Lowtax
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Doing cocaine twice = "druggie?"
Wow, you're a real square.
No, the mistake was getting stoned and sending porn to an ex who could post it all over the internet and destroy her life in the process.
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Jul 11, 2017 03:38
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- Haifisch
- Nov 13, 2010
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Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!
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Taco Defender
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Me [21F] with my mother [52F], she keeps saying that I am keeping her a "nomad." Am I a bad daughter?
quote:Hi Reddit,
I've followed this sub recently, and this time I have a question of my own.
Just a little background: My parents are divorced. Currently, my dad is living overseas, and my mom is living about 5 hours from me. When I say living, I mean that she is shuffling back and forth through one town to another (the town I live in, as does her sister).
She has a holistic bodywork practice that she built up in the other town, which is why she hasn't just moved here permanently yet. However, she doesn't want to do hands-on bodywork anymore. She is all about embracing social media and starting an online business where she can get paid to do videos and ebooks, etc. It's been a slow start, though. She's poured so much money into classes and seminars about online marketing and success, but she hasn't gained any real traction. Thus, she had to give up her $3200/month house in a bougie neighborhood and is now essentially couch-surfing with friends.
I get that this is a hard time for her, and I would love to be able to help her, but I only just recently graduated myself and moved into a small studio with my boyfriend that I can barely afford. She always talks about how nasty our place is, by the way, so there's no way she would want to stay with us. When she does come to town (usually every other week), she usually stays with her sister.
Now, her newest venture is this ebook. It's actually a pretty good idea, but the problem is that writing is not her forte. She's a great speaker, but let's put it this way...some of the middle school students I tutored had better writing. She knows this, and her solution was to have me edit her ebook. Now, she did not ask me if I wanted to do this. She just came to me with a plan for me to help her on her newest venture, because I don't have anything better to do with my life. She also says I'm a "star child" which means I was put on this earth to help others (i.e. her), so I have to do this for her. She only plans to compensate me if she makes money from this ebook.
Now, it is sort of true that I don't have much to do. I recently graduated and am job hunting, but I've also been falling back into depression a little bit. While I totally support my mom's idea, it's not something that I am passionate about, and I feel no motivation to do this for her. I did do a first draft edit, which took me HOURS and HOURS. But now, she wants me to edit the whole thing again after she changed everything.
I don't think she realizes just how much time it takes to edit something, especially an instructional ebook. It's honestly painstaking work. I've told her this, and she always reacts angrily that I don't care about her enough. I've even told her that I'm depressed, which is why it's hard for me to motivate myself to do even little things, like feed myself, but she just doesn't understand. She always goes like, "Well, why are you depressed? You need to stop being depressed."
Recently, I finally told her that I can't do the last edit, that she needs to find someone else to do it for her. She ranted over the phone about how much she does for me and how ungrateful I am. Recently, she did a "clearing" for our apartment (which took about 2 hours) because we found out there was a murder there 20 years ago and felt spooked. I was very grateful for that and thanked her many times, and my boyfriend even picked her up and dropped her off, and we bought things for the clearing. But she thought that I wasn't doing enough for her, that I'm selfish.
However, I feel like she doesn't care about me. Whenever I call her, she always launches into a rant about everything she wants me to do for her and rarely asks how I'm doing. I know her life is hard right now, but I don't think it's my fault.
This is the last text she sent me: "You know what throwaway0090022 you called me up a few weeks ago spooked out over about your apartment. I was totally there for you and that is what I'm talking about. It's clear that you don't give a poo poo about me living like a nomad. All you care is what is in front of you. It's ok throwaway0090022...I have a back up plan. But also delaying me only keeps me living the way I've been living. Like a nomad."
Basically hardcore guilt tripping me. I realize that this tactic is normal for her. She's always been like this. But I still feel hurt and angry, which is why I had to block her number to avoid getting more texts like this.
Reddit, am I really a bad daughter for not helping her with her ebook? Am I responsible for her being a "nomad"? Is there any way I can talk to her to let her know that I love and support her, but she has to stop treating me like I'm the key to her success?
tl;dr: Mom wanted me to edit her ebook. I edited the first draft, then told her I was done. She says I'm responsible for her being a nomad now. Am I?
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Jul 11, 2017 03:39
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- new phone who dis
- May 24, 2007
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by VideoGames
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Morbid Hound
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If your immediate reaction to someone secreting or excreting any kind of bodily fluid into your food or drink isn't immediate violence, then I just don't understand you.
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Jul 11, 2017 03:54
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- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I have no mouth and I must post
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My(29M) girlfriend (27F) thinks it's hilarious to gross me out. This morning she took it way too far. Together 5 years.
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Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Okay I don't even know where to start, my girlfriend "Jean" is incredible. She was my best friend for a few years before we got together and we click on every level. She's always been open and able to crack a joke about the occasional fart or whatever. She's hilarious, usually.
However lately she's been getting more and more disgusting, to where I don't even want to be around her because every day she takes it to the next level. We like to joke around sometimes and fart, and waft it in the others direction sometimes. But she'll keep going. And going. To where I honestly think she might have health issues with this much gas.
Which is one thing, but about a week ago I literally woke up to her bare rear end around my nose, by the sound of a chainsaw starting up. It was disgusting, and uncomfortable to say the least, but she thought it was the funniest thing, literally crying from laughing when I didn't even laugh once. I slept on the couch that night, and it was awkward but we got over it the next day.
Now we can't even have sex without her leaving after to the bathroom, only to come back and say, "sorry, had to unleash an after-sex dump." And laugh. I've stopped laughing at these jokes but she's not getting the hint. So I tried talking to her about it yesterday morning in a serious manner, and she seemed to genuinely get it and feel bad. Or so I thought.
This morning I was taking a shower and she decided to come in, take a dump, clog the toilet, plunge it until there was literal poo poo water on the ground, only so she could turn off the light and lock the door and leave me to slip and slide naked in toilet water while I struggled to get out.
She finally unlocked it, laughing at me like it was the best thing in the world. I told her I'm done, I don't want to be with someone that gets off and treating me like this anymore. It's not funny and it's loving disgusting. She started crying and begging me to stay with her but I grabbed what I could and left, and now I'm staying at my cousins house.
She keeps calling and now I honestly feel a little bad. I love her and she's wonderful, but this is just too much. I feel like it's crossed the line of humor into harassment. Am I justified in leaving her? Or should I try to make it work?
Tl;dr; my girlfriend has taken on disgusting habits over the course of the years. Finally snapped and left her. Am I wrong?
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Jul 11, 2017 03:54
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- But Rocks Hurt Head
- Jun 30, 2003
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by Hand Knit
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Pillbug
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quote:This morning I was taking a shower and she decided to come in, take a dump, clog the toilet, plunge it until there was literal poo poo water on the ground, only so she could turn off the light and lock the door and leave me to slip and slide naked in toilet water while I struggled to get out.
hahahaha she clogged a toilet on command. what the gently caress
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Jul 11, 2017 04:03
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- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I have no mouth and I must post
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hahahaha she clogged a toilet on command. what the gently caress
Someone's been adding some fiber to their diet. The shitwater slip n slide dude should form a support group with pisscubes lady and the period log boyfriend.
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Jul 11, 2017 04:05
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- Drunk Nerds
- Jan 25, 2011
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Just close your eyes
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Fun Shoe
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So you could be, like, taking a shower and then a six foot python slithers over the door and strangles you?
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Jul 11, 2017 04:09
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- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I have no mouth and I must post
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So you could be, like, taking a shower and then a six foot python slithers over the door and strangles you?
No the python clogs the toilet and you slip in the water.
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Jul 11, 2017 04:12
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- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I have no mouth and I must post
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My [29F] girlfriend broke up with me over a tarot reading.
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This morning I wake up to an angry fiancée. Screaming at me because she got a tarot reading that I was cheating on her or had some form of sexual relations with a woman. Took my surface pro 4 that work provided and shattered it(poo poo still powered onto an external monitor so I could get my data, phew).
I have not cheated but how do you convince someone that a tarot reading is not always correct... super confused.
tl;dr
She got a tarot reading that I cheated. Convinced I did it.
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Jul 11, 2017 04:35
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- Drunk Nerds
- Jan 25, 2011
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Just close your eyes
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Fun Shoe
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Hey, when did they change the "quote" button so it no longer lets you edit?
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Jul 11, 2017 04:42
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- new phone who dis
- May 24, 2007
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by VideoGames
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Morbid Hound
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My [29F] girlfriend broke up with me over a tarot reading.
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I dated a Japanese woman who somehow let it slip at a fortune teller that her mom had an abortion at an advanced age for health reasons. The fortune teller told her that the aborted baby's spirit was ruining her life with bad energy and this 30 year old woman called up her mom and was mad at her over it. Thankfully the mother was assertive enough to tell her that it was none of her loving business and then I told her the same thing when she tried to complain to me about it. Dumped her soon after.
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Jul 11, 2017 04:43
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- Drunk Nerds
- Jan 25, 2011
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Just close your eyes
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Fun Shoe
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Tarot readings are reading the participant more than the cards. The cards just provide leads for the reader to suggest to the participant and then follow from there. Fiancee' always thought he was cheating in the back of her mind but never said anything until the Tarot reader brought it out of her.
That's chilling. They should have a frosty term for such an icy-hearted practice.
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Jul 11, 2017 04:46
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- precision
- May 7, 2006
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by VideoGames
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Me [21F] with my boyfriend [27M] made a sex tape and sent to to someone from my past...while high. What do I do now?
Cocaine is a hell of a drug.
never mix cocaine and facebook
ever
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Jul 11, 2017 04:49
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- DangerZoneDelux
- Jul 26, 2006
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I got a hilarious counter prank. First you get a lawyer and then you divorce him. Egg will sure be on his face.
Lol the thread is all hundreds of serious posts about this. People don't drink piss ice for two weeks without noticing.
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Jul 11, 2017 05:53
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- OctaMurk
- Jun 21, 2013
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Lol the thread is all hundreds of serious posts about this. People don't drink piss ice for two weeks without noticing.
Are you sure about that, how much different does piss ice taste from normal ice
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Jul 11, 2017 05:58
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- Milotic
- Mar 4, 2009
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9CL apologist
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Slippery Tilde
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Me [48 M] with my lesbian ex-wife [37 F], should I maintain relationship for the sake of her kids?
quote:u/StupidGooglyEyes
I married Jan (not her real name) a little over six years ago, after a two-year courtship during which she actively pushed for marriage. It was a second marriage for each of us, and she had two great kids aged 6 and 8 at the time. It was a package deal, and I took on an active parenting role. I loved it, and everyone got along great.
As a show of commitment, I paid off the mortgage she defaulted on after her first marriage ended and the bank foreclosed. She negotiated a settlement agreement bringing it down to $7500, and I figured it was a small price to pay for a lifetime of togetherness.
From the beginning, she was open about being bisexual, but said she had never been with a woman. That didn't bother me because I have gay and bi friends, and she said she was in love with me as a person so my genitalia didn't matter. And she was hella frisky in bed, so naturally i thought she enjoyed it.
After 2.5 years of marriage she pushed for an open relationship so she could experience women, just for fun. She reassured me we were partners for life so we made rules to protect the relationship and the children, as advised by so many open relationship forums.
While I was away on a business trip she had her first encounter with a woman she'd never met before, in the bathroom stall of a busy donut shop where they got down-and-dirty. In the middle of the day. Classy, huh?
About a week later she stayed out with her new lover all night without letting me know, contrary to our rules. Within a few weeks she said that she was a lesbian, that she couldn't obey any of the rules or stay in the marriage, and that she was moving at the end of the month.
I wanted to keep things civil and minimize any trauma for the kids, so I played nice. I didn't know what else to do. There's no point trying to convince someone they're not gay. I talked her super-religious father out of disowning her (Mormons!). I even loaded the moving van and drove it to her new apartment.
The kids had a hard time adjusting, being uprooted on such short notice. Jan didn't even tell the school ahead of time. She just went to pick them up from school on the last day and announced it to the classroom, making some of the other kids burst into tears (according to their teacher, whom I spoke to afterwards). They lost all their friends.
I was crushed. I still am. I don't want her back, of course. I feel like our relationship meant nothing to her, as she so easily threw it away. And she squandered my last chance to be a parent or step-parent. I have trust issues now. I doubt I can ever be in another relationship because I'll be watching for signs that it's all fake.
She moved in with the other woman within six months and is with her to this day. She never dated any other women. She just latched on to her new financially-stable meal-ticket, much like she had with me (something I realized only in retrospect).
I've done my best to keep things friendly, visiting the kids, taking them on road-trips and day adventures, etc. They still consider me their stepdad and they are always excited to see me.
Every time I meet with Jan, it feels icky, and it sends me into a tailspin for days. She wants to be friends in a very superficial way. She has never in any way acknowledged that she did anything wrong.
To be clear, coming out isn't wrong. Repressing your sexuality and marrying someone you don't love is. She had been married to a man before, so she knew what that was about. If you already know you're attracted to the same sex, be brave enough to figure that stuff out instead of white-knuckle denying it and hitching up with an opposite-sex spouse.
So now I'm trying to decide what is best for me, and what is healthiest for the kids. They are now 10 (girl) and 12 (boy). They have parents, grandparents, cousins, friends, etc.
Should I continue being involved in their lives, or make an exit? Is there a useful role I can play? How do I get over the feeling that I am letting them down and causing them damage? I feel so guilty abandoning them (former Catholic).
How can I start anything new while I am still involved with my old life? Would any self-respecting woman understand maintaining a relationship with former stepkids?
Adult stepkids of Reddit, is it better for a former stepdad to just step off?
tl;dr: Trying to do the right thing for former stepkids, but the situation causes me pain. Is it best to just walk away?
The saddest part is that he probably won't have children of his own now, which sounds like something he wanted.
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Jul 11, 2017 08:35
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- HCFJ
- Nov 30, 2009
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WILL AMOUNT TO NOTHING IN LIFE.
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Are you sure about that, how much different does piss ice taste from normal ice
this is not a difficult experiment
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Jul 11, 2017 08:43
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- Pvt.Scott
- Feb 16, 2007
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What God wants, God gets, God help us all
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"We all know you suck dick, Dave. Stop being a baby and and just accept it. I've got this cute guy that you might like to meet, you loveless sack of poo poo."
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Jul 11, 2017 13:32
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- But Rocks Hurt Head
- Jun 30, 2003
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by Hand Knit
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Pillbug
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One of my female friends in high school was dating a guy one year older. Our senior year was his first year of college and he very quickly discovered that he was gay. Which, fine, but he spent like a month trying to hang on to their relationship, telling her that he still wanted to try to make it work, etc. The last conversation they had was him telling her he still loved her and wanted to be with her, and her simply replying 'But you're gay, Leroy' and that was that
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Jul 11, 2017 14:34
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- tactlessbastard
- Feb 4, 2001
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Godspeed, post
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Fun Shoe
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That anecdote is made funnier by his name being "Leroy." It's just a funny name.
I need a gay Leroy in my life.
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Jul 11, 2017 14:43
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- Barudak
- May 7, 2007
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Me [48 M] with my lesbian ex-wife [37 F], should I maintain relationship for the sake of her kids?
The saddest part is that he probably won't have children of his own now, which sounds like something he wanted.
Two marriages with no kids sounds good actually since it seems like gets pushed around easily by people who make no comprises by him whatsoever.
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Jul 11, 2017 15:03
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