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I'm going to surprise my partner with an entry level buttplug, cause we're really getting interested in some healthy, wholesome butt stuff. I'm thinking I'm just gonna go to a sex shop and basically ask this question to one of the associates there, but is there anything I should really go for/avoid? Or should I bring my partner to the shop so I can shop with her, since size stuff can vary? We're both very new to butt stuff so any and all advice is welcome, thanks!
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My .02...... I say go together. My husband and I went to an adult store a few months back to grab some fresh poppers & look around. We found ourselves in the dildo section while browsing. We joked around, but he brought up the idea of finding a 'good fit' for something he could use on me in between him cumming and being ready to go a second round. I wouldn't have been as open to the idea if he just came home with it. But by shopping together, it made it a joint and fun decision. We don't always use 'Tony', but when we do it seems more personal, if that makes sense. I know that's not buttplug specific, but as far as toys, I really thing making it a joint experience, (from browsing, to buying, to using), is the key.
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Jun 12, 2017 01:54
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Agreed - if I'm shopping alone I'm more likely to buy for "me time" than for "us time", and those toys aren't as well suited for partner play sometimes. Plus it's cute to get each other all embarrassed by waving the giant dildos around :3
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Jun 13, 2017 07:08
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As anyone who has experienced the SA auto-translator knows, the word "surprise" is one that should never be used in this thread. The only person who gets a say in what gets inserted into your partner's orifices is your partner. Remember also that this is not JC Penney's. I very much doubt they have an exchange or refund policy if it's the wrong size or you don't like the style. So, as others have said, shop together.
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Jun 13, 2017 08:00
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Meh, butt plugs are cheap, get a couple different sizes depending on mood. It's a fun surprise, as long as you aren't pressuring anyone to use it if they're not in the mood.
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Jun 13, 2017 11:12
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Thanks for the advice, everyone! We're definitely going to shop together for future toys and such, I just wanted to have a butt plug ready for when my partner gets back from a trip of hers. I think what we've decided(together) is I'm gonna buy a pretty simple beginner one for our roadtrip out East while we're moving, then we're going to go together once we reach our destination and wave dildos at eachother and have even more fun  So here's the next question, is a thicker lube really necessary for butt stuff? Right now I've just got a, uh, regular? viscosity water based lube.
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Jun 13, 2017 13:57
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I've never had any problem with regular lube, but maybe I'm missing out on something amazing?
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Jun 13, 2017 14:23
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Key is to find something that doesn't dry out too quickly, since der butte doesn't exactly lubricate itself much. That's all.
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Jun 13, 2017 15:27
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I prefer silicon lube for everything not involving silicon toys.
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Jun 13, 2017 15:52
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Johnny Truant posted:Thanks for the advice, everyone! We're definitely going to shop together for future toys and such, I just wanted to have a butt plug ready for when my partner gets back from a trip of hers. It's not necessary, but thicker lube needs to be applied less often and it might be more comfortable. I'd say if you find yourselves doing butt stuff somewhat regularly, check it out.
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Jun 13, 2017 17:31
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whydirt posted:I prefer silicon lube for everything not involving silicon toys. This. Gun Oil makes the hole happy!
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Jun 14, 2017 00:48
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hoobajoo posted:I think it's weird your wife thinks you're lying about your obvious medical problem to get out of going down on her, but that's a whole other thing. Seconding you go see a doctor. Insecurities. It's not like she guilt trips me about it or anything. I feel like you took it as more serious an issue than it is, though, so just know that we have a fantastic relationship, and she makes me deliriously happy  But anyway, more attempts have been made, and I think variety is really the key - if I just stop as soon as I feel pain there and go back to other methods of fuckin' for a minute, it fades pretty quickly. So I might not be able to do a long, continuous bout of cunnilingus but rather a start-stop style. Obviously that's not something I can do with clarinet, so I probably ought to see the doctor like you suggest regardless. I've actually had dreams where a weird crank-based device was used to open my jaw the normal amount. I feel like it must feel really good to be able to fit the back of a 20 oz coke bottle between your teeth.
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Jun 14, 2017 01:51
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empty whippet box posted:Insecurities. It's not like she guilt trips me about it or anything. I feel like you took it as more serious an issue than it is, though, so just know that we have a fantastic relationship, and she makes me deliriously happy With this attitude, you'll be deep throating in no time! Best of luck
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Jun 14, 2017 19:51
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Has anyone used one of those self-casting dildo dick kits, and if so any recommendations for a particular one? Hubby thought it'd be awesome to have a 'second him', and I kind of agree. Toys are awesome, but I'm infatuated and perfectly pleased by my man, so to have another version of him works for me. We're focusing on this so far.... http://www.createamate.com/new-penis-casting-system-with-suction-cup-choice-of-skin-tone/
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Jun 15, 2017 01:25
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I knew a guy in the navy who made one right before leaving for boot camp as a surprise gift for his girl. First letter he got from her was a dear John and mentioned that she thought it was creepy. That's my cast donger story.
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Jun 15, 2017 05:45
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Another good example of why sex toys should never be a surprise present.
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Jun 15, 2017 08:52
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Every anecdote I hear about clone a willy kits is that it's super hard to stay super hard in the mold so you get a weird floppy small (if you're a grower) mold. I was considering getting one to try out with my husband but when I looked into it more I decided against it. I'd rather just buy a dildo that's close to his size/shape if I really wanted another dong involved.
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Jun 15, 2017 16:28
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Obviously you're supposed to sit on his face during the process.
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ilysespieces posted:Every anecdote I hear about clone a willy kits is that it's super hard to stay super hard in the mold so you get a weird floppy small (if you're a grower) mold. I was considering getting one to try out with my husband but when I looked into it more I decided against it. I'd rather just buy a dildo that's close to his size/shape if I really wanted another dong involved. I wonder if a non-silicone cock ring would help in that regard.
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Jun 15, 2017 21:01
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Just snort a couple hundred mg of Viagra, clone your cock, and head to the nearest ER fake edit: do not do this
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Jun 15, 2017 21:03
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Sage Grimm posted:I wonder if a non-silicone cock ring would help in that regard. Stainless cock rings (at least if sized properly) don't result in a permanent erection until removed. I regularly wear one during sex (recreationally, I don't need it for ED) and can easily go flaccid with it on. Think of them as an erection enhancer rather than a maintainer.
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Jun 15, 2017 21:12
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I have no idea about the mechanics of castings one's willie but would prostate stimulation/other butt stuff help keep an erection going for long enough?
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Jun 15, 2017 22:57
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Bomrek posted:I have no idea about the mechanics of castings one's willie but would prostate stimulation/other butt stuff help keep an erection going for long enough? Depends on whether you find that enjoyable.
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Jun 15, 2017 22:59
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OwlFancier posted:Depends on whether you find that enjoyable. And whether or not it gives you a boner. I've done butt stuff and it's really good, but I'll lose my erection if I'm not getting at least a little direct stimulation.
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Jun 16, 2017 00:55
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Watch porn while casting?
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Jun 16, 2017 05:56
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My wife likes this sort of vibrator, but I think she goes through about one a year. They keep breaking where the cord connects to the dolphin end. What would be something similar that is built better?
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hooah posted:My wife likes this sort of vibrator, but I think she goes through about one a year. They keep breaking where the cord connects to the dolphin end. What would be something similar that is built better? If the only problem you have with this thing is build quality, I'd simply cough up for a new one each year. Better quality toys can get a bit more expensive than that while the actual build quality almost never linearly improves, it's usually not quite as dramatically better as the price would suggest.. If you were already looking for a more powerful toy with all the bells and whistles, definitely do that. More power to you if you find something you really like while you're replacing a broken toy, of course. But if what you have is already perfect except for build quality you're not not going to beat the 20 a year. Buy a soldering iron, some shrink sleeves and you can even try attaching a better quality cable that will last forever. .
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Jul 24, 2017 21:10
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Old Binsby posted:Buy a soldering iron  until I got to the rest of the sentence, I thought you were recommending the soldering iron as an alternative to the vibrator
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Jul 25, 2017 08:46
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Hyperlynx posted:
i don't kinkshame 
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Jul 25, 2017 08:47
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Hell, my favorite was (is) a $10 special from Spencer's which I replaced twice in my college years. The last one worked for almost a decade before the motor finally died.
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Jul 25, 2017 20:44
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hooah posted:My wife likes this sort of vibrator, but I think she goes through about one a year. They keep breaking where the cord connects to the dolphin end. What would be something similar that is built better? I have had this for three years and it's QUALITY. Highly recommend. Also waterproof, small, and doesn't really especially scare off a dude because you can still use it during sex. But luckily my guy has toys too so it's not an issue. https://www.picobong.com/en/product-detail.php?id=31
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appleskates posted:luckily my guy has toys too so it's not an issue. I don't think vintage era G.I. Joe's (still in the box) count.
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DandyLion posted:I don't think vintage era G.I. Joe's (still in the box) count. You jest, but I could also recommend some good male sex stuff too. And also NIB Star Wars merch (that we don't gently caress with.)
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appleskates posted:You jest, but I could also recommend some good male sex stuff too. 
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appleskates posted:You jest, but I could also recommend some good male sex stuff too. And also NIB Star Wars merch (that we don't gently caress with.) Don't even joke about that, please, we who also read the Unnerving Stories might have flashbacks. (At least, I think it was the Unnerving Stories thread. I hope it was the Unnerving Stories thread.)
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Jul 26, 2017 01:16
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http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-male-p-spot-massager-92809.aspx This one is good but looks like a squid. But It's good fun. http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-colours-inch-silicone-realistic-dildo-100736.aspx This is good for pegging. We have a black one bc we are sophisticated, obviously.
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Jul 26, 2017 01:24
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Also as a general rule any vibrator designed for external use will work just as well on a dick as it does on a clit, although it may take some trial and error to find the best way to use it.
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Jul 26, 2017 11:09
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Thuryl posted:Also as a general rule any vibrator designed for external use will work just as well on a dick as it does on a clit, although it may take some trial and error to find the best way to use it. Does that actually work for people? Personally I've never really seen the appeal of having my dick buzz. I mean I'm sure my other half would like it if it could do it on demand but the idea of vibrators on your dick is a bit strange to me, I assumed it didn't work on men as a rule.
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Works for me decently. It's not mind blowingly amazing but its a fun change up and a good compliment to a lubed up handjob. I agree that it will take a little experimentation to figure it out exactly.
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And also works for me, butt then I've always liked strong vibrations.
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