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PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Pick posted:

You gotta enure kids to that kind of thing because otherwise they become weird reclusive freak shows that get an election when a girl brushes by them on an escalator

I mean even leaving outside the reasons why a kid could not want to be touched such as autism or abuse history, it's kind of a bad idea to teach small children that people get to decide how and when to touch them and they aren't allowed to complain or fuss merely because the other person is an adult. That's how you groom kids for molestation.

Should people be used to physically touching other people? Yes, obviously, except in cases where you've got sensory issues where it would literally physically hurt. Should people be taught that they have no say in how they are touched? Uh, no.

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Oct 15, 2012

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Biscuit Hider
Also when and where I get my erections is nobody's business but my own

Ride The Gravitron
May 2, 2008

by FactsAreUseless

fruit on the bottom posted:

Also when and where I get my elections is nobody's business but my own

Ftfy

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

PetraCore posted:

I mean even leaving outside the reasons why a kid could not want to be touched such as autism or abuse history, it's kind of a bad idea to teach small children that people get to decide how and when to touch them and they aren't allowed to complain or fuss merely because the other person is an adult. That's how you groom kids for molestation.\

yeah child consent is a thing parents are getting used to, not demanding touches from kids but rather asking them is a good step. but then try telling parents to ask their kids permission before taking pictures lol, especially if those pics are going on social media

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
*ghost whisper*autism

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
You know even an autistic child will learn how to be less of a screechy little horse's rear end if you loving make him hug and eat something other than chicken nuggies but god forbid you ever do anything but capitulate you spineless little poo poo, enjoy your monstrous Reddit posting blob child, sinc theyll be living with you until you die

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Oct 15, 2012

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With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider

Pick posted:

You know even an autistic child will learn how to be less of a screechy little horse's rear end if you loving make him hug and eat something other than chicken nuggies but god forbid you ever do anything but capitulate you spineless little poo poo, enjoy your monstrous Reddit posting blob child, sinc theyll be living with you until you die

What's this ones name?

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Pick posted:

You know even an autistic child will learn how to be less of a screechy little horse's rear end if you loving make him hug and eat something other than chicken nuggies but god forbid you ever do anything but capitulate you spineless little poo poo, enjoy your monstrous Reddit posting blob child, sinc theyll be living with you until you die

I'm autistic.

WampaLord
Jan 14, 2010

I'm posting gold stories and y'all are arguing with Pick!

No other comments about the dude who's girl :siren: held a knife to his throat during sex? :siren:

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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You know maybe someone who is still dealing with the fallout from parents not having super firm boundaries with them shouldn't be talking about how great it is when parents don't have firm boundaries with their kids. You'll notice I never said anything about not teaching kids to deal with things outside of a safe bubble, I just said people should listen to kids who say they don't want to be touched.

hawowanlawow
Jul 27, 2009

WampaLord posted:

I'm posting gold stories and y'all are arguing with Pick!

No other comments about the dude who's girl :siren: held a knife to his throat during sex? :siren:


you're gonna have to go crazier than that

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
You wouldn't hug a CAAAAAAarrrrr

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

WampaLord posted:

Me [35 M] with my GF [23F] of 2 years, weird sex

Well, obviously anything with that title is getting a read. Let's see what kind of weird sex we're talking about here.


:stonk:

rectum drat near killed em

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

boy ima gently caress you till yuour rear end falls out like gecafe

doverhog
May 31, 2013

Defender of democracy and human rights 🇺🇦

hawowanlawow posted:

you're gonna have to go crazier than that

Quite honestly the diaper one is the most hosed up out of those three.

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Pick posted:

Touch all kids, every kid, everywhere except the no-no zone all the time forever

It's ok until they're 18 they are technically property

:dogbutton:

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

never hug children just screech at them for like 15 years for buying you the round spice jars instead of the square ones

WampaLord
Jan 14, 2010

doverhog posted:

Quite honestly the diaper one is the most hosed up out of those three.

Really? Not the KNIFE HELD TO THE THROAT?

Did anyone else finish Far Cry 3?

Ziv Zulander
Mar 24, 2017

ZZ for short


A Wizard of Goatse posted:

never hug children just screech at them for like 15 years for buying you the round spice jars instead of the square ones

That's amateur hour. If you really want to mess your kids up, everybody knows you have to alternate between being way too overly affectionate and endlessly screeching at them for every little thing.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

PetraCore posted:

You know maybe someone who is still dealing with the fallout from parents not having super firm boundaries with them shouldn't be talking about how great it is when parents don't have firm boundaries with their kids. You'll notice I never said anything about not teaching kids to deal with things outside of a safe bubble, I just said people should listen to kids who say they don't want to be touched.

Sometimes you have to make kids do stuff they don't want to do, even inherently defective ones

You have to learn to play ball 🏀

I Was The Fury
Oct 19, 2012

Always stop to smell the flowers, just in case they're weeds

.

the bitcoin of weed
Nov 1, 2014

findom rear end tamps

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Pick posted:

Sometimes you have to make kids do stuff they don't want to do, even inherently defective ones

You have to learn to play ball 🏀

Yes. Learning how to cope with doing things you don't want to do is part of life. So is learning that you have the ability to place reasonable boundaries and have them be respected.

I've lurked long enough to know that making GBS threads on people as a 'joke' is kind of your shtick, but please look up parentification and carefully consider why you have a less good grasp of boundaries and social interaction than me, an autism. This is probably upsetting coming from someone you don't know. I'm sorry!

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound
I usually pat my relatives kids on the head or ruffle their hair during the initial stages of introduction. Inevitably, I always end up pretending to be a monster and trying to tickle them to death.

doverhog
May 31, 2013

Defender of democracy and human rights 🇺🇦

WampaLord posted:

Really? Not the KNIFE HELD TO THE THROAT?

Did anyone else finish Far Cry 3?

If she actually slit his throat that would be more hosed up. Holding a prop for some role play is not.

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Oct 15, 2012

To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider

WampaLord posted:

I'm posting gold stories and y'all are arguing with Pick!

No other comments about the dude who's girl :siren: held a knife to his throat during sex? :siren:

I said it was hot wtf do you want from me??

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Anyway sorry for derailing this. Have an apology gift!

My [24] parents [50; 57] don't want me to move out because "I'm not done cooking," but I want out.

quote:

Hello, /r/relationships. I apologize in advanced for the length.
Sorry if this is a long ramble, I don't know how to put this in a narrative.
So i have generalized anxiety disorder which disrupted a lot of my life, and naturally, my parents are extremely protective of me. I would get panic attacks, go through extremely bad relationships, and worry over nonsensical things. They've told me all my life to not worry about getting a job and to just let them pay for things.
I would feel pretty guilty about this, especially since my parents were always giving money to my bio dad to take care of my severely autistic bother, and to my older sister who has a kid and has terrible money issues of her own from her own screw ups (she crashes cars, got fired from work all the time, and more.) So every chance I got, I would try to get a job. But my parents would always talk me out of it saying I'm not worried and that they would take care of it. I was in high school, so I didn't have much free time anyway.
This was fine as a teenager but now I'm 23. I'm constantly driving between campuses and my internship, while also living an active social life and participating in the speech/debate team which gives me a grant that covers half the tuition. I make straight A's despite any trouble I run into, and just today found out that since I turn 24 in September, I qualify for a pell grant that will cover my tuition. Not to mentioned I am only 6 classes away from graduating with my BA! My anxiety is also ten times better, and I feel extremely accomplished. Even my speech coaches have told me they're so proud of how far I've come.
But every summer during my college years I would try to find a job and my parents would make me quit. I only succeeded in keeping one job at a retail store, and they decided to push me to babysitting my brother so much I had to quit for "the family." After I quit my babysitting duties suspiciously subsided. I am only allowed 200 dollars a month for food expenses and gas, and since I go to school everyday back and forth in-between my internship, this isn't enough to sustain myself. I tried to bargain for more, they say I need to budget. I offer to get a job, they say absolutely not.
Thing is, this is my last year. My tuition is being paid for myself and I only take three classes a semester now. This would be perfect to get a job to save up some money and to move out and transition to true independence. I also have an amazing, loving boyfriend who wants to take the next step and have me move in with him. I'm delighted but my parents 100% do not approve, despite him being so polite and making so much effort to get to know them (he bought my little brother two expensive transformers toys and didn't receive any thank you from them at all, much less bothered to even talk to him).
I feel so discouraged. I tried hinting that I want to leave but they keep saying weird stuff like "you're not done cooking yet," and how I need to focus on my studies. Well I've been focusing on my studies and obviously they are fine. When I told my (step) dad about potentially having good news about my Grant money, he immediately berated me: "No, you're not moving out." Even though I wasn't even going to TALK about it.
They put a lot of pressure on me to do impromptu milk runs in the middle of the night, to take care of my brother while they go out. They say I can come and go as I please, but demand me to text me where I am through out the day and make extremely snide remarks on how I practically live at my boyfriends even though they establish that it was supposed to be absolutely fine.

I'm getting sick of living here. I get berated for hanging my bath towel in the "incorrect" towel rack, have to stop at home to do the dishes between school and my internship even though I'm barely home enough to do the dishes anyway, and I get fussed at for not being home but when I AM at home they don't even acknowledge my existence unless they need something. I'm so tired of them seeing all my anxieties as me not being ready, and not seeing the strides I could make on my own.
But I'm still conflicted. I don't want to lose them, I just want to move out and live my life freely and develop responsibility. I feel weird that they aren't even letting me do that. I don't feel like I'm even home here anymore.
tl;dr: despite me being responsible, straight a, productive student with grant money to pay for tuition, parents still won't let me out and I feel trapped.
Edit: Wow! I never imagined my post would get this big! I am extremely grateful for the advice and constructive criticism. I do think my parents have slight narcissism issues, but ultimately in their weird way they seem to think they are doing the best by me while also taking extreme advantage of the situation. I'm applying to multiple part time jobs, and have been for a while - but the advice everyone has given out has just reaffirmed that I MUST do this. Once I get a job and have a decent amount of income, I am going to let my mother know that I will move, and that she can't say anything to change my mind. I know she'll be pissed, and that my step dad will be enraged, but I suppose that's the cost of seeking happiness.
I might schedule a therapist appointment in the mean time with someone who is quite familiar with how my mother can be, and seek her advise as well.
Thank you everyone again I truly appreciate the outside perspective!

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

PetraCore posted:

Yes. Learning how to cope with doing things you don't want to do is part of life. So is learning that you have the ability to place reasonable boundaries and have them be respected.

I've lurked long enough to know that making GBS threads on people as a 'joke' is kind of your shtick, but please look up parentification and carefully consider why you have a less good grasp of boundaries and social interaction than me, an autism. This is probably upsetting coming from someone you don't know. I'm sorry!

I have tons of IRL friends and good social skills, it's literally my job. But I also enjoy being an rear end in a top hat so I do that there. By the way I understand boundaries extremely well, sometimes I just violate them for fun because most people are too scared to stop me lol!

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Pick posted:

I have tons of IRL friends and good social skills, it's literally my job. But I also enjoy being an rear end in a top hat so I do that there. By the way I understand boundaries extremely well, sometimes I just violate them for fun because most people are too scared to stop me lol!

Kay. Please refrain from pulling that with me, at least.

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Oct 15, 2012

To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider

Pick posted:

I have tons of IRL friends and good social skills, it's literally my job. But I also enjoy being an rear end in a top hat so I do that there. By the way I understand boundaries extremely well, sometimes I just violate them for fun because most people are too scared to stop me lol!

--Bill Cosby

Spatial
Nov 15, 2007

Pick's Patreon

Pick is misbehaving on the Internet!


WampaLord posted:

No other comments about the dude who's girl :siren: held a knife to his throat during sex? :siren:
Always wear protection, in this case full body armour :v:

doverhog
May 31, 2013

Defender of democracy and human rights 🇺🇦

Pick posted:

By the way I understand boundaries extremely well, sometimes I just violate them for fun because most people are too scared to stop me lol!

Is this really any different from rape? Isn't everything just a question of degrees? For shame Pick, for shame.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

PetraCore posted:

Kay. Please refrain from pulling that with me, at least.

If I ever see you at a sparsely populated fast food restaurant I'll still sit at your table and pretend you're not there and you'll do nothing 😂

hawowanlawow
Jul 27, 2009

Plenty of annoying people have lots of friends

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

"I violate people's boundaries because they're too scared to stop me" is the most concise summary of Pick's "friendships" as she's detailed them yet

ClamdestineBoyster
Aug 15, 2015
Probation
Can't post for 10 years!

hawowanlawow posted:

Plenty of annoying people have lots of friends

No annoying people have "buddies" :airquote:

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Friends are the folks who'll ask you to leave but won't file a restraining order

ClamdestineBoyster
Aug 15, 2015
Probation
Can't post for 10 years!

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Friends are the folks who'll ask you to leave but won't file a restraining order

Because they love you. :sparkles:

TOOT BOOT
May 25, 2010

Dude with the knifey girlfriend should sever now before she suggests they rape or murder someone as a couple

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Apr 23, 2014


TOOT BOOT posted:

Dude with the knifey girlfriend should sever now before she suggests they rape or murder someone as a couple

I swear I've seen a movie about exactly this

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