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maskenfreiheit posted:[WA] Can I throw my ex's poo poo in the dumpster? (self.legaladvice) This is actually a kind of interesting question because I've ended up with stuff people meant to "come back for" that they left at my house or whatever and I never get rid of it and some of it I think is from high school even. dang. I keep tidy but it feels so wrong.
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that's probably one of those things that depends on the state, i bet that after a certain point there's a presumption that the person intended to abandon that property
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 02:28 |
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My[42F] husband [41M] just lost his favorite employee [26F] to a chronic problem employee [50sM] and I want to smack him for being willfully blind instead of being supportive.quote:I am a 42 yr old woman, married to my 41 yr old husband, "Red", married for 20 years. We have three lovely children and our marriage is rock-solid. I am writing today about a situation at my husband's job that has affected him greatly, and I'm struggling to be supportive with the facts I have.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 02:57 |
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men don't care if other men rape and abuse because any man means more to them than any woman because women don't have souls, see genesis
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:11 |
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Okay seriously though, I've seen that situation a lot only it's a mercy she just went to another company, a lot of women like that drop out of the workforce entirely because they can find someone who will love and cherish them as a wife, and allow them to dedicate their lives to love and kindness within the community. And with career experience like that, who wouldn't take it?
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:14 |
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Pick posted:men don't care if other men rape and abuse because any man means more to them than any woman because women don't have souls, see genesis Hey now, don't you dare badmouth Lilith, the first wife of Adam and lover of Satan. She's a nice lady.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:14 |
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Pretty sure the Chad story is fake cause his name is Chad
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:15 |
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This is true. Also a woman is destined to stab me to death in the early morning hours on US Route 50 so I have a vested interest in making sure they have other things going on at that time.
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Haifisch posted:My[42F] husband [41M] just lost his favorite employee [26F] to a chronic problem employee [50sM] and I want to smack him for being willfully blind instead of being supportive. i have seen this exact thing happen on so many occasions, and it has ALWAYS been an older guy being an utter shithead to a younger, more talented/knowledgable woman edit: and a man who has the power to stop it from happening not taking the woman's complaints seriously YeahTubaMike fucked around with this message at 03:20 on Aug 19, 2017 |
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Haifisch posted:My[42F] husband [41M] just lost his favorite employee [26F] to a chronic problem employee [50sM] and I want to smack him for being willfully blind instead of being supportive. and ditch this loser. Let him marry Tom if he's that loving dedicated to that wad of poo poo. Good on your shithead of a husband to introduce women to the industry by bending over backwards to get hosed by idiots shitbirds like Tom. Everyone knows your husband is a weak manager and a gently caress up enabler.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:20 |
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Guys just aren't good at listening. After my friend committed suicide I was really distressed, but Hugh helpfully informed me that I seemed detached and like I didn't care, which to me was a baffling read of the situation because I thought it was obvious I was (and remain) gutted by her loss, but I didn't want to openly weep about it in front of him because (ironically) I thought that would make him say something cruel to me. Should have kept my mouth shut frankly .
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:20 |
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OP posted:No, thank goodness no sexual or aggressive harassment. More like... condescension and immaturity so thick and so constant that it's abusive. Forcing people to check and double-check and triple-check things, tantrums when he doesn't hear what he wants to hear, going around people and policy to get what he wants, sacrificing other employees' reputation to meet his goals, not understanding technology at all which led to managerial frustrations, that sort of thing.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:21 |
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Admiral Ray posted:and ditch this loser. Let him marry Tom if he's that loving dedicated to that wad of poo poo. Good on your shithead of a husband to introduce women to the industry by bending over backwards to get hosed by idiots shitbirds like Tom. Everyone knows your husband is a weak manager and a gently caress up enabler.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 03:21 |
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Pvt.Scott posted:How did Chad gently caress up? This is exactly how you get your friends better jobs, especially in a tight industry. This is how social networking works in your favor, especially if you have an incident on your work history that looks bad to potential employers. She probably didn't use a single reference that could have vouched for her if the issue came up during hiring. Chad did OP's gf, a solid and she decided she'd rather continue falling on her sword some more, destroy a friendship and sour her chances in an industry likely to gossip about bizarre poo poo like this. No, this is not how references work in any business gf shouldn't be doing her utmost to get the hell out of anyway. Providing positive references for friends and leveraging your business buddies to get them fasttracked is a-ok but getting word that one your acquaintances is looking for a job and going out of your way to make sure the hiring manager gets an earful of scuttlebutt that, notably, Chad doesn't actually know anything about is lunatic behavior that could be reasonably expected to put Chad's and the hiring manager's careers in jeopardy should word get out that's how they do things, assuming they're not already the owner's fuckup cousin nepotism hires. You are three eight-year-olds stuffed in a business suit trying to lecture the grownups on how the world really works
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Pick posted:This is actually a kind of interesting question because I've ended up with stuff people meant to "come back for" that they left at my house or whatever and I never get rid of it and some of it I think is from high school even. dang. I keep tidy but it feels so wrong. You must give them 'reasonable notice'. It has to be mailed, too, and signed for. If you throw it away, you are guilty of theft by conversion. You can be sued for that and you will lose in court. Most jurisdictions allow up to 90 days, but there are exceptions, such as deployment, incarceration, hospitalization etc. If you're not sure, ask a lawyer.
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WampaLord posted:Hey now, don't you dare badmouth Lilith, the first wife of Adam and lover of Satan. She was too good for Frasier
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Haifisch posted:Now would be a really good time for OP to get a job, so she's ready if/when this implodes on her husband's rear end. She needs to be ready to ditch this rear end in a top hat, which you can't do unless you're working. She's right not to sympathize but that would be doom for the marriage but oh well
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:No, this is not how references work in any business gf shouldn't be doing her utmost to get the hell out of anyway. Providing positive references for friends and leveraging your business buddies to get them fasttracked is a-ok but getting word that one your acquaintances is looking for a job and going out of your way to make sure the hiring manager gets an earful of scuttlebutt that, notably, Chad doesn't actually know anything about is lunatic behavior that could be reasonably expected to put Chad's and the hiring manager's careers in jeopardy should word get out that's how they do things, assuming they're not already the owner's fuckup cousin nepotism hires. You are three eight-year-olds stuffed in a business suit trying to lecture the grownups on how the world really works Except that the hiring person called Chad.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Chad's a creep with no boundaries Avenging_Mikon posted:Except that the hiring person called Chad. Chad is in no way a creep. It's phrased poorly, but the hiring manager reached out to Chad. Chad gave her a glowing, factual review. He couldn't not mention the accident, he might not be the only person from that company his friend the hiring manager got in touch with, and not mentioning it would ruin his own credibility. One of the most important things you can know about a prospective employee is how they handle difficult, stressful working conditions. GF kept up beautifully, other than an accident that literally no one blames her for including the loving insurance company. The accident anecdote Chad told makes her look good. The GF has sadbrains about the accident and needs help. BF gave her some by making her apply to other jobs, just getting the phone interview was a big self esteem boost. Chad helped too, his recommendation may have been decisive in the job offer. But she needs real therapy with an aim to get over the accident and own her own competence.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 04:22 |
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WampaLord posted:Still having fun trolling r/poly for stories: I'm a few pages behind because this thread moves so fast, but The Something Awful Forums > Main > GBS: And with an inexplicable lack of hair, things start to fall apart > /r/relationships: I wrote out the algorithm, literally, for my feelings of compersion
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mllaneza posted:Chad is in no way a creep. It's phrased poorly, but the hiring manager reached out to Chad. Chad gave her a glowing, factual review. He couldn't not mention the accident, he might not be the only person from that company his friend the hiring manager got in touch with, and not mentioning it would ruin his own credibility. One of the most important things you can know about a prospective employee is how they handle difficult, stressful working conditions. GF kept up beautifully, other than an accident that literally no one blames her for including the loving insurance company. The accident anecdote Chad told makes her look good. It's extremely easy to not mention the vague rumors he heard about the time the girlfriend hosed something up. People in the working world do it all the time, as a matter of professional etiquette and company policy. It's the kind of thing people get written up for, and can potentially expose them and their employees to liability if word gets out to people less inclined to interpret everything they do charitably their dumbass bff. What unspeakably retarded field are you in where not passing along every vaguely negative innuendo and rumor you hear about someone to anyone who asks would hurt your credibility? A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 05:37 on Aug 19, 2017 |
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Chad should have put his own career at risk by intentionally lying by omission about something that would probably be found out anyway if it's such a close knit industry rather than putting the incident into context and endorsing her for the position What a Chad
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 05:57 |
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I think ing from this incestuous and high-stress industry is probably the right call anyway.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 05:58 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I think ing from this incestuous and high-stress industry is probably the right call anyway. p. much. again, that's often why women leave certain careers. they're like "eh gently caress it, i will have a better quality of life literally anywhere else" and then everyone bemoans them leaving but fix nothing
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 05:59 |
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I mean, think about it from her perspective: people are being all nice and kind about this thing that was actually their fault, she got investigated and got a slap on the wrist when they should have been fired for putting her through it. And now she's expected to be grateful for a life where people will constantly bring up this thing up. She couldn't even escape it by working somewhere else, loving Chad had to bring it up.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 06:12 |
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Yes, capitalism, the only system under which prominent people get to lay their mistakes at the hand of less prominent ones.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 06:25 |
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Ok fine that's the world, where the less powerful eat poo poo so the more powerful can wipe their hands of their own mistakes
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 06:28 |
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Intruder posted:Ok fine that's the world, where the less powerful eat poo poo so the more powerful can wipe their hands of their own mistakes The system works!
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 06:31 |
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My [m25] fiancee [f25] of 3 years had too much to drink and caused a huge scene at my brother's [m28] weddingquote:My fiancee and I were both invited to my older brother's wedding. Up until now she has been very well liked by all of my family, even seen as part of the family already. But tonight at the wedding there was an open bar and she became completely out of control. well your family is never going to accept your fiancee after tonight so fortunately you won't have to be responsible for her alcoholism
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My [22M] brother [18M] is a total menace. He's been a burden on my family for at least the past ten years. Everyone we've spoken to has said it's just a phase, or he'll grow out of it, but as yet he hasn't, and his behaviour is making me extremely depressed. I'm home from college for the summer, so I have to put up with this for another six weeks - although his behaviour has been like this for at least the past ten years. I think he's got some sort of mental disorder that makes him behave like this - we've tried to get him checked out but the general consensus we get is that he'll only be evaluated if he actually hurts someone. Here are some of the examples of his recent behaviour. It's important to note he doesn't behave like this outside the house. He's perfectly normal and polite to other people, but when he's inside the house he feels he can behave like a total rear end in a top hat. We had a contractor coming as we're remodelling the bathroom. My parents were out, so I said I'd clean the bathroom, and he was asked to clean the hallways. The contractor was due at 3pm. At the moment I'm working nights, so roughly 12pm I was asleep, and my brother barged into my room, woke me up and demanded I clean the bathroom. I told him to gently caress off and that I'd do it in my own time. He didn't like that - he started making threats, offering me to hit him, getting right in my face, etc. This was over absolutely nothing - he had decided that at that point I must clean the bathroom, because he had said so. He has this recurring theme that somehow I think I'm better than everyone in the house. He brings this up on a daily basis, "get off your high horse, you're not better than everyone" "you're nothing, although you think you're everything" - that kind of crap. I don't think I'm better than everyone - he gets this from the fact that I do most of the cleaning in the house because my mom [55F] is disabled and my dad [55M] and sister [21F] work full time, whereas I only work part time. Sometimes I'll complain about how messy the house is because my brother is a total slob - pizza boxes strewn over the house, empty Coke cans, plates, etc. I don't feel I should have to pick up after him in this way, and whenever I complain I get the "you're so arrogant, you think you're better than me, I'll do what I want." My brother is still in school (summer holidays at the moment) and does absolutely nothing with his time. He will deliberately try to disturb me when I am asleep. As I said earlier I work nights at the weekends, and he stays up all night playing video games. I'm usually home at 8am and I just want to go to sleep, but he will decide just as I've got into bed to make as much noise as possible - examples include have an argument with my mom or to rearrange his bedroom. He'll get bored after about two hours and then go to sleep for the whole day. I work three days per week and over the last weekend, every day I've been woken up by him making unnecessary noise. We've had a family issue regarding my grandmother's house. My mom is trying to force a sale and get some money out of the house, and since my brother has heard about this he's asked about it three times a day - "when are you getting the money, I need a car, I need something else, etc." I've tried to tell him it isn't his money and therefore he doesn't decide what to do with it, and he just gets violent and aggressive - going back to "you're not better than me, don't tell me what to do" My mom gave me some money for tuition fees earlier this year. I work while at college, but I had a slight shortfall not covered by loans and my own personal savings, so my mom kindly offered to make up the shortfall. When he heard about this he got hold of my mom's online banking information (I've asked her to lock this up where he can't find it but she left it around one day and he picked it up), and logged on to see what the amount was. When he found out he went crazy, shouting and screaming at my mom and me that he should also have received a similar amount because it was unfair. I told him it was none of his business - again, what I received was a load of abuse. We have a cat. She's very timid and scared of him because of his aggression. She really hates being picked up, so my brother will pick her up routinely. When she starts hissing usually he'll put her down, but once he didn't and he got scratched. He then went on a huge tirade, suggesting she be put down, etc. He even said if she did it again he'd kick her as hard as he can, but I don't believe this because I think he knows I'd start hitting him and wouldn't be able to stop if he hurt her. He'll constantly feed her stuff she shouldn't eat, like sausages, bacon, etc. When I tell him he shouldn't do that as it's not healthy, I get a load of abuse. He also buys treats to feed her because he thinks it'll make her like him, even though we like to limit her treat consumption he's quite happy to feed her 20 or 30 at a time when nobody's around to tell him otherwise, and his reasoning is that they're good for her and she'll eat them instead of her food. For years he's been draining he family's finances. My mom is a soft touch - she isn't really able to stand up to him as he's very abusive and menacing. I feel helpless when he's bullying her but I know as soon as I get involved it makes the situation ten times worse and makes it more likely to become violent. So when my brother demands my mom's credit card to go buy himself McDonald's or something, she gives in. We're not a rich family but I'd wager he's spending at least $100 a week of my mom's money. When I found out he was taking her card, I reported him for credit card fraud - nothing ever came of it as I was away in college, I'm not sure if there was a visit from the police or anything. Whenever I suggest to my mom she changes her bank account or makes some effort to prevent him getting at her money, she agrees with me that it's ridiculous and he shouldn't be able to do it, but is too scared of him to do anything about it. I'd really love to knock him clean out. However I am a musician - that's what my degree is in and I really can't afford to risk damaging my hands. Hitting him is not worth not being able to play my instrument again, as it seems as though that and work is the only release I ever get nowadays. Of course if I try to practice he makes as much noise as possible to try to distract me. He's hit me and other people before and I've called the police on two occasions - they've let him off with a warning both times, and he's very cautious now of what he will do - he's content to push me, etc but he won't actually punch me because he knows I'll call the police and get him arrested. I know the long term solution is to move out, which I'll be doing soon - when I go away for my master's degree at another college I won't ever be coming back here. However, I'm worried what'll happen to my parents and my sister - he's a menace and he knows my mom won't call the police if he attacks her, and neither she nor my sister are in a position to defend themselves. What can I do about this? I'm very concerned I'll leave for good and my mom will be dead shortly after, either from suicide because she can't take any more or he's got violent and she hasn't been able to defend herself. He hasn't done this yet (because I'd kill him) but with nobody there to stop him I don't know what he'd do.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 07:29 |
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Kickboxing was invented for a reason. Maybe i'm being too hard on him, maybe his music is so beautiful that it's worth letting his mom get beaten to death. dudeness fucked around with this message at 07:41 on Aug 19, 2017 |
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That guy got a load of abuse.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 08:01 |
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I (M18) just had a coworker (F42) come onto me sexuallyquote:Length of relationship: friendly for a summer, "sexual" for a day This is like act 2 of a horror movie, where the spooky atmosphere is established, but just slightly before the main character finds his dead friends and has to start dodging butcher knives
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 13:12 |
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No red flags there, go on and get your noodle wet friend
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 14:38 |
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I [17M] bought this replica alien head for $2000 and put it in the living room. My half siblings [3M&F] burst into tears when they saw it and mom [34F] told me to move it. I have no space in my room and I want to bargain with her. quote:
A $2000 replica alien head He's 17
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 14:51 |
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:
Young forums poster Xenomorph learns that its game over man.
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 14:52 |
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:
considering that this is his mom going "move the alien head" and not "holy poo poo did you just spend 2000 real life american dollars on a giant fake alien head?" I'm assuming that either his parents are unfathomably wealthy, in which case just buy a new house specifically to keep your weird head in, or that it was actually his own money, in which case gently caress, if you're 17 and have 2k to blow on bullshit you might as well just move out when you turn 18 in a couple months and throw a tarp on it until then
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# ? Aug 19, 2017 15:09 |
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I found some good content: My [29f] Husband [35m] is out of town... and probably cheating on me with his cousin!?! (self.relationship_advice) quote:Okay friends... I have quite the predicament.
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cock hero flux posted:considering that this is his mom going "move the alien head" and not "holy poo poo did you just spend 2000 real life american dollars on a giant fake alien head?" I'm assuming that either his parents are unfathomably wealthy, in which case just buy a new house specifically to keep your weird head in, or that it was actually his own money, in which case gently caress, if you're 17 and have 2k to blow on bullshit you might as well just move out when you turn 18 in a couple months and throw a tarp on it until then When I was 16, over the summer I banked up $3,000 by working at a call center. So it's not impossible for kids to have access to that kind of cash on their own. Granted, I didn't go and blow 2/3rds of it on one purchase, but dumb teens gonna dumb teen. maskenfreiheit posted:I found some good content:
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