Barudak posted:

Send the letter back along with a note saying they have the wrong person as youve never had any grandparemts

Proteus Jones posted:

Wow.

Not saying I disagree, but that's ice cold, Jack Frost.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

I [15M] bought my girlfriend's dad a PS4 and people are calling me a homo for it.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

I [15M] bought my girlfriend's dad a PS4 and people are calling me a homo for it.

quote:

My girlfriend is great, I love her dearly and we're getting married soon (we've been a couple for 3 years). She is somewhat eccentric though, and using certain archaic terms for things is one of her eccentricities. She reads lots of old books and she thinks the words "lover" or "making love" mean something non-sexual.

She told several members of my family that we've been "lovers" for almost 3 years. My father is an Evangelical pastor, so my family's not big on pre-marital sex (actually that's putting it very mildly). And we're not having sex, we've never had sexual intercourse

Does it sound like my family (she said this to all of my siblings and my parents!) now thinks we are having sex? Is that what anyone would think if you knew that 2 people are "lovers". I'm so embarrassed by this, while she thinks that "they knew what she meant".

tl;dr My gf is somewhat eccentric and she tends to use antiquated words/phrases. She told my family that we have been "lovers" for 3 years. Do people interpret this as meaning we're having sex? Did she just accidentally tell my whole family that we've been having sex for 3 years (which we haven't)?

WampaLord posted:

My eccentric girlfriend (26 F) has told my family that we are "lovers". I (28 M) am so embarrassed.

quote:

u/Riptide_NVN
I make around 20% more than my wife. We keep separate accounts. For several years I took care of over half our living expenses while she was in school. Now we split it 50/50.

A year ago I agreed to move closer to her family to save the marriage. We made an agreement to an amount each month to save for the move. I match her deposit. This seemed fair to me.

It has come to my attention she may be slowly building debt on credit to support her deposits into the move fund. She stated she does not want to make smaller deposits because I will then be matching less and it will take longer to save what we need. She does not want to delay the move. We've lived far from her family for years and she is at the end of her rope.

Am I being selfish by not wanting to put more into this than she is able?

tl;dr

One spouse expecting the other to save more towards a common goal than they are.

Milotic posted:

Yes, finance, yesssss

My [41M] wife [36F] having financial disagreement over savings

Danaru posted:

The fact that they're moving "to save the marriage" in the first place is a pretty telling sign

maskenfreiheit posted:

[TX] Getting divorced while being basically FWBs? (self.legaladvice)

Barudak posted:

Send the letter back along with a note saying they have the wrong person as youve never had any grandparemts

Milotic posted:

A cheery story for the bank holiday Monday:

My [M 28] grandparents [M 71/ F 69] abandoned me 'cause I'm biracial - now my grandmother "wants to get to know me."

MF_James posted:

This is a few pages back, but I'm responding anyway! Nah dude, the judge is totally gonna make you whip out your dick and she's gonna have to show her pussy, and HE'LL KNOW YOU BEEN HAVING SEX.

quote:

Ok so last week I gave an interview to a local paper about being gay. They asked me how I came out, and whether my parents were ok with it, and I answered honestly. My dad was not happy and it is a large part of why he and I no longer speak. I didn't identify him by name, although I am myself named and there is a photograph of me.

This morning he rang my mum and my sister to say that he is suing both me and the paper for defamation; the paper because they have money and me to 'teach me a lesson'. Is it likely that he will succeed? Does he have a leg to stand on, legally?

LadyPictureShow posted:

I read the comments section on this one, the OP mentions that his grandmother tried to contact him via letters when he was younger, but they stopped after a point as he never responded.

Saying they came from a different time where the man 'took the lead' sounds like granddad may have been a lovely controlling husband, and now that he's finally dead, she can try again to make contact. (I'm saying it's a possibility based on his mention of their different behaviors at the funeral)

However, the OP had a lot to deal with growing up, especially rejection by his only living relatives) so he has every right to decide to not respond to the letter.

maskenfreiheit posted:

Meanwhile, on Knifecrime Island:

My dad is threatening to sue me (self.LegalAdviceUK)

quote:

My parents divorced when I was a teen. My father did not pursue custody, and cut off contact with me when his request that I get my mom to drop the child support order went unfulfilled. We’ve had no contact in the nearly ten years that have elapsed since then, although he occasionally pops to harass my mother over old paid-off debts and long-sold family heirlooms.

My mother went on to remarry a phenomenal man, who was overjoyed to add me to his squad of adoring daughters. We have many common interests and are very close. I call him “Papa” and “Pop”, and we are, in every sense but biologically, very much father and daughter. We decided to finally make it legit and went through the very quick and easy process of adult adoption (my mother also adopted his three now-adult daughters).

My bio-dad, somehow, found out about this (we unthinkingly shared our happy family news on social media, so I guess I dug my own grave here). This morning, I got a letter from him saying that he would not be cheated out of his parental rights, and that he will be having the adoption overturned. Although his law license was revoked when he was caught embezzling from his firm over a decade ago, it sounds like he’s sat the bar again and had it restored in his state (NJ), because he signed it “esquire”, which I’m under the impression is illegal for someone who does not have a valid law license to do. He specifically mentioned his right to filial support, saying that since he was forced to pay support for me since I’m biologically his, I should have to do the same, and that once he gets the adoption overturned, he’ll be filing for support. I was really freaked out to see that both New Jersey and my home state of Maryland have filial support laws that he could technically try to get enforced. I know it’s rare, but since he’s a trained lawyer, I’m afraid he’ll do whatever he can to mess with my life now that he knows I’ve removed him from it entirely. (I took my mother’s maiden name when I was 20, and that spurred him to embroil her in a lengthy court battle that I won’t go into except to say that it was very messy and expensive.)

Will he really be able to have the adoption overturned? We did everything by the book, but I know that regular adoptions are overturned all the time if the bio-dad shows up and says he wasn’t properly notified/didn’t consent/whatever. Obviously he doesn’t have parental rights over a legal adult (I’m 25), but could he have himself reclassified as my next of kin, over my pop? When we got the adoption done, we also had medical POA’s done, which list my mom and pop as my agents. Should the worst happen, they know that I wouldn’t want to be on life support, and would act accordingly. Now that this mess has come up, I’m worried that my bio-dad will attempt to overturn my POA. Is that even possible? I know that this is a far-out scenario, but now I’m worried that if something awful were to happen to me, my bio-dad will be able to show up and start a Terry Shaivo-style battle with my mom and pop over my wishes, since that’s essentially the only right that he would gain from overturning the adoption.

Although I know that lawyers make empty threats all the time, my suspicion that he’s re-taken the bar just to fight me on this makes me worry that there is something legitimate behind his threats to overturn the adoption and sue me for support. I would love some info on adult adoption/POA’s.

maskenfreiheit posted:

Meanwhile, on Knifecrime Island:

My dad is threatening to sue me (self.LegalAdviceUK)

Milotic posted:

Yes, finance, yesssss

My [41M] wife [36F] having financial disagreement over savings

Anne Whateley posted:

She didn't abandon him.

quote:

When my dad proposed, they gave my mom an ultimatum – them or my dad. She chose the latter. In response, my grandparents disowned my mother and had nothing to do with my family.

When my parents died, my grandparents refused to take me in.

Milotic posted:

A cheery story for the bank holiday Monday:

My [M 28] grandparents [M 71/ F 69] abandoned me 'cause I'm biracial - now my grandmother "wants to get to know me."

Danaru posted:

Anne Whateley posted:

She didn't abandon him. She couldn't adopt him, but she still did what she could to try to communicate with him. The kid can decide that's not enough for him and that's fine, but it may have been all she could do. (Although tbh if she had somehow gotten controlling racist bad granddad to adopt him, that's not really looking like an improvement in the kid's life.)

But anyway yeah she was born in 1947, there's no excuse for her not to be woke and strong and #flawless, it's disgusting how she just let herself be controlled, and basically she did the holocaust

Barudak posted:

This is a super nice gesture and her dad will always remember you fondly, but note Im using past tense here because you are 15 and one of you to will assuredly gently caress this all up. You invested too heavily in long term dad futures in a volatile and frothy market

Admiral Ray posted:

Nah, gently caress her. Your choices have consequences. This poo poo wasn't just "they were racist" it was "we disowned family and abandoned our grandchild over how racist we are". You don't get to come back from that with a few sweet letters saying it's totally not my fault, I knew it was wrong but there's an order to this world! Please forgive me! Haha, nah, go die cold and alone.

Anne Whateley posted:

Yeah if you read my posts, I keep saying the guy doesn't ever have to talk to her again and that's fine. I mean it.

Milotic posted:

A cheery story for the bank holiday Monday:

My [M 28] grandparents [M 71/ F 69] abandoned me 'cause I'm biracial - now my grandmother "wants to get to know me."

maskenfreiheit posted:

Meanwhile, on Knifecrime Island:

My dad is threatening to sue me (self.LegalAdviceUK)

Anne Whateley posted:

I also wasn't born in 1947

Anne Whateley posted:

But anyway yeah she was born in 1947

Ride The Gravitron posted:

gently caress that, poo poo on her grave