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Ride The Gravitron posted:I'm seeing that she recognized she had this attraction, realized her marriage was more important and so distanced her self from the other guy. What should she have done? either never mentioned it at all or not have waited until after she'd already floated it to the coworker and then trickle-truthed her husband to assure he'd be 100% convinced it was far worse than she was saying, and she either hosed the guy or got shot down. for the second time. and then probably not acted like she had no agency here and gone for a 'sorry you're upset' angle just to rub salt in the wound. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 01:43 on Aug 29, 2017 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:If a man said he was going to refuse to mentor a woman for not continuing to sleep with him, would we view the refusal as a positive thing?
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Ghosting is a way bigger dick move than just "refused to keep sleeping with"
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Even if that's true he acted like a shithead to her then asked her out of the blue for a favor and he is also entitled to nothing
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Even if the genders were reversed, she has absolutely no obligation to help him. However seeing as she holds no hard feelings at this point and seems to want to give the advice, there's no reason not to.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [26f] told my husband [26m] I want a divorce...but I don't. This is why chinese doctors recommend you dont drain a man of their Jing lest their testicle veins swell and he be unfit for military service*. That you ignored 5,000 years of medical wisdom is on you lady. *An article that ran last week posited this. I somehow didnt just make this up.
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maskenfreiheit posted:If a man said he was going to refuse to mentor a woman for not continuing to sleep with him, would we view the refusal as a positive thing? You keep doing this "infer things that aren't real based on personal experiences" thing in this thread. It's either stupid or a bad gimmick. If they worked at the same company and she was a superior refusing mentorship, that'd be one thing, but nobody owes someone what basically amounts to friendship, expecially when said person has shown they don't appreciate that person as a friend.
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SirSamVimes posted:Even if the genders were reversed, she has absolutely no obligation to help him. However seeing as she holds no hard feelings at this point and seems to want to give the advice, there's no reason not to. Also, who knows what the future holds. He could be in a position to help her another 5 years down the line. Why burn the bridge unnecessarily? 13Pandora13 posted:You keep doing this "infer things that aren't real based on personal experiences" thing in this thread. It's either stupid or a bad gimmick. If they worked at the same company and she was a superior refusing mentorship, that'd be one thing, but nobody owes someone what basically amounts to friendship, expecially when said person has shown they don't appreciate that person as a friend. I think she should help him out (assuming she has the time) because growing your network is always a good idea. Conversely, I think being vindictive is a bad habit which will catch up with you. maskenfreiheit fucked around with this message at 01:52 on Aug 29, 2017 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:Also, who knows what the future holds. He could be in a position to help her another 5 years down the line. Why burn the bridge unnecessarily? Pretty sure he burned it first
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Pretty sure he burned it first please refer back to my frank underwood gif: edit: oh wait, you can't because lowtax banned you for being a bad poster while I was typing it. L-O-L
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maskenfreiheit, you've said multiple times in this thread that we owe you positive attention to keep you from acting out. I think the time you spend posting could be more fruitfully spent with your therapist
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InediblePenguin posted:maskenfreiheit, you've said multiple times in this thread that we owe you positive attention to keep you from acting out. I think the time you spend posting could be more fruitfully spent with your therapist sorry, i try to be a fun, zany terrible poster like pick but i can't seem to get anything right
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Haifisch posted:Dude's going to have Mother Dearest's desiccated corpse keeping him company in his basement someday. I keep hearing about people like this and I just don't get it. My dad said if I ever showed up late to an appointment with a professional while holding a coffee I'd be out of the will.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I'm seeing that she recognized she had this attraction, realized her marriage was more important and so distanced her self from the other guy. What should she have done? You must never, ever tell men the truth or how you feel. They will hit you.
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Ahahahahahahahahaha. AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! My [28f] boyfriend [34m] won't let me join his fantasy football league quote:I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. Last year when we started dating we would watch the football games for our home team with his friends and their girlfriends every week. They are all in his fantasy leagues.. his friends and their girlfriends. So when we would watch the game they would all be glued to their phones and I felt left out. I didn't let it bother me then because it was a new relationship. "Honey, can I join the fantasy league?"
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The genders being reversed or not doesn't matter, he's not entitled to her help when he was lovely to her. Like, he hosed her over to the point where she has less reason to help him than a complete stranger, so expecting a thing from her is a bit stupid. For the co-worker wife thing, it's very obvious that she settled with him and isn't happy in the relationship. She outright admitted to trying to leave him for another guy she liked better early on in the
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David Heinrich posted:The genders being reversed or not doesn't matter, he's not entitled to her help when he was lovely to her. Like, he hosed her over to the point where she has less reason to help him than a complete stranger, so expecting a thing from her is a bit stupid. for context, they hooked up once, she mentioned it was her first time (in the reddit post - not to the guy) and it was awkward, and afterwards he only communicated with her on work relevant projects. if they were still in the same org he could actually make a case for sexual harassment to HR since she's retaliating for not loving her, rather than saying she's busy WampaLord posted:Ahahahahahahahahaha. maybe he wants to have a part of his life that doesn't involve his gf?
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InediblePenguin posted:maskenfreiheit, you've said multiple times in this thread that we owe you positive attention to keep you from acting out. I think the time you spend posting could be more fruitfully spent with your therapist As someone who's spent a lot of time with therapists in agreement that it can be real beneficial
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maskenfreiheit posted:maybe he wants to have a part of his life that doesn't involve his gf? If the his other friends' girlfriends weren't involved, I'd accept that he just wanted a "guys only activity" or something, but since they're all involved now he's being the weird excluding rear end in a top hat.
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I don't know fantasy football but the "odd number out"kind of makes sense but then the phone thing seemed like a real dickish move
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WampaLord posted:If the his other friends' girlfriends weren't involved, I'd accept that he just wanted a "guys only activity" or something, but since they're all involved now he's being the weird excluding rear end in a top hat. i mean isn't guys only basically a euphenism for "activity away from my gf?" i've had stuff i did that was "me time" even though it had mixed genders.
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maskenfreiheit posted:i mean isn't guys only basically a euphenism for "activity away from my gf?" You double down on everything, huh? I don't think I've ever seen you say "Hey, good point, I was wrong about that one." Do you not see how it's a dick move to exclude someone who wants to be included, much less your romantic partner?
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maskenfreiheit posted:for context, they hooked up once, she mentioned it was her first time (in the reddit post - not to the guy) and it was awkward, and afterwards he only communicated with her on work relevant projects. Sure, but they're not. He's not entitled to her help in any way, and she's not obligated to give it. She's not actively hindering him because he won't gently caress her, and expecting her to actively go out of her way to give non-vital help to anyone she doesn't feel like helping is silly. For fantasy football guy, I can see where he's coming from in concept. He might just want time away from his SO, and that doesn't necessarily make him a jerk. However,(If we take her word for it, which we sort of have to, here)he's being crazily condescending about it and refusing to listen to her talk about how she's legitimately interested and wants to participate, which is a dick move. If he explained that he really just wants some personal time with his friends to chill out, I could sort of be on his side; but laughing in your girlfriend's face when they're trying to be sincere is a turbo-douche move. Blade Runner fucked around with this message at 02:23 on Aug 29, 2017 |
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I don't know fantasy football but the "odd number out"kind of makes sense but then the phone thing seemed like a real dickish move You can run fantasy leagues with odd numbers of players or just recruit an additional coworker or whatever, he's stupid or a dick or just doesn't want her in his football buddies club (fantasy football requires no skill or intelligence so anyone who claims it's too much work to teach a new player is full of poo poo)
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WampaLord posted:You double down on everything, huh? I don't think I've ever seen you say "Hey, good point, I was wrong about that one." i don't think i've ever expressed a contrasting opinion without someone hammering at and insulting me to change it i can see where it could be seen as exclusionary
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Is it weird if you remember an girlfriend from when you were very young as being "hot", even though you're now an adult? (self.dating_advice)quote:I was talking about our younger dating years with my friends, and I mentioned how I wasn't really interested in girls back then, but I ended up dating this one girl from school for a year because she was really hot. That got me thinking, is it weird to say someone who you dated when you were basically a kid was "hot"? I'm 25 now, haven't seen her since the year we broke up when we were both 14 so, its like I'm essentially picturing a 14 year old as "hot". Is it just out of habit since I was so attracted to her back then?
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maskenfreiheit posted:Is it weird if you remember an girlfriend from when you were very young as being "hot", even though you're now an adult? (self.dating_advice) why is this even a question
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I like the Redditor who refers to women two years older than himself as "older women" I [27M] thought I would try dating older women [29-33] because I believed they would be more mature... (self.dating) quote:Turns out you just end up being the latest guy to learn why all these women are still single in their 30s.
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Me [Early 30sF] with my Ex[30sM] and his new GF of 4 months[late 20sF]- She won't stop taking/posting pictures of my daughter [5F]quote:I'll try to keep it as short as possible (on mobile and English ist my second language-be kind): quote:Edit: Ex read the thread and feels guilty now for not putting his foot down enough. I feel similar. We talked in the phone for a while and have now come up with a battle plan:
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corn on the cop posted:why is this even a question Reddit's not the best at navigating age-of-consent-related issues
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Reddit's not the best at navigating age-of-consent-related issues the idea you could find someone aesthetically pleasing but not actually try to gently caress it is very confusing to them
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Haifisch posted:Me [Early 30sF] with my Ex[30sM] and his new GF of 4 months[late 20sF]- She won't stop taking/posting pictures of my daughter [5F] Lol! Backhanded insults.
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Haifisch posted:Me [Early 30sF] with my Ex[30sM] and his new GF of 4 months[late 20sF]- She won't stop taking/posting pictures of my daughter [5F] She definitely wants to harvest the daughter's life essence to maintain her youth, I recommend a pre-emptive
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Outrail posted:
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Reddit's not the best at navigating age-of-consent-related issues "i had a hot girlfriend when i was 14" doesn't differ in meaning whether you're 14 or 55. someone or something is putting dumb thoughts into his head
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quote:Yea, this is a big generalization, but I've talked to about 60 and dated close to 25 women in this age range in the past year; even had a relationship with one for a few months. I only met a handful that had what I would consider realistic expectations about dating. My feelings seem to be that they are way too scared and insecure about wasting the "little" time they have left (especially if they want children) that they break things off over the stupidest stuff. It's perfection or nothing. If you're a big enough dick that 25 women have broken up with you in a single year it's not the fault of the women.
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The child is just a prop to that woman. Let's put Instagram personality on the list of jobs not date along with surgeon and twitch streamer.
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PetraCore posted:If you're a big enough dick that 25 women have broken up with you in a single year it's not the fault of the women. Taking into account the few months he dated one of them, that's one or two girls a fortnight. gently caress that's exhausting to maintain for more than a month or two.
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PetraCore posted:If you're a big enough dick that 25 women have broken up with you in a single year it's not the fault of the women. he's probably rounding everything up. i once complained to a fellow computer toucher in grad school that i felt really lonely and hadn't found a girlfriend. "what? you've dated like, at least 3 or 4 people" he told me (lived in my apt complex) turns out he thought if you go on a date with someone, that means you "dated" them, and a girlfriend was "someone you dated". so if I schedule 3 coffee dates for friday, saturday, and sunday night, by his weird math my girlfriend score was +3
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PetraCore posted:If you're a big enough dick that 25 women have broken up with you in a single year it's not the fault of the women. No, you don't understand, they were intimidated by my good looks and gigantic penis
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