Admiral Ray posted:

Stop thinking you own your mom/wanting to gently caress her you creepy sack of poo poo.

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My girlfriend of 8 months came to live this September in an apartment I've been renting for a year. I told her we should split the bill because I'm still at college and I am already spend a lot of money just for food and uni. I believe we're closer than most people that have been together the same amount of time since we've been spending every day together since the first day.

However, I had to pay the rent of both last year's and the year before months of July and August even though I wasn't living there. I also had to spend several thousand dollars for buying forniture since the apartment was empty.

Now, when I made her notice that she is in fact spending much less than she should have (no summer months + no forniture) she got really mad and said stuff like ''I came to live here because you were there, not because I liked the apartment or I would have lived somewhere else'', ''You're such and rear end in a top hat even mentioning that'', etc.

Thing is, I never minded spending more on my girls but she is arrogant about it. She got mad because on the day of her birthday I didn't give her a present (even though I got her an expensive necklace just a week before). She gets mad even if I don't always give her a present for our ''monthversary''. She also claims I'm always supposed to pay for dinner. Oh and, btw, she almost never gives me any kind of present.

She probably has more liquid money than I do due to the fact that she owns several properties (after her father died) and that she's renting them. Nevertheless when we buy food at the supermarket she specifically makes me pay for steaks/chicken/... that only I eat, while I share whatever fitness bullshit she wants to buy.

I strongly believe if you care for somebody you should want to be equal to them in all respects.

Before you tell me stuff like ''dump her, loser'', I kinda love her.

I don't even know how to breach into that old-fashioned rural mentality, what should I do?

TL;DR: Girlfriend never wants to share, but doesn't contribute either.

OP posted:

The thing is that she doesn't agree that she should pay for forniture and the months she wasn't there because they're mine.

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She's not likely to accept any change to the status quo.

I was already able to change her mind and have her share rent and food.

nerd plus rage posted:

Is forniture furniture you gently caress on?

nerd plus rage posted:

Is forniture furniture you gently caress on?

nerd plus rage posted:

Is forniture furniture you gently caress on?

Palpek posted:

The guy jerking it in front of the tv didn't spend a single moment alone for 10 months?

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I'm all for having a healthy sex life that includes regular masturbation, but I think the weirder part is that dude was never jerking it for months until the one time his girlfriend was sick in bed and couldn't service his boner. Equally strange and pretty gross how he decided to beat it in the living room and not his room or anywhere else private.

Palpek posted:

That guys seriously expects her to retroactively pay for months when she didn't live there? Hello honey, it's cool that we split the bills now that you just moved in but you also already owe me 4 months' worth of rent and thousands of dollars for the furniture I was using by myself. What the gently caress? I can at least understand where the monthversary thing comes from even if it's super dumb but what is this poo poo?

I Was The Fury posted:

Many cohabitating romantic partners share a bedroom. So "his room" likely contained a flu-riddled girlfriend that he had told to sleep all day.

Dienes posted:

I'm guessing there's probably a bathroom or two in the apartment.

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My boyfriend of 3 years [21 M] wants to marry me [19 F], how do I go about this situation?/quote]

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During the three years of us dating, he never seemed like he was fully committed to our relationship. Examples being telling me that he didn't mean it for a year when he told me he loved me, he never talked anything about our future until I pretty much stopped caring of what would come of us, he'd ignore me to play video games constantly, moved two hours away for school, and just overall being very distant.

Sometime in August, I proposed that we be in an open relationship. I know how it sounds, but I needed some form of attention and affection, and he agreed, albeit reluctantly. I assume he was actually uncomfortable with the idea because we broke up shortly after.

We eventually got back together, and I had cheated on him. I never told him. We broke up again after about a week.

This week I guess we kind of got back together, or at least testing the waters. We got in a little argument about an hour ago about nothing important, and then he brought up that he was going to propose to me but said that he doesn't want to marry me if we're just going to fight all the time. He had bought the ring already and was going to propose when he was going to come and visit me October 9th.

I just need advice. I don't know if I should marry him. I don't know if this would be a happy marriage. What do you guys think?

TL;DR: Off and on boyfriend of 3 years wants to marry me. After a rough time recently, I don't know if I should.

fruit on the bottom posted:

There was that time I broke both my arms.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I'd rather not associate urine and feces with sex.

I Was The Fury posted:

Many cohabitating romantic partners share a bedroom. So "his room" likely contained a flu-riddled girlfriend that he had told to sleep all day.

Dienes posted:

You've never had shower sex? You poor bastard.

Admiral Ray posted:

Accept that she's ending the relationship and maybe next time actually talk things out about poo poo like this before it becomes a problem. Also what the gently caress is wrong with you why were you just jerking off on the couch in the middle of the room, go somewhere else you weird gently caress. I bet you didn't even use headphones so she woke up to hearing the noise of porn.

fruit on the bottom posted:

There was that time I broke both my arms.

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We eventually got back together, and I had cheated on him. I never told him. We broke up again after about a week.

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I dated my ex for almost 3 years and we lived together for 2 years. 6 months ago he broke up with me, and I was devastated. I moved back in with my parents, and am still living with them.

I started dating my current boyfriend (26 M) around 2 months after the breakup. I know it's a bit early, but I didn't want to deny myself happiness just because I was recently dumped.

I was deeply depressed for about a month after my ex broke up with me. I am obviously still dealing with it, even though I am dating someone new. My current boyfriend is very supportive and understands my emotional situation.

I cut off all contact with my ex pretty quickly after the break up, but it has been hard because we have basically all of the same friends, including the friend in question; let's call her S.

S and I have been close friends since high school. S and my ex are best friends (they are closer to each other than I was with either of them). They met in college and lived together (with other people and alone) for many years, but before this point they had a sibling-like relationship.

S knows how damaged I am by the breakup and has been supportive. However, I have tried to not talk with her about it to much because I didn't want to put her in an awkward position, being my ex's best friend.

I haven't seen S in a few months because she recently moved to Chicago for grad school (My ex and I both live in Ann Arbor, MI). I felt bad about not talking with her enough, but we have both been really busy.

Two days ago she texted me and told me that she and my ex are dating. She said she was sorry and still wants to be friends. Apparently they had drunkenly hooked up with each other and that led to them starting a relationship. I don't have any more details.

I am deeply hurt by this and also furious. I had been dealing with occasional debilitating anger at my ex (never acting on it/engaging with him), but it seemed to be waning. Now I am absolutely livid, but I don't want become the "crazy ex girlfriend" stereotype.

I'm at a loss at what to do - I don't want to be petty, but I also want her to know in no uncertain terms that there are consequences for her lovely behavior.

I normally don't agree with the rule that people should never date their friends' exes, but I do think that in certain contexts (obviously in this one) it's not a decent thing to do.

I know it's been 6 month since we broke up, I'm dating someone new, and my ex is technically single...but it just seems like an rear end in a top hat move and I am having trouble dealing with it.

What complicates the situation even more is that my best friend [25 F] is getting married next summer and S and I are both bridesmaids so we will be forced to interact in the next few months...

TL;DR: Someone who I considered to be my good friend [25 F] is now dating my ex [25 M] (came out of nowhere), and I [25 F] am absolutely livid, even though I am dating someone else [26 M] now. Am I overreacting to the situation / Is she a bad person / Any suggestions for how I should handle it?

Trying to get an impartial opinion... Thanks!

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I normally don't agree with the rule that people should never date their friends' exes, but I do think that in certain contexts (obviously in this one) it's not a decent thing to do.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

My good friend [25 F] is now dating my [25 F] ex-boyfriend [25 M] of 3 years (broke up 6 months ago). I'm livid. Is my reaction justified? / What steps should I take to handle the situation gracefully?



The Only Moral Dating Your Friend's Ex is My Dating My Friend's Ex

fruit on the brain posted:

I wrote a fan fiction for a JRPG and now I don’t know what path to take in life.

(I wrote a good fanfic, should I stop studying computer science? I'm like, not that into it, I just wanna party be popular and have a "good degree")

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

shower sex isn't that great, and also yes let's have this whole discussion about jackin it, again. where's the crew from last time who were all about "no way, it's not weird to openly jerk off while in the same bed as your SO" ? y'all still around?

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I am active on a news aggregator site (not this one). There is an area of the site behind a paywall that is known for being a bit incestuous. Even married people do lots of flirting there. I have been emailing, texting, and skyping two women on the site. One of these chains has been going on for three years (Mary). The other for less than a year (Jessi). I say mostly online because I see Mary every month or so. She lives across the country. I have only spent a single weekend with Jessi.

These are serious in my mind. I adore both of them. If I was closer to Mary, I would want a committed relationship with her. Jessi and I started as friends but ended up hooking up at a party of people from that site. Alcohol was involved, but we have been flirting a lot ever since. She is closer to my age, so that helps.

Recently I've noticed in threads that they are making similar comments. They aren't making them to me directly, but just little things like, "Revenge is the sweetest way to handle a two-timer."

I don't feel like I am cheating, by the way. Mary has a FWB in her city. Jessi doesn't date, but it's not like I have ever told her we are in a relationship. I have never talked about my relationship with either of them on the website, but I'm sure the rumor mill started after my hookup with Jessi.

Well, the other day I get an email from an anonymous email address that said something like, "Get ready, they are about to reveal some secrets." It didn't say who "they" are, but they both have a couple of secrets that would embarrass me quite a bit. They also have pictures that I would hope would never get released. I asked Mary if there was something she wanted to tell me, and she said no. I asked Jessi if she had been talking about me to anyone, and she said no.

I am not sure if I should tell them about the email. I was considering writing an email to both of them simultaneously so we could talk about this together. I am really concerned. Neither of them seem like the type who would do something like this, but Jessi's behaviors can be a bit erratic.

I'd appreciate any advice.

tl;dr: Talking to two women I met online. I think they are plotting against me and plan to reveal secrets to others I know from a website. I don't want them to do so, and I still have feelings for both of them.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I really enjoy some groping and fooling around in the shower like anyone else, but having penetrative sex in the shower is incredibly awkward for me and probably totally unarousing for girls. Just play around a bunch in the shower and then bang after like a normal person?

Dienes posted:

You've never had shower sex? You poor bastard.

Batterypowered7 posted:

Haifisch posted:

I [32 M] am worried that my mostly online flirt-friends [24 F; 28 F] are plotting against me.

Haifisch posted:

I [32 M] am worried that my mostly online flirt-friends [24 F; 28 F] are plotting against me.