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La Brea Carpet posted:Can my dad really hire a bounty hunter to kidnap me from college and take me home? (MS/TN) That poor kid. They're in for a lot of awkward conversations with HR once they enter the workforce.
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LadyPictureShow posted:I dunno man, if this thread has taught me anything it's that people are just terrible at gift-giving. Then again my first serious boyfriend didn't get me anything for our first anniversary because he 'didn't know it was that kinda holiday' and another one didn't buy me anything because 'he didn't know what I'd want'. Yeah I mean gift giving can be hard but imo it's better to try and fail than it is to us to give up. Like yeah I can think of stuff I've given or received that was considerate but still missed the mark, but like the idea/effort still feels nice and counts a long way.
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Me [35F] with my wife [33F] Married 2 years, just found out wife is a convicted felon & other goodiesquote:I met her about 4 years ago (friend of a friend kind of thing) and started dating. Two years later we are Married. Things have been good, typical relationship stuff but I'm happy. (update, Jesus what a mess)Me [35F] with my wife [33F] Married 2 years, just found out wife is a convicted felon & other goodies quote:Look I'm not proud of this but after talking with her and reading all of the reply's out there I did something that I'm not sure I regret or regret not doing it sooner. I used her ss# and did a criminal background check on her. (yes I used my work place's service for this, again not proud but I did it) 
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Oct 4, 2017 07:05
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*rolls advice dice, or AdDice™* Have you tried having a baby?
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Haifisch posted:Me [35F] with my wife [33F] Married 2 years, just found out wife is a convicted felon & other goodies Armed robbery and selling crystal meth are fine, but having sex for money? That's a dealbreaker apparently.
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Oct 4, 2017 07:40
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SirSamVimes posted:Armed robbery and selling crystal meth are fine, but having sex for money? That's a dealbreaker apparently. She either agrees with the distinction or, more likely, knows him well enough to expect that he'd feel that way. In either case, she probably should have told him about it. It's likely over either way, but at least if she'd fessed up she'd have reclaimed some integrity.
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Oct 4, 2017 07:52
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It could easily be the thing in her entire life she's most ashamed of. I wish we could see how this ends
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Oct 4, 2017 07:56
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I didn't say it would be pleasant. One of those situations where everybody involved is getting hosed by reality.
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fruit on the bottom posted:It could easily be the thing in her entire life she's most ashamed of. quote:She said "I don't care how lowly you think I went or even what you thought of me, but I never go so low that I sold myself or traded myself for a hit" and here is the part I had to all but hold myself together for "I didn't suck dick to get a fix".
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Oct 4, 2017 07:59
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Gorilla Salad posted:You can't be racist against white people. yes you can
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Oct 4, 2017 08:00
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Nah
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fruit on the bottom posted:It could easily be the thing in her entire life she's most ashamed of. And, of the things mentioned, is probably the one I'd least hold against her. (Most is DUI. gently caress drunk-drivers.)
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Oct 4, 2017 08:12
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Yes. White people cannot be victims of structural racism (in the west) but I don't see how someone can't be a victim of racism just because they're white lmao how does that make sense.
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Oct 4, 2017 08:16
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Just as long as everybody acknowledges that at this point the argument is about what word should be used to describe a mutually understood phenomenon (in this case, people presupposing things about white people based on the fact that they're white.)
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lemon-lyme disease posted:Just as long as everybody acknowledges that at this point the argument is about what word should be used to describe a mutually understood phenomenon (in this case, people presupposing things about white people based on the fact that they're white.) Nah the point of this is white people being whiny.
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Oct 4, 2017 08:29
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CharlestheHammer posted:Nah the point of this is white people being whiny. Wait, I didn't address what the point of it was. I mean, the word was in there but in a totally different way! I think there maybe IS no point.
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lemon-lyme disease posted:Just as long as everybody acknowledges that at this point the argument is about what word should be used to describe a mutually understood phenomenon (in this case, people presupposing things about white people based on the fact that they're white.) No, at this point it's white fragility. \/ Nah, you're cool. I get what you were saying. It's the losers running in out of breath to do their best "Not all white people" routine I was referring to. Megillah Gorilla fucked around with this message at 08:51 on Oct 4, 2017 |
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Okay, jeez. As long as the fragile thing I get to be is a nesting doll. Also at no point did I support the idea that "racism" is the right word. Just figured I should make that clear. At least as clear as the fact that I think nesting dolls are pretty cool.
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Oct 4, 2017 08:46
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Gorilla Salad posted:No, at this point it's white fragility. So it's white fragility when white kids get beaten up for being white at majority non-white schools?
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Haifisch posted:Me [35F] with my wife [33F] Married 2 years, just found out wife is a convicted felon & other goodies What did he expect her to do, answer his marriage proposal with "yes! by the way I was a drug dealer ten years ago, six years before we met"? I mean, I get why he feels weird about it, but it's the past. A good friend of mine had a long term gf with a similar past, and she was a bit of a mess. But if this dude's wife has not caused him any complaint otherwise, the moral thing to do would be to come to terms with it. They'll just have to have their babies outside a gated community (the horror) and then move in once the crimes go off her record. This happens in the US, right? You're not still living the Les Miserables experience? Anyway, from a quick google solicitation -- the crime -- normally means prostitution in the UK, but not in the US.
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Whorelord posted:So it's white fragility when white kids get beaten up for being white at majority non-white schools? In America? Yeah.
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Oct 4, 2017 09:18
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Racism involves structural disadvantage and baked-in assumptions from the majority culture. As such, you can't be racist against white people. What you can be is prejudiced. Prejudice does not involve structural disadvantage, just a hate of the Other. hth, dumb and fragile white goons
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Oct 4, 2017 09:26
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What about when non-white people are racist against other non-white people? Do you have to judge which has the more power?
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Adam Vegas posted:Racism involves structural disadvantage and baked-in assumptions from the majority culture. As such, you can't be racist against white people. racism ˈreɪsɪz(ə)m/Submit noun noun: racism prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. "a programme to combat racism"
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Adam Vegas posted:Racism involves structural disadvantage and baked-in assumptions from the majority culture. As such, you can't be racist against white people. Wow, this thread sure is a honeypot for fools. This R word, what does it mean? How could we ever find out what it is, and its use in the modern day?
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Oct 4, 2017 09:33
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I expected some idiot would look up the dictionary defintion but two? So many fragile white people
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so you dont have a counter argument except to argue against the english language itself?
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Do you think posting the dictionary definition is an argument? Because it isn't. No one who has ever posted the dictionary definition of something has ever won that argument because it's not actually an argument but a retreat into pedantry. If you want to argue against an incredibly common and for the most part only real use of a word fine, but quoting the dictionary ain't gonna be enough. As dictionaries are not infallible sources of info. CharlestheHammer fucked around with this message at 09:49 on Oct 4, 2017 |
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remember that fragile white retarded kid who got tortured by all those black people? What a whiny loser.
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Trauma Dog 3000 posted:remember that fragile white retarded kid who got tortured by all those black people? or those pathetic white kids from rotherham who were victims of a child sex abuse ring comprised of pakistanis. loving white fragility at large there edit: the girls were also working class which is also a big reason why no one seemed to care quote:Do you think posting the dictionary definition is an argument? Because it isn't. i mean when arguing about the definition of a word i'd say a dictionary is pretty good... Whorelord fucked around with this message at 10:32 on Oct 4, 2017 |
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Whorelord posted:or those pathetic white kids from rotherham who were victims of a child sex abuse ring comprised of pakistanis. loving white fragility at large there Dictionaries are constantly trying to catch up with how we use language, not the other way around. If a word is used enough a certain way, the word's definition will either change, or be added. If arguing about the history of a word, a dictionary is perfect, if arguing about the best word to use for translations, a dictionary is great! Actually arguing about the only factual definition? Not so much. Language simply doesn't work that way.
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Whorelord posted:or those pathetic white kids from rotherham who were victims of a child sex abuse ring comprised of pakistanis. loving white fragility at large there There was no racism there, in fact they really liked those white kids.
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Whorelord posted:or those pathetic white kids from rotherham who were victims of a child sex abuse ring comprised of pakistanis. loving white fragility at large there #WhiteTears
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Turtlicious posted:Dictionaries are constantly trying to catch up with how we use language, not the other way around. If a word is used enough a certain way, the word's definition will either change, or be added. If arguing about the history of a word, a dictionary is perfect, if arguing about the best word to use for translations, a dictionary is great! Actually arguing about the only factual definition? Not so much. Language simply doesn't work that way. except that the people that 'you cannot be racist to white people' are arguing that only structural/institutional racism is the only racism that exists which is blatantly false. i mean i'm not sure what else you're supposed to call being specifically targeted as a victim of assault because of your race other than racist. Whorelord fucked around with this message at 10:34 on Oct 4, 2017 |
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Whorelord posted:except that the people that 'you cannot be racist to white people' are arguing that only structural/institutional racism is the only racism that exists which is blatantly false. i mean i'm not sure what else you're supposed to call being specifically targeted as a victim of assault because of your race other than racist. I was more commenting on a pet peeve of mine, not the argument as a whole, but yeah, there's a reason why you can't call a Black dude the N word, but you can call a white dude Cracker, and it largely has to do with the power imbalance.
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Oh my gods! Take this awful racism discussion to D&D, you cunts. This is the thread for laughing at r/relationships.
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Turtlicious posted:I was more commenting on a pet peeve of mine, not the argument as a whole, but yeah, there's a reason why you can't call a Black dude the N word, but you can call a white dude Cracker, and it largely has to do with the power imbalance. The power imbalance can exist seperately and manifest as institutional racism without having to redefine a word so you can bitch about white people all day. The whole 'racism equals power plus prejudice' thing is out of its original context: '...for the purposes of this conversation, wait where are you all going' on social science campuses. It was never meant to be seriously used and argued in a public context, as seen with how it is universally met with confusion, anger and mockery.
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Jfc pull up thread! My [27 F] husband [25 M] and I have been married for less than six months and I can't have sex with him because of something awful that he did to me quote:u/bridethrowaway2017 "Abloo bloo bloo racism *hork hork* white people bloo bloo duuuuur" that's how you sound, right there.
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Bubblyblubber posted:Jfc pull up thread! I saw "something awful" and assumed he'd made bad posts about their argument and then pushed her into a well.
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BluesShaman posted:Oh my gods! Take this awful racism discussion to D&D, you cunts. I agree. This turned into a textbook case of white fragility and will be a good teaching example*. * also, to laugh at them.
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