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[quote=" post="477595588""] I’m really worried I’m loving up my relationship. We are engaged and our wedding date is August of 2019. We’ve been together 4 years and everything was great. I got a new job in March. Long hours, lots of stress. It’s starting to gently caress with me mentally - I work from 9 am to 7 pm on a good day, and usually it’s closer to 9 pm. At least twice a week I come home so exhausted I fall asleep on the couch before we even have dinner. At least once a month I cry by myself in the bathroom because of the stress. My wife has been super supportive but I sense her patience waning. She works but she’s also started doing all the chores and cooking dinner for me. I appreciate it and tell her this, but she keeps urging me to find a new job “before it affects our relationship”. I’ve missed about a half dozen events we were supposed to go to because of work - mostly dinners but also a movie with friends and a haunted house we were supposed to go to last Friday. My wife told me she understood. But I could tell she was pissed. I started job hunting about 2 weeks ago but it’s slow going and I know realistically it might be 2-3 months until I get a job. I wonder a lot if I should quit. My wife has said we could handle it financially with her job, but I worry about my unemploymed time stretching into the months or even years. I’m in the bathroom at work right now, and my boss has already said it’s going to be a late night. My wife and I planned a date night. I told her I’d be late and she just texted back “what else is new. See you when I see you” and my heart broke. [/quote] Just tell your boss you can't work late anymore. If he tries to force you, then quit. There's no reason to take that kind of poo poo. RCarr fucked around with this message at 16:06 on Oct 21, 2017 |
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I had a job that had me working 70-80 hours a week, and I gave it up for a lower paying job that sees me work a steady 40 hours a week. It's totally worth it to get out of a soul crushing job.
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Oct 21, 2017 16:32
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Hahaha why would you ask to watch someone poop my god
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Oct 21, 2017 16:43
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loquacius posted:Your wife is right to be frustrated, even if she shouldn't be taking it out on you. You're actively looking for a new job already; being a jerk to you when you get work put on you at your current lovely job doesn't solve anything. But put her aside for a second: you seem fuckin' miserable there in your own right. Quit your job. Don't do it for her, do it for yourself. You'll be able to devote more time to job-searching and having an intact non-crushed soul can only do good things for your interview performance. Just don't let yourself get stuck in a rut in the meantime. Just move to Germany my friend.
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Oct 21, 2017 17:00
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2019 what are you George Costanza? There's no way your relationship will last that long at this rate
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Oct 21, 2017 17:01
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seconding telling your boss no. explain that working like that is destroying your life and you can't do it anymore. maybe point out that it would be cheaper to hire a second person to pick up the extra work than continuing to pay you to work those extra hours. if they refuse then quit.
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Oct 21, 2017 17:08
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RFC2324 posted:seconding telling your boss no. explain that working like that is destroying your life and you can't do it anymore. maybe point out that it would be cheaper to hire a second person to pick up the extra work than continuing to pay you to work those extra hours. if they refuse then quit. But it's not. A second person would be more money due to benefits. Better to work the first to the bone.
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Oct 21, 2017 17:14
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Overworked Goon: Quit. Quit like a motherfucker. GTFO of that job. It is making you miserable. It is making your fiancee miserable. Get the gently caress out.
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Oct 21, 2017 17:14
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Your boss won't care. You're already doing a lot to get a new job, your partner needs to understand.
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Oct 21, 2017 17:19
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Your job isn’t going to cook you dinner, dawg
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Oct 21, 2017 17:21
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Bust Rodd posted:Your job isn’t going to cook you dinner, dawg Neither is your significant other after a year or so!
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Oct 21, 2017 17:23
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I will let someone watch me poo poo for $1000. Non-anon confession.
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Oct 21, 2017 17:24
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tangy yet delightful posted:I will let someone watch me poo poo for $1000. Good name+post
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Oct 21, 2017 17:26
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Lots of potential outcomes here 1) you stick with the job until it ruins your marriage and then you become so depressed you quit or get fired and your life is terrible. 2) you tell your boss to gently caress off with the late nights and you get fired. This will hurt but your wife will be extremely supportive because you were trying to save your marriage and take care of yourself and her, and in response your boss was a huge rear end in a top hat to you. You'll find another job. 3) you tell your boss to gently caress off with the late nights and he agrees and gives you the time off that you need. This is the most challenging one, because it's easy for him to do something like give you one night off a week and then hold that as a bargaining chip against you forever. Your wife will also resent this because it sounds like you're the type of person who might think you can never take anything more for yourself other than what your boss graciously gave you. Don't let yourself get in this condition. Make your argument a hard one: you're going to leave by 6 p.m. every night and that's it. Then either you get fired and you're back to step two, or you actually have a reasonable change in your life. 4) you just quit the job without confronting your boss. Also a great idea because it sounds like you hate it there. Your wife has a job and can support you, you will feel way better and more motivated when you are not working at a horrible place that makes your marriage fall apart, and you will find something else to work at sooner rather than later. Also get married sooner. If you've been living together for years why are you pushing it out another 22 months Poo poo guy: ahaahahahhahhahahahahhahahahhahhahahahhhahhahahahahhahahhahahhahhhahhahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahhahhHhhahahahhahahahhahhaaaaaaaa Jesus Christ dude why would you ask one of your friends if you could pay her to poop in front of you. It would have been awkward enough if you'd just asked as like a favor or something, but now she knows that you think she lets people watch her poop for money
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Oct 21, 2017 17:28
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Sagebrush posted:
it's hard to get married when you never have time off
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Oct 21, 2017 17:29
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Well if the guy wasn't planning on having any time off until August 2019 I think I can say right now how his marriage is gonna turn out
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Oct 21, 2017 17:31
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smelly poo poo man you should start working on a humiliation fetish too
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Oct 21, 2017 17:37
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tangy yet delightful posted:I will let someone watch me poo poo for $1000. Fuckin creepy
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Oct 21, 2017 18:12
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Jastiger posted:Fuckin creepy 
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Oct 21, 2017 18:23
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Jastiger posted:Fuckin creepy What if he recorded you from under the rim of the toilet without your consent or knowledge?
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Oct 21, 2017 18:32
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LingcodKilla posted:What if he recorded you from under the rim of the toilet without your consent or knowledge? Hey, if the guy doesn't post it online, and just used it for his own personal jerkoff stuff, then who cares? Nobody gets hurt right? Just ask Voyeur goon from a few pages back. Worked to the bone goon: Yeah, quit that poo poo. I took a pay cut to come to my current job, mind you that was like 13 years ago, I was early 20s and had little experience in my field, and hated the job I was at. Still worked out for the best. There IS a better job out there for you. Just keep up with sending out resumes. If you're too tired during the week, send like 10 every weekend.
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Oct 21, 2017 18:55
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LingcodKilla posted:What if he recorded you from under the rim of the toilet without your consent or knowledge? How? Is he inside the toilet?
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Oct 21, 2017 18:57
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Jastiger posted:How? Is he inside the toilet? they can't catch me if i escape via the shitcan super highway
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Oct 21, 2017 18:58
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Poopman you should start a profile on fetlife. Actually you might be too basic, but it’s worth a poo poo.
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Oct 21, 2017 19:11
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Idk I don't see why overworked goon's wife can't be a teensy bit more patient given the situation unless she's a low-key manipulator. And it's strange to see a few dozen posts that haven't even commented on it.
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Oct 21, 2017 20:02
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I support quitters. gently caress that poo poo. Don't live your life groveling, breaking yourself for a few cents. Tell your boss to gently caress off. Tell everyone to gently caress off. Dump your wife.
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Oct 21, 2017 20:53
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build a killdozer, show these assholes at city hall where it's at
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Oct 21, 2017 21:06
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SciFiDownBeat posted:Idk I don't see why overworked goon's wife can't be a teensy bit more patient given the situation unless she's a low-key manipulator. And it's strange to see a few dozen posts that haven't even commented on it. dude said he's blown off like six different things that he was supposed to do with his wife in order to work instead two or three, okay, sure, apologize and make it up later. six in a row is definitely getting up to "do you even give a poo poo" territory
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Oct 21, 2017 21:08
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I'm going to take a slightly different tone with Overworked Goon: Hey, shitnuts, stop being a goddamn rear end in a top hat and get the gently caress out of there. If not for yourself, then for everyone else. The only reason why businesses get away with this poo poo is because spineless turds like you put up with it. A little overtime every now and again is ok and understandable. 12 hours a day nearly every day is loving not, and I bet you're not getting a single thin dime out of it either. Seriously.
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Oct 21, 2017 21:23
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Police Automaton posted:build a killdozer, show these assholes at city hall where it's at never not killdozer
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Oct 21, 2017 21:52
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I miss my old 14 hour days because I had so many dependents that I was effectively taxed 1%. Over time and double time is good.
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Oct 21, 2017 22:44
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Hard Job Guy: Don't quit. Instead, go the Dilbert route: reduce the quantity and quality of your work until it's just barely enough to not get fired. When your boss decided to get rid of you, negotiate a decent parachute. If you get fired, lawyer up (bonus points if you're nonwhite or disabled). Poop Guy: I'm detecting a touch of rear end Burgers here. There's a big difference between a tipsy girl at a party giggling "sure I'll poop for a thousand dollars!" and you showing up at her doorstep with cash in one hand and toilet paper in the other. Maybe get one of those programs that helps you work on social skills.
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Oct 21, 2017 23:25
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tangy yet delightful posted:I will let someone watch me poo poo for $1000. Hell, I will also do this and will speak either Russian, Komi or German for ultimate hawtness. I could use a quick grand in USD. At least tangy and I will never judge you as we will never meet you in real life. Doing this to someone IRL is kinda creepy and they will look at you funny. Find professionals or someone needing some quick cash. It’s a better way to keep some space from your kink and real life. Also give us some money you moneybags goon. Murrican job goon: yeah you had good suggestions already but I’m backing up sticking with it until you snap. Put cams around the house so you catch her cheating on you. Afterwards, make all of them pay by making killdozer 2.0. Be quiet about it but try and make the ultimate killdozer. The world needs the return of killdozer. It cries for it. You know what you have to do. 
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Oct 21, 2017 23:48
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Gynovore posted:Poop Guy: I'm detecting a touch of rear end Burgers here. There's a big difference between a tipsy girl at a party giggling "sure I'll poop for a thousand dollars!" and you showing up at her doorstep with cash in one hand and toilet paper in the other. Maybe get one of those programs that helps you work on social skills. a verbal contract is valid in all 50 states some people might be sociopaths who spergshame anyone who insists they follow the law, but OP is a supreme gentleman who merely insists all fellow travelers follow the law of the land... and poo poo in front of him for money
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Oct 22, 2017 00:46
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Overworked goon- Quit. If you’re too worried about unemployment, give yourself a 2-3 week deadline in job hunting then quit. Your fiancée seems pretty chill from your e-words. But you do need to ditch/improve that job before you drive her away too. Unless your job is as a “stuntcock” for rad MFF porn scenes. In that case, WHY ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?!? Live the dream, rear end. Poop goon (specifically the anon fesh one)- lol. Good luck with that.
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Oct 22, 2017 20:57
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Over worked goon should quit and start pooing in front of poop fetish goon as a job. Both problems fixed!
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Oct 22, 2017 21:11
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armchairyoda posted:Unless your job is as a “stuntcock” for rad MFF porn scenes. I sigh as I punch my timecard. Another long, back-breaking day at the threesome factory. This job is gonna be the death of me.
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Oct 22, 2017 22:22
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loquacius posted:I sigh as I punch my timecard. Another long, back-breaking day at the threesome factory. This job is gonna be the death of me. Programming became a lot less fun for me after I started doing it as my job. If Sex was my job I think the only thing i'd have to look forward to is drugs. not sure how long that would last.
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Oct 22, 2017 23:51
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Tax Inductions posted:Programming became a lot less fun for me after I started doing it as my job. If Sex was my job I think the only thing i'd have to look forward to is drugs. not sure how long that would last. do drugs as your job
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DrPossum posted:do drugs as your job so, work in a kitchen?
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