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Three Olives: Apr 10, 2005; Don't forget Hitler's contributions to medicine.

Danaru posted:

Kicked out of Walgreens by management

I was at the bar on Tuesday and as I was waiting for the bartender I saw him on the phone rolling his eyes and pantomiming someone ranting. I asked him what was up and he said a straight guy was upset he got kicked out of the bar at the halloween party for talking (i.e. harassing) women and that it was unfair he was sexually discriminated against and wanted to know what the bar was going to do about it.

If you get kicked out of a Walgreens or a gay bar you most certainly did something terrible and you really should just move on with your life instead of relitigating the embarrassing thing you did.

Inescapable Duck posted:

And while it was a stupid derail, also might be worth adding that autistic people don't automatically get along like a retard hivemind, they in fact have the same communication issues with each other as with everyone else, often moreso because of mutual problems without even getting into 'Oh god, THIS is what people see me as?!' cringe factor. The idea of forcing them to group together so the normal people don't have to put in any effort is doubly callous and stupid.

So they can't even stand to be around their own kind but the rest of us are supposed to love their company? :rolleyes:

Three Olives fucked around with this message at 17:48 on Nov 6, 2017

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venus de lmao: Apr 30, 2007; Call me "pixeltits"

They've been together two years, this isn't some new woman in dad's life. Mom needs to shut the gently caress up around the kids and keep her opinions of the girlfriend to herself, girlfriend needs to stop trying to give motherly advice to the kids because they resent her trying to be their mom even if that's not her intent, and dad needs to put on his loving big boy pants and tell his kids not to be so disrespectful instead of assuming it will all work itself out if he sticks his fingers in his ears and says "~~I'm not listening~~ you will learn to love and respect each other".

E: obligatory "gently caress off, 3O"

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maskenfreiheit: Dec 30, 2004

Khorne posted:

For either person in that story.
"You're a stupid bitch and I hate you" is not appropriate behavior toward someone your parent is dating so uhh... the ball is in his court, but honestly she probably should run for the hills given he just says the same dumb poo poo over and over while she's trying to love and respect his kids and their mother is an awful person who will always be in her life if she dates this guy.

I'd just break up and say the alternative to breaking up is that "I am no longer going to be here when your kids are because you're a poo poo parent and your ex-wife is somehow worse." Just to really drive it home.

she could try spanking them

# ? Nov 6, 2017 17:57

Three Olives: Apr 10, 2005; Don't forget Hitler's contributions to medicine.

Bertrand Hustle posted:

E: obligatory "gently caress off, 3O"

Bertrand Hustle posted:

Holy poo poo, you have exactly captured why my mother's suggestion that I attend a local group thing for people on the spectrum bothered me so much. She never understood why I hated the idea so much, but there it is, you put it perfectly.

I don't think it was a support group/therapy thing, it was just a social group and while I understand the value of having a peer group that understands your struggles because they have many of the same difficulties, the social aspect of autism makes groups like that extremely stressful for someone like me who is painfully aware of how unaware I used to be.

Just a couple of posts up you admitted you don't like being around autistics. :rolleyes:

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maskenfreiheit posted:

she could try choke-slamming them

# ? Nov 6, 2017 18:12

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Me[21M] didn�t text my GF[19F] of 8 months until 8pm. It was a test, I failed, and she felt that I don�t care about her. It wasn�t resolved and today we had a fight that led to her breaking up with me. It was a mixture of her feeling hurt and miscommunication. Are we both emotionally abusive?

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I want to start this off by saying that my girlfriend and I both have our issues. We both struggle with anxiety and frequent miscommunication. She feels that I�m always attacking/manipulating/controlling her when we argue, and I feel that I�m stating my needs.

My girlfriend was hanging out with friends Friday night. I texted her and she didn�t respond, so I figured they had already met up. Saturday comes around and I was waiting for a response of some sort while at work. At 8pm I asked if she was alright, to which she pointed out that it took until then to contact her. I thought she was still with her friends. She was hurt that I didn�t say good morning, hello, or anything else. I apologized and told her that I understand how she felt and that I should have dropped in because I would have liked it, too. She told me to stop talking to her and when I told her I wasn�t going to let it fester, she told me to f*** off. I apologized again for the mishap and went to bed.

Her response was that me going to bed and not settling the issue was proof that I don�t love her. That dropping her like that hurt her.

This morning before work, I told her that it sounded like her anxiety was getting the best of her and that my apology was heartfelt. Later this morning she said that I�m dancing around the issue and it only takes .3 seconds to type �hello.� I told her that she was right, as it isn�t much effort to say hello. I realize that I was being petty and was waiting for her to text first. I apologize and tell her to see it from my perspective (she was with friends and she doesn�t text when she�s hanging out with them- I was trying to avoid being a nuisance). She told me she had done nothing wrong, to stop dragging her into my mess/manipulating her. I said I wasn�t trying to manipulate her, but show my perspective. Communication is a two way street.

She said that she is tired of talking about issues like this and she wants to see change/effort, that she loves me but wonders if she is even loved, and that my actions have answered that question with a �no.�

I was appalled that she would say these things despite telling me how much better our relationship has gotten over the past couple of weeks (we had a falling out over my jealousy, self confidence, and controlling behaviors). I did some self reflection and realized that she was correct on those allegations and I was blind to it. I reiterated that I DO love her. We planned on moving in together, she was supposed to be meeting my parents this week, and I was going to her family�s thanksgiving dinner. I told her that I�m not trying to argue, but show her that I genuinely care for her. She replied �then it�s settled. Thank you.�

I asked her at 4pm if we were okay and got an �idk.� So I pressed it further and told her to tell me how she felt- to which she responded with another �idk.� She was being short with me and I asked if she was considering breaking up- �idk.� That scared me, so I pressed it further. I asked if it was because of the previous issue and reiterated that I care for her. I believe it was her anxiety, as she had a similar (yet not as severe) experience a couple days prior. She kept being vague and wouldn�t supply a reason. I asked if she was �f***ing with me� (we curse all the time, jokingly and even lovingly). I reassured her that I care for her using all-caps on key words strictly for emphasis. She took that as an attack on her and told me I can�t control her anymore. I explained that I wasn�t attacking her and that I was trying to add emphasis. I asked what this was all about, to which she said it was none of my business and that I�m attacking her for no reason without realizing my behavior patterns. I explained my side. She told me to quit over reacting, manipulating her, and that I was being ridiculous.

I used the analogy �it�s like me coming at you randomly and saying we should break up without giving you a reason.� She said that was an attack. I would never attack her, since last time I did we had a huge falling out. I felt that none of this is making sense. She snapped when I told her that I�m not a vague person and I don�t speak in riddles (like she does- but it isn�t an issue. I�ve come to accept that she�s a vague person and have become pretty good at deciphering it). She got defensive that I brought it up and asked how her speech pattern deals with me not comprehending that what I said is an attack. She said �I�m done.�

I told her I can�t let her have these negative opinions of me. She told me that that was a controlling statement and that I don�t treat her right. She then said that she�d be in contact with me so we can give each other our things back.

Please help. I believe this all came to be because of anxiety but the way she reacted to all of this is sending me major red flags. Did I handle the situation poorly? Am I emotionally abusive? What is the real root of this issue?

*bolded tl;dr gf and I had a fight about how long it took me to text. It wasn�t resolved and transformed into her feeling that I�m abusive and left me feeling the same way about her.

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Sotar: Dec 1, 2009

fruit on the bottom posted:

Me[21M] didn�t text my GF[19F] of 8 months until 8pm. It was a test, I failed, and she felt that I don�t care about her. It wasn�t resolved and today we had a fight that led to her breaking up with me. It was a mixture of her feeling hurt and miscommunication. Are we both emotionally abusive?

As soon as I read the word test, I knew this story was gonna be poo poo.

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Barudak: May 7, 2007

Look at this guy, trying to be a contortionist and fit in her tiny box but finding out he does still have some small bones.

# ? Nov 6, 2017 18:28

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La Brea Carpet posted:

thiswillendwell.txt

My(F18) girlfriend and (M18) that have been going out for a month were recently talking about circumcision, she said she does not like uncircumcised guys when I'm uncircumcised.

ADAB

All dicks are beautiful

I really wish I could watch this guy try to uphold his ruse, as he goes to greater and greater lengths to get laid while simultaneously never letting her see or touch his dick. That's sitcom gold right there.

# ? Nov 6, 2017 18:48

Yawgmoth: Sep 10, 2003; This post is cursed!

Three Olives posted:

So they can't even stand to be around their own kind but the rest of us are supposed to love their company?

Nobody likes your kind and yet you still post.

# ? Nov 6, 2017 19:24

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Reported for homophobia

# ? Nov 6, 2017 19:29

La Brea Carpet: Nov 22, 2007; I have no mouth and I must post

I [31m] found my out my fiance [31f] has a sugar daddy