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Maybe ovarian tumors that represent a risk of cancer
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Dienes posted:OP exercised compulsively after eating to the point of broken bones. She's not at risk of relapse. That's a relapse. The alcoholism analogy is apt. He needs to sever before she kills herself.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 05:36 |
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Dienes posted:OP exercised compulsively after eating to the point of broken bones. She's not at risk of relapse. That's a relapse. The alcoholism analogy is apt. He needs to sever before she kills herself. Yeah she still has an eating disorder. I don't know, in my experience no one ever stops having an eating disorder, it just gets handled in different ways at different times. At that point you are addicted to control over what you eat and that impulse is always going to be there.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 05:37 |
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Anne Whateley posted:It's not like she ran 500 miles until her shins turned into powder. She tripped and broke her arm, which you could do stepping off a curb. The broken bone isn't a symptom of how hard her relapse was. He can break up if he wants, but she's eating normally, the worst thing she did was go for a run the day after Thanksgiving -- that doesn't mean she's going to kill herself. Dude obviously should not have booted out of her car on their way home from the hospital, no arguments there it was a garbage thing to do and she should break up and continue to get help for her compulsive behavior on her own, but realistically he should have dropped her off at home and said "I can't handle this anymore, goodbye".
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 05:43 |
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Anne Whateley posted:It's not like she ran 500 miles until her shins turned into powder. She tripped and broke her arm, which you could do stepping off a curb. The broken bone isn't a symptom of how hard her relapse was. He can break up if he wants, but she's eating normally, the worst thing she did was go for a run the day after Thanksgiving -- that doesn't mean she's going to kill herself. However, it's not like yelling at her and kicking her out of the car is going to help. It won't fix her urges and it won't even really make the yeller feel better. It's venting with no purpose. If he can't deal with it, he should have drove her home and then broken up with her. Bad form, ex-boyfriend, no points for him.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 05:44 |
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Anne Whateley posted:It's not like she ran 500 miles until her shins turned into powder. She tripped and broke her arm, which you could do stepping off a curb. The broken bone isn't a symptom of how hard her relapse was. He can break up if he wants, but she's eating normally, the worst thing she did was go for a run the day after Thanksgiving -- that doesn't mean she's going to kill herself. You’re really on a bender about making every story have a good person and a bad person. They’re both garbage in this case, and both good people in the mystery malady story. Running was explicitly marked out as part of her ED, and breaking a bone from a simple trip shows how hosed up she still is. That’s not normal. Dude’s garbage for kicking her out, but she’s deliberately going against doctor orders. People don’t have sympathy for diabetics who lose feet, why bother for someone with a strictly analogous situation.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 06:46 |
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Avenging_Mikon posted:You’re really on a bender about making every story have a good person and a bad person.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 06:48 |
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The tale of the fox and the scorpion: My [29F] husband [30M] is addicted to porn. He watched porn on his phone while I gave birth and I'm done with it. quote:u/husbandpornaddict
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 09:56 |
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Exchange the word porn for alcohol and then see how you like the sentences you wrote. People have real problems seeing addiction for what it is when it's not something they're used to hearing about. The guy was given chances, he doesn't want to change, divorce an addict for the sake of your child.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 10:50 |
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I was trying to find one that wasn't completely depressing, so let's get into an argument about designer purses! I [33M] stopped my wife [34F] from buying a $1700 purse this weekend as her 10th anniversary gift - I kind of feel bad now and looking for a way to salvage this mess quote:Our 10 year anniversary is coming up and my wife is usually pretty straightforward with the gifts she wants. Lately she's been talking about getting a "fancy" purse. I don't recall her mentioning the brand, and she certainly didn't disclose how much this purse would cost, but since she likes purses I entertained the idea of her getting it as her anniversary gift. Keep in mind we are not a fancy couple: we drive a minivan and a 10 year old Subaru Outback. I work in the tech industry and make pretty good money and she is a SAHM. Generally any gifts fall within the $50-200 range. In my mind I'm thinking that a fancy purse is $300 or maybe $500 tops. The comments are mixed. I'm... on the fence. I feel that $1700 could go to something much nicer/better than a handbag, on the other hand, 10th anniversary and she's willing to front $1000 toward it. But nearly 2K for a purse has me . I know LV is high-end/couture, but I also don't see the appeal of blowing so much money on a 'status symbol' to carry around my keys, wallet and chewing gum. Maybe I just don't get the whole 'likes purses' thing. I generally just carry around a canvas messenger bag type purse. E: also, I'm wondering about financial means, given she's a SAHM/how many kids they have. LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 11:07 on Nov 27, 2017 |
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My [26F) morbidly obese boyfriend [32M] is upset because I don't want a wedding at his weightquote:I met him online, fell in love online and only realised how big he was when we met. I felt deceived and only stayed because I couldn't change my flight. But in those two days, I understood exactly why he had omitted it because in truth, I would never had gotten to know the real him had he just accurately represented himself. I forgave him and we moved on.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:19 |
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I’m eagerly awaiting all the posts calling this girl a scumbag for fatshaming him
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:24 |
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^^here ya go! If you're having sex with him, calling him your boyfriend, and ostensibly want to spend the rest of your life together, you don't get to say they're not hot enough to be seen with you in public. Either buckle up (lol), or stop lying to yourself and him and break up. This is completely separate having reservations about "is he ready for adulthood & marriage" // "am I ready to commit to this". Being ashamed of your partner is fine (well, it isn't, but it doesn't make you a bad person), but thinking they're not attractive enough to be publicly associated with you (but yer fine banging&dating them long-term on the side) makes you a shitheel. He's fat, but she's petty and cruel.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:35 |
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I dont want to be seen with fat girls either That is why i only secretly pork them on Tinder ( I invite them home to my place instead of out in public)
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:37 |
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In case it isn't clear: Being fat is shameful
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:39 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I was trying to find one that wasn't completely depressing, so let's get into an argument about designer purses! expensive clothing items I give a pass because unlike other luxury bullshit at least you're getting solid use out of them and they are generally of higher quality (aesthetic or otherwise) than cheaper stuff. For a 10th anniversary gift it's pretty spot on so it sounds like he's being cheap.
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Palpek posted:My [26F) morbidly obese boyfriend [32M] is upset because I don't want a wedding at his weight I'm trying to imagine how cool this guy must be to shrug off that bad initial impression like that.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:51 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I was trying to find one that wasn't completely depressing, so let's get into an argument about designer purses! Like any high end overpriced item, it's far less about the utility of the item than it is the satisfaction, confidence, and status (real or imagined) that it gives you. You're buying a feeling, and as silly as you might think it is, that feeling is very real to some people. If my partner wanted a $1,700 anything, I'd ask them to sleep on it. But if they still wanted the item after thinking about it for a while, and feel that owning it would bring them more happiness than $1,700 spent in some other way, we could afford it, it's an uncommon purchase, etc then totally go for it.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:53 |
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Maybe it's like with that youtube guy He somehow found a girl despite looking like a lard golem. Then he got gastric surgery
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 11:55 |
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Jim Barris posted:I'm trying to imagine how desperate this girl must be to ignore that bad initial impression like that.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 12:21 |
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Jim Barris posted:I'm trying to imagine how cool this guy must be to shrug off that bad initial impression like that.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 12:28 |
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Jim Barris posted:I'm trying to imagine how cool this guy must be to shrug off that bad initial impression like that. Actually real answer is here: quote:We were chatting for almost two years. I had been working in Liberia and then Tanzania for WHO and actually dating a colleague for most of that time. He was just my online friend who was my daily link back home. We spoke every day but either on email or texts or phone calls. Not so much Skype. I didnt realise my feelings until probably 18 months of close friendship. quote:He is doing a lot. He ended up this way thanks to an extremely abusive childhood and for most of his life he actually wanted to die which is why he let his weight get so bad. He started seeing a weight specialist after we met while I was still overseas. He clearly does want to change. Without going into it, he has had some successes and some relapses on the treatment plan. All relapses are linked to the abuse stuff since he had began to address what happened to him with the people who did it. He has a great psychologist helping with that part too. Honestly, this is the first time he has had a support system of any kind. His folks gave him money but a poo poo tonne of psychological and physical scars. And his social circle growing up mostly consisted of private school brats who are now only obsessed with competing over superficial crap. This just isn't a battle you can fight without an ounce of emotional support. We'll get there.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 12:38 |
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Well that's a no-win right there.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 12:42 |
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It sounds like they're actually both doing the right thing and she just needed a sounding board to work out her guilt.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 12:44 |
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I think people have a right to be both physically and emotionally attracted to their partner, and to want them to be healthy and able. If it’s an option of severing and being done, or giving it a shot and hopefully being a positive force in someone’s life to end their self-abuse, then why not try. It’s a delicate balance and generally going into a relationship wanting to “fix” someone is a bad idea and could very well crash and burn, but if you legitimately think you can then loving do it.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 13:02 |
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The only issues seems to be that he wants to have a formal marriage so he has a confidence boost before going under the knife, and she seems to know that that's not a good idea because her side of the family isn't going to be respectful. I think she tells him as much and that they'll do a private, intimate civil union with key people before the surgery it's a fair compromise for everyone.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 13:05 |
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Avenging_Mikon posted:You’re really on a bender about making every story have a good person and a bad person. Likewise in the mystery malady story, I wasn't like "this person is trash murder him," I just said his behavior (being super angry with her for being sick) wasn't okay; it's okay to be angry at the situation but not okay to take it out on her. quote:breaking a bone from a simple trip shows how hosed up she still is. quote:People don’t have sympathy for diabetics who lose feet
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 13:46 |
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Anne Whateley posted:uhhh this is a you thing, dude
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 14:05 |
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Anne Whateley posted:
Severe eating disorders can lead to loss of bone density, and if you've got brittle bones a doctor might suggest not running until that poo poo's under control.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 14:17 |
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I (33M) met a smart, attractive woman (26F) at a gas station and am wondering whether my efforts to inspire trust by sharing a like personal info might instead come off as strange or desperate.quote:At a gas station late one cold evening nearly two weeks ago, I encountered a strikingly beautiful 26-year-old woman at the pump on the back/front side of mine. I said something to the effect of, “Excuse me, miss. I realize this is entirely random (and hopefully not unwelcome), but I think you are drop-dead gorgeous and am wondering whether you’d be up for grabbing coffee or maybe a bite to eat sometime in the near future.” She blushed, smiled ear to ear, and offered her number. Shortly after, she left town to visit family for Thanksgiving, and we’ve since been texting here and there to set something up. Now that she’s back in town, we’ve finally arranged to meet in a few days. quote:I’ve been watching Mindhunter if that helps. This world contains some scary people. Hello stranger, I am not a dangerous serial killer, there's nothing you need to be afraid off.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 14:24 |
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*Bleep bleep blop* I am not a robot. I share personal information. Do you like me already, human female, one.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 14:41 |
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I actually think that's not the worst or weirdest thing in the world. He's right, he's a total rando she met on the street. It's gonna suck for him though if something awful happens to her and he accidentally made himself a prime suspect.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 14:49 |
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That behavior totally comes off as paranoid and desperate duder. Yeah she's a random you met at a gas station, but you've been in contact with her already, so she probably wasn't totally skeeved out by you. Sending poo poo like that is def weird as hell, it makes you look desperate for approval from what is basically a stranger. She already agreed to some modicum of contact with you to "test the waters", there's no need to provide proof you're not some murdering nutcase. In this case, this probably had the exact opposite desired effect.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 15:26 |
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Dating guide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8H1RjjoGKs
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 16:30 |
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If you're ashamed to be seen in public with your romantic partner, you are not in love.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 16:39 |
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My husband (31M) and I (30F) are kind of bummed out knowing we'll never have the excitement over new relationships that our younger friends are having. What can we do about this?quote:A few good friends to my husband of nine years and myself have recently had a little luck on the dating scene. They're both great younger ladies and I'm really glad that they've finally met some guys that are treating them well and that they all like each other. Lol, she totally wants to hear that she should open the marriage over ideas that her husband only partially agreed with. Yes, please wreck your relationship because grass seems greener.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 16:40 |
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Palpek posted:My husband (31M) and I (30F) are kind of bummed out knowing we'll never have the excitement over new relationships that our younger friends are having. What can we do about this? I kinda get this, I started dating my wife when I was 23 and we got married 8 years later. Never got to date around like others. It's very possible to be regretful that you never had that experience while not wanting to change the ultimate outcome. Nb: this does NOT make an open relationship the answer.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 16:43 |
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Palpek posted:My husband (31M) and I (30F) are kind of bummed out knowing we'll never have the excitement over new relationships that our younger friends are having. What can we do about this? If you dont have kids and long to feel the excitment that is desparately hoping this random person who will talk to you is the person with whom youll fight off the terrifying lonliness of existence together you can just divorce.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 16:48 |
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Barudak posted:If you dont have kids and long to feel the excitment that is desparately hoping this random person who will talk to you is the person with whom youll fight off the terrifying lonliness of existence together you can just divorce. Also if you have kids.
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# ? Nov 27, 2017 16:57 |
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Reddit delivers:quote:You don’t know the twists life might bring to you. One of you might be widowed with decades of life left, and get to enjoy all the pleasures of adult dating at that point.
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